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By *019Ready OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

So this morning we received a message from a single guy asking if we'd like polite, clean fun, VWE.

As we're here for female fun I replied as such, thanked him for his message, said I appreciated it can be difficult on Fab for single guys & wished him good luck.

He messaged again to thank me for the lovely message I'd sent.

If you're reading this, you know who you are!

I realise some people receive a crazy amount of messages & can't reply to all (& indeed receive ones that don't even deserve a reply) but I have to say that brief exchange this morning made me realise how just the simple kindness of being polite can go a long way & even though we'd turned him down, I know the fact that I bothered to reply at all will have made a bit of a difference. And that was helped by him being polite in the first place.

So you maybe wondering why am I banging on about this. Well...because I can & because it highlighted that there are indeed plenty of decent people on here.

Let's not allow the fakers & timewasters to ruin the fun for us genuine ones. Who's with me?!

(And please don't leave me hanging - it's so not a good look haha)!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I agree, there are some lovely people, it's just finding them that can be a challenge sometimes.

That's an encouraging post OP.

I have to say I've met some gorgeous people at events and in the Clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to be indiecent

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It is lovely when things like that happen and we all too often tend to hear about the bad experiences of the site as opposed to the good ones and that can lead to perceptions being skewed, but there are lots of lovely people here, who do get it, who do accept a polite "no thanks" with good grace, have the right attitude, approach and expectations etc.

We should celebrate the positives more often

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We try to respond to nice messages too. Especially if we can see times been taken over them.

We are all here looking for our ideal match for fun if it doesn't work there's no need for rudeness if you have been approached politely

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve always been polite and courteous why be anything else . Even when rejected why be anything else ,it’s not my right to be met lol

Haven’t always had polite replies but that’s thei4 problem not mine

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By *avethefish400Man
over a year ago

Chichester

I really enjoy getting a polite response even if it’s in the negative.

It gets very demoralising if messages are deleted and or I’m blocked without a reply. I would understand if the message was offensive or extreme.

Us guys that read profiles and try to appeal to the likes of the person we are contacting to hopefully start a conversation seem to be in the minority.

Thank you for saying thank you for being polite op!

Enjoy fab everyone.

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By *019Ready OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Yes I agree, there are some lovely people, it's just finding them that can be a challenge sometimes.

That's an encouraging post OP.

I have to say I've met some gorgeous people at events and in the Clubs.

"

Yes it can be a challenge!

We haven't attended any events or clubs yet but I guess it's like anything in life -v- online, some people behave far differently using a keyboard rather than face to face!

Glad to hear you've met some good people that way

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

This is nice to read! Manners cost nothing!

Av xx

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By *019Ready OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I really enjoy getting a polite response even if it’s in the negative.

It gets very demoralising if messages are deleted and or I’m blocked without a reply. I would understand if the message was offensive or extreme.

Us guys that read profiles and try to appeal to the likes of the person we are contacting to hopefully start a conversation seem to be in the minority.

Thank you for saying thank you for being polite op!

Enjoy fab everyone."

You're welcome! Just felt the need to highlight the good for once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is nice to read! Manners cost nothing!

Av xx"

They cost time in this example, time costs more than anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always jolly polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are now ready

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I really enjoy getting a polite response even if it’s in the negative.

It gets very demoralising if messages are deleted and or I’m blocked without a reply. I would understand if the message was offensive or extreme.

Us guys that read profiles and try to appeal to the likes of the person we are contacting to hopefully start a conversation seem to be in the minority.

Thank you for saying thank you for being polite op!

Enjoy fab everyone."

I often say that the only people others ruin it for is themselves, but this is actually one area where the abusive and negative guys *do* ruin it for others - one of the reasons a lot of people don't reply to messages, if they're not interested, is because they don't know if they will get abuse back - if everyone learned to accept a polite "no thanks" with good grace perhaps more people would be inclined to reply to the messages they receive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is a lovely post op but i think you are in the minority i dont bother to send messages now as i have had so many deleted without reply and then read in forums that this is considered as being polite

i read profiles and am polite and never send rude pics

i am not looking for sympathy btw

just going with the flow now

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By *019Ready OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"You are now ready "

No way!! Do we get a badge?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So this morning we received a message from a single guy asking if we'd like polite, clean fun, VWE.

As we're here for female fun I replied as such, thanked him for his message, said I appreciated it can be difficult on Fab for single guys & wished him good luck.

He messaged again to thank me for the lovely message I'd sent.

If you're reading this, you know who you are!

I realise some people receive a crazy amount of messages & can't reply to all (& indeed receive ones that don't even deserve a reply) but I have to say that brief exchange this morning made me realise how just the simple kindness of being polite can go a long way & even though we'd turned him down, I know the fact that I bothered to reply at all will have made a bit of a difference. And that was helped by him being polite in the first place.

