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Are you someone who is single in your public life, but over time have realised you're actually in a committed clandestine relationship with another Fabber?
If you decided to go public with your relationship, how did you transition from being secret lovers to being an actual couple? Did you introduce him/her to friends and family as a new boyfriend/girlfriend, or did you come clean and say you'd been secretly involved for years? What did you tell them about how you met?  | |||
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"My friends have all met B, my son has spoken to him via vid call. To be fair nobody asked where we met, I think they were all just so shocked I let someone get close to me! P" When introducing him to friends and your son, did they ask how long you'd been seeing each other? | |||
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"Fabttached? Swingaged? Fabily married?
Are you someone who is single in your public life, but over time have realised you're actually in a committed clandestine relationship with another Fabber?
If you decided to go public with your relationship, how did you transition from being secret lovers to being an actual couple? Did you introduce him/her to friends and family as a new boyfriend/girlfriend, or did you come clean and say you'd been secretly involved for years? What did you tell them about how you met? "is this your situation and that's why you're hiding? | |||
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My family and close friends had heard about my partner, only because I was spending a lot of time with him (we went to Geneva for a week before we were 'official'!) and he naturally came up in conversation.
I would say we'd met online and no more was asked of it apart from one friend who had a blog about trying various dating sites and wanted to know exactly which one we met on.  I think they were mainly surprised I was a) serious about someone and b) he's a man. | |||
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"I had a FWB at work. After we stopped the benefits side, we stayed friends. She had a boyfriend for a year, before telling anyone, as she didn't want to say anything until she was sure he was 'the one'. So just say that you were being cautious. And congratulations on meeting someone." Thank you   | |||
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"Fabily married is brilliant. Secret lovers. My family and close friends had heard about my partner, only because I was spending a lot of time with him (we went to Geneva for a week before we were 'official'!) and he naturally came up in conversation.
I would say we'd met online and no more was asked of it apart from one friend who had a blog about trying various dating sites and wanted to know exactly which one we met on. I think they were mainly surprised I was a) serious about someone and b) he's a man. "This is lovely 
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"My friends have all met B, my son has spoken to him via vid call. To be fair nobody asked where we met, I think they were all just so shocked I let someone get close to me! P When introducing him to friends and your son, did they ask how long you'd been seeing each other? " Not really, my friends were kinda privy to the info anyway as I'd told them when we first started speaking that I'd been talking to a guy and was excited to meet him in the flesh etc. Most of my friends are from work so they could tell I had "something" on my mind as I was a happy skippy jumpy. Plus at times I need to swap shifts to see him as our time is limited anyway and I'm crap at fibbing, so I ask flat out if they can swap so I can see him. My lad did, he knew something had changed in me, again coz I was extra happy, smiling at my phone ex. He said he wanted to meet him so he could shake the hand of the bloke that's making his mum smile. | |||
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"I had one once He drove me to the station one morning and saw some friends .... he waited until they had gone as he wasn’t sure how he’d explain me Is been seeing him for over a year , I stopped seeing him after that. " This is slightly my issue... I've been quietly seeing someone for 3 years and now out of the blue he wants 'more'. I adore him and am willing to give it a try, but none of my family or friends even know he exists... Do I pretend we've just met or say it's been a while? | |||
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"I had one once He drove me to the station one morning and saw some friends .... he waited until they had gone as he wasn’t sure how he’d explain me Is been seeing him for over a year , I stopped seeing him after that. This is slightly my issue... I've been quietly seeing someone for 3 years and now out of the blue he wants 'more'. I adore him and am willing to give it a try, but none of my family or friends even know he exists... Do I pretend we've just met or say it's been a while?" I'd be honest, if they ask tell them a while, but you were airing on the side of caution until you were both sure you were ready to give it a proper go of things P | |||
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"This is slightly my issue... I've been quietly seeing someone for 3 years and now out of the blue he wants 'more'. I adore him and am willing to give it a try, but none of my family or friends even know he exists... Do I pretend we've just met or say it's been a while?" Say it's been a while but things were casual/you didn't realise how you both felt about each other. Lies are difficult to remember and you want to start-ish the relationship on good grounds. Lovely to read Op! x | |||
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"Fabttached? Swingaged? Fabily married?
Are you someone who is single in your public life, but over time have realised you're actually in a committed clandestine relationship with another Fabber?
