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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Some people dont deserve to be parents

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

That's awful

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I have absolutely no idea.......

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

4 year olds can be hard work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the child is in the nursery , I’d be letting them know as it’s s cause of concern

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I get losing your patience, but Jesus.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Some people just shouldnt breed... Av xx

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Really? That's disgraceful behaviour!!

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

And then wonder why their children speak to others like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If the child is in the nursery , I’d be letting them know as it’s s cause of concern "

I did among other parents and grand parents too

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Jesus h! Seriously report back to the nursery.....that poor kid!

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Some people just shouldnt breed... Av xx"

Controversial but not without merit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they’re saying that I’m public I dread to think what they do behind closed doors...

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By *wesomepearWoman
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

That’s really sad

I wouldn’t speak to another adult like that let alone a 4 year old.

It probably is worth mentioning to the nursery though. Like someone said it is cause for concern.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In 10yrs they’ll be wondering where it all went wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Jesus h! Seriously report back to the nursery.....that poor kid! "
there was at least 6 other parents have repirted the matter to the teachers on yard duty.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable "

ANIMAL.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"Jesus h! Seriously report back to the nursery.....that poor kid! there was at least 6 other parents have repirted the matter to the teachers on yard duty."

That's good,horrible way to treat a child...

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Future Chav in the making

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I dont know, kids are dicks.

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By *onandCouple
over a year ago

Cheadle

Some people have no decorum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable "
I was in a bar the other day avoiding the rain a mother pushchair filled with child her partner and his mate came in, the two guys were d*unk swearing like troopers, they then proceeded to talk about both the guys having had sex with the woman, the dad then tried to put the buckles of the baby chair on her as asked by the mother the child screamed because he was trying to do this so we were all treated to another bout of swearing lol its unfortunately quite a common occurrence now, what the future holds who knows

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I know it's no excuse, but maybe their parents brought them up like that?

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"Jesus h! Seriously report back to the nursery.....that poor kid! there was at least 6 other parents have repirted the matter to the teachers on yard duty."

If that’s what they do in public, it makes you wonder what goes on behind closed doors

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"I know it's no excuse, but maybe their parents brought them up like that? "

O lord, two wrongs and all that eh...no your right it's not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable "

I was on a flight last year returning home from somewhere nowhere near as wet as here. We'd just boarded when a doctor came on to check on a little girl, around 5 years old. The doc told her parents that she was too ill to fly and they'd have to leave the plane.

They were sitting by us so I could hear everything. The mother turned to the cabin crew and said "Can't we just sign a form and take the risk?".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See shit like this every day at work and it breaks my heart a little

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable

I was on a flight last year returning home from somewhere nowhere near as wet as here. We'd just boarded when a doctor came on to check on a little girl, around 5 years old. The doc told her parents that she was too ill to fly and they'd have to leave the plane.

They were sitting by us so I could hear everything. The mother turned to the cabin crew and said "Can't we just sign a form and take the risk?"."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never speak to my children like this yeah they infuriate me sometimes but I would never talk to them like a piece of crap

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable

I was on a flight last year returning home from somewhere nowhere near as wet as here. We'd just boarded when a doctor came on to check on a little girl, around 5 years old. The doc told her parents that she was too ill to fly and they'd have to leave the plane.

They were sitting by us so I could hear everything. The mother turned to the cabin crew and said "Can't we just sign a form and take the risk?".

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

As they spark up a Lambert & Butler and screech away with no seatbelts on (probably).

It baffles me it really does - I know children are ridiculously difficult at times but there’s just no excuse for that.

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By *axwellCouple
over a year ago

south lakes

If that's happening outside in public what's happening behind closed doors ? Verbal aggression and bullying domestic violence there's lots of things come into it, I'm some homes it's a common occurrence and they think nothing about it ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a sad world we live in where people think that that kind of language is acceptable to use towards anyone, never mind a 4 yr old....

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel bad for laughing but I can't help it

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

My Dad never swore in front of me, (ma Mam passed away when I was 6), but the first time I swore in front of him aged 10, I said Bloody Hell Dad, I got a clip round the back of head

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As they spark up a Lambert & Butler and screech away with no seatbelts on (probably).

It baffles me it really does - I know children are ridiculously difficult at times but there’s just no excuse for that. "

This was reported too as like I mentioned the child was told to get into the car. The mother didn't help her into a child seat just drive away

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

She cant even use the "I'm in a hurry to get back for Jezza Kyle" now either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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She cant even use the "I'm in a hurry to get back for Jezza Kyle" now either. "
I've never watched it or the American version

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton


"I feel bad for laughing but I can't help it "

What makes you laugh...??? It is awful.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


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She cant even use the "I'm in a hurry to get back for Jezza Kyle" now either. I've never watched it or the American version "

Same here, just glad it's been banned.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
over a year ago

Didcot

I was in Maccy D's once and a bloke in the queue called his two pre school age kids knobheads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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She cant even use the "I'm in a hurry to get back for Jezza Kyle" now either. I've never watched it or the American version

Same here, just glad it's been banned. "
took deaths to stop it though, kinda sad really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's probably how they were treated as children, the cycle continues.

