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By *sgigglers OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

Following on from the thread about meeting people in s wheelchair, I'm interested to hear peoples opinions on whether health issues should be declared before a meet or not.

Both D & I have chronic health issues (I wont go into detail but will happily talk about them if asked). They forced us to take an extended break from the scene, but they're now under control & we're happily re-immersing ourselves

I do still walk with a crutch though, and D has some hardware that he has to wear (I tell people he's part cyborg

). These make no difference to our playing, bar certain positions that I'd find difficult.

Just wondering whether people feel we should be warning potential playmates or not. When we first started back we had a guy ghost us after I told him I walk with a crutch & it's been a question I've wanted to ask since.

Interested to hear what people think.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Right now i'm in pain so can't meet, also previous meets who are keen on doing what we've done before i became disabled, i've had to tell them it's unlikely i've ever be able to do that stuff again.

Up to you who you tell and what you tell them, i don't think it's lying or hiding anything if you don't mention a crutch.

If you don't want any awkwardness you could mention things on your profile (and hope people read it before messaging you).

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By *sgigglers OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

"Right now i'm in pain so can't meet, also previous meets who are keen on doing what we've done before i became disabled, i've had to tell them it's unlikely i've ever be able to do that stuff again.

Up to you who you tell and what you tell them, i don't think it's lying or hiding anything if you don't mention a crutch.

If you don't want any awkwardness you could mention things on your profile (and hope people read it before messaging you).

I'm really sorry to hear your in pain, I empathise, it sucks. I hope you can be made more comfortable.

We do mention health issues in our profile, but not specifics. Though only about 1 in 20 of the people that message us have read it anyway

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Just need to rest and wait for my body to sort itself out

but thanks.

Masseurs on here are look appealing right about now too, lol.

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By *sgigglers OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

"Just need to rest and wait for my body to sort itself out

but thanks.

Masseurs on here are look appealing right about now too, lol.

Always a bonus

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By *em163Man
over a year ago

manchester

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By *em163Man
over a year ago

manchester

Depends on the problem i guess some people dont like talking about it just in case they get treated differently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the problem i guess some people dont like talking about it just in case they get treated differently"

Yes I would only disclose personal details like health issues if it was likely to affect the meet.

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By *em163Man
over a year ago

manchester

"Depends on the problem i guess some people dont like talking about it just in case they get treated differently

Yes I would only disclose personal details like health issues if it was likely to affect the meet. "
i would disclose any problems that would affect the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the problem i guess some people dont like talking about it just in case they get treated differently

Yes I would only disclose personal details like health issues if it was likely to affect the meet. i would disclose any problems that would affect the meet "

Yes that's I just said.

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By *em163Man
over a year ago

manchester

"Depends on the problem i guess some people dont like talking about it just in case they get treated differently

Yes I would only disclose personal details like health issues if it was likely to affect the meet. i would disclose any problems that would affect the meet

Yes that's I just said. "
not just talking about medical problems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the problem i guess some people dont like talking about it just in case they get treated differently

Yes I would only disclose personal details like health issues if it was likely to affect the meet. i would disclose any problems that would affect the meet

Yes that's I just said. not just talking about medical problems "

Definitely... you should put it on your profile and give people the choice... just remember you are gorgeous x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the problem i guess some people dont like talking about it just in case they get treated differently

Yes I would only disclose personal details like health issues if it was likely to affect the meet. i would disclose any problems that would affect the meet

Yes that's I just said. not just talking about medical problems

Definitely... you should put it on your profile and give people the choice... just remember you are gorgeous x"

Their is absolutely no need to feel obliged to disclose medical issues on your profile. If it is somthing you feel the person you are meeting needs to know then of course you can tell them in a message and they can still choose.

If you want to put on your profile by all means that's your choice but it's also your choice not too.

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By *restonM50Man
over a year ago

preston

Disability / illness is only part of your story. It is only a part of you. Why should it stop you living.

As long as there are no impacts on others then why should it impact on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Disability / illness is only part of your story. It is only a part of you. Why should it stop you living.

As long as there are no impacts on others then why should it impact on you "

Well said that man x

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By *ubergenieWoman
over a year ago

Neath

I think that anything that could affect the meet should be disclosed, only to assure your comfort and the person you're meeting's comfort.

Nobody wants to be hurt or do any hurting especially when having a frank discussion about it before hand could avoid it.