If you decided to go public with your relationship, how did you transition from being secret lovers to being an actual couple? Did you introduce him/her to friends and family as a new boyfriend/girlfriend, or did you come clean and say you'd been secretly involved for years? What did you tell them about how you met?
is this your situation and that's why you're hiding?"It is my situation, but not why my profile is hidden. Those who know me here know I've had a long-term fwb and some may even remember him from his own forum days. My profile is hidden purely to avoid getting meet requests... Friends can still find me and mail me | |||
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"I had one once He drove me to the station one morning and saw some friends .... he waited until they had gone as he wasn’t sure how he’d explain me Is been seeing him for over a year , I stopped seeing him after that. This is slightly my issue... I've been quietly seeing someone for 3 years and now out of the blue he wants 'more'. I adore him and am willing to give it a try, but none of my family or friends even know he exists... Do I pretend we've just met or say it's been a while?" You let things happen naturally If you’re asked , say you met online but have been friends | |||
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"I had one once He drove me to the station one morning and saw some friends .... he waited until they had gone as he wasn’t sure how he’d explain me Is been seeing him for over a year , I stopped seeing him after that. This is slightly my issue... I've been quietly seeing someone for 3 years and now out of the blue he wants 'more'. I adore him and am willing to give it a try, but none of my family or friends even know he exists... Do I pretend we've just met or say it's been a while?" If they ask, just say you've been good friends and have decided to take things a bit further? When people are sensible they don't unnecessarily pry for loads more information that what you've given....at least I don't  | |||
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"My friends have all met B, my son has spoken to him via vid call. To be fair nobody asked where we met, I think they were all just so shocked I let someone get close to me! P When introducing him to friends and your son, did they ask how long you'd been seeing each other? Not really, my friends were kinda privy to the info anyway as I'd told them when we first started speaking that I'd been talking to a guy and was excited to meet him in the flesh etc. Most of my friends are from work so they could tell I had "something" on my mind as I was a happy skippy jumpy. Plus at times I need to swap shifts to see him as our time is limited anyway and I'm crap at fibbing, so I ask flat out if they can swap so I can see him. My lad did, he knew something had changed in me, again coz I was extra happy, smiling at my phone ex. He said he wanted to meet him so he could shake the hand of the bloke that's making his mum smile. "Aww!!! | |||
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"Fabily married is brilliant. Secret lovers. My family and close friends had heard about my partner, only because I was spending a lot of time with him (we went to Geneva for a week before we were 'official'!) and he naturally came up in conversation.
I would say we'd met online and no more was asked of it apart from one friend who had a blog about trying various dating sites and wanted to know exactly which one we met on. I think they were mainly surprised I was a) serious about someone and b) he's a man. "My lot are a nosy bunch... My mum will want to know where his great great great grandfather was born ffs
This also concerns me in some ways because we've been in our own happy little bubble for the past 3 years, without any real external influences.... Inflicting my noisy, rowdy, nosy, opinionated mob on him could change everything, and that scares me a little. | |||
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"I had one once He drove me to the station one morning and saw some friends .... he waited until they had gone as he wasn’t sure how he’d explain me Is been seeing him for over a year , I stopped seeing him after that. This is slightly my issue... I've been quietly seeing someone for 3 years and now out of the blue he wants 'more'. I adore him and am willing to give it a try, but none of my family or friends even know he exists... Do I pretend we've just met or say it's been a while?" I'd say we'd been friends for years and just started dating. If they asked where we met I'd say I can't remember, seems like we've always known each other.  | |||
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"My friends have all met B, my son has spoken to him via vid call. To be fair nobody asked where we met, I think they were all just so shocked I let someone get close to me! P When introducing him to friends and your son, did they ask how long you'd been seeing each other? Not really, my friends were kinda privy to the info anyway as I'd told them when we first started speaking that I'd been talking to a guy and was excited to meet him in the flesh etc. Most of my friends are from work so they could tell I had "something" on my mind as I was a happy skippy jumpy. Plus at times I need to swap shifts to see him as our time is limited anyway and I'm crap at fibbing, so I ask flat out if they can swap so I can see him. My lad did, he knew something had changed in me, again coz I was extra happy, smiling at my phone ex. He said he wanted to meet him so he could shake the hand of the bloke that's making his mum smile. "
In an ideal world this is what I hope happens... That folk are just happy that I'm happy. | |||
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"Fabttached? Swingaged? Fabily married?
Are you someone who is single in your public life, but over time have realised you're actually in a committed clandestine relationship with another Fabber?
If you decided to go public with your relationship, how did you transition from being secret lovers to being an actual couple? Did you introduce him/her to friends and family as a new boyfriend/girlfriend, or did you come clean and say you'd been secretly involved for years? What did you tell them about how you met?
is this your situation and that's why you're hiding?
