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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve been in fab a while now and there doesn’t seem to be any real woman out there, they all claim to be single but when we get talking it’s something, it’s all a bit confusing

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m so single it hurts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's loads of them!

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

I’m single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m so single it hurts!"
same

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By *inxybWoman
over a year ago

Durham

I’m definitely single!

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By *ust ClareTV/TS
over a year ago

Settlewick!

Haven't you realised? ALL the women on here are actually men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im single

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single and loving it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haven't you realised? ALL the women on here are actually men "
theres no cock between my legs.....least not till tonight

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Single Pringle!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone "

Maybe the ones you've spoken to so far are either not single or not interested?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Yes. I'm 100% single.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"Haven't you realised? ALL the women on here are actually men theres no cock between my legs.....least not till tonight "

Wahey! I love this!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Maybe the ones you've spoken to so far are either not single or not interested? "

Yeah I guess, it’s I just wish people was straight up,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been in fab a while now and there doesn’t seem to be any real woman out there, they all claim to be single but when we get talking it’s something, it’s all a bit confusing "

Bit of a daft question if you ask me... you're just picking the wrong ones

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone "

They either lied about being single or you're not what they are looking for. Not every single woman is going to be attracted to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So how can I attract the lady’s then I think my profile is ok, I’m pretty handsome (or at least my mum tells me I am) Hahahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haven't you realised? ALL the women on here are actually men theres no cock between my legs.....least not till tonight

Wahey! I love this! "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve been in fab a while now and there doesn’t seem to be any real woman out there, they all claim to be single but when we get talking it’s something, it’s all a bit confusing

Bit of a daft question if you ask me... you're just picking the wrong ones "

I’m only going off what is in their profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single. Let me check if I'm real. Hang on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone "

Maybe they're just trying to let you down gently. Some might not fancy you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been in fab a while now and there doesn’t seem to be any real woman out there, they all claim to be single but when we get talking it’s something, it’s all a bit confusing "
loads of single women you're just outnumbered by couples, bi women and handsome single guys lol its tough for us single guys keep plugging away

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"I’ve been in fab a while now and there doesn’t seem to be any real woman out there, they all claim to be single but when we get talking it’s something, it’s all a bit confusing "

Excuse me?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm single. Let me check if I'm real. Hang on.."

And very pretty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone "

That sounds like either you're not for them or they are seeing someone but definitely doesn't sound like all the ladies on fab.

Signed

26 years single x

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By *illowzWoman
over a year ago

Exeter

I'm single. Not ready for a relationship again after coming out of a nasty one 5 years ago. Quite happy getting my sexual needs met from Fab

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"So how can I attract the lady’s then I think my profile is ok, I’m pretty handsome (or at least my mum tells me I am) Hahahah"

Change the user name. It is beyond ridiculous.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm real.

Me deleting most of my messages doesn't make me not real.

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By *ereforthafunMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Think there are a lot of single women on here but there’s a lot more single guys. That’s why some guys can struggle for meets sometimes. Ladies have a lot of choice on here so pick something or someone that suits them and their needs best. They are more than entitled to do this too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So how can I attract the lady’s then I think my profile is ok, I’m pretty handsome (or at least my mum tells me I am) Hahahah

Change the user name. It is beyond ridiculous. "

I have tried

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone "

Are you looking for an exclusive relationship? You do realise this is a swingers site. Swingers fuck others.

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By *horehouseprincessWoman
over a year ago

small town near Munich

I'm real. And single. Or maybe I'm not real? Definately single though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You get rejected a few times so all us single ladies must be attached or men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m 100% single and 100% real woman

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Are you looking for an exclusive relationship? You do realise this is a swingers site. Swingers fuck others."

No I’m not looking for an exlusive relationship, I’m just trying to strike up sometime with someone or a couple

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"You get rejected a few times so all us single ladies must be attached or men "

I get a second message back saying I'm fake when I delete sometimes.

Let's see... Bunch of photos and veris (and trust me if I was going to fake it I'd make myself lose a few dress sizes and gain a few inches , plus take better photos), and photo verification. Yup. Definitely fake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately for us blokes, guys outnumber girls massively on here. Single women must get hundreds of messages a day from guys and if they replied to every single guy to say thanks but no thanks they would not have any time to talk to those that they are interested in.

Personally speaking, when I message somebody I delete it from my sent message folder. That way I will never know if it’s read, deleted etc and if I get a response back it’s like a mini win.

Keep plugging away and good luck too you

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Are you looking for an exclusive relationship? You do realise this is a swingers site. Swingers fuck others.

No I’m not looking for an exlusive relationship, I’m just trying to strike up sometime with someone or a couple "

So now its changed to couples. Why does it matter if a lady is not single then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Are you looking for an exclusive relationship? You do realise this is a swingers site. Swingers fuck others.

No I’m not looking for an exlusive relationship, I’m just trying to strike up sometime with someone or a couple "
It's all about your messages, your pics and your profile

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

That sounds like either you're not for them or they are seeing someone but definitely doesn't sound like all the ladies on fab.

Signed

26 years single x"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I would prefer to meet someone who is single, cause it could go somewhere

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Actually OP, I have experienced the same... Many single women I chat to have a fwb or FB, or an open relationship, I suppose they class themselves as single so.. Meh.

But if you have a regular sexual partner are you really single (man or woman)? I think there is still the potential for upset and no matter how "uncommitted" a fab pairing is it can get very complicated. That's why I prefer meeting couples, it's all very open and upfront.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would prefer to meet someone who is single, cause it could go somewhere "

You're on a wrong site then.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"I would prefer to meet someone who is single, cause it could go somewhere "

So you are looking for a relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m single but not meeting anyone new right now as got my hands full.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would prefer to meet someone who is single, cause it could go somewhere

You're on a wrong site then."