So you maybe wondering why am I banging on about this. Well...because I can & because it highlighted that there are indeed plenty of decent people on here.

Let's not allow the fakers & timewasters to ruin the fun for us genuine ones. Who's with me?!

(And please don't leave me hanging - it's so not a good look haha)! "
I agree and thankyou for highlighting and acknowledging it

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

We respond politely if the message is similar or the sender has at least put a bit of an effort in..

but if its a shadow profile, no pictures, no veris and been on here for ages and the message is a 'hi, how are you' or 'what you up to/wearing/doing today' we will usually ignore..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too was once like you.

Alas, I let the Bastard’s grind me down

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

That’s lovely to hear OP X well done you, the gent concerned must feel Fab is an awesome place to be.

Sadly for me I received a message asking if I enjoyed farting whilst sitting on someone’s face and a request not to eat sweet corn..

I did enjoy responding in kind and also blocking..

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By *019Ready OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I really enjoy getting a polite response even if it’s in the negative.

It gets very demoralising if messages are deleted and or I’m blocked without a reply. I would understand if the message was offensive or extreme.

Us guys that read profiles and try to appeal to the likes of the person we are contacting to hopefully start a conversation seem to be in the minority.

Thank you for saying thank you for being polite op!

Enjoy fab everyone.

I often say that the only people others ruin it for is themselves, but this is actually one area where the abusive and negative guys *do* ruin it for others - one of the reasons a lot of people don't reply to messages, if they're not interested, is because they don't know if they will get abuse back - if everyone learned to accept a polite "no thanks" with good grace perhaps more people would be inclined to reply to the messages they receive."

True dat

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By *019Ready OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"That’s lovely to hear OP X well done you, the gent concerned must feel Fab is an awesome place to be.

Sadly for me I received a message asking if I enjoyed farting whilst sitting on someone’s face and a request not to eat sweet corn..

I did enjoy responding in kind and also blocking.. "

Haha! Admittedly there are some strange messages to be had!

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By *019Ready OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I too was once like you.

Alas, I let the Bastard’s grind me down "

Well get grinding back up!

That sounded ok in my head

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By *019Ready OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"We respond politely if the message is similar or the sender has at least put a bit of an effort in..

but if its a shadow profile, no pictures, no veris and been on here for ages and the message is a 'hi, how are you' or 'what you up to/wearing/doing today' we will usually ignore..

"

Yes I get that

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Always good to see a positive post.

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By *appytrailmanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I always thank someone for a polite no thank you! I get more polite replies from people saying no thank you than some that I think may actually be interested in me!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Respect and consideration make everything easier and more enjoyable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are now ready

No way!! Do we get a badge?! "

Just a congratulation fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree OP. That's why I always reply to first messages. Most of the time the reply is positive. Or they don't reply again, which is also fine.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"We respond politely if the message is similar or the sender has at least put a bit of an effort in..

but if its a shadow profile, no pictures, no veris and been on here for ages and the message is a 'hi, how are you' or 'what you up to/wearing/doing today' we will usually ignore..

Yes I get that "

To be fair we've not had many arsey replies, most guys are polite and that does register if we're honest..

Some do get a bit why not, etc but in the main most are fine which says much about them..

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By *019Ready OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"We respond politely if the message is similar or the sender has at least put a bit of an effort in..

but if its a shadow profile, no pictures, no veris and been on here for ages and the message is a 'hi, how are you' or 'what you up to/wearing/doing today' we will usually ignore..

Yes I get that

To be fair we've not had many arsey replies, most guys are polite and that does register if we're honest..

Some do get a bit why not, etc but in the main most are fine which says much about them.. "

Indeed it does

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport


"So this morning we received a message from a single guy asking if we'd like polite, clean fun, VWE.

As we're here for female fun I replied as such, thanked him for his message, said I appreciated it can be difficult on Fab for single guys & wished him good luck.

He messaged again to thank me for the lovely message I'd sent.

If you're reading this, you know who you are!

I realise some people receive a crazy amount of messages & can't reply to all (& indeed receive ones that don't even deserve a reply) but I have to say that brief exchange this morning made me realise how just the simple kindness of being polite can go a long way & even though we'd turned him down, I know the fact that I bothered to reply at all will have made a bit of a difference. And that was helped by him being polite in the first place.

So you maybe wondering why am I banging on about this. Well...because I can & because it highlighted that there are indeed plenty of decent people on here.

Let's not allow the fakers & timewasters to ruin the fun for us genuine ones. Who's with me?!

(And please don't leave me hanging - it's so not a good look haha)! "

Totally agree. We reply to most. There are the odd few we haven’t. We’ve even ended up chatting to people on a long term basis even though they know we will never meet. There’s some lovely people out there. It’s the ones that aren’t honest, stand you up, or forgot they’ve arranged a meet! That make it hard work

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