FabSwingers.com forum: Wrong to be cordial?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

At what point in the conversation of messages do you tell the person you arent interested ?

Ive tried the delete and block if no attraction straight away, but after a few face to face social conversations ive kept been told im hard work and abrupt. Given this i decided that today i was going be all out sweetness and light and if i got a message but didnt see any attraction i would reply, although not straight away with a no thanks....great but now im trapped in a vanilla conversation about the weather etc how do i get off this roundabout?

And is been overly polite as wrong as abrupt and hard work ?!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Just say thank you for the chat but we are not compatible and wish them luck..

If they get arsey then block..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just say thank you for the chat but we are not compatible and wish them luck..

If they get arsey then block.. "

See why couldnt i have come up with that, im obviously not cut out for polite!

Thanks x

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Just say thank you for the chat but we are not compatible and wish them luck..

If they get arsey then block..

See why couldnt i have come up with that, im obviously not cut out for polite!

Thanks x"

Welcome..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't please everyone so just please yourself..

That's my mantra

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

If you’ve got trapped in a cordial conversation the other person might be thinking the same thing too. Try saying something provocative or playful and see if it moves on. If not, just say it’s not working out and stop messaging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can't please everyone so just please yourself..

That's my mantra

Thats how i was playing it but then i tried to listen to what was being said. I guess i just have to do me and sod the consequences

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you’ve got trapped in a cordial conversation the other person might be thinking the same thing too. Try saying something provocative or playful and see if it moves on. If not, just say it’s not working out and stop messaging. "

Heres hoping they give in first

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

First response usually, but I'm polite about it.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

If I'm not interested I don't chat.

Not got the time or the inclination.

If I'm chatting it's because I think there's potential.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I'm not interested I don't chat.

Not got the time or the inclination.

If I'm chatting it's because I think there's potential.

Im going to revert back to being me, just nice to hear that im not the only one

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"If I'm not interested I don't chat.

Not got the time or the inclination.

If I'm chatting it's because I think there's potential.

Im going to revert back to being me, just nice to hear that im not the only one

Do what works best for you

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