Not necessarily...

saff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You get rejected a few times so all us single ladies must be attached or men

I get a second message back saying I'm fake when I delete sometimes.

Let's see... Bunch of photos and veris (and trust me if I was going to fake it I'd make myself lose a few dress sizes and gain a few inches , plus take better photos), and photo verification. Yup. Definitely fake "

Hahaha i think we’re getting messages off of the same men

I regularly got accused of being fake then I would prove I weren’t by cam, phone or displaying my veries then they’d say I must be attached

Now I just block anyone I’m not interested in x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would prefer to meet someone who is single, cause it could go somewhere

You're on a wrong site then."

Why is he? I’m wanting the same but hard to find a filthy adventurous swinger on tinder so easily that wants a non monogamous relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Even just trying to find a girl to meet for NSA seems like hard work, I don’t want a relationship, but if I meet someone on here and it turns that way then I wouldn’t mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at it this way, if you were to go to your local pub every night for say a month, how many women would you expect to meet there and have sex with? And its easier in a pub as you can tell an instant attraction face to face.

What were your expectations joining here, as opposed to meeting someone on a night out?

You are good looking but if you smiled in your pic you would be even better looking x

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"I would prefer to meet someone who is single, cause it could go somewhere

You're on a wrong site then."

I know at least 3 swinger pairings on this site that married after meeting on here.

Its very difficult to meet someone who is interested in swinging as a lifestyle choice on traditional dating websites

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Look at it this way, if you were to go to your local pub every night for say a month, how many women would you expect to meet there and have sex with? And its easier in a pub as you can tell an instant attraction face to face.

What were your expectations joining here, as opposed to meeting someone on a night out?

You are good looking but if you smiled in your pic you would be even better looking x"

Aww thank you very much, and I do understand what you mean, suppose I never looked at it that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would prefer to meet someone who is single, cause it could go somewhere

You're on a wrong site then.

I know at least 3 swinger pairings on this site that married after meeting on here.

Its very difficult to meet someone who is interested in swinging as a lifestyle choice on traditional dating websites "

You see, I say that but the people who I have been more adventurous with sexually have been from dating sites. My experiences on fab have been more vanilla tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This lady is single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been in fab a while now and there doesn’t seem to be any real woman out there, they all claim to be single but when we get talking it’s something, it’s all a bit confusing "

Ok also remember that just because it's a single female account doesn't necessarily mean they are actually single in real life.

I've got a couple's account but only I meet so therefore I've set up a singles profile.

But I quite clearly state I'm married and what I'm looking for.

Someone will cross your path eventually

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I’m single

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"I would prefer to meet someone who is single, cause it could go somewhere

You're on a wrong site then.

I know at least 3 swinger pairings on this site that married after meeting on here.

Its very difficult to meet someone who is interested in swinging as a lifestyle choice on traditional dating websites

You see, I say that but the people who I have been more adventurous with sexually have been from dating sites. My experiences on fab have been more vanilla tbh. "

Going to have to confess the same tbh and I have met more NSA wanted on dating sites than I have fab (I have a very honest dating profile), but you know... Ever hopeful that fab will work one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look at it this way, if you were to go to your local pub every night for say a month, how many women would you expect to meet there and have sex with? And its easier in a pub as you can tell an instant attraction face to face.

What were your expectations joining here, as opposed to meeting someone on a night out?

You are good looking but if you smiled in your pic you would be even better looking x"

Not single, but free to mingle. If I’m fair your user name puts me off straight away as I’d think your dominant and want to be in control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs f here i had a single profile on here and met the mr at a swinging club x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a look at where you are sending messages to as well....I get messages from all ends of the country...absolutely no point at all when there’s hundreds of miles between you..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have a look at where you are sending messages to as well....I get messages from all ends of the country...absolutely no point at all when there’s hundreds of miles between you.."

That too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Look at it this way, if you were to go to your local pub every night for say a month, how many women would you expect to meet there and have sex with? And its easier in a pub as you can tell an instant attraction face to face.

What were your expectations joining here, as opposed to meeting someone on a night out?

You are good looking but if you smiled in your pic you would be even better looking x

I don’t know how to change it I have tried

Not single, but free to mingle. If I’m fair your user name puts me off straight away as I’d think your dominant and want to be in control."

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Deleting a message from you doesn't mean they are not single ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We exist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would prefer to meet someone who is single, cause it could go somewhere

You're on a wrong site then."

How so?

Tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single

I delete messages cos i cant be bothered explaining myself or being abused ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm single

I delete messages cos i cant be bothered explaining myself or being abused ...."

I completely get that but not all men on here are weirdos and Psychos,

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Right now I'm confused. Wants single women, but non- exclusive, but also wants single women, cause it might lead to something more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would prefer to meet someone who is single, cause it could go somewhere

You're on a wrong site then.

Not necessarily...

saff"

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By *carlet_heavenWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the sticks

Real & single

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Right now I'm confused. Wants single women, but non- exclusive, but also wants single women, cause it might lead to something more.

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Yeah lool

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Actually OP, I have experienced the same... Many single women I chat to have a fwb or FB, or an open relationship, I suppose they class themselves as single so.. Meh.

But if you have a regular sexual partner are you really single (man or woman)? I think there is still the potential for upset and no matter how "uncommitted" a fab pairing is it can get very complicated. That's why I prefer meeting couples, it's all very open and upfront. "

I have a FWB. He's not my boyfriend or partner or anything. He's a particularly good friend who I fuck. Doesn't make me in a relationship.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I'm single

I delete messages cos i cant be bothered explaining myself or being abused ....

