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".. With someone who is not very experienced in sex? " You asking for a friend  | |||
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".. With someone who is not very experienced in sex? You asking for a friend "Haha exactly  | |||
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".. With someone who is not very experienced in sex? " I think you need the dark web and a fucking good alibi. | |||
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"If I found a connection and chemistry with them then why wouldn't I? I would think that most members of the site have *some* experience though, otherwise it's unlikely they'd be here, unless they're randy teens who see sex site and think "I'm having some of that" who wouldn't be for me anyway." Yeah most I guess that most have some experience.. But this site got me thinking, how much is enoough for the ladies on here. | |||
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"If I found a connection and chemistry with them then why wouldn't I? I would think that most members of the site have *some* experience though, otherwise it's unlikely they'd be here, unless they're randy teens who see sex site and think "I'm having some of that" who wouldn't be for me anyway. Yeah most I guess that most have some experience.. But this site got me thinking, how much is enoough for the ladies on here. " Do you mean sex itself or sex with different people? Most of my adult life has been sex with the same person so I suppose that makes me not too experienced. Is that what you mean? | |||
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".. With someone who is not very experienced in sex? " Virgins have to learn somewhere | |||
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".. With someone who is not very experienced in sex? Virgins have to learn somewhere "Not on a swinging site surely? Thats like putting a novice sailor in charge of a supertanker!!  | |||
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".. With someone who is not very experienced in sex? Virgins have to learn somewhere
Not on a swinging site surely?
Thats like putting a novice sailor in charge of a supertanker!! "Hey, that's Miss Super Tanker to you sir! | |||
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".. With someone who is not very experienced in sex? Virgins have to learn somewhere
Not on a swinging site surely?
Thats like putting a novice sailor in charge of a supertanker!!
Hey, that's Miss Super Tanker to you sir!" | |||
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"Of course as long as I really liked them. It wouldn’t be for sex initially, if at all, anyway." Same for me. I would be very happy to meet up with a friend for a coffee or whatever, without the intension of sex. However this site is fucking me up  | |||
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"Of course as long as I really liked them. It wouldn’t be for sex initially, if at all, anyway. Same for me. I would be very happy to meet up with a friend for a coffee or whatever, without the intension of sex. However this site is fucking me up "Fucking you up how? | |||
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".. With someone who is not very experienced in sex? Virgins have to learn somewhere
Not on a swinging site surely?
Thats like putting a novice sailor in charge of a supertanker!!
Hey, that's Miss Super Tanker to you sir!" | |||
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"Of course as long as I really liked them. It wouldn’t be for sex initially, if at all, anyway. Same for me. I would be very happy to meet up with a friend for a coffee or whatever, without the intension of sex. However this site is fucking me up "In what way? | |||
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"Of course as long as I really liked them. It wouldn’t be for sex initially, if at all, anyway. Same for me. I would be very happy to meet up with a friend for a coffee or whatever, without the intension of sex. However this site is fucking me up "Minnie and HMQL have asked my question in different ways.... | |||
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"No. Is that a no from one of you or both of you? " It's a no from me and a yes from Mr N. | |||
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"If I found a connection and chemistry with them then why wouldn't I? I would think that most members of the site have *some* experience though, otherwise it's unlikely they'd be here, unless they're randy teens who see sex site and think "I'm having some of that" who wouldn't be for me anyway. Yeah most I guess that most have some experience.. But this site got me thinking, how much is enoough for the ladies on here. " That last question will have as many different answers than there have been hot dinners consumed there is no single defining one. The key is finding people that find you attractive, who you have a connection with on some level, and who accept you for who you are, not what you think you should be. Yes, some ladies like someone who is experienced and confident, others won't have that high on their list of priorities and may be looking for more of a connection etc. | |||
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"Of course as long as I really liked them. It wouldn’t be for sex initially, if at all, anyway. Same for me. I would be very happy to meet up with a friend for a coffee or whatever, without the intension of sex. However this site is fucking me up
Fucking you up how?"Because I feel as I am not good enough for anyone here. | |||
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"Of course as long as I really liked them. It wouldn’t be for sex initially, if at all, anyway. Same for me. I would be very happy to meet up with a friend for a coffee or whatever, without the intension of sex. However this site is fucking me up
In what way?"In the way that why would anyone want to meet up with me. I'm just an average man. | |||
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"Of course as long as I really liked them. It wouldn’t be for sex initially, if at all, anyway. Same for me. I would be very happy to meet up with a friend for a coffee or whatever, without the intension of sex. However this site is fucking me up
Fucking you up how?
