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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Probably not the best place to put this so admin can take it down if they wish.

I'm feeling kinda lost on here. I wear my heart of my sleeve and try to be genuinely nice to people on here but just get completely ignored every single time. Call it bad luck or whatever else but after awhile it starts to hurt a bit

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

Hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably not the best place to put this so admin can take it down if they wish.

I'm feeling kinda lost on here. I wear my heart of my sleeve and try to be genuinely nice to people on here but just get completely ignored every single time. Call it bad luck or whatever else but after awhile it starts to hurt a bit"

Don't take it to heart mate, all types of reasons why they don't reply, doesn't mean your bad or anything mate!

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Tough crowd OP....keep at it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just seems like your on the wrong site, I no your looking to hook up or find friends with the same mind set but maby try some dating sites try your luck there or maby hit the local swingers club gry socials find that spark with other people it's tough but will pay of if you put bit more work into it, think smart be yourself

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By *unningFoxWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Try clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably not the best place to put this so admin can take it down if they wish.

I'm feeling kinda lost on here. I wear my heart of my sleeve and try to be genuinely nice to people on here but just get completely ignored every single time. Call it bad luck or whatever else but after awhile it starts to hurt a bit

Don't take it to heart mate, all types of reasons why they don't reply, doesn't mean your bad or anything mate! "

What he said.

What I will add if it's getting a bit much take a little break, it happens to most of us from time to time. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't know why I'm letting it get to me if I'm honest. Just seems that nothing I do seems right. Ah well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know why I'm letting it get to me if I'm honest. Just seems that nothing I do seems right. Ah well"

Because your only human, maybe attending a social or two will help build your confidence back up a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See your attitude isn't there man just saying ah well wont get you far need to push and I dont mean be pushy just relax find ways to talk to woman and couples make them smile be funny and charming it's a fuck site but people have feelings need to dive into them make them feel happy! Maby a break may be in order here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably not the best place to put this so admin can take it down if they wish.

I'm feeling kinda lost on here. I wear my heart of my sleeve and try to be genuinely nice to people on here but just get completely ignored every single time. Call it bad luck or whatever else but after awhile it starts to hurt a bit"
Hey it happens to most just keep plugging away with messages based on target profile with a bit of personality added, good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"See your attitude isn't there man just saying ah well wont get you far need to push and I dont mean be pushy just relax find ways to talk to woman and couples make them smile be funny and charming it's a fuck site but people have feelings need to dive into them make them feel happy! Maby a break may be in order here."

Yeah more than likely. I've always had issues with confidence, sometimes it's there and others it's not. Unfortunately clubs don't work for me as I feel really uncomfortable around large groups of people I don't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get to no 1 or 2 people then if they no people let them introduce you to them you dont have to go all out! At least your attempting new things and can learn from these experiences for the future try everytime meeting someone or new people open up a little find new ways to speak and what makes someone smile or snigger theres alot of men out there so you need to learn and repeat!

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"Probably not the best place to put this so admin can take it down if they wish.

I'm feeling kinda lost on here. I wear my heart of my sleeve and try to be genuinely nice to people on here but just get completely ignored every single time. Call it bad luck or whatever else but after awhile it starts to hurt a bit"

Ignored for sexual interest or on the forum for chats/responses?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably not the best place to put this so admin can take it down if they wish.

I'm feeling kinda lost on here. I wear my heart of my sleeve and try to be genuinely nice to people on here but just get completely ignored every single time. Call it bad luck or whatever else but after awhile it starts to hurt a bit

Ignored for sexual interest or on the forum for chats/responses? "

I'm not sure. I don't use the forums that much so can't really blame that or anything really. I mainly done the post as just a venting thing, didn't actually expect anyone to reply but I am very thankful to you all for the support and suggestions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont take it to heart... ive found it the same under another profile 1000 will lead to maybe 2 replies.

Even though its a swinging site your more likely to get casual sex via tinder ect.

Ive found this site a womans world and many of the women either want group sex, are number hunters, dont meet, are in a relation ship, sex only in club environment.

I joined back here for the forums (previously leaving because i found a fwb arrangement last time on here) id not planned for meet however, and not messaged anyone but ive had more interest in me whilst circling the forums and have had afew meet offers.. only one ive taken up.

Keep your chin up treat it as a social not a dating site. Theres some brilliant people on here

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"Probably not the best place to put this so admin can take it down if they wish.

I'm feeling kinda lost on here. I wear my heart of my sleeve and try to be genuinely nice to people on here but just get completely ignored every single time. Call it bad luck or whatever else but after awhile it starts to hurt a bit

Ignored for sexual interest or on the forum for chats/responses?