I completely get that but not all men on here are weirdos and Psychos, "

I have no idea which one is going to be and I'm not taking my chances finding out.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’m a lady

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"I’m a lady "

I'm no lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not single but I am real. Im not cheating either. I have a lovely partner that let's me do my own thing. When/if I'm meeting my profile is updated to show this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So is there anything any of you lovely lady’s could advise a guy on what he can do to to try and meet woman in fab,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So is there anything any of you lovely lady’s could advise a guy on what he can do to to try and meet woman in fab, "

Patience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single

I delete messages cos i cant be bothered explaining myself or being abused ....

I completely get that but not all men on here are weirdos and Psychos, "

the messages I delete are from men who havent read my profile

when I try to explain I receive abuse

I just delete now

my advice read the profile and message the ones you are looking for a man like you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So is there anything any of you lovely lady’s could advise a guy on what he can do to to try and meet woman in fab,

Patience. "

Hahahahaha I will be more patient, thank you all for your advice x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"So is there anything any of you lovely lady’s could advise a guy on what he can do to to try and meet woman in fab, "

Sell yourself: why would women want to meet you? Be respectful, polite and friendly. Send personal interesting messages based on reading profiles. Positive public persona here. Be patient, thick skin, don't take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single

I delete messages cos i cant be bothered explaining myself or being abused ....

I completely get that but not all men on here are weirdos and Psychos,

the messages I delete are from men who havent read my profile

when I try to explain I receive abuse

I just delete now

my advice read the profile and message the ones you are looking for a man like you "

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I'm single

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm single "

I can’t see how you are stunning

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"I’ve been in fab a while now and there doesn’t seem to be any real woman out there, they all claim to be single but when we get talking it’s something, it’s all a bit confusing "
. I think there are real single ladies on Fabs it’s just that to every single lady there is 20 single guys minimum throw in age bracket and location and the ratio gets even harder.I was fortunate to meet one a few months ago and even that was by chance as I was outside her age range but she liked the way I came across on the forums and she messaged me.I think if you attend socials and go to clubs you will stand a better chance than just messaging.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"I'm single

I can’t see how you are stunning "

But she’s no lady

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I'm a 100 % single.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"So how can I attract the lady’s then I think my profile is ok, I’m pretty handsome (or at least my mum tells me I am) Hahahah

Change the user name. It is beyond ridiculous.

I have tried "

Keep trying

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

As you can see, there are clearly no single women whatsoever on fabs, so you might as well give up.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Right now I'm confused. Wants single women, but non- exclusive, but also wants single women, cause it might lead to something more.

Yeah lool

"

I think what he is saying is he is looking for nsa but if something more came of it he is open to it and will see what happens

He is also open to couples as well, nothing wrong in that.

OP if you really want to change your user name and can't, why not delete your profile and start a new one with a more neutral name if you don't have any veris yet it won't matter that you are new.

Also maybe see if you can get along to socials to get to know people.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Right now I'm confused. Wants single women, but non- exclusive, but also wants single women, cause it might lead to something more.

Yeah lool

I think what he is saying is he is looking for nsa but if something more came of it he is open to it and will see what happens

He is also open to couples as well, nothing wrong in that.

OP if you really want to change your user name and can't, why not delete your profile and start a new one with a more neutral name if you don't have any veris yet it won't matter that you are new.

Also maybe see if you can get along to socials to get to know people.

good luck "

That’s exactly what I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you can see, there are clearly no single women whatsoever on fabs, so you might as well give up. "

Your thighs

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"As you can see, there are clearly no single women whatsoever on fabs, so you might as well give up.

Your thighs "

Oh my, good spot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone "

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!"

I just pm you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single

I can’t see how you are stunning

But she’s no lady "

Well you will never know for sure!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!

I just pm you x "

Why on earth did you do that? You didn't read what she said?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!

I just pm you x "

She just said she would delete your message...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!"

Exactly, it’s all to easy to label someone just because of their lack of interest! I now block when I delete messages of people I’m not interested in.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!

I just pm you x "

That answers your question then eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been in fab a while now and there doesn’t seem to be any real woman out there, they all claim to be single but when we get talking it’s something, it’s all a bit confusing "

Im

Fully single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!

I just pm you x "

Ooooops you seem like someone that doesn’t take note of what people say, she said she would delete your message so why then go and pm her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I did that because I actually go to where she’s from every single weekend, and unless to talk it try and tell someone you never know what happens,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did that because I actually go to where she’s from every single weekend, and unless to talk it try and tell someone you never know what happens, "

Ah fair enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rest my case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude, don't try and work fab out. Not possible

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

We can find it difficult trying to meet single bi females, we have now realised that this is how the world of fab is (either that or we are completely unattractive) lol

Either way I’d rather have our messages deleted or someone be honest back rather than the ones who waste your time and chat for nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab lacks single women therefore they have more choice which means they can be more choosy. If a message just gets deleted or worse you get blocked don’t take it personally just move on, it doesn't mean they’re fake or attached! Make sure your profile positively stands out with good pics and send polite well thought messages........... more importantly be patient

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire


"Fab lacks single women therefore they have more choice which means they can be more choosy. If a message just gets deleted or worse you get blocked don’t take it personally just move on, it doesn't mean they’re fake or attached! Make sure your profile positively stands out with good pics and send polite well thought messages........... more importantly be patient "

Good advice!!...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did that because I actually go to where she’s from every single weekend, and unless to talk it try and tell someone you never know what happens, "

I'm not interested. My profile is clear as day to be fair. I'm seeking guys who LIVE nearby and not passing through town. You don't live this way so no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab lacks single women therefore they have more choice which means they can be more choosy. If a message just gets deleted or worse you get blocked don’t take it personally just move on, it doesn't mean they’re fake or attached! Make sure your profile positively stands out with good pics and send polite well thought messages........... more importantly be patient

Good advice!!... "

Thanks I’m not sure he’ll take it tho

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire


"Fab lacks single women therefore they have more choice which means they can be more choosy. If a message just gets deleted or worse you get blocked don’t take it personally just move on, it doesn't mean they’re fake or attached! Make sure your profile positively stands out with good pics and send polite well thought messages........... more importantly be patient

Good advice!!...