It is my situation, but not why my profile is hidden. Those who know me here know I've had a long-term fwb and some may even remember him from his own forum days. My profile is hidden purely to avoid getting meet requests... Friends can still find me and mail me "What's his forum name? | |||
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"Fabttached? Swingaged? Fabily married?
Are you someone who is single in your public life, but over time have realised you're actually in a committed clandestine relationship with another Fabber?
If you decided to go public with your relationship, how did you transition from being secret lovers to being an actual couple? Did you introduce him/her to friends and family as a new boyfriend/girlfriend, or did you come clean and say you'd been secretly involved for years? What did you tell them about how you met?
is this your situation and that's why you're hiding?
It is my situation, but not why my profile is hidden. Those who know me here know I've had a long-term fwb and some may even remember him from his own forum days. My profile is hidden purely to avoid getting meet requests... Friends can still find me and mail me
What's his forum name?"Oddly... I'm not sure if I can say here or if it will get me a Forum holiday...  It's naming... If not shaming
When we figure things out he might make a return  | |||
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"Fabttached? Swingaged? Fabily married?
Are you someone who is single in your public life, but over time have realised you're actually in a committed clandestine relationship with another Fabber?
If you decided to go public with your relationship, how did you transition from being secret lovers to being an actual couple? Did you introduce him/her to friends and family as a new boyfriend/girlfriend, or did you come clean and say you'd been secretly involved for years? What did you tell them about how you met?
is this your situation and that's why you're hiding?
It is my situation, but not why my profile is hidden. Those who know me here know I've had a long-term fwb and some may even remember him from his own forum days. My profile is hidden purely to avoid getting meet requests... Friends can still find me and mail me
What's his forum name?
Oddly... I'm not sure if I can say here or if it will get me a Forum holiday... It's naming... If not shaming
When we figure things out he might make a return "Fair enough. | |||
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"Aww so lovely to hear, congratulations and I hope everything works out for you both. X " Thanks Angie xx | |||
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"Aww so lovely to hear, congratulations and I hope everything works out for you both. X Thanks Angie xx" I know his name it's luckyboy  | |||
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"This is kind of me. Most of my friends think I'm single but my parents have met Mr M and a couple of closer friends are aware he exists. I was just a bit inventive about where we met. " local club maybe | |||
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"This was us. When we started "properly" seeing each other we just told out families we met online. A few friends know how we really met "But we said we had been speaking online as friends etc for a while and decided to give it a proper go | |||
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"This is kind of me. Most of my friends think I'm single but my parents have met Mr M and a couple of closer friends are aware he exists. I was just a bit inventive about where we met. " I've started casually dropping his name into conversation here and there to lay the groundwork... The how we met bit will need work though... I'm not sure 'Well Mum actually we sort of met 3 years ago through a bi couple we both know who wanted to swing with us, but turns out we were so nuts about each other and so perfectly pervertedly matched that the couple ended up getting left out of the equation... Oh that reminds me, I still owe Pxxx & Cxxxxx a hot bi male playmate.... How does cousin Gxxx feel about swinging? Pass the scones please...' will quite have the desired result | |||
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"Aww so lovely to hear, congratulations and I hope everything works out for you both. X Thanks Angie xx I know his name it's luckyboy "I see what you did there.... thank you | |||
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"I have quite a few friends from Fab, my family know about all of them but they also know I'm an active participant in online forums and Tinder so I just tell them that if they ask. " Does that mean that your family know which of your friends are swingers? | |||
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"Fabttached? Swingaged? Fabily married?
Are you someone who is single in your public life, but over time have realised you're actually in a committed clandestine relationship with another Fabber?
If you decided to go public with your relationship, how did you transition from being secret lovers to being an actual couple? Did you introduce him/her to friends and family as a new boyfriend/girlfriend, or did you come clean and say you'd been secretly involved for years? What did you tell them about how you met? "Why feel the need to say it's on a swing site and drawn unwanted attention and criticism. Many meet on dating sites (some date meet on here, most socials are technically dates). I'm surprised at how many on here think vanilla dates/meets don't involve sex and often can be less vanilla than many offerings on here at times. Why make it complicated, we're all looking for that extra and so don't think it really surprises people that much if we meet someone. | |||
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"This was us. When we started "properly" seeing each other we just told out families we met online. A few friends know how we really met
But we said we had been speaking online as friends etc for a while and decided to give it a proper go "Think that is a far more common meeting of two minds today than down at the local. It's become the norm. | |||
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