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Is a wink lazy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just a thought, following the wink thread...

I know that they're not for everyone and they can be a way to register an interest but is it just lazy? It requires no thought and little to no effort. Are people so afraid of rejection that they won't string a few sentences together?

Tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a thought, following the wink thread...

I know that they're not for everyone and they can be a way to register an interest but is it just lazy? It requires no thought and little to no effort. Are people so afraid of rejection that they won't string a few sentences together?

Tea"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't know darling. FAF?

Dotty x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Lazy no, I recognise that the effort put in doesn't always translate to reward, but realistically it's sensible to prioritise more effort put in (messages).

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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That's interest in the thread not you Tea

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Lazy no, I recognise that the effort put in doesn't always translate to reward, but realistically it's sensible to prioritise more effort put in (messages). "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not lazy but i just take it as like profile but not enough to message me

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

They are a great way of making initial contact. They can lead to a lot more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The majority of winks i get are from couples and men under 6ft... as I'm not looking for either, i ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always thought a wink meant "you're with me". More of an order than a request.

I thought women liked that kind of thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't know darling. FAF?

Dotty x"

In a bit folks...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lazy eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I know it means they may be interested, it kinda says that they don't deem me worthy of crafting a bespoke message. At least it's (barely) better than sending a friend request without any prior contact. That said, I am a needy fecker though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Harmless fun. An easy way to guage interest if you struggle with making a first move.

Many overthink the functions on the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not lazy but i just take it as like profile but not enough to message me"

That's how I see it. The vast majority of the messages that we've had have been from single guys, plenty of winks from couples, I just find that a little curious...

Tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, good icebreaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I wouldn't say so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some profiles say they appreciate a wink.

Mine does.

Just registering interest sometimes helps.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

I think wink says in we're interested ... a wink back says so are we .. so the messaging starts ... just a good way of gauging mutual interest .. imo

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I sent a load of winks the other day with not one response, yes I am lazy.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Prefer a wink, than 'ur meetin' or 'fancy a fuk' or 'u ok' or etc...

Yes please wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever I get a wink, I just wink back just to see what happens and no one follows it up with a message, so why the fuck are they bothering for. Do they expect you to message the lazy feckers ?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Whenever I get a wink, I just wink back just to see what happens and no one follows it up with a message, so why the fuck are they bothering for. Do they expect you to message the lazy feckers ? "

I think some do yes

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I don't message first but have "wink me" on my profile; this saves me a lot of faffing in the long run.

Long live the winkers (as a single guy, as a woman or couple I would probably just delete the feckers)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a wink I just have a lazy eye...

Oh...

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"I always thought a wink meant "you're with me". More of an order than a request.

I thought women liked that kind of thing."

Yes darling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always thought a wink meant "you're with me". More of an order than a request.

I thought women liked that kind of thing.

Yes darling. "

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*insert wink here

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

[Removed by poster at 18/06/19 19:09:12]

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"I always thought a wink meant "you're with me". More of an order than a request.

I thought women liked that kind of thing.

Yes darling.

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*insert wink here "

Your wink will never fit in there!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"They are a great way of making initial contact. They can lead to a lot more. "

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I agree.

Winks are underrated and often ignored. They have the best intentions but no one is expected to reciprocate.

I'd like to think of it as a gentleman doff'ing his hat to a lady as she walks by, an acknowledgement of her profile.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

I don't send winks if a profile interests me enough to contact them I'll send a message I consider the couple of minutes a worthwhile investment of my time.

Are folk who wink lazy.. some probably others maybe and theres the group that aren't..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a thought, following the wink thread...

I know that they're not for everyone and they can be a way to register an interest but is it just lazy? It requires no thought and little to no effort. Are people so afraid of rejection that they won't string a few sentences together?

Tea"

I prefer winks to random messages tbh and say this on my profile ... means I can check out their profile and choose to wink back if I would like to chat with a person. So much better and easier than all this complaining about rude and not personalised or spelled right messages!

But there again you can't please all people all of the time but no I don't think it's lazy at all, just a polite way of showing an interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They’re a great way of being ignored by women and couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a thought, following the wink thread...

I know that they're not for everyone and they can be a way to register an interest but is it just lazy? It requires no thought and little to no effort. Are people so afraid of rejection that they won't string a few sentences together?

Tea"

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind at all if someone winks me. Sometimes I just wink back depending who it is - I don’t expect any further conversation in this case though, as I’ve put the opening gambit back in their court. However, if I am really interested in talking to the person I message them. It has worked recently in establishing a very good conversation.

In short I don’t mind, but don’t use it as an approach myself, except specifically on a winking thread. One of my long term Fab friends came about though that route

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get a wink I look at the profile of the person who sent it and if I like the look of them I'll say hello. The simple fact is that while I do try to make an effort with first messages (and usually do send messages rather than winks), if you're just not what the person is looking for then no message will do you any good, so if you wink and they ignore it it saves you the effort of writing a message that will be ignored. But if you wink and they wink back, then that should tell you to put some effort into that introduction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. It suits me just fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking about this, I think whether a wink is likely to get a response depends entirely for me on how much detail the person's profile has. If your profile is pretty much empty - no pictures, almost no text - then it's unlikely I'll respond to a wink, whereas a nice and friendly message might prompt me to chat to someone with an empty profile. On the other hand, a wink leading to a profile with nice pictures and text that gives me an idea of whether I might like the person may well prompt an opening message from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I wink all the time.

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