Thanks I’m not sure he’ll take it tho

Haha possibly not, you know what men are like at taking advice from us women. Lol

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!

I just pm you x

Ooooops you seem like someone that doesn’t take note of what people say, she said she would delete your message so why then go and pm her "
awwww he's a trier

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!

I just pm you x

Ooooops you seem like someone that doesn’t take note of what people say, she said she would delete your message so why then go and pm her awwww he's a trier "
god loves a trier,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been in fab a while now and there doesn’t seem to be any real woman out there, they all claim to be single but when we get talking it’s something, it’s all a bit confusing "

We socialise with many single women at the clubs we regularly go to.

Maybe they don't want to meet you OP??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single ladies are here

Lots of them ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!

I just pm you x

Ooooops you seem like someone that doesn’t take note of what people say, she said she would delete your message so why then go and pm her awwww he's a trier god loves a trier, "
exactly if you don't ask you don't get

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!

I just pm you x

Ooooops you seem like someone that doesn’t take note of what people say, she said she would delete your message so why then go and pm her awwww he's a trier god loves a trier, exactly if you don't ask you don't get "

Or if you do ask despite clear preferences you get blocked for not respecting wishes, and blow all future chances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!

I just pm you x

Ooooops you seem like someone that doesn’t take note of what people say, she said she would delete your message so why then go and pm her awwww he's a trier god loves a trier, exactly if you don't ask you don't get

Or if you do ask despite clear preferences you get blocked for not respecting wishes, and blow all future chances. "
Well if people are gonna block they're gonna block generally as a result of pics, location or profile write up so his message is generally irrelevant

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I’m single

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!

I just pm you x

Ooooops you seem like someone that doesn’t take note of what people say, she said she would delete your message so why then go and pm her awwww he's a trier god loves a trier, exactly if you don't ask you don't get

Or if you do ask despite clear preferences you get blocked for not respecting wishes, and blow all future chances. Well if people are gonna block they're gonna block generally as a result of pics, location or profile write up so his message is generally irrelevant "

No. If someone says "I know you're not looking for... but" or similar, I block. Instant death.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m 100% single. No hidden or secret partner here!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m 100% single. No hidden or secret partner here! "

Shame your so far away tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!

I just pm you x

Ooooops you seem like someone that doesn’t take note of what people say, she said she would delete your message so why then go and pm her awwww he's a trier god loves a trier, exactly if you don't ask you don't get

Or if you do ask despite clear preferences you get blocked for not respecting wishes, and blow all future chances. Well if people are gonna block they're gonna block generally as a result of pics, location or profile write up so his message is generally irrelevant

No. If someone says "I know you're not looking for... but" or similar, I block. Instant death. "

That’s usually the case for me but the occasional cheeky one got my attention.

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By *ikdeeploveMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Any one in Scotland maybe!?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"So how can I attract the lady’s then I think my profile is ok, I’m pretty handsome (or at least my mum tells me I am) Hahahah

Change the user name. It is beyond ridiculous.

I have tried "

You need to be site supporter to do this.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!

I just pm you x

Ooooops you seem like someone that doesn’t take note of what people say, she said she would delete your message so why then go and pm her awwww he's a trier god loves a trier, exactly if you don't ask you don't get

Or if you do ask despite clear preferences you get blocked for not respecting wishes, and blow all future chances. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how can I attract the lady’s then I think my profile is ok, I’m pretty handsome (or at least my mum tells me I am) Hahahah

Change the user name. It is beyond ridiculous.

I have tried "

Costs £5 ... less than 1 pint in lots of places! Firstly I wouldn't be interested in chatting with you because of your username sorry.

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By *ink Panther 123Man
over a year ago

Colnbrook


"I would prefer to meet someone who is single, cause it could go somewhere "

Your answer right there my friend ! Depends how your approaching ladies as well

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By *thel and HerbertCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Ok - here goes – ten steps to success which I originally wrote from my single profile. This is my perspective as a married woman who meets alone from my single profile.

There are so many men on Fab that you need to be better than about 80% of them. Do all of these steps over six months and you’ll be doing well.

1. Verification - Get verified and display those veris. Cam verified is a start before you’ve met anyone. This will make you seem more trust-worthy and will mean your profile is visible to people who have blocked unverified men. Women are constantly managing the risk of meeting internet strangers so veris help us to assess whether you’re likely to be safe or not.

2. Pictures – it’s NOT about being gym fit. Looks at men who are not gym fit but have lovely pics. Black and white and arty. Avoid cock pics. A smiling face pic is great if you’re able to be that open.

3. Forum - a bit of a presence in the forum will put your profile “out there” (be only ever positive, chatty, literate and kind - see erect-Jim or Adam1971 or walkingtaff for examples). But forum women (the really pretty ones who post a lot) get MASSIVE amounts of mail so don’t be disheartened if they aren’t interested. Lots of other women read the forum without posting. Never EVER moan or be critical. You search for a person’s posts using this link (replacing my username with theirs and using underscores for spaces): https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-poster/mrstrellis

4. Your profile –

a. You need a detailed but not too long profile.

b. Start with something unpushy. “Fancy a cuppa? Pull up a chair!” “Fancy seeing you here!”

c. Spelling and grammar really, really matter (apostrophes in the right places, discreet/discrete, their/there/they’re, you’re/your have different meanings so pick the one you mean.

d. Have something to hang a conversation on. “My favourite place in the world is x” or “I love Game of Thrones and Countdown”. “If I could be anyone it would be Kermit the Frog”. Anything.

e. Weave a fantasy: “I like hard, passionate sex, pulling at each other’s clothes and kissing to the floor. Sex that leaves us both panting, with a wild look in our eyes” or “I love sensual touching, stroking and massage. I love to see goose pimples appear as my fingers flow over you”. They’re really different in tone but it helps the reader understand you.