I would imagine that 9/10 people wouldn't be bothered by it, but only once they had the information.

I wouldn't put it in detail on a profile but if you're messaging then I think it's important to share x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the problem i guess some people dont like talking about it just in case they get treated differently

Yes I would only disclose personal details like health issues if it was likely to affect the meet. i would disclose any problems that would affect the meet

Yes that's I just said. not just talking about medical problems

Definitely... you should put it on your profile and give people the choice... just remember you are gorgeous x

If you want to put on your profile by all means that's your choice but it's also your choice not too. "

Medical issues... slight overreaction... the op mentioned about the need to use a crutch, to which I think ( and it’s only my opinion ) it maybe nice to mention it on the profile in order to prevent any hurt that’s all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the problem i guess some people dont like talking about it just in case they get treated differently

Yes I would only disclose personal details like health issues if it was likely to affect the meet. i would disclose any problems that would affect the meet

Yes that's I just said. not just talking about medical problems

Definitely... you should put it on your profile and give people the choice... just remember you are gorgeous x

If you want to put on your profile by all means that's your choice but it's also your choice not too.

Why would not mentioning using a cruch hurt anyone!

The point I'm making is it not nessasery to make anything public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have chronic medical issues but i only tell people on a need to know basis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have chronic medical issues but i only tell people on a need to know basis "

Exactly my point, no need to feel pressure to put it on your profile.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I've met two men who were impotent. It came up during our social meet. It annoyed me as I saw it as wasting my time and suggested they let people know before arranging a meet.

I live in a three storey house and my playroom is on the third floor, therefore it would be difficult for someone with mobility issues to traverse the stairs.

I don't think you need to display every medical issue but if it will impact on a meet then you should say.

If someone doesn't want to meet you it doesn't mean they're shallow or you're any less a person. We're all here for our own specific wants and desires but none of us has universal appeal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the problem i guess some people dont like talking about it just in case they get treated differently

Yes I would only disclose personal details like health issues if it was likely to affect the meet. i would disclose any problems that would affect the meet

Yes that's I just said. not just talking about medical problems

Definitely... you should put it on your profile and give people the choice... just remember you are gorgeous x

If you want to put on your profile by all means that's your choice but it's also your choice not too.

Why would not mentioning using a cruch hurt anyone!

The point I'm making is it not nessasery to make anything public. "

Wow... and another overreaction.. I guarantee that there a few small minded people who are put off ( not us by the way ) by it, if it’s out there then it’s dealt with and there’s nothing hidden, and you haven’t wasted any of your time on idiots and that’s the important thing...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Depends on the problem i guess some people dont like talking about it just in case they get treated differently

Yes I would only disclose personal details like health issues if it was likely to affect the meet. i would disclose any problems that would affect the meet

Yes that's I just said. not just talking about medical problems

Definitely... you should put it on your profile and give people the choice... just remember you are gorgeous x

If you want to put on your profile by all means that's your choice but it's also your choice not too.

Why would not mentioning using a cruch hurt anyone!

The point I'm making is it not nessasery to make anything public.

Why is it small minded?

This is fantasy for most people. Physical attraction is also not an exact science.

Just because we're not someone's cup of java it doesn't make them small minded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if its going to effect things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the problem i guess some people dont like talking about it just in case they get treated differently

Yes I would only disclose personal details like health issues if it was likely to affect the meet. i would disclose any problems that would affect the meet

Yes that's I just said. not just talking about medical problems

Definitely... you should put it on your profile and give people the choice... just remember you are gorgeous x

If you want to put on your profile by all means that's your choice but it's also your choice not too.

Why would not mentioning using a cruch hurt anyone!

The point I'm making is it not nessasery to make anything public.

Why is it small minded?

This is fantasy for most people. Physical attraction is also not an exact science.

Just because we're not someone's cup of java it doesn't make them small minded. "

Wow... it does ! ( thought I’d copy your “!” ) ok let’s say we got chatting to someone on here who we found attractive and connected with and then later learned they had to use a crutch, then decided not to meet based on that is small minded in our opinion, which is why ( getting back to the op’s subject ) we think it maybe nice to mention it on a profile.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Depends on the problem i guess some people dont like talking about it just in case they get treated differently

Yes I would only disclose personal details like health issues if it was likely to affect the meet. i would disclose any problems that would affect the meet

Yes that's I just said. not just talking about medical problems

Definitely... you should put it on your profile and give people the choice... just remember you are gorgeous x

If you want to put on your profile by all means that's your choice but it's also your choice not too.

