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By *dventurous fella OP   Man
over a year ago

where

I don’t have a face picture on the public profile for work related issues, I work in education so have to be squeaky clean so to to speak.

I usually ask to see a face pic and will often return one, but wonder if this puts people off. I need to be as sure as possible that I’m not chatting to a parent or colleague or even a close friend. Wondered what people’s thoughts were on this ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will

One factor of this site (and others like it) is that people will expect to you to compromise your privacy whilst retaining their own

Sadly, it is a Catch 22, especially so for single blokes

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

If you ask to see my face pic without attaching your own, yes that would put me off. Not having it on your profile is fine, most people don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ask to see a pic with first message so if i don't one i don't respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if your penis is attached to your face then you may have a condition but if its not your face will be ok

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

As NSAchick says not having one publically visible is not a problem if you're willing to share via messages fairly early on in an exchange - the majority of users don't display one publically.

I would say however that to anyone that knows you your current public pic may identify you to anyone that knows you anyway.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

No privacy is important. It will some people off yes but that is there prerogative.

Our rule of thumb is if we ask for a face pic we send first and vice versa. If somebody asks us for face pics and does send theirs with their request we ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only evrr shared once they pass the 5 message flo rule

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't expect one with a first message but I am more inclined to reply to those who do. If someone asks for mine I do expect them to send theirs first.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

It's not unusual for guys to not show their face, and to be honest the photo you have up, is showing enough of your face to get a good idea of what you look like.

The profile can be as important as the photos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As NSAchick says not having one publically visible is not a problem if you're willing to share via messages fairly early on in an exchange - the majority of users don't display one publically.

I would say however that to anyone that knows you your current public pic may identify you to anyone that knows you anyway."

I agree. If I knew you I would probably recognise you from what I see now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t have a face picture on the public profile for work related issues, I work in education so have to be squeaky clean so to to speak.

I usually ask to see a face pic and will often return one, but wonder if this puts people off. I need to be as sure as possible that I’m not chatting to a parent or colleague or even a close friend. Wondered what people’s thoughts were on this ? "

yes lots of women especially want to see your face immediately at start of chatting you send they see it they delete you, many women already have their face on show and some won't show at all, it's a mixture of reactions really just put what you've said here on your profile then the onus is on them but yes it may harm your chances, who knows but you've got no choice really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares if it puts them off. Your job/ career or a quick shag with a stranger off the internet. I know which I choose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who cares if it puts them off. Your job/ career or a quick shag with a stranger off the internet. I know which I choose."
a quick shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have one showing in public. And I didn’t used to like sending them privately for similar reasons to you.

And one day the dreaded thing happened - I sent a face picture to a friend.

But guess what? He didn’t care. And ever since then I’ve realised it doesn’t matter.

We’re all adults and we’re all on this site. So who is anyone to judge

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"No privacy is important. It will some people off yes but that is there prerogative.

Our rule of thumb is if we ask for a face pic we send first and vice versa. If somebody asks us for face pics and does send theirs with their request we ignore."

This totally

I think if someone is asking to see your face,they should send theirs .

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I don’t have a face picture on the public profile for work related issues, I work in education so have to be squeaky clean so to to speak.

I usually ask to see a face pic and will often return one, but wonder if this puts people off. I need to be as sure as possible that I’m not chatting to a parent or colleague or even a close friend. Wondered what people’s thoughts were on this ? "

Confused.com as you have a pic of you on your profile now...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d change your profile pic then...if someone knows you, it’ll be pretty easy to tell that it’s you

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I agree, If I knew you I’d recognise you but I gather from what you’re saying it’s not friends you’re bothered about. Those parents you come into contact with via work may think it’s you but be a bit unsure. You don’t have to have the whole of you in your pic.

It would never put me off as long as you have something in your window other than just your cock. And as long as you’re prepared to share once we start talking. I totally get where you’re coming from. I’m not in education but feel very much the same about our own jobs, part of the reason I don’t meet local people.

Forever airbrushing jewellery on show that I’ve forgotten about.

Lex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t have a face picture on the public profile for work related issues, I work in education so have to be squeaky clean so to to speak.

I usually ask to see a face pic and will often return one, but wonder if this puts people off. I need to be as sure as possible that I’m not chatting to a parent or colleague or even a close friend. Wondered what people’s thoughts were on this ? "

Not at all my face pic isn’t always up

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By *dventurous fella OP   Man
over a year ago

where


"It's not unusual for guys to not show their face, and to be honest the photo you have up, is showing enough of your face to get a good idea of what you look like.