5. Get out there – go to Fab socials and to clubs. Be chatty, smiley and don’t cling to anyone. Make yourself go six times before you give up. Always smiling, always chatty. Make contacts, get more veris.

6. When you’re messaging –

a. for couples, talk to both in every message.

b. for women, never mention sex before she does. If she mentions sex or meeting then changes the subject, wait until she brings it up again.

c. aim to be a friend. That’s the tone. Sprinkle lightly with flirting.

d. keep messages short and chatty. End on a question every time.

e. consider a gimmick to allow regular contact. One guy brings me “tea” each morning. It’s means we chat every day.

f. don’t pull women up on being slow to respond or for disappearing. It can be a full time job to deal with messages so some get a bit “direct” or overwhelmed. If she’s talking to you at all, she probably likes you, so don’t mess it up by getting grumpy with her.

7. Understand how the “updates” tab works

a. you’re in the local updates for your area. If you travel somewhere else, change your postcode in the “my details” tab on your profile. Then you’ll appear in that area.

b. use your status update every day. Something chatty, funny, always positive. Never ever “why don’t women reply”. The reason for doing it is that it puts you onto people’s local updates, and, if relevant, onto their friend updates and hotlist updates too. “I’m going to the ice cream van. Who fancies a 99?” or whatever.

c. Don’t be afraid to put up a meet if you have your place to yourself. List the meet and mention it in your status. “Free for coffee and cake and a chinwag tomorrow”.

8. Learn from guys who are doing well. Consider “hotlisting” some successful men to watch how they manage their profiles. It’ll drop them into your “updates” section so you can see what they’re doing. Hotlisting is private so they won’t know they’re hotlisted but you’ll see how they do status updates and things.

9. Some people are nuts. Prepare yourself for the odd one to turn bunny-boiler on you. It’s usually rooted in vulnerability but played out as aggression or passive aggression. Try to respond with kindness but don’t let anyone take the piss. Kindly distance yourself.

10. Final bits:

a. “Cannot accommodate” suggests you’re married and playing away without permission. Explain why you can’t accommodate if it’s a different reason.

b. Narrow the age range you’re looking for: 18-99 is too broad.

c. In your profile title, don’t have anything crude or grumpy. “Happy, chatty, smiley, funny cheeky chappy”. Or something. Nothing about sex.

Mr O’s advice:

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok - here goes – ten steps to success which I originally wrote from my single profile. This is my perspective as a married woman who meets alone from my single profile.

There are so many men on Fab that you need to be better than about 80% of them. Do all of these steps over six months and you’ll be doing well.

1. Verification - Get verified and display those veris. Cam verified is a start before you’ve met anyone. This will make you seem more trust-worthy and will mean your profile is visible to people who have blocked unverified men. Women are constantly managing the risk of meeting internet strangers so veris help us to assess whether you’re likely to be safe or not.

2. Pictures – it’s NOT about being gym fit. Looks at men who are not gym fit but have lovely pics. Black and white and arty. Avoid cock pics. A smiling face pic is great if you’re able to be that open.

3. Forum - a bit of a presence in the forum will put your profile “out there” (be only ever positive, chatty, literate and kind - see erect-Jim or Adam1971 or walkingtaff for examples). But forum women (the really pretty ones who post a lot) get MASSIVE amounts of mail so don’t be disheartened if they aren’t interested. Lots of other women read the forum without posting. Never EVER moan or be critical. You search for a person’s posts using this link (replacing my username with theirs and using underscores for spaces): https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-poster/mrstrellis

4. Your profile –

a. You need a detailed but not too long profile.

b. Start with something unpushy. “Fancy a cuppa? Pull up a chair!” “Fancy seeing you here!”

c. Spelling and grammar really, really matter (apostrophes in the right places, discreet/discrete, their/there/they’re, you’re/your have different meanings so pick the one you mean.

d. Have something to hang a conversation on. “My favourite place in the world is x” or “I love Game of Thrones and Countdown”. “If I could be anyone it would be Kermit the Frog”. Anything.

e. Weave a fantasy: “I like hard, passionate sex, pulling at each other’s clothes and kissing to the floor. Sex that leaves us both panting, with a wild look in our eyes” or “I love sensual touching, stroking and massage. I love to see goose pimples appear as my fingers flow over you”. They’re really different in tone but it helps the reader understand you.

5. Get out there – go to Fab socials and to clubs. Be chatty, smiley and don’t cling to anyone. Make yourself go six times before you give up. Always smiling, always chatty. Make contacts, get more veris.

6. When you’re messaging –

a. for couples, talk to both in every message.

b. for women, never mention sex before she does. If she mentions sex or meeting then changes the subject, wait until she brings it up again.

c. aim to be a friend. That’s the tone. Sprinkle lightly with flirting.

d. keep messages short and chatty. End on a question every time.

e. consider a gimmick to allow regular contact. One guy brings me “tea” each morning. It’s means we chat every day.

f. don’t pull women up on being slow to respond or for disappearing. It can be a full time job to deal with messages so some get a bit “direct” or overwhelmed. If she’s talking to you at all, she probably likes you, so don’t mess it up by getting grumpy with her.

7. Understand how the “updates” tab works

a. you’re in the local updates for your area. If you travel somewhere else, change your postcode in the “my details” tab on your profile. Then you’ll appear in that area.

b. use your status update every day. Something chatty, funny, always positive. Never ever “why don’t women reply”. The reason for doing it is that it puts you onto people’s local updates, and, if relevant, onto their friend updates and hotlist updates too. “I’m going to the ice cream van. Who fancies a 99?” or whatever.

c. Don’t be afraid to put up a meet if you have your place to yourself. List the meet and mention it in your status. “Free for coffee and cake and a chinwag tomorrow”.