I'm not sure. I don't use the forums that much so can't really blame that or anything really. I mainly done the post as just a venting thing, didn't actually expect anyone to reply but I am very thankful to you all for the support and suggestions"

Come and chat more in the forums. About anything and everything. Whilst only a small section of the site use the forum and post, more read it and don’t post and it’s a good way for people to get a feel for you without the intensity of direct messaging (where you’re lost in the numbers too, but also people decide fast). Over time posting in the forum your personality can come across more. Although if you’re consistently (and I’m not saying you as in you specifically) coming across woe is me that is amplified in the forum and quite a turn off - so be mindful of how you post in terms of overall. Everyone has low times and bad times but to always have them feels like too much hard work to deal with. (Again not directed at you specifically)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get ignored all the time. Its life for men.

You just gotta keep trying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab can be a challenging place for guys. I’m pretty good at losing myself on here too, but the forum is a good place to get your bearings. Stick around, read lots, interact and have fun. Gradually this place becomes a lot easier to navigate.

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By *estcumbria1Man
over a year ago

Workington

That's just life. You can't be everyone's cup of tea, but that's no reflection on you. It happens to everyone. I wouldn't take it too personally and remember this isn't the 'real world'.

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By *xperimentalistMan
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"Dont take it to heart... ive found it the same under another profile 1000 will lead to maybe 2 replies.

Even though its a swinging site your more likely to get casual sex via tinder ect.

Ive found this site a womans world and many of the women either want group sex, are number hunters, dont meet, are in a relation ship, sex only in club environment.

I joined back here for the forums (previously leaving because i found a fwb arrangement last time on here) id not planned for meet however, and not messaged anyone but ive had more interest in me whilst circling the forums and have had afew meet offers.. only one ive taken up.

Keep your chin up treat it as a social not a dating site. Theres some brilliant people on here

"

Not wanting to white knight I think your summation of most of the ladies on here is unfair, some maybe, but many, not so far from my experience talking to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't give up, enjoy yourself on the forums.

I'm pretty much in the same boat on here I get ignored by 97% of the women outside of the forums purely because of preferences.

In the forums you'll find that there's alot of friendly people that can help to make fab a little more enjoyable.

I've had more luck on tinder than I have here, I was meant to be having a date next weekend but I've been talking to her this evening and she's really interested to the point she's asking what my ideal night in or out would be ... Told her and she's wanting me to go over tomorrow ... For a night in, a movie, some food and drink. Followed by cuddling up or spooning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, how you doing? Well, apart from frustrated and deflated

A little insight into how I interact, that you may find shows you a different perspective.

I'm a mouthy fucker who'll talk to most people.... on the public forum.

Not many people get interaction from me via our inbox, and this is the main reason - I watch.

I watch what people say, I take mental notes and get a "feel" for a person. Now I couldn't give a flying fuck if Adonis himself messaged, if I thought he came across as a prick, a whinge bag, or if something wasn't quite consistent in his posting style, I'd ignore him.

What I guess im saying is, the forums are a great place to learn about people, interact with people, and socialise to a degree.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont take it to heart... ive found it the same under another profile 1000 will lead to maybe 2 replies.

Even though its a swinging site your more likely to get casual sex via tinder ect.

Ive found this site a womans world and many of the women either want group sex, are number hunters, dont meet, are in a relation ship, sex only in club environment.

I joined back here for the forums (previously leaving because i found a fwb arrangement last time on here) id not planned for meet however, and not messaged anyone but ive had more interest in me whilst circling the forums and have had afew meet offers.. only one ive taken up.

Keep your chin up treat it as a social not a dating site. Theres some brilliant people on here

Not wanting to white knight I think your summation of most of the ladies on here is unfair, some maybe, but many, not so far from my experience talking to them "

I said many... not all by any means & from my experience its what ive found.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Probably not the best place to put this so admin can take it down if they wish.

I'm feeling kinda lost on here. I wear my heart of my sleeve and try to be genuinely nice to people on here but just get completely ignored every single time. Call it bad luck or whatever else but after awhile it starts to hurt a bit"

Just stop going to places (or websites) that are a crock-o-shit time bandits and score some quality time with real humans.

You'll soon feel chipper.

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By *istress CockneyWoman
over a year ago

LONDON


"Probably not the best place to put this so admin can take it down if they wish.

I'm feeling kinda lost on here. I wear my heart of my sleeve and try to be genuinely nice to people on here but just get completely ignored every single time. Call it bad luck or whatever else but after awhile it starts to hurt a bit"

There is a well attended social in Croydon which you can find in London forum.

If you put yourself on the list happy to meet you for a drink first and introduce you if uncomfortable going in alone.

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