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy

I know kids can be hard work but things like that are totally uncalled for, there's no excuse. I'm a parent myself and I wouldn't speak to either of my children like that if they were adults, never mind being children.

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By *axwellCouple
over a year ago

south lakes

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

Stunning, unacceptable and unforgivable. That poor kid stands very little chance of growing into a decent adult if that’s the example they are learning from

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

That's made me sad.Poor kid.

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

It's not acceptable and as a parent I would have a duty of care to report it to the nursery

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's made me sad.Poor kid."

Me too. I was gonna comment earlier but didn’t really know what to say. That’s it. It makes me very sad

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"It's not acceptable and as a parent I would have a duty of care to report it to the nursery

K "

100% This.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the joys of working in asda for years, some of the things I have seen without question I would call abuse, some people shouldnt be allowed to have kids.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


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She cant even use the "I'm in a hurry to get back for Jezza Kyle" now either. I've never watched it or the American version

Same here, just glad it's been banned. took deaths to stop it though, kinda sad really "

How come Love Island is still on then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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She cant even use the "I'm in a hurry to get back for Jezza Kyle" now either. I've never watched it or the American version

Same here, just glad it's been banned. took deaths to stop it though, kinda sad really

How come Love Island is still on then?"
the one with the dwarf oh sorry thought you meant fantasy island

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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She cant even use the "I'm in a hurry to get back for Jezza Kyle" now either. I've never watched it or the American version

Same here, just glad it's been banned. took deaths to stop it though, kinda sad really

How come Love Island is still on then?"
Never watched that either but not sure psychologically how that scenario drives a young person to suicide, I think that's more to do with the person and the pressures that life puts on young people to look good and conform to the styles and looks that make you ' cool ' it's kind of a theme in this lifestyle to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shocking way to speak to a child!

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

That’s awful. Some kids don’t stand a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on the bus last month , young chav girl , with 2 small girls both under 4 she was on her phone arguing with some shag by the sound of it . Saying if he don't bring her he ain't getting a shag but stronger words she was proper shouting it so everyone could hear her . No wonder our society is going downhill fast , those poor kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people don’t see swearing as wrong in any way. And they don’t see it as unacceptable in front of children. It is though.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"I think some people don’t see swearing as wrong in any way. And they don’t see it as unacceptable in front of children. It is though. "

This is more than just swearing around children this is abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some people don’t see swearing as wrong in any way. And they don’t see it as unacceptable in front of children. It is though. "

There's swearing in front of children, and there's swearing at them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some people don’t see swearing as wrong in any way. And they don’t see it as unacceptable in front of children. It is though. "
agreed swearing is common place now and no thought as to who's listening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There used to be a working girl in a house a few doors down from work. OK it is what it is- right up until we saw a kid in the upstairs window as she was tricking.

I have no qualms about reporting things where kids are involved.

Well done to the OP

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By *verage JosephMan
over a year ago

Grays & London


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable "

Just scum of the earth!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Not a nice thing to witness.

you can't judge parenting on an isolated incident however I would be concerned at something like this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just an Update on this. Took grandson to nursery earlier on and the head and deputy head were waiting for the mother to pull into the car park. She was told she isn't allowed on school grounds anymore and must arrange for her child to be dropped off by another member of the family. If she does not comply with their rules the child will then be excluded from the nursery group and letters will be sent out to surrounding nurseries. They are also going to monitor the child further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just an Update on this. Took grandson to nursery earlier on and the head and deputy head were waiting for the mother to pull into the car park. She was told she isn't allowed on school grounds anymore and must arrange for her child to be dropped off by another member of the family. If she does not comply with their rules the child will then be excluded from the nursery group and letters will be sent out to surrounding nurseries. They are also going to monitor the child further "

That’s good and hope they’ve reported to social services, or whatever the correct procedure is these days. Not sure about the child being excluded and letters sent out though. It’s not the child’s fault

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just an Update on this. Took grandson to nursery earlier on and the head and deputy head were waiting for the mother to pull into the car park. She was told she isn't allowed on school grounds anymore and must arrange for her child to be dropped off by another member of the family. If she does not comply with their rules the child will then be excluded from the nursery group and letters will be sent out to surrounding nurseries. They are also going to monitor the child further

That’s good and hope they’ve reported to social services, or whatever the correct procedure is these days. Not sure about the child being excluded and letters sent out though. It’s not the child’s fault "
I'll try and find out more when I pick him up at 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are absolute scum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many schools now provide additional help for children in the form of teaching assistants to deal with children with SEN and many of them if not all are from dysfunctional families whose parents also get guidance, each child that comes under SEN can be allocated £6,000 pa or at least the school can be allocated that and many schools are finding this an absolute bonus, not really much they can do about the ever increasing population of ignorant people and parents though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just an Update on this. Took grandson to nursery earlier on and the head and deputy head were waiting for the mother to pull into the car park. She was told she isn't allowed on school grounds anymore and must arrange for her child to be dropped off by another member of the family. If she does not comply with their rules the child will then be excluded from the nursery group and letters will be sent out to surrounding nurseries. They are also going to monitor the child further