8. Learn from guys who are doing well. Consider “hotlisting” some successful men to watch how they manage their profiles. It’ll drop them into your “updates” section so you can see what they’re doing. Hotlisting is private so they won’t know they’re hotlisted but you’ll see how they do status updates and things.

9. Some people are nuts. Prepare yourself for the odd one to turn bunny-boiler on you. It’s usually rooted in vulnerability but played out as aggression or passive aggression. Try to respond with kindness but don’t let anyone take the piss. Kindly distance yourself.

10. Final bits:

a. “Cannot accommodate” suggests you’re married and playing away without permission. Explain why you can’t accommodate if it’s a different reason.

b. Narrow the age range you’re looking for: 18-99 is too broad.

c. In your profile title, don’t have anything crude or grumpy. “Happy, chatty, smiley, funny cheeky chappy”. Or something. Nothing about sex.

Mr O’s advice:

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538"

Absolutely perfect!

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I found that being both verbose and heavily sarcastic worked, but each to their own....

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By *igga_manMan
over a year ago

near Reading

More men then ladies, so ladies have the chance to choose. Then there’s the men who time waste so this can make ladies more cautious.

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By *r and Mrs A HornyCouple
over a year ago

coventry


"I’ve been in fab a while now and there doesn’t seem to be any real woman out there, they all claim to be single but when we get talking it’s something, it’s all a bit confusing "

We met a tons xx

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By *ink Panther 123Man
over a year ago

Colnbrook


"Ok - here goes – ten steps to success which I originally wrote from my single profile. This is my perspective as a married woman who meets alone from my single profile.

There are so many men on Fab that you need to be better than about 80% of them. Do all of these steps over six months and you’ll be doing well.

1. Verification - Get verified and display those veris. Cam verified is a start before you’ve met anyone. This will make you seem more trust-worthy and will mean your profile is visible to people who have blocked unverified men. Women are constantly managing the risk of meeting internet strangers so veris help us to assess whether you’re likely to be safe or not.

2. Pictures – it’s NOT about being gym fit. Looks at men who are not gym fit but have lovely pics. Black and white and arty. Avoid cock pics. A smiling face pic is great if you’re able to be that open.

3. Forum - a bit of a presence in the forum will put your profile “out there” (be only ever positive, chatty, literate and kind - see erect-Jim or Adam1971 or walkingtaff for examples). But forum women (the really pretty ones who post a lot) get MASSIVE amounts of mail so don’t be disheartened if they aren’t interested. Lots of other women read the forum without posting. Never EVER moan or be critical. You search for a person’s posts using this link (replacing my username with theirs and using underscores for spaces): https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-poster/mrstrellis

4. Your profile –

a. You need a detailed but not too long profile.

b. Start with something unpushy. “Fancy a cuppa? Pull up a chair!” “Fancy seeing you here!”

c. Spelling and grammar really, really matter (apostrophes in the right places, discreet/discrete, their/there/they’re, you’re/your have different meanings so pick the one you mean.

d. Have something to hang a conversation on. “My favourite place in the world is x” or “I love Game of Thrones and Countdown”. “If I could be anyone it would be Kermit the Frog”. Anything.

e. Weave a fantasy: “I like hard, passionate sex, pulling at each other’s clothes and kissing to the floor. Sex that leaves us both panting, with a wild look in our eyes” or “I love sensual touching, stroking and massage. I love to see goose pimples appear as my fingers flow over you”. They’re really different in tone but it helps the reader understand you.

5. Get out there – go to Fab socials and to clubs. Be chatty, smiley and don’t cling to anyone. Make yourself go six times before you give up. Always smiling, always chatty. Make contacts, get more veris.

6. When you’re messaging –

a. for couples, talk to both in every message.

b. for women, never mention sex before she does. If she mentions sex or meeting then changes the subject, wait until she brings it up again.

c. aim to be a friend. That’s the tone. Sprinkle lightly with flirting.

d. keep messages short and chatty. End on a question every time.

e. consider a gimmick to allow regular contact. One guy brings me “tea” each morning. It’s means we chat every day.

f. don’t pull women up on being slow to respond or for disappearing. It can be a full time job to deal with messages so some get a bit “direct” or overwhelmed. If she’s talking to you at all, she probably likes you, so don’t mess it up by getting grumpy with her.

7. Understand how the “updates” tab works

a. you’re in the local updates for your area. If you travel somewhere else, change your postcode in the “my details” tab on your profile. Then you’ll appear in that area.

b. use your status update every day. Something chatty, funny, always positive. Never ever “why don’t women reply”. The reason for doing it is that it puts you onto people’s local updates, and, if relevant, onto their friend updates and hotlist updates too. “I’m going to the ice cream van. Who fancies a 99?” or whatever.

c. Don’t be afraid to put up a meet if you have your place to yourself. List the meet and mention it in your status. “Free for coffee and cake and a chinwag tomorrow”.

8. Learn from guys who are doing well. Consider “hotlisting” some successful men to watch how they manage their profiles. It’ll drop them into your “updates” section so you can see what they’re doing. Hotlisting is private so they won’t know they’re hotlisted but you’ll see how they do status updates and things.

9. Some people are nuts. Prepare yourself for the odd one to turn bunny-boiler on you. It’s usually rooted in vulnerability but played out as aggression or passive aggression. Try to respond with kindness but don’t let anyone take the piss. Kindly distance yourself.

10. Final bits:

a. “Cannot accommodate” suggests you’re married and playing away without permission. Explain why you can’t accommodate if it’s a different reason.

b. Narrow the age range you’re looking for: 18-99 is too broad.

c. In your profile title, don’t have anything crude or grumpy. “Happy, chatty, smiley, funny cheeky chappy”. Or something. Nothing about sex.

