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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So how long after a first meet, where lots of fun was had, would you expect or hope to meet again?

Had a situation recently where I met a guy (not through fab, but still a casual arrangement) and we had a good time and both expressed that we would like to see each other again, but that was over a month ago now and despite being in contact regularly a second meet just hasn’t materialised.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

My first meet is at a testing clinic.

The second is at the registry office.

Then they’re mine. Forever.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"My first meet is at a testing clinic.

The second is at the registry office.

Then they’re mine. Forever. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My first meet is at a testing clinic.

The second is at the registry office.

Then they’re mine. Forever. "

Just have to keep them tied up between meet one and two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My first meet is at a testing clinic.

The second is at the registry office.

Then they’re mine. Forever. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give him a nudge along a bit, suggest something you want to do to him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My first meet is at a testing clinic.

The second is at the registry office.

Then they’re mine. Forever. "

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By *utchersDogMan
over a year ago

Orpington

If it was a good meet and fun was had then a week, maybe two at most if schedules line up.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"So how long after a first meet, where lots of fun was had, would you expect or hope to meet again?

Had a situation recently where I met a guy (not through fab, but still a casual arrangement) and we had a good time and both expressed that we would like to see each other again, but that was over a month ago now and despite being in contact regularly a second meet just hasn’t materialised.

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It depends on my and their life stuff, and the proximity (same town?) etc. I’d want to boff them again with a week, fortnight max. But, I’d be willing to wait for within a month if there was legitimate difficulties. To be honest, it so depends on the context. I’d ideally be chilled and go with the flow but my cunt is one impatient bitch.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Give him a nudge along a bit, suggest something you want to do to him. "

Good advice!!

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

For me , monthly is ideal for a FB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how long after a first meet, where lots of fun was had, would you expect or hope to meet again?

Had a situation recently where I met a guy (not through fab, but still a casual arrangement) and we had a good time and both expressed that we would like to see each other again, but that was over a month ago now and despite being in contact regularly a second meet just hasn’t materialised.

It depends on my and their life stuff, and the proximity (same town?) etc. I’d want to boff them again with a week, fortnight max. But, I’d be willing to wait for within a month if there was legitimate difficulties. To be honest, it so depends on the context. I’d ideally be chilled and go with the flow but my cunt is one impatient bitch. "

Hahaha that's one of the best replies I've seen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you suggested a date?

I had someone like that. He said he wanted to meet again but was always 'busy'. So I just kept asking for another meet. I don't take hints. If he wasn't going to be an adult then neither was I!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So how long after a first meet, where lots of fun was had, would you expect or hope to meet again?

Had a situation recently where I met a guy (not through fab, but still a casual arrangement) and we had a good time and both expressed that we would like to see each other again, but that was over a month ago now and despite being in contact regularly a second meet just hasn’t materialised.

It depends on my and their life stuff, and the proximity (same town?) etc. I’d want to boff them again with a week, fortnight max. But, I’d be willing to wait for within a month if there was legitimate difficulties. To be honest, it so depends on the context. I’d ideally be chilled and go with the flow but my cunt is one impatient bitch. "

Haha great reply!

Same town. He’s a busy guy and I’m currently writing a dissertation so schedules aren’t great, but feel like I’ve been knocked back by him a few too many times now when I’ve suggested something!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Thirty seconds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how long after a first meet, where lots of fun was had, would you expect or hope to meet again?

Had a situation recently where I met a guy (not through fab, but still a casual arrangement) and we had a good time and both expressed that we would like to see each other again, but that was over a month ago now and despite being in contact regularly a second meet just hasn’t materialised.

It depends on my and their life stuff, and the proximity (same town?) etc. I’d want to boff them again with a week, fortnight max. But, I’d be willing to wait for within a month if there was legitimate difficulties. To be honest, it so depends on the context. I’d ideally be chilled and go with the flow but my cunt is one impatient bitch.

Haha great reply!