The profile can be as important as the photos

"

Good point! Any feedback gratefully received

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree, If I knew you I’d recognise you but I gather from what you’re saying it’s not friends you’re bothered about. Those parents you come into contact with via work may think it’s you but be a bit unsure. You don’t have to have the whole of you in your pic.

It would never put me off as long as you have something in your window other than just your cock. And as long as you’re prepared to share once we start talking. I totally get where you’re coming from. I’m not in education but feel very much the same about our own jobs, part of the reason I don’t meet local people.

Forever airbrushing jewellery on show that I’ve forgotten about.

Lex"

Some people value their privacy.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

It's a tough one Op, particularly for us men. Due to the mass amount of messages that women and couples receive, the ones that have a face pic are far more likely to be noticed and replied to.

As us single men very rarely receive unsolicited messages from out of the blue (definitely my case), the burden is on us to take the initiative if we wish to have any measure of success here.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

There can sometimes be a standoff about who shows face first. It's a leap of faith in a way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Up to the individual. I would never put my face on here. I don’t even do FPF etc. I tend to look at messages more if a face pic is attached. I don’t think you need one on your profile, just send one with a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There can sometimes be a standoff about who shows face first. It's a leap of faith in a way. "

I never ever do. If they won’t go first I say goodbye. They usually do then lol. I won’t go first with face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always send a face photo with my first message. Without fail.

Half the time, after a few messages, people will ask for a face photo. Pay attention at the back.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

There's quite a simple solution to this OP. Don't meet or chat with people in the area where you work/live. It's worked pretty well for me. I've never shared a face pic with someone who has gone... Hey, I know you!! Once you establish where someone is from and it's a 'safe' distance, you should feel more comfortable exchanging face pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send messages to people 400 miles away from you, like that you can be sure it won't be someone you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Send messages to people 400 miles away from you, like that you can be sure it won't be someone you know "

Because of course ppl you know can't travel right ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Send messages to people 400 miles away from you, like that you can be sure it won't be someone you know

Because of course ppl you know can't travel right ? "

Not if they are busophobic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Send messages to people 400 miles away from you, like that you can be sure it won't be someone you know

Because of course ppl you know can't travel right ?

Not if they are busophobic "

#monologue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There can sometimes be a standoff about who shows face first. It's a leap of faith in a way.

I never ever do. If they won’t go first I say goodbye. They usually do then lol. I won’t go first with face. "

Do you ever send them a face pic? Off site?

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By *dventurous fella OP   Man
over a year ago

where

I happily exchange face pics when the time comes

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By *dventurous fella OP   Man
over a year ago

where


"There can sometimes be a standoff about who shows face first. It's a leap of faith in a way. "

Should it just be sent with first message then?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"There can sometimes be a standoff about who shows face first. It's a leap of faith in a way.

Should it just be sent with first message then? "

If someone asks with first message, respect their wishes or leave them be. If not, talk to them if you get that far.

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By *dventurous fella OP   Man
over a year ago

where


"There can sometimes be a standoff about who shows face first. It's a leap of faith in a way.

Should it just be sent with first message then?

If someone asks with first message, respect their wishes or leave them be. If not, talk to them if you get that far. "

Good advice. Thank you. Ps keep up with the lifting it pays dividends and it’s fun! ( I also lift a little)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There can sometimes be a standoff about who shows face first. It's a leap of faith in a way.

I never ever do. If they won’t go first I say goodbye. They usually do then lol. I won’t go first with face.

Do you ever send them a face pic? Off site?"

Yes of course. I reciprocate. I just don’t go first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found if you send 17 cock pics it makes them want your penis to enter there tight bum hole 4 tines per hour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't bother me to be honest. If I want a face picture I'll ask for one privately. I don't have mine on show so I don't expect anyone else to display theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found if you send 17 cock pics it makes them want your penis to enter there tight bum hole 4 tines per hour "

This man knows ^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found if you send 17 cock pics it makes them want your penis to enter there tight bum hole 4 tines per hour

This man knows ^^^"

Remember to send each one in 17 separate messages to really get her attention. Women LOVE that on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't expect one with a first message but I am more inclined to reply to those who do. If someone asks for mine I do expect them to send theirs first. "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the etiquette is to send a pic first, if you are requesting one. To be fair, I would have thought that your profile pic would make you recognisable to those who knew you in person anyway....

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found if you send 17 cock pics it makes them want your penis to enter there tight bum hole 4 tines per hour

This man knows ^^^"

see op nora wants you to put ya penis out there for her to see if it fits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There can sometimes be a standoff about who shows face first. It's a leap of faith in a way.

I never ever do. If they won’t go first I say goodbye. They usually do then lol. I won’t go first with face.

Do you ever send them a face pic? Off site?

Yes of course. I reciprocate. I just don’t go first. "

Just wondering how it works.

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