Mr O’s advice:

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538"

Absolutely Fantastic and Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single.

I'm currently having lovely sex with a lovely man away from fab and only planning on meeting one of my fab friends for the time being so I'm not interested in even talking to new people but I'm still single.

And definitely a woman the last time I checked.

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I am

Single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good advice. And as the said men to women ratio is an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course they do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single woman here too, just a little bit fussy I guess!

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By *eece38Man
over a year ago

bangor

Morning to all the lovely single ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!

I just pm you x

That answers your question then eh "

Yep, it should answer his original question. But he clearly hasn’t read any of the advice.

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By *pitfiremk10Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

The journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just pinched myself. I'm real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone

Because you don't fit their profile? I'm single and if you messages me, I would delete your message too. Why? Because I can tell just by your location, you do not fit what I'm looking for. Doesn't make me fake!

I just pm you x

Ooooops you seem like someone that doesn’t take note of what people say, she said she would delete your message so why then go and pm her awwww he's a trier god loves a trier, exactly if you don't ask you don't get

Or if you do ask despite clear preferences you get blocked for not respecting wishes, and blow all future chances. Well if people are gonna block they're gonna block generally as a result of pics, location or profile write up so his message is generally irrelevant

No. If someone says "I know you're not looking for... but" or similar, I block. Instant death. "
lol

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

Loads of truly single women

And several threads about it too

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By *is BitchCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

A lot are on here as "Single" but only meet with their Other half

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot are on here as "Single" but only meet with their Other half "

I find this to be the case with women quite a lot. Chat to a woman, talk about meeting then you get can my man watch/be involved. Erm no!

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By *is BitchCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"A lot are on here as "Single" but only meet with their Other half

I find this to be the case with women quite a lot. Chat to a woman, talk about meeting then you get can my man watch/be involved. Erm no! "

We report profiles like that ..if you seach a single Woman that is what you want , not a couple, i think sometimes its to get attention as Women get more than couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot are on here as "Single" but only meet with their Other half

I find this to be the case with women quite a lot. Chat to a woman, talk about meeting then you get can my man watch/be involved. Erm no!

We report profiles like that ..if you seach a single Woman that is what you want , not a couple, i think sometimes its to get attention as Women get more than couples "

Pickle here. When my last fb got himself a real girlfriend I simply put a status saying I was looking for another. Within an hour I had 196 messages. So couples can get plenty of attention if they want it I’d say.

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By *azpiz1Man
over a year ago

Camberley


"Ok - here goes – ten steps to success which I originally wrote from my single profile. This is my perspective as a married woman who meets alone from my single profile.

There are so many men on Fab that you need to be better than about 80% of them. Do all of these steps over six months and you’ll be doing well.

1. Verification - Get verified and display those veris. Cam verified is a start before you’ve met anyone. This will make you seem more trust-worthy and will mean your profile is visible to people who have blocked unverified men. Women are constantly managing the risk of meeting internet strangers so veris help us to assess whether you’re likely to be safe or not.

2. Pictures – it’s NOT about being gym fit. Looks at men who are not gym fit but have lovely pics. Black and white and arty. Avoid cock pics. A smiling face pic is great if you’re able to be that open.

3. Forum - a bit of a presence in the forum will put your profile “out there” (be only ever positive, chatty, literate and kind - see erect-Jim or Adam1971 or walkingtaff for examples). But forum women (the really pretty ones who post a lot) get MASSIVE amounts of mail so don’t be disheartened if they aren’t interested. Lots of other women read the forum without posting. Never EVER moan or be critical. You search for a person’s posts using this link (replacing my username with theirs and using underscores for spaces): https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-poster/mrstrellis

4. Your profile –

a. You need a detailed but not too long profile.

b. Start with something unpushy. “Fancy a cuppa? Pull up a chair!” “Fancy seeing you here!”

c. Spelling and grammar really, really matter (apostrophes in the right places, discreet/discrete, their/there/they’re, you’re/your have different meanings so pick the one you mean.

d. Have something to hang a conversation on. “My favourite place in the world is x” or “I love Game of Thrones and Countdown”. “If I could be anyone it would be Kermit the Frog”. Anything.

e. Weave a fantasy: “I like hard, passionate sex, pulling at each other’s clothes and kissing to the floor. Sex that leaves us both panting, with a wild look in our eyes” or “I love sensual touching, stroking and massage. I love to see goose pimples appear as my fingers flow over you”. They’re really different in tone but it helps the reader understand you.

5. Get out there – go to Fab socials and to clubs. Be chatty, smiley and don’t cling to anyone. Make yourself go six times before you give up. Always smiling, always chatty. Make contacts, get more veris.

6. When you’re messaging –

a. for couples, talk to both in every message.

b. for women, never mention sex before she does. If she mentions sex or meeting then changes the subject, wait until she brings it up again.

c. aim to be a friend. That’s the tone. Sprinkle lightly with flirting.

d. keep messages short and chatty. End on a question every time.

e. consider a gimmick to allow regular contact. One guy brings me “tea” each morning. It’s means we chat every day.

f. don’t pull women up on being slow to respond or for disappearing. It can be a full time job to deal with messages so some get a bit “direct” or overwhelmed. If she’s talking to you at all, she probably likes you, so don’t mess it up by getting grumpy with her.

7. Understand how the “updates” tab works

a. you’re in the local updates for your area. If you travel somewhere else, change your postcode in the “my details” tab on your profile. Then you’ll appear in that area.

b. use your status update every day. Something chatty, funny, always positive. Never ever “why don’t women reply”. The reason for doing it is that it puts you onto people’s local updates, and, if relevant, onto their friend updates and hotlist updates too. “I’m going to the ice cream van. Who fancies a 99?” or whatever.

c. Don’t be afraid to put up a meet if you have your place to yourself. List the meet and mention it in your status. “Free for coffee and cake and a chinwag tomorrow”.