Same town. He’s a busy guy and I’m currently writing a dissertation so schedules aren’t great, but feel like I’ve been knocked back by him a few too many times now when I’ve suggested something! "

Why not just not contact him, if nothing materialises you have your answer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you suggested a date?

I had someone like that. He said he wanted to meet again but was always 'busy'. So I just kept asking for another meet. I don't take hints. If he wasn't going to be an adult then neither was I! "

Ha I’ve asked a few times and I’m just getting a bit bored with it now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how long after a first meet, where lots of fun was had, would you expect or hope to meet again?

Had a situation recently where I met a guy (not through fab, but still a casual arrangement) and we had a good time and both expressed that we would like to see each other again, but that was over a month ago now and despite being in contact regularly a second meet just hasn’t materialised.

Why dont u ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My first meet is at a testing clinic.

The second is at the registry office.

Then they’re mine. Forever. "

Lol love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you suggested a date?

I had someone like that. He said he wanted to meet again but was always 'busy'. So I just kept asking for another meet. I don't take hints. If he wasn't going to be an adult then neither was I!

Ha I’ve asked a few times and I’m just getting a bit bored with it now! "

If he hasn’t said yes. Move on

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Go with your gut instinct - if it feels like he's not *really* wanting to see you again, he's possibly not. You can generally tell when a man is keen to cock you.

Sometimes people are just polite or whatever and they don't want to.

Life happens though - with me a second meet could be a couple of days (the next day!) to a good few months later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you suggested a date?

I had someone like that. He said he wanted to meet again but was always 'busy'. So I just kept asking for another meet. I don't take hints. If he wasn't going to be an adult then neither was I!

Ha I’ve asked a few times and I’m just getting a bit bored with it now! "

Then I would cut your losses and move on... I would ask once, that's it. If he was into you he would have already sorted it by now, it even better, asked you first! Sorry if I sound blunt but that's how I see it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you suggested a date?

I had someone like that. He said he wanted to meet again but was always 'busy'. So I just kept asking for another meet. I don't take hints. If he wasn't going to be an adult then neither was I!

Ha I’ve asked a few times and I’m just getting a bit bored with it now!

If he hasn’t said yes. Move on "

I'd suggest this too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you suggested a date?

I had someone like that. He said he wanted to meet again but was always 'busy'. So I just kept asking for another meet. I don't take hints. If he wasn't going to be an adult then neither was I!

Ha I’ve asked a few times and I’m just getting a bit bored with it now!

Then I would cut your losses and move on... I would ask once, that's it. If he was into you he would have already sorted it by now, it even better, asked you first! Sorry if I sound blunt but that's how I see it "

Not blunt at all! Completely right.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Have you suggested a date?

I had someone like that. He said he wanted to meet again but was always 'busy'. So I just kept asking for another meet. I don't take hints. If he wasn't going to be an adult then neither was I!

Ha I’ve asked a few times and I’m just getting a bit bored with it now!

Then I would cut your losses and move on... I would ask once, that's it. If he was into you he would have already sorted it by now, it even better, asked you first! Sorry if I sound blunt but that's how I see it "

Agree.

If someone wants to see you they'll make the effort.

This person doesn't sound as into you as you are them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never chase. I presume if they don't contact me to arrange a second meet soon afterwards they're not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you suggested a date?

I had someone like that. He said he wanted to meet again but was always 'busy'. So I just kept asking for another meet. I don't take hints. If he wasn't going to be an adult then neither was I!

Ha I’ve asked a few times and I’m just getting a bit bored with it now! "

If it’s not fun, move on, if he gets in touch and it all lines up, what’s the harm in seeing him again, but if you’ve made the effort and now you’re bored of it, stop doing that and do something else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Text them ‘I miss you!’ immediately after they’ve cum.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you suggested a date?

I had someone like that. He said he wanted to meet again but was always 'busy'. So I just kept asking for another meet. I don't take hints. If he wasn't going to be an adult then neither was I!

Ha I’ve asked a few times and I’m just getting a bit bored with it now!