Why would not mentioning using a cruch hurt anyone!

The point I'm making is it not nessasery to make anything public.

Why is it small minded?

This is fantasy for most people. Physical attraction is also not an exact science.

Just because we're not someone's cup of java it doesn't make them small minded.

I don't play nice. I have shackles, brackets etc in my third floor playroom.

Someone with mobility issues would not get to my playroom. Therefore, it would be pointless arranging a meet. That has nothing to do with being shallow.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I don’t think every medical issue needs to be on a profile. But if people get talking and it looks like they might meet, then anything that might impact on that would be best to be disclosed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the problem i guess some people dont like talking about it just in case they get treated differently

Yes I would only disclose personal details like health issues if it was likely to affect the meet. i would disclose any problems that would affect the meet

Yes that's I just said. not just talking about

medical problems

Definitely... you should put it on your profile and give people the choice... just remember you are gorgeous x

If you want to put on your profile by all means that's your choice but it's also your choice not too.

Why would not mentioning using a cruch hurt anyone!

The point I'm making is it not nessasery to make anything public.

Why is it small minded?

This is fantasy for most people. Physical attraction is also not an exact science.

Just because we're not someone's cup of java it doesn't make them small minded.

I don't play nice. I have shackles, brackets etc in my third floor playroom.

Someone with mobility issues would not get to my playroom. Therefore, it would be pointless arranging a meet. That has nothing to do with being shallow. "

Which is the point I’m trying to make ( this is becoming a little bit like work ) if you mention up front then it’s out of the way “job done” so if like yourself who’s access and torture implements may be a challenge for a person who lets say.... ummmmmm... uses a “crutch” let’s say then yes we get that, but to dip out on a meet purely based on the fact they use a crutch given that everything else is right is in our opinion small minded and shallow... just to repeat that’s our opinion and we appreciate that opinions differ from one person to the next... phew

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By *tudmcmuffinMan
over a year ago

Swindon

I’ve met a few people with disabilities and/or health issues. I met them because our personalities matched and we turned each other on enough to want to meet. We had discussed their issues and for me it wasn’t a problem, we had fun and met again and again. My point is it with the right people nothing really matters as long as everyone has fun you can all get your rocks off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met two men who were impotent. It came up during our social meet. It annoyed me as I saw it as wasting my time and suggested they let people know before arranging a meet.

I live in a three storey house and my playroom is on the third floor, therefore it would be difficult for someone with mobility issues to traverse the stairs.

I don't think you need to display every medical issue but if it will impact on a meet then you should say.

If someone doesn't want to meet you it doesn't mean they're shallow or you're any less a person. We're all here for our own specific wants and desires but none of us has universal appeal. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if the disability or impairment could affect your performance in bed or potentially do so, then I would pre-warn people to be fair. I am sure most people will be fine with it

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By *sgigglers OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

Wow, this got legs overnight!

Thank you to all who have commented. It’s very interesting to see different takes on the subject.

Our health issues have minimal impact on our playing activities, I can’t get on top but other than that we can do everything that more able bodied people can do! My question was really more about the initial aesthetics of me having a crutch walking into a meet, and whether that first impression would matter.

We do mention our health issues in our profile, and our opinion is that if it would bother someone then they can say so having (hopefully) read the profile, and it can be discussed.

However, this thread has shown us that we probably should be mentioning the hardware that comes with us before the meet. It doesn’t appear to have bothered any of our meets thus far though.

As for the third floor playroom, gimme some meds & a bit of time & I'm there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have health issues too but although we cannot do some things we can still do others and have fun while doing it.

We are all different and we all like different things, such as beards, shaving, smooth, bbw, small dick, large dick, But we like the people, if we have fun with others then it is a bonus.

We like the social side as well as sex side so if people can accept us for who we are then it is all a bonus. One thing we love about nude clubs is people are accepting us for who we are and not what we are. Even disabled we can still achieve an orgasm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the problem i guess some people dont like talking about it just in case they get treated differently

Yes I would only disclose personal details like health issues if it was likely to affect the meet. i would disclose any problems that would affect the meet

Yes that's I just said. not just talking about medical problems

Definitely... you should put it on your profile and give people the choice... just remember you are gorgeous x

If you want to put on your profile by all means that's your choice but it's also your choice not too.

Why would not mentioning using a cruch hurt anyone!