Because I feel as I am not good enough for anyone here. "I'm genuinely sorry to hear that. Fab can be a hard place if you have confidence or self esteem issues. | |||
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"Of course as long as I really liked them. It wouldn’t be for sex initially, if at all, anyway. Same for me. I would be very happy to meet up with a friend for a coffee or whatever, without the intension of sex. However this site is fucking me up
In what way?
In the way that why would anyone want to meet up with me. I'm just an average man. "Average is good. I like average. You’ve not been on here long. Give it time lovely x | |||
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"Of course as long as I really liked them. It wouldn’t be for sex initially, if at all, anyway. Same for me. I would be very happy to meet up with a friend for a coffee or whatever, without the intension of sex. However this site is fucking me up
Fucking you up how?
Because I feel as I am not good enough for anyone here. "Now I need you to take those negative thoughts bundle them all up in a big ball and throw them out a window (open for preference). You have been on here 9 weeks, and maybe not had a nibble, but the nibbles will come, they come when you stop thinking negatively, take the site with a pinch of salt (swinging is the lighter side of life). there is no one on this site that is perfect, some big un's some small un's, some with teeth, some with dentures and we can all reflect inwardly and say "nah, its me, I ain't good enough" and the minute you do that, you lose, you've given in. Its easy for me to say and harder for you to hear, but you just have to keep doing what you do. But remember that this (for many) is a lifestyle choice and we have to take the rough with the smooth, enjoy the feast, expect the famine. So come on Mr Blue Balls, you're good enough, because if you ain't, we ain't and if we ain't then somethings gone and got fucked up. | |||
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"Seriously I wish I never ever heard about this. It has changed my way of thinking about people. " Say more Mickey | |||
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"Of course as long as I really liked them. It wouldn’t be for sex initially, if at all, anyway. Same for me. I would be very happy to meet up with a friend for a coffee or whatever, without the intension of sex. However this site is fucking me up
Fucking you up how?
Because I feel as I am not good enough for anyone here.
Now I need you to take those negative thoughts bundle them all up in a big ball and throw them out a window (open for preference).
You have been on here 9 weeks, and maybe not had a nibble, but the nibbles will come, they come when you stop thinking negatively, take the site with a pinch of salt (swinging is the lighter side of life).
there is no one on this site that is perfect, some big un's some small un's, some with teeth, some with dentures and we can all reflect inwardly and say "nah, its me, I ain't good enough" and the minute you do that, you lose, you've given in. Its easy for me to say and harder for you to hear, but you just have to keep doing what you do. But remember that this (for many) is a lifestyle choice and we have to take the rough with the smooth, enjoy the feast, expect the famine.