If it’s not fun, move on, if he gets in touch and it all lines up, what’s the harm in seeing him again, but if you’ve made the effort and now you’re bored of it, stop doing that and do something else."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never chase. I presume if they don't contact me to arrange a second meet soon afterwards they're not interested"
this .

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If we've had a good time, I'd give them two weeks to suggest meeting again. If they don't I'll ask him, if they make excuses like this guy seems to have with you I wouldn't ask again. It would make me feel needy and I can't stand that either way.

Time to say 'next' OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If we've had a good time, I'd give them two weeks to suggest meeting again. If they don't I'll ask him, if they make excuses like this guy seems to have with you I wouldn't ask again. It would make me feel needy and I can't stand that either way.

Time to say 'next' OP."

Definitely! Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Don’t do second meets, that way lies ruin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am yet to meet anyone a second time except after a social once and that was a week. So I couldn’t say but I guess the longer it goes without a second meeting the less likely it is to ever happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how long after a first meet, where lots of fun was had, would you expect or hope to meet again?

Had a situation recently where I met a guy (not through fab, but still a casual arrangement) and we had a good time and both expressed that we would like to see each other again, but that was over a month ago now and despite being in contact regularly a second meet just hasn’t materialised.

It depends on my and their life stuff, and the proximity (same town?) etc. I’d want to boff them again with a week, fortnight max. But, I’d be willing to wait for within a month if there was legitimate difficulties. To be honest, it so depends on the context. I’d ideally be chilled and go with the flow but my cunt is one impatient bitch.

Haha great reply!

Same town. He’s a busy guy and I’m currently writing a dissertation so schedules aren’t great, but feel like I’ve been knocked back by him a few too many times now when I’ve suggested something! "

Have you knocked him back when you've been busy too? He might think you're the one who isn't really keen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So how long after a first meet, where lots of fun was had, would you expect or hope to meet again?

Had a situation recently where I met a guy (not through fab, but still a casual arrangement) and we had a good time and both expressed that we would like to see each other again, but that was over a month ago now and despite being in contact regularly a second meet just hasn’t materialised.

It depends on my and their life stuff, and the proximity (same town?) etc. I’d want to boff them again with a week, fortnight max. But, I’d be willing to wait for within a month if there was legitimate difficulties. To be honest, it so depends on the context. I’d ideally be chilled and go with the flow but my cunt is one impatient bitch.

Haha great reply!

Same town. He’s a busy guy and I’m currently writing a dissertation so schedules aren’t great, but feel like I’ve been knocked back by him a few too many times now when I’ve suggested something!

Have you knocked him back when you've been busy too? He might think you're the one who isn't really keen."

Yes, twice. So it’s not just him, but I feel like I’ve made myself more available than he has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how long after a first meet, where lots of fun was had, would you expect or hope to meet again?

Had a situation recently where I met a guy (not through fab, but still a casual arrangement) and we had a good time and both expressed that we would like to see each other again, but that was over a month ago now and despite being in contact regularly a second meet just hasn’t materialised.

It depends on my and their life stuff, and the proximity (same town?) etc. I’d want to boff them again with a week, fortnight max. But, I’d be willing to wait for within a month if there was legitimate difficulties. To be honest, it so depends on the context. I’d ideally be chilled and go with the flow but my cunt is one impatient bitch.

Haha great reply!

Same town. He’s a busy guy and I’m currently writing a dissertation so schedules aren’t great, but feel like I’ve been knocked back by him a few too many times now when I’ve suggested something!

Have you knocked him back when you've been busy too? He might think you're the one who isn't really keen.

Yes, twice. So it’s not just him, but I feel like I’ve made myself more available than he has."

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll just directly ask the person when it is possible to meet again.

I don't play mind games anymore. I just go straight to the point.

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By *xperimentalistMan
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

When I let them out of my basement

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

If talking regularly, why not when you suggest something you follow up with let me know when you are free

My meets never happen instantly and are normally for 3-4 weeks away minimum, but gives you something to look forward to.

