FabSwingers.com forum: 200 miles round trip for nowt.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After several messages, and a phone call, a meet was arranged between myself and a bisexual couple from this site.

They live 100 miles from me and they asked me to travel, to which I readily agreed as they didn't like to travel. Distance is no problem for me.

During our messages I made sure it was quite clear that I would like to play as much with the male and his cock as much as with the female and her pussy and also anal play. They said that was all okay as it was what they expected as well.

They asked for my phone number so he could speak to me, which I did and we spoke, I also spoke to his wife.

I drove to a pub local to them they'd nominated to meet for a social drink first to make sure we 'clicked'.

After waiting over an hour for them to turn up, I was about to leave when I got a text saying sorry but car had broken down but was waiting for a cab to get them to the pub. Half an hour later another message from them saying sorry but cab would be 20-30 minutes before they could be picked up. I called their number that we'd previously used just to find out if there was anywhere within walking distance of their place that I could drive to and meet them there and if we got on, I'd drive to their place with them.

The lady answered to call, I said who I was and asked about meeting them somewhere nearer for their convenience. Apparently they'd decided not to meet me and were hoping I'd just drive back home when they didn't turn up. I was told they had put the bit about the cab in a message just to try and convince me they'd got difficulty getting to the venue. Also that they'd decided they didn't like the look of my cock!! Before I could reply she hung up. I decided not to try calling again as I was speechless. I simply turned my car around and drove home - very frustrated and extremely pissed off.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Sorry to hear it OP - sadly that sort of thing is something we hear about all too often and there's not a great deal you can do other than take it on the chin and take it as a lesson learned. And how rude of them to say it was down to your cock - I would take that with a pinch of salt to be honest as it sounds like they were looking for excuses and you may never know the real reason.

All you can do is take steps to limit the chances of it happening in future like suggesting meeting half way, or confirming via text before leaving home etc. I also find it helps to not go straight into meeting and spending time getting to know people via messages first over a period of time - usually gives you a feel for how genuine they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow... that is shite. Did you enjoy your pint at least? Worth the trip?

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By *ed and WolfieCouple
over a year ago

Gravesend

That’s really rubbish.

Sounds to me like they had no intention of meeting at all.

Some people have no respect for other people and their precious time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a pair of cockwombles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Children playing in a grownup's environment. Sorry to hear you were messed around OP.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"What a pair of cockwombles"

Cockwombles?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would have been worse if they'd actually turned up and you'd invested more time in them. Lucky escape innit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg that's horrendous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s how our very first meet ended up. Admittedly it was only five miles, but aside from that pretty much word for word. Oh, and as we were leaving, hubby was assaulted by a random d*unk...plus side, didn’t pay for the taxi home..police gave us a lift haha

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By *atindollTV/TS
over a year ago

edinburgh

It's worse when they promise everything you want then expect you to suck swallow n fuck off home...then a month or so later message again with the same lines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we always kept our max distance to 20 miles for travelling, problem is on this site it’s overspilling with lots of dreamers. They enjoy the chase but that’s all.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

Commiserations mate, some people get their kicks out of being twats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s crap, I’ve been let down before, but I’d only travelled 15 miles.

Could you video chat in the future ? To help prove someone is real. Not foolproof, but might work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many idiots like that on here

Lesson to you OP, limit the distance you're willing to travel, small risk assessment to save your precious time and money x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After several messages, and a phone call, a meet was arranged between myself and a bisexual couple from this site.

They live 100 miles from me and they asked me to travel, to which I readily agreed as they didn't like to travel. Distance is no problem for me.

They asked for my phone number so he could speak to me, which I did and we spoke, I also spoke to his wife.

I drove to a pub local to them they'd nominated to meet for a social drink first to make sure we 'clicked'.

When I got home I wanted to bring up their profile and block them. Guess what? They were no longer on the site, surprise surprise. Hey ho such is life on Fab I suppose. Hopefully that was just a one off, but I shan't be holding my breath!! lol"
a bit of a fuckers trick that, that could put doubt in your mind now for your next meet, I hate people like that childish fuckers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry to hear it OP - sadly that sort of thing is something we hear about all too often and there's not a great deal you can do other than take it on the chin and take it as a lesson learned. And how rude of them to say it was down to your cock - I would take that with a pinch of salt to be honest as it sounds like they were looking for excuses and you may never know the real reason.

Good points, thank you. I'll bear them in mind.

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By *exy Black JenWoman
over a year ago

London/Eastbourne weekends

Thats a horrid thing to do...but please renember not all of us are like that..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That’s crap, I’ve been let down before, but I’d only travelled 15 miles.

Could you video chat in the future ? To help prove someone is real. Not foolproof, but might work. "

That's a good idea, definitely worth a try. Thanks.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

Are you sure they have left and they just haven't blocked you so you can't find them, send me a message if you would like me to check for you, at least they can be reported as timewasters, not sure that will much good though tbh. Make a mental note not to travel so far for a meet.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

"What a pair of cockwombles"

Hahaha god knows what cockwombles are but I love the word and made me giggle

Oh and btw OP your cock is a fine specimen so I would ignore that comment!