So come on Mr Blue Balls, you're good enough, because if you ain't, we ain't and if we ain't then somethings gone and got fucked up." | |||
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"Seriously I wish I never ever heard about this. It has changed my way of thinking about people. Say more Mickey" I could say alot more. But many here wouldn't want to hear it. | |||
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"Seriously I wish I never ever heard about this. It has changed my way of thinking about people. " If this really is the case, you shouldn’t be here but perhaps on a dating site. Some really good comments and advice here, so sit down and read it. I haven’t been on Fab too long either but I’m loving it. Listen to your gut. If it’s telling you to go, then go. | |||
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"Seriously I wish I never ever heard about this. It has changed my way of thinking about people. " If you aren't enjoying at least some aspect of it then maybe go try something else? I don't know what your expectations were when you joined, but if it isn't what you imagined then mebbe it's not for you? Perhaps try a traditional dating site or something similar. | |||
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"Seriously I wish I never ever heard about this. It has changed my way of thinking about people. If this really is the case, you shouldn’t be here but perhaps on a dating site. Some really good comments and advice here, so sit down and read it. I haven’t been on Fab too long either but I’m loving it. Listen to your gut. If it’s telling you to go, then go." My gut Instinct is that this is not a good thing for anyone in the long run and my brain tells me no, Leave that this.. However I'm here, because I'm a man and human like us all here and I have Animal Instincts like everyone else. | |||
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"Seriously I wish I never ever heard about this. It has changed my way of thinking about people. Say more Mickey I could say alot more. But many here wouldn't want to hear it. " I know how you feel, iv yet to find a meet but I don't let it get to me. It's a slippery slope if you do. Something will come along when you least expect it. | |||
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"Of course as long as I really liked them. It wouldn’t be for sex initially, if at all, anyway. Same for me. I would be very happy to meet up with a friend for a coffee or whatever, without the intension of sex. However this site is fucking me up
Fucking you up how?
Because I feel as I am not good enough for anyone here.
Now I need you to take those negative thoughts bundle them all up in a big ball and throw them out a window (open for preference).
You have been on here 9 weeks, and maybe not had a nibble, but the nibbles will come, they come when you stop thinking negatively, take the site with a pinch of salt (swinging is the lighter side of life).
there is no one on this site that is perfect, some big un's some small un's, some with teeth, some with dentures and we can all reflect inwardly and say "nah, its me, I ain't good enough" and the minute you do that, you lose, you've given in. Its easy for me to say and harder for you to hear, but you just have to keep doing what you do. But remember that this (for many) is a lifestyle choice and we have to take the rough with the smooth, enjoy the feast, expect the famine.
So come on Mr Blue Balls, you're good enough, because if you ain't, we ain't and if we ain't then somethings gone and got fucked up."This is spot on and to add to it with an honest, and possibly blunt comment Mickey, although it's intended as constructive criticism and hopefully will be taken that way. Since you've joined the site, you've found and got involved in the forums, which is great, however pretty much all of your posts are negative and bemoaning your luck, advice you are given is ignored or reasons found why you can't follow it. I know it's hard if you are a glass half empty type of person, who looks at the world in a negative way - and Lord knows it's hard for a single guy on here at times.....BUT it is possible to make the site work for you, and even better it's within your hands to turn that around but it's down to you to make the necessary changes - it won't guarantee a thing but it will improve your experience of the site, and you will see it in a different light. As for average bloke, there are lots of "average blokes" here, me included, many of whom find the site works exactly how they expected, or better. Try taking a positive approach not a negative one, look at what *you* can do to change things, can you improve your profile and pics, would posting more positively in the forums help, would visiting a club or a group social be a better way to get your personality across? These and many more things are what you should be asking yourself. Ultimately no-one else is going to make the site work for you, so you have to step up to the plate yourself or decide that it's not for you | |||
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"Seriously I wish I never ever heard about this. It has changed my way of thinking about people. Say more Mickey I could say alot more. But many here wouldn't want to hear it. " Mickey, I’m just an average guy in lots of ways. I’ve been on this site for 9.5 years and have met the grand total of 6 people 3 just for socials and 3 I had sexual contact with. One was a man. I was pretty unsuccessful during the first few years getting to meet anyone but I enjoyed the chat rooms. Then I found the forum back at the end 2013. Within a couple of the months I started to finally work out how to show myself in my best light in here and started to attract quite a bit of interest. I met a few lovely people and got a bit carried away in the euphoria for a bit. So much so I got in a bit too deep emotionally and needed in the end to take time out. When I came back I then spent 5 years just having fun on the forum, learning loads and making connections. I finally decided to start meeting again as a New Year resolution this year and because of the 5 years absence and my relative lack of experience I haven’t found it particularly easy. However there are lovely people on here who have both made my decision very worthwhile and have helped me and challenged me along the way. I am still making regrettable mistakes as I stumble along but I am trying to learn each day from them. It takes time to find who you are on here and convey it in a way that attracts people who are good for you. Watch, listen, learn and find a way to have fun. You’re not alone | |||
