FabSwingers.com forum: Who do you turn to when?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When things go horribly wrong.

Different people at different times in life? Parents? partner?friends? children? Different people can help at different times and stages of life?

What's been your problem and who was your go to person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what it is. Most things it’s nearly always my mum or my sisters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the problem - some friends are better than others at offering certain kinds of support

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Depends on what the issue is. If it's not an issue with my partner then her. If it is a problem with her then I have a network of people I can run things past, including both parents.

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By *eclanHMan
over a year ago

Liphook

My wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My closest friend as I’ve no family whatsoever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When things go horribly wrong.

Different people at different times in life? Parents? partner?friends? children? Different people can help at different times and stages of life?

What's been your problem and who was your go to person?"
only have me, so have to deal with it

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

A professional, if;

- medical - a doctor

- financial - bank

- motoring - my garage

etc, etc.

Not friends and certainly not family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Parents

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By *thena123Woman
over a year ago

Swansea

This is gonna sound silly but I don't turn to anyone, if I have a problem then it's my problem no one else's, if it bothers me that much i write it down, leave it for a while and then go back to finding a solution for it...ive learnt to never depend on others as when the going gets tough they always get going, and I'm left on my own so it is what it is....xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My closest friend as I’ve no family whatsoever "

From experience I'd say females have much better support networks than males amongst their contemporaries? And as we get older obviously we're more likely not to have our parents about?

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

The man in the mirror

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My closest friend as I’ve no family whatsoever

From experience I'd say females have much better support networks than males amongst their contemporaries? And as we get older obviously we're more likely not to have our parents about?"

I’ve not had parents for over twenty years

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The reason for the post b.t.w? Not long ago I was stricken by an illness which I was admitted to hospital for an extended period and then was stranded as I was deemed by them unable to cope living by myself. I was eventually rescued but that's another story completely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my grown up kids, aside of that nobody really. Except my FWB Charlie and a male friend I talk to. I have female friends but I don't tell them my woes xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send a message to myself through fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t tend to turn to other people with my problems. Maybe that is my problem

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I tend to keep things to myself.

Telling parents will just worry them.

As for mates, I don’t share unless I think they can actually help

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Plus I tend to write letters “that never get delivered” helps get it all out of my head and relieves some of the pressure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A handful of close friends that no my situation and if they are not available no one it's a case of bite my lip and get on with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When things go horribly wrong.

Different people at different times in life? Parents? partner?friends? children? Different people can help at different times and stages of life?

What's been your problem and who was your go to person?"
ghostbusters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I send a message to myself through fab. "

I do that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no one "

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My crystal ball of course

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By *ux19Man
over a year ago

Essex

Wife,

Lawyer,

Eldest brother,

Business partner,

In no particular order, as others have said, depends on circumstances and situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend or my partner.

Depending on which one I need to bitch about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Teasing of course!

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum and/or my best friend.

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By *ickyRoosterMan
over a year ago

Uppendown

Nobody. There are people I could turn to but I take the view that they all have their own lives and their own problems that come with those lives so wouldn't want to encumber them with mine as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't bother others with my problems. I deal with my shit alone. Most of my family are not here anymore and friends have own families.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My inner self, nobody could possibly understand so I turn to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had anythin* go that badly wrong yet , but I have 4 friends 1 sister and 1 dog , between them they’d all give me support

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mark, he's my Rock

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

Always my best friend , we’ve been best mates since we were 10 , been through so much together n I’m the proud god parent of both her kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend Max

Friends since we were 12

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My problems are just mine to solve.

Why would I ever inflict them on another...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Teasing of course!

Holly"

I know better!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no one, and feel uncomfortable when people try.

I only have one person I trust, apart from my sons and he is not around now. I wouldn't bother him with my problems even if he was.

My problems are for me to deal with.

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By *ixieandfairyCouple
over a year ago

St Helier

Same here, I don’t feel the need to go to others, maybe I’ve been lucky so far. If I have a problem, I formulate a plan and take action, simple. I do have family and friends if I need them, so that’s nice! Everyone seems to come to me with their problems, perhaps I’m a good listener.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same here, I don’t feel the need to go to others, maybe I’ve been lucky so far. If I have a problem, I formulate a plan and take action, simple. I do have family and friends if I need them, so that’s nice! Everyone seems to come to me with their problems, perhaps I’m a good listener. "

This is me too! A magnet for people with problems, and I always listen, give advice and help. I would move the earth to make someone else smile, I hate to see others upset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont unfortunately, i mask problems with a smile..

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I dont unfortunately, i mask problems with a smile.. "

Precisely this as it’s easier

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By *ixieandfairyCouple
over a year ago

St Helier

This is me too! A magnet for people with problems, and I always listen, give advice and help. I would move the earth to make someone else smile, I hate to see others upset "

Likewise x

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I have one friend who I always turn too no matter what. She's the only true friend who has been there no matter what and she knows I'm there for her too!

Also Im lucky I have an amazing mum too. But there's some things I wouldn't share with her or she'd worry

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By *ickyRoosterMan
over a year ago

Uppendown

"I dont unfortunately, i mask problems with a smile.. "

Yes. This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plus I tend to write letters “that never get delivered” helps get it all out of my head and relieves some of the pressure "

This is what i do.. and have always done...

I was told by a councellor that its the best way to get it out there

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By *ickyRoosterMan
over a year ago

Uppendown

"I have one friend who I always turn too no matter what. She's the only true friend who has been there no matter what and she knows I'm there for her too!

Also Im lucky I have an amazing mum too. But there's some things I wouldn't share with her or she'd worry

I never used to tell my Mum anything. And as she could read me like a book I used to avoid visiting her during the bad times as I didn't want to risk upsetting her or giving her cause to worry. And now she's gone. So much wasted time. And so many missed opportunties. I realise now, that Mum's worry anyway. And I denied myself the benefit of her wisdom and the chance to spend more time with her. My Mum had been there. Seen it. Done it. It worse circumstances than I could imagine. War, rationing, unemployment. A strong, resilient, wise, caring woman and I denied myself and her so many opportunities. I won't offer any advice or exhortations because every relationship is different. That's just how it is/was for me. And I regret it.

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By *unningFoxWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I have no one really. I have friends but never really going to them with my problems. It’s very difficult to understand how my anxiety brain works. Lost 2 friends last year as they were being incredibly selfish.. do not need that in my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the situation.

I have a few very good friends I can rely on and my man.

I try to figure shit out for myself though and maybe just talk to them about it rather than actually ask for help tbh.

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