8. Learn from guys who are doing well. Consider “hotlisting” some successful men to watch how they manage their profiles. It’ll drop them into your “updates” section so you can see what they’re doing. Hotlisting is private so they won’t know they’re hotlisted but you’ll see how they do status updates and things.

9. Some people are nuts. Prepare yourself for the odd one to turn bunny-boiler on you. It’s usually rooted in vulnerability but played out as aggression or passive aggression. Try to respond with kindness but don’t let anyone take the piss. Kindly distance yourself.

10. Final bits:

a. “Cannot accommodate” suggests you’re married and playing away without permission. Explain why you can’t accommodate if it’s a different reason.

b. Narrow the age range you’re looking for: 18-99 is too broad.

c. In your profile title, don’t have anything crude or grumpy. “Happy, chatty, smiley, funny cheeky chappy”. Or something. Nothing about sex.

Mr O’s advice:

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538"

This is fantastic advice. As a more mature single guy, thank you from the bottom of my heart!

Scuttles off to change his profile and pictures...

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"A lot are on here as "Single" but only meet with their Other half

I find this to be the case with women quite a lot. Chat to a woman, talk about meeting then you get can my man watch/be involved. Erm no! "

I've found that too. I look for couples when I want couples. I call them out on it too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot are on here as "Single" but only meet with their Other half

I find this to be the case with women quite a lot. Chat to a woman, talk about meeting then you get can my man watch/be involved. Erm no!

I've found that too. I look for couples when I want couples. I call them out on it too x"

It’s a pain as I’m not interested in meeting couples at all. I always ask at the beginning now but some still say no and then talk of a man joining in creeps into the conversation.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"A lot are on here as "Single" but only meet with their Other half

I find this to be the case with women quite a lot. Chat to a woman, talk about meeting then you get can my man watch/be involved. Erm no!

I've found that too. I look for couples when I want couples. I call them out on it too x

It’s a pain as I’m not interested in meeting couples at all. I always ask at the beginning now but some still say no and then talk of a man joining in creeps into the conversation. "

A female fwb would be ideal but, like you said, it seems most have a male who can join in ending up in the conversation x

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By *alladegaMan
over a year ago

Huntingdon

try growing a few inches....

once you're at 6ft4 or thereabouts you'll have no problem finding single women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"try growing a few inches....

once you're at 6ft4 or thereabouts you'll have no problem finding single women "

How do you know ? You’re only 5ft 9’’

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By *ink Panther 123Man
over a year ago

Colnbrook


"try growing a few inches....

once you're at 6ft4 or thereabouts you'll have no problem finding single women

How do you know ? You’re only 5ft 9’’ "

Cold !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of MANY single (real) women.

Why do men doubt our authenticity? Is it just because you're not getting an instant shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"try growing a few inches....

once you're at 6ft4 or thereabouts you'll have no problem finding single women

How do you know ? You’re only 5ft 9’’

Cold ! "

Not cold! Confused, his profile says 5ft 9”

I don’t judge height, never decided on a meet based on height .......... we’ve met

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London


"So why is it lady’s that when I message girls it’s either a straight delete, or when we get talking they then say they are seeing someone "

Mate get use to it

Your either an Adonis or a minger on here, so if you take it personal, you'll be zero and out, after 6 months.

A lot of you guys take it personal

If your lucky in vanilla world you'll have the same luck here.

But if your a Muppet in real life, what do you expect

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By *ink Panther 123Man
over a year ago

Colnbrook


"try growing a few inches....

once you're at 6ft4 or thereabouts you'll have no problem finding single women

How do you know ? You’re only 5ft 9’’

Cold !

Not cold! Confused, his profile says 5ft 9”

I don’t judge height, never decided on a meet based on height .......... we’ve met "

Interested why you needed to block me ! I Only made an observation

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I'm a very real single women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me too x

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By *alladegaMan
over a year ago

Huntingdon


"try growing a few inches....

once you're at 6ft4 or thereabouts you'll have no problem finding single women

How do you know ? You’re only 5ft 9’’ "

because I'm in the same boat as OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if there are single women that actually want to meet men ,

I think they just want to meet couples and other women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"try growing a few inches....

once you're at 6ft4 or thereabouts you'll have no problem finding single women

How do you know ? You’re only 5ft 9’’

because I'm in the same boat as OP "

How do you know 6ft 4” ?

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"try growing a few inches....

once you're at 6ft4 or thereabouts you'll have no problem finding single women

How do you know ? You’re only 5ft 9’’

Cold !

Not cold! Confused, his profile says 5ft 9”

I don’t judge height, never decided on a meet based on height .......... we’ve met

Interested why you needed to block me ! I Only made an observation "

I wasn’t aware you were blocked!?

Anyway why am I cold???

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne


"Single Pringle!! "

Pringles are very tasty! And there are usually a lot of them! I suspect there’s only one of you but I admit you look very tasty! I can never have enough pringles myself so I expect I couldn’t get enough of you either! If you want to give me a taste I’d be a very happy to oblige! Although you’ll be happy to know I’m not expecting to find you crunchy - more like an ice cream than a crisp in fact - very cool, melting too fast, endlessly lickable and deeply delicious!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"One of MANY single (real) women.

Why do men doubt our authenticity? Is it just because you're not getting an instant shag? "

I think you hit it on the head

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By *alladegaMan
over a year ago

Huntingdon


"try growing a few inches....

once you're at 6ft4 or thereabouts you'll have no problem finding single women

How do you know ? You’re only 5ft 9’’

because I'm in the same boat as OP

How do you know 6ft 4” ? "

because i'm in no way jealous of my tall friends LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure if there are single women that actually want to meet men ,

I think they just want to meet couples and other women "

It's true. None of the women want to meet men.

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