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5 months & no meet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What the bloody hell am I doing wrong haha, nice and polite gentleman but I beleieve it's the nerves...

ClubF on the weekend should square me right away what do you think x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people check a profile before deciding whether to reply so maybe have a look at that and see if you can improve it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If being a nice and polite gentleman is all you can offer, you probably won’t get meets.

Good luck at the club! I think most men find it easier at clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience being too nice and too polite is a turn off on here mate. A bit (but not too much) of cheekiness about a message always works better for me

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"What the bloody hell am I doing wrong haha, nice and polite gentleman but I beleieve it's the nerves...

ClubF on the weekend should square me right away what do you think x"

Maybe look at your profile? Ask for advice on it and you may get a few pointers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Being honest sometimes is seen as "vanilla" I believe mate, I completely agree with the "cheekyness" however and that's me in real life so why change on here?

I haven't got the eyes of a female so any suggestion would be perfect!

Thanks all xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If being a nice and polite gentleman is all you can offer, you probably won’t get meets.

Good luck at the club! I think most men find it easier at clubs "

Thanks for the advice, however I think I need to put myself out there just once and I'll either get a taste or I might not like it. I think being rejected or looked at funny is also a worry.

After a glass or 2 of wine however thi gs change in a hear eat xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If being a nice and polite gentleman is all you can offer, you probably won’t get meets.

Good luck at the club! I think most men find it easier at clubs

Thanks for the advice, however I think I need to put myself out there just once and I'll either get a taste or I might not like it. I think being rejected or looked at funny is also a worry.

After a glass or 2 of wine however thi gs change in a hear eat xx"

Have you had those two glasses of wine just now?!

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"If being a nice and polite gentleman is all you can offer, you probably won’t get meets.

Good luck at the club! I think most men find it easier at clubs

Thanks for the advice, however I think I need to put myself out there just once and I'll either get a taste or I might not like it. I think being rejected or looked at funny is also a worry.

After a glass or 2 of wine however thi gs change in a hear eat xx"

Might be wise to loose the bit about your ex at the end of your profile I think....Jo

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Too young for me, but also called your ex a bitch. Sorry, a no, no for me

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"If being a nice and polite gentleman is all you can offer, you probably won’t get meets.

Good luck at the club! I think most men find it easier at clubs

Thanks for the advice, however I think I need to put myself out there just once and I'll either get a taste or I might not like it. I think being rejected or looked at funny is also a worry.

After a glass or 2 of wine however thi gs change in a hear eat xx

Might be wise to loose the bit about your ex at the end of your profile I think....Jo "

That's exactly what I was thinking

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The suggestions to look at your profile are all good ones - also there's no such thing as being too nice or too gentlemanly - you can't appeal to everyone here, some will like that approach others may not - the key is to be open, honest, and true to yourself, not to try and be something you're not.

Likewise vanilla vs kinky - not everyone will be looking for something more kink related or even out of the ordinary.

Five months is also no time at all to have been here - my first meet didn't happen till a way after that.

It's about having the right attitude, approach and expectations coupled with a good profile and pictures along with a dollop of patience, and an element of either luck or finding an approach that works to get you known.

Going to clubs is one way, group socials another, simply getting involved in the forums and chat rooms yet another - it doesn't have to be about sending messages cold.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If being a nice and polite gentleman is all you can offer, you probably won’t get meets.

Good luck at the club! I think most men find it easier at clubs

Thanks for the advice, however I think I need to put myself out there just once and I'll either get a taste or I might not like it. I think being rejected or looked at funny is also a worry.

After a glass or 2 of wine however thi gs change in a hear eat xx

Have you had those two glasses of wine just now?! "

Wow it does look that way doesn't it haha. I meant on the night. Best not message anyone after some wobbly water otherwise god knows what will come out xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If being a nice and polite gentleman is all you can offer, you probably won’t get meets.

Good luck at the club! I think most men find it easier at clubs

Thanks for the advice, however I think I need to put myself out there just once and I'll either get a taste or I might not like it. I think being rejected or looked at funny is also a worry.