The point I'm making is it not nessasery to make anything public.

No over reaction at all. At no point did I say it shouldn't be disclosed, I just don't think it is nessasery to make everything public, as I said already if it will impact the meet then its best to explain this but not necessarily on a profile and people shouldn't be made to feel bad or like a time waster for not putting it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think honesty is the best policy always. I was in a relationship with someone in a chair and the chair and the disability made no difference. Meeting me without telling me first might have.

PS I know a swinger female who met a met who was blind and he didn't tell her first. She still slept with him but never saw him again because she didn't respect him.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Wow, this got legs overnight!

Thank you to all who have commented. It’s very interesting to see different takes on the subject.

We do mention our health issues in our profile, and our opinion is that if it would bother someone then they can say so having (hopefully) read the profile, and it can be discussed.

However, this thread has shown us that we probably should be mentioning the hardware that comes with us before the meet. It doesn’t appear to have bothered any of our meets thus far though.

As for the third floor playroom, gimme some meds & a bit of time & I'm there

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By *sgigglers OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

"We have health issues too but although we cannot do some things we can still do others and have fun while doing it.

We are all different and we all like different things, such as beards, shaving, smooth, bbw, small dick, large dick, But we like the people, if we have fun with others then it is a bonus.

Love this attitude!! In some instances I actually think that having to find ways around our limitations makes things more fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have health issues too but although we cannot do some things we can still do others and have fun while doing it.

We are all different and we all like different things, such as beards, shaving, smooth, bbw, small dick, large dick, But we like the people, if we have fun with others then it is a bonus.

Love this attitude!! In some instances I actually think that having to find ways around our limitations makes things more fun

Hallelujah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have M.E osteoarthritis in my hips spine knees and neck I have been open about my disabilitys and that I use a stick to walk but have found as soon as I tell people they stop talking and never get back to me I enjoy an active sex life and it only affects me after or the next day please don't let a disability put you off you are missing out on a great thing xx

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By *sgigglers OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

"I have M.E osteoarthritis in my hips spine knees and neck I have been open about my disabilitys and that I use a stick to walk but have found as soon as I tell people they stop talking and never get back to me I enjoy an active sex life and it only affects me after or the next day please don't let a disability put you off you are missing out on a great thing xx"

Sorry you're having issues, and that you've has some negative experiences. I guess this thread has at least proved that there are people about that wouldn't react negatively x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr here.

I have problems myself to the point that quite honestly I have little confidence left in myself or having sex with anyone other than Daisy. You only have to read our verifications to see I don't play

I think it would be nice if people with health problems or disabilities could talk to each other somehow more privately as a kind of support group thing?

I would start a separate thread suggesting it myself but I'm quite a private person + don't usually talk publicly about it.

As such, back on topic, I would not + do not put anything on our profile because this is publicly viewable. I do however tell people about it, some I tell specifics + others simply that I do not play.

I think these things should always be disclosed before a meet if you are intending to participate, but I should not be made to put it somewhere for the entire internet or fab community to read. That is my personal life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find being open with any subject is the best way to go about things. It allows all parties to judge if it is for them or if they’d rather not.

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By *ddit...Man
over a year ago

Land of the giants... ;-)

It's a tough question and depends on the situation... if the meet is going to be affected by the disability then yes I would say.

Also if both people are invested in each other... developed a good friendship then I'd say yes.

I have met with a lady with a disability a few times... we had an awesome time.

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By *sgigglers OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

"Mr here.

I have problems myself to the point that quite honestly I have little confidence left in myself or having sex with anyone other than Daisy. You only have to read our verifications to see I don't play

I think it would be nice if people with health problems or disabilities could talk to each other somehow more privately as a kind of support group thing?

I would start a separate thread suggesting it myself but I'm quite a private person + don't usually talk publicly about it.

I'm so sorry your problems have affected you so much

I hope you find something that helps you soon.

I really like your idea of a support group type thing, wouldn't have a clue how to go about it though! We always find that talking to people who understand is really helpful.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

"Disability / illness is only part of your story. It is only a part of you. Why should it stop you living.

As long as there are no impacts on others then why should it impact on you "

Mine pretty much only impacts on me. And then my meds also make me tired and sleep a lot.

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By *sgigglers OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

"Disability / illness is only part of your story. It is only a part of you. Why should it stop you living.

As long as there are no impacts on others then why should it impact on you

Mine pretty much only impacts on me. And then my meds also make me tired and sleep a lot.