Life outside of here takes priority

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Why not just speak openly to him.

Oi ye of the great cock riding fun I had that time, my foof wants filling but you’ve denied me access to your sexwork twice now and I’m unclear if I need to source me more enthusiastic erections or whether it’s worth opening my legs, maintaining eye contact and beckoning you again. Can you let me know? Do you want to slide up all in me again soon? Within next two weeks or never?

Something casual like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why not just speak openly to him.

Oi ye of the great cock riding fun I had that time, my foof wants filling but you’ve denied me access to your sexwork twice now and I’m unclear if I need to source me more enthusiastic erections or whether it’s worth opening my legs, maintaining eye contact and beckoning you again. Can you let me know? Do you want to slide up all in me again soon? Within next two weeks or never?

Something casual like that. "

Can I copy and paste this? Full credit will be given of course!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Why not just speak openly to him.

Oi ye of the great cock riding fun I had that time, my foof wants filling but you’ve denied me access to your sexwork twice now and I’m unclear if I need to source me more enthusiastic erections or whether it’s worth opening my legs, maintaining eye contact and beckoning you again. Can you let me know? Do you want to slide up all in me again soon? Within next two weeks or never?

Something casual like that. "

These words!

Ditto with using this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Text them ‘I miss you!’ immediately after they’ve cum. "

Tell me "How does your husband know when you climax?" "Oh I phone him and tell him "!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how long after a first meet, where lots of fun was had, would you expect or hope to meet again?

Had a situation recently where I met a guy (not through fab, but still a casual arrangement) and we had a good time and both expressed that we would like to see each other again, but that was over a month ago now and despite being in contact regularly a second meet just hasn’t materialised.

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Is the guy blind? Or just stupid??? I'd be there like a shot knocking your door down! He must be so fond of himself he hasn't got time for anyone else in his life. There's a certain girl who's posted on this thread I'd love to meet again but can't get the time of day from,but then again I always thought she was way out of my league from day one. Just cut him adrift. He doesn't deserve you.

Good luck!!!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"So how long after a first meet, where lots of fun was had, would you expect or hope to meet again?

Had a situation recently where I met a guy (not through fab, but still a casual arrangement) and we had a good time and both expressed that we would like to see each other again, but that was over a month ago now and despite being in contact regularly a second meet just hasn’t materialised.

Is the guy blind? Or just stupid??? I'd be there like a shot knocking your door down! He must be so fond of himself he hasn't got time for anyone else in his life. There's a certain girl who's posted on this thread I'd love to meet again but can't get the time of day from,but then again I always thought she was way out of my league from day one. Just cut him adrift. He doesn't deserve you.

Good luck!!! "

Or maybe he's just actually busy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how long after a first meet, where lots of fun was had, would you expect or hope to meet again?

Had a situation recently where I met a guy (not through fab, but still a casual arrangement) and we had a good time and both expressed that we would like to see each other again, but that was over a month ago now and despite being in contact regularly a second meet just hasn’t materialised.

It depends on my and their life stuff, and the proximity (same town?) etc. I’d want to boff them again with a week, fortnight max. But, I’d be willing to wait for within a month if there was legitimate difficulties. To be honest, it so depends on the context. I’d ideally be chilled and go with the flow but my cunt is one impatient bitch.

Haha great reply!

Same town. He’s a busy guy and I’m currently writing a dissertation so schedules aren’t great, but feel like I’ve been knocked back by him a few too many times now when I’ve suggested something! "

I'd leave it if he's not biting. He'll then start wondering ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why not just speak openly to him.

Oi ye of the great cock riding fun I had that time, my foof wants filling but you’ve denied me access to your sexwork twice now and I’m unclear if I need to source me more enthusiastic erections or whether it’s worth opening my legs, maintaining eye contact and beckoning you again. Can you let me know? Do you want to slide up all in me again soon? Within next two weeks or never?

Something casual like that. "

Love this

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