After a glass or 2 of wine however thi gs change in a hear eat xx

Might be wise to loose the bit about your ex at the end of your profile I think....Jo "

Taken into consideration and deleted, I thought it would save a potential lady finding out after we have spoke. Imagine going on a meet with me to which I turn around and say "technically I am still married" what an awkward situation that could potentially lead to.

Still though, after 2 or 3 comments or suggestions reference the bio it is now off

Thanks for the advice, and more is welcome x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The suggestions to look at your profile are all good ones - also there's no such thing as being too nice or too gentlemanly - you can't appeal to everyone here, some will like that approach others may not - the key is to be open, honest, and true to yourself, not to try and be something you're not.

Likewise vanilla vs kinky - not everyone will be looking for something more kink related or even out of the ordinary.

Five months is also no time at all to have been here - my first meet didn't happen till a way after that.

It's about having the right attitude, approach and expectations coupled with a good profile and pictures along with a dollop of patience, and an element of either luck or finding an approach that works to get you known.

Going to clubs is one way, group socials another, simply getting involved in the forums and chat rooms yet another - it doesn't have to be about sending messages cold."

Great advice buddy, and thanks for the input. Makes me feel abit better about myself lad x

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"If being a nice and polite gentleman is all you can offer, you probably won’t get meets.

Good luck at the club! I think most men find it easier at clubs

Thanks for the advice, however I think I need to put myself out there just once and I'll either get a taste or I might not like it. I think being rejected or looked at funny is also a worry.

After a glass or 2 of wine however thi gs change in a hear eat xx

Might be wise to loose the bit about your ex at the end of your profile I think....Jo

Taken into consideration and deleted, I thought it would save a potential lady finding out after we have spoke. Imagine going on a meet with me to which I turn around and say "technically I am still married" what an awkward situation that could potentially lead to.

Still though, after 2 or 3 comments or suggestions reference the bio it is now off

Thanks for the advice, and more is welcome x"

There's no harm in mentioning your marital status, it's what you called your ex, didn't sound very nice. good you have taken it down now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What the bloody hell am I doing wrong haha, nice and polite gentleman but I beleieve it's the nerves...

ClubF on the weekend should square me right away what do you think x"

42.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What the bloody hell am I doing wrong haha, nice and polite gentleman but I beleieve it's the nerves...

ClubF on the weekend should square me right away what do you think x

42."

Please elaborate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think meets don't happen on here tbh boss unless in a club

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think meets don't happen on here tbh boss unless in a club "

We can only pray my man haha

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I think meets don't happen on here tbh boss unless in a club "

I beg to differ - most of my meets have been outside a club environment, and even those that happened in a club were pre-arranged and I know I'm not alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just keep doing your thing, be you. you don’t want to portray something your not on your bio. posting on a forum asking how to get meets might work too ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think meets don't happen on here tbh boss unless in a club

I beg to differ - most of my meets have been outside a club environment, and even those that happened in a club were pre-arranged and I know I'm not alone."

Were they meeting people you'd already met in a club or social?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I think meets don't happen on here tbh boss unless in a club

I beg to differ - most of my meets have been outside a club environment, and even those that happened in a club were pre-arranged and I know I'm not alone.

Were they meeting people you'd already met in a club or social? "

With one exception, no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only five months?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now you've had your meet... After thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not happening now, feel very strange even though the woman was perfect in every way it just felt morally wrong. I'm going with my heart and not my penis x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You gonna leave fab then?

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


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Not happening now, feel very strange even though the woman was perfect in every way it just felt morally wrong. I'm going with my heart and not my penis x"

My first social was alien. Felt wrong. Now it's fine. You can't click with everyone. I met a guy today, lovely fella, no spark. Maybe you just need to give it time

Jo x

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"You gonna leave fab then?"

Now look what you've made him do

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

He should have asked the guy on the other thread for advice before he left, he could have had a meet by now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You gonna leave fab then?"

No he had his first meet! Wasn’t for him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You gonna leave fab then?

No he had his first meet! Wasn’t for him "

I know! That's why he left

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