We're the same, we'll dose up to do stuff, then pay for it later, but life is too short not to have fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m physically/visibility disabled and always tell people right away saves time and hassle.

Any non visible I’d keep to myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really like your idea of a support group type thing, wouldn't have a clue how to go about it though! We always find that talking to people who understand is really helpful. "

I don't think we really can it would be down to the site?

The only thing we could do really is start "support thread" for people to post in + private message each other from. But then it would need to keep being posted in or it would disappear

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I really like your idea of a support group type thing, wouldn't have a clue how to go about it though! We always find that talking to people who understand is really helpful.

I don't think we really can it would be down to the site?

The only thing we could do really is start "support thread" for people to post in + private message each other from. But then it would need to keep being posted in or it would disappear "

The BBW thread has managed it.

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By *sgigglers OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

I really like your idea of a support group type thing, wouldn't have a clue how to go about it though! We always find that talking to people who understand is really helpful.

I don't think we really can it would be down to the site?

The only thing we could do really is start "support thread" for people to post in + private message each other from. But then it would need to keep being posted in or it would disappear

The BBW thread has managed it.

Not sure which thread you mean? Isn't there new BBW threads being made every so often? Threads seem to get closed once they hit a certain amount of comments.

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By *ublinGirl92Woman
over a year ago

Hell

I mention on my profile that I'm deaf because it might impact a meet but I'm chronically ill too but I'll only mention that if I feel I need to.

If it won't impact them I don't see why I should.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I really like your idea of a support group type thing, wouldn't have a clue how to go about it though! We always find that talking to people who understand is really helpful.

I don't think we really can it would be down to the site?

The only thing we could do really is start "support thread" for people to post in + private message each other from. But then it would need to keep being posted in or it would disappear

The BBW thread has managed it.

Not sure which thread you mean? Isn't there new BBW threads being made every so often? Threads seem to get closed once they hit a certain amount of comments."

175 is the limit but there is a BBW and M thread thathas been going for over 1000 posts now, like they start a new one when the other has filled up.

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By *sgigglers OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

I really like your idea of a support group type thing, wouldn't have a clue how to go about it though! We always find that talking to people who understand is really helpful.

I don't think we really can it would be down to the site?

The only thing we could do really is start "support thread" for people to post in + private message each other from. But then it would need to keep being posted in or it would disappear

The BBW thread has managed it.

Not sure which thread you mean? Isn't there new BBW threads being made every so often? Threads seem to get closed once they hit a certain amount of comments.

175 is the limit but there is a BBW and M thread thathas been going for over 1000 posts now, like they start a new one when the other has filled up."

That's impressive! Not sure if there would be enough interest in this to keep it going though.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I really like your idea of a support group type thing, wouldn't have a clue how to go about it though! We always find that talking to people who understand is really helpful.

I don't think we really can it would be down to the site?

The only thing we could do really is start "support thread" for people to post in + private message each other from. But then it would need to keep being posted in or it would disappear

The BBW thread has managed it.

Not sure which thread you mean? Isn't there new BBW threads being made every so often? Threads seem to get closed once they hit a certain amount of comments.

175 is the limit but there is a BBW and M thread thathas been going for over 1000 posts now, like they start a new one when the other has filled up.

That's impressive! Not sure if there would be enough interest in this to keep it going though."

You never know but i'm guessing a lot of people might not be comfortable with being vulnerable on an open forum also?

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By *sgigglers OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

I really like your idea of a support group type thing, wouldn't have a clue how to go about it though! We always find that talking to people who understand is really helpful.

I don't think we really can it would be down to the site?

The only thing we could do really is start "support thread" for people to post in + private message each other from. But then it would need to keep being posted in or it would disappear

The BBW thread has managed it.

Not sure which thread you mean? Isn't there new BBW threads being made every so often? Threads seem to get closed once they hit a certain amount of comments.

175 is the limit but there is a BBW and M thread thathas been going for over 1000 posts now, like they start a new one when the other has filled up.

That's impressive! Not sure if there would be enough interest in this to keep it going though.

You never know but i'm guessing a lot of people might not be comfortable with being vulnerable on an open forum also? "

That's what I'm thinking. Health issues are naturally a private thing, and whilst both D & I are happy to talk to people about our challenges (though we wouldn't go into detail in a public forum), a lot of people wouldn't be.