Experience, we won’t drive more than 40 mins unless we’ve already played before. (Although we’ve given up now on Fab meets and just go to clubs!)

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

That's really shitty of them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thats a horrid thing to do...but please renember not all of us are like that.."

I agree that not all here are like that. I have since had two offers of a meet. One has taken place and the other is due in a few days time.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'll drive 20 mins max for a meet after I've met them very locally to me for a social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its awful, I’m gutted for you - it happens far too often. When I arrange to travel now, I go up to a maximum of 50 miles unless I’m going to be somewhere with work - in my case the Manchester area. The last time it happened to me I hit the f*** it button and went to the nearest club and met some other people that were far more genuine. Hope it doesn’t happen again pal

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you sure they have left and they just haven't blocked you so you can't find them, send me a message if you would like me to check for you, at least they can be reported as timewasters, not sure that will much good though tbh. Make a mental note not to travel so far for a meet."

Thanks for the offer but I'll just let things rest now. And learn the lesson not to travel so far. At least the weather was ok and I wasn't driving in the rain!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Too many idiots like that on here

Lesson to you OP, limit the distance you're willing to travel, small risk assessment to save your precious time and money x"

Lesson learnt......the hard way but hey ho onwards and upwards as they say

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It's a horrible thing to happen yes, but it never ceases to amaze me the lengths some guys will go to for a shag with someone they've never met before.

You should of insisted they met you half way, at least then it wouldn't of been such a kick in the teeth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just learn from experience and don’t travel too far unless your going to meet at a club and grab a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many idiots like that on here

Lesson to you OP, limit the distance you're willing to travel, small risk assessment to save your precious time and money x

Lesson learnt......the hard way but hey ho onwards and upwards as they say

Indeed, and glad you're still smiling

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What a pair of cockwombles

Hahaha god knows what cockwombles are but I love the word and made me giggle

Oh and btw OP your cock is a fine specimen so I would ignore that comment!

Experience, we won’t drive more than 40 mins unless we’ve already played before. (Although we’ve given up now on Fab meets and just go to clubs!) "

I shan't be going too far afield now, perhaps an hour's drive and that;s it. Thank you for your compliment, appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was travelling that far and they weren’t willing to meet halfway, I’d want a video chat before hand, you can pick up on so much more and sense their general vibe. If they weren’t willing to do that, I wouldn’t travel to meet them.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

"What a pair of cockwombles

Hahaha god knows what cockwombles are but I love the word and made me giggle

Oh and btw OP your cock is a fine specimen so I would ignore that comment!

Experience, we won’t drive more than 40 mins unless we’ve already played before. (Although we’ve given up now on Fab meets and just go to clubs!)

I shan't be going too far afield now, perhaps an hour's drive and that;s it. Thank you for your compliment, appreciated."

You’re welcome!

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By *969BewitchedWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

That's definately one of the worst ones I've heard on here. I don't know how people sleep at night doing stuff like that. xx

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By *iverpool LoverMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Is this not a reportable offence?

People have every right to change their mind ofcourse but they deliberately and purposly kept you waiting even longer by telling you the car had broken down but dont worry we just rang a cab to bring us to you.

Then text again 30 mins later to say cab will be 30 mins longer.

Its almost like they was getting shits and giggles iut of it to see how much of your time they could waste.

I would report them OP nothing may come of it but id feel a lot better aftewards.

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By *iverpool LoverMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Sorry i just seen the last bit about no longer on site.

Disgusting people they are.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Is this not a reportable offence?

Then text again 30 mins later to say cab will be 30 mins longer.

Its almost like they was getting shits and giggles iut of it to see how much of your time they could waste.

I would report them OP nothing may come of it but id feel a lot better aftewards.

Too late. They left the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although this one was clearly intentional we have had one occasion when our babysitter didn't turn up for us was horrible we met him another time though but since then we only meet people within 45 minutes of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a horrible thing to happen yes, but it never ceases to amaze me the lengths some guys will go to for a shag with someone they've never met before.

You should of insisted they met you half way, at least then it wouldn't of been such a kick in the teeth. "

No one is getting 200 miles out of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So very sorry to hear this happen to you OP, I hope you made best of your time last night and your hotel?

I've traveled just over 200 miles, each way, for a meet but I'd been speaking to the lady for a few months beforehand which included quite a few phone calls to so whilst I was happy to travel that distance to meet her I was sure as I could be she would turn up, I was so relieved when she did too

Head up mate and best foot forward and I hope your next meet is a successful one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear this OP. It does sound like cold feet to me especially with the UNLOS so soon afterwards. I am willing to travel, but I’ll only do it for people when I know there is considerable mutual attraction and we have been communicating for quite a long time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Virtual hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (mr) once met someone for a club meet which was quite a drive and she had nearly 400 mile round trip but we had a great night and stayed over, it takes the trust and building a friendship before anything long distance can take place.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Sorry to hear this OP. It does sound like cold feet to me especially with the UNLOS so soon afterwards. I am willing to travel, but I’ll only do it for people when I know there is considerable mutual attraction and we have been communicating for quite a long time."

Cold feet, or one of them was more keen on the idea than the other, or they had had a row would be my bet - if the OP hadn't said he'd spoken to both of them I'd throw in it was probably a bloke too

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