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"Seriously I wish I never ever heard about this. It has changed my way of thinking about people. Say more Mickey I could say alot more. But many here wouldn't want to hear it. I know how you feel, iv yet to find a meet but I don't let it get to me. It's a slippery slope if you do. Something will come along when you least expect it. " Yes but but there is something about meeting through this that just doesn't seem right with me. | |||
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"Seriously I wish I never ever heard about this. It has changed my way of thinking about people. If this really is the case, you shouldn’t be here but perhaps on a dating site. Some really good comments and advice here, so sit down and read it. I haven’t been on Fab too long either but I’m loving it. Listen to your gut. If it’s telling you to go, then go. My gut Instinct is that this is not a good thing for anyone in the long run and my brain tells me no, Leave that this.. However I'm here, because I'm a man and human like us all here and I have Animal Instincts like everyone else. " Depends what you’re looking for? Don’t see how it’s not a good thing. If it wasn’t I wouldn’t be here. I’m mostly here coz the forums make me laugh. I very very rarely meet anyone. This doesn’t get in the way of my wonderful “real life” so for me I don’t see how it can be a bad thing  | |||
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"Yeh no issues doing so.. you explore and build a connection together... " Ill expand on this, my first meet on here was someone who was very very inexperienced she was younger i was her first meet. Ultimately we wanted the same.. a fwb, we met up for around a year and a half.. she was hands down the best sexual partner ive ever ever had, she didnt come into it with a 'standardised sexual way' like many 'experienced' people do. She read me, learned what made me tick. . Explored her boundaries and mine.. she was the most thoughtful sexual partner ive had and really changed my take on sex... definitely making me appreciate quality over quantity, and the importance of a bond/connection. | |||
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"Yeh no issues doing so.. you explore and build a connection together... Ill expand on this, my first meet on here was someone who was very very inexperienced she was younger i was her first meet. Ultimately we wanted the same.. a fwb, we met up for around a year and a half.. she was hands down the best sexual partner ive ever ever had, she didnt come into it with a 'standardised sexual way' like many 'experienced' people do. She read me, learned what made me tick. . Explored her boundaries and mine.. she was the most thoughtful sexual partner ive had and really changed my take on sex... definitely making me appreciate quality over quantity, and the importance of a bond/connection. " Lucky man | |||
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" Yes but but there is something about meeting through this that just doesn't seem right with me. " Are you saying you don't agree with swinging morally or something to that effect? If that's the case fella then maybe this is not the type of lifestyle that's right for you. As others here pointed out maybe traditional dating sites are more suitable for your mindset.... | |||
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"I have done this evening "Rattle a snake Lexi, expect it to bite! x | |||
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Rattle a snake Lexi, expect it to bite! x"Your snake just spat at me | |||
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"Just fuck the hole dude " Yeah but so many women go on about seeking very experienced men as if it's some sort of rocket science.. It's just sex! What do they want? Someone who has fucked half the country or what. | |||
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"Just fuck the hole dude Yeah but so many women go on about seeking very experienced men as if it's some sort of rocket science.. It's just sex! What do they want? Someone who has fucked half the country or what. " I think you'll find most of the time that is to deter timewasters and the like - the only way you can truly know is by talking to people and seeing if their expectations match yours. Either way, as has been said the key here is not experience as such, more compatibility and you can't be compatible with everyone - so if someone is looking for something you're not then just move on. | |||
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"Just fuck the hole dude Yeah but so many women go on about seeking very experienced men as if it's some sort of rocket science.. It's just sex! What do they want? Someone who has fucked half the country or what. " Is your concern that many women are seeking a type of man that you feel you're not? That applies to all men, nobody is going to appeal universally. Why not concentrate on the women who have said they're happy for a guy to be inexperienced. Also don't know what you mean by inexperienced, it's all relative. If you're conflicted about meeting from here for whatever reason just do the forums for a bit and take the pressure off yourself | |||
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