We have had a couple of private messages come from this thread though, so I'm pleased its had at least a small positive effect.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

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I really like your idea of a support group type thing, wouldn't have a clue how to go about it though! We always find that talking to people who understand is really helpful.

I don't think we really can it would be down to the site?

The only thing we could do really is start "support thread" for people to post in + private message each other from. But then it would need to keep being posted in or it would disappear

The BBW thread has managed it.

Not sure which thread you mean? Isn't there new BBW threads being made every so often? Threads seem to get closed once they hit a certain amount of comments.

175 is the limit but there is a BBW and M thread thathas been going for over 1000 posts now, like they start a new one when the other has filled up.

That's impressive! Not sure if there would be enough interest in this to keep it going though.

You never know but i'm guessing a lot of people might not be comfortable with being vulnerable on an open forum also?

We have had a couple of private messages come from this thread though, so I'm pleased its had at least a small positive effect."

Kik groups would be ideal for something like this, especially if there were lots of members, only thing is you can't advertise them on here.

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over a year ago

I really like your idea of a support group type thing, wouldn't have a clue how to go about it though! We always find that talking to people who understand is really helpful.

I don't think we really can it would be down to the site?

The only thing we could do really is start "support thread" for people to post in + private message each other from. But then it would need to keep being posted in or it would disappear

The BBW thread has managed it.

Not sure which thread you mean? Isn't there new BBW threads being made every so often? Threads seem to get closed once they hit a certain amount of comments.

175 is the limit but there is a BBW and M thread thathas been going for over 1000 posts now, like they start a new one when the other has filled up.

That's impressive! Not sure if there would be enough interest in this to keep it going though.

You never know but i'm guessing a lot of people might not be comfortable with being vulnerable on an open forum also?

We have had a couple of private messages come from this thread though, so I'm pleased its had at least a small positive effect.

Kik groups would be ideal for something like this, especially if there were lots of members, only thing is you can't advertise them on here."

The thing is I think it would be better if it could stay on Fab somehow not taken elsewhere. Help for fab members

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By *sgigglers OP Couple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

I really like your idea of a support group type thing, wouldn't have a clue how to go about it though! We always find that talking to people who understand is really helpful.

I don't think we really can it would be down to the site?

The only thing we could do really is start "support thread" for people to post in + private message each other from. But then it would need to keep being posted in or it would disappear

The BBW thread has managed it.

Not sure which thread you mean? Isn't there new BBW threads being made every so often? Threads seem to get closed once they hit a certain amount of comments.

175 is the limit but there is a BBW and M thread thathas been going for over 1000 posts now, like they start a new one when the other has filled up.

That's impressive! Not sure if there would be enough interest in this to keep it going though.

You never know but i'm guessing a lot of people might not be comfortable with being vulnerable on an open forum also?

We have had a couple of private messages come from this thread though, so I'm pleased its had at least a small positive effect.

Kik groups would be ideal for something like this, especially if there were lots of members, only thing is you can't advertise them on here.

The thing is I think it would be better if it could stay on Fab somehow not taken elsewhere. Help for fab members"

I agree, I think it could be really helpful, but I have no clue how it could be done.

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over a year ago

I really like your idea of a support group type thing, wouldn't have a clue how to go about it though! We always find that talking to people who understand is really helpful.

I don't think we really can it would be down to the site?

The only thing we could do really is start "support thread" for people to post in + private message each other from. But then it would need to keep being posted in or it would disappear

The BBW thread has managed it.

Not sure which thread you mean? Isn't there new BBW threads being made every so often? Threads seem to get closed once they hit a certain amount of comments.

175 is the limit but there is a BBW and M thread thathas been going for over 1000 posts now, like they start a new one when the other has filled up.

That's impressive! Not sure if there would be enough interest in this to keep it going though.

You never know but i'm guessing a lot of people might not be comfortable with being vulnerable on an open forum also?

We have had a couple of private messages come from this thread though, so I'm pleased its had at least a small positive effect.

Kik groups would be ideal for something like this, especially if there were lots of members, only thing is you can't advertise them on here.

The thing is I think it would be better if it could stay on Fab somehow not taken elsewhere. Help for fab members

I agree, I think it could be really helpful, but I have no clue how it could be done. "

At the bottom of the forums there is a discussion board called Bikers... A whole board just for bikers to talk!

Wouldn't it be a good idea to have at the bottom under that a new message board on the forums called Disability Support?