That’s good and hope they’ve reported to social services, or whatever the correct procedure is these days. Not sure about the child being excluded and letters sent out though. It’s not the child’s fault I'll try and find out more when I pick him up at 3"

But what if the mother does not comply as you put it, the poor child then suffers by not being allowed in to nursery ? That might be the only place it can socialise with others, also the first place nursery staff can pick up on neglect

If you ask me the nursery needs reporting too

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By *carlet_heavenWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the sticks

I have no words...it just makes me want to cry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many schools now provide additional help for children in the form of teaching assistants to deal with children with SEN and many of them if not all are from dysfunctional families whose parents also get guidance, each child that comes under SEN can be allocated £6,000 pa or at least the school can be allocated that and many schools are finding this an absolute bonus, not really much they can do about the ever increasing population of ignorant people and parents though. "

That’s a totally different thing! SEN is nothing to do with abusive parents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many schools now provide additional help for children in the form of teaching assistants to deal with children with SEN and many of them if not all are from dysfunctional families whose parents also get guidance, each child that comes under SEN can be allocated £6,000 pa or at least the school can be allocated that and many schools are finding this an absolute bonus, not really much they can do about the ever increasing population of ignorant people and parents though.

That’s a totally different thing! SEN is nothing to do with abusive parents. "

Many of them if not all!! Jesus Christ. Are you for real?

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Years ago i heard a woman shout "move it bitch" in the street to a child of about 4 or 5.

Makes you wonder why people have children !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many schools now provide additional help for children in the form of teaching assistants to deal with children with SEN and many of them if not all are from dysfunctional families whose parents also get guidance, each child that comes under SEN can be allocated £6,000 pa or at least the school can be allocated that and many schools are finding this an absolute bonus, not really much they can do about the ever increasing population of ignorant people and parents though.

That’s a totally different thing! SEN is nothing to do with abusive parents. "
SEN exists because of them, parents going through unpleasant divorces, substance abuse parents, lower income parents, abusive parents, depression, uneducated and ignorant parents it all takes it toll on the innocent children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many schools now provide additional help for children in the form of teaching assistants to deal with children with SEN and many of them if not all are from dysfunctional families whose parents also get guidance, each child that comes under SEN can be allocated £6,000 pa or at least the school can be allocated that and many schools are finding this an absolute bonus, not really much they can do about the ever increasing population of ignorant people and parents though.

That’s a totally different thing! SEN is nothing to do with abusive parents. SEN exists because of them, parents going through unpleasant divorces, substance abuse parents, lower income parents, abusive parents, depression, uneducated and ignorant parents it all takes it toll on the innocent children. "

Good lord. I’m not even going to bother commenting on that. I’m actually speechless right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What scares me most about that is what sort of life does that poor child have at home.....

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Gerry363036 you are talking absolute bollocks and I am furious. My daughter is SEN. She has autism and needs one to one support at college. Her special needs are no way related to her upbringing or us being a dysfunctional family. She has a brother who is a professional footballer and sister doing a PhD in nuclear physics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Can’t even be bothered with that essay either. Ignorance is a very sad thing. Never been so angry with a post on here in my life. I’m out before I get banned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many schools now provide additional help for children in the form of teaching assistants to deal with children with SEN and many of them if not all are from dysfunctional families whose parents also get guidance, each child that comes under SEN can be allocated £6,000 pa or at least the school can be allocated that and many schools are finding this an absolute bonus, not really much they can do about the ever increasing population of ignorant people and parents though.

That’s a totally different thing! SEN is nothing to do with abusive parents. SEN exists because of them, parents going through unpleasant divorces, substance abuse parents, lower income parents, abusive parents, depression, uneducated and ignorant parents it all takes it toll on the innocent children. "

I think you need to do a little reading as to what SEN actually is. It has absolutely nothing to do with the parents.

Google autism, ADHD, cerebral palsy and then come back when you're ready to take your comments back.

Tea

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By *.W CPLCouple
over a year ago

PRESTON

My daughter is under sen due to being starved of oxygen during birth nothing to do with her upbringing or are we a terrible perants for wanting a natural birth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems an unnecessarily harsh way to speak to a child, but from what I've heard in shops etc some people talk to each other in that way all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My daughter is under sen due to being starved of oxygen during birth nothing to do with her upbringing or are we a terrible perants for wanting a natural birth"

People like that aren’t even worth the time trying to explain. I wouldn’t even bother x

Maybe this should go back to the original op

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

It is one thing being "harsh", quite another using foul language.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"Just an Update on this. Took grandson to nursery earlier on and the head and deputy head were waiting for the mother to pull into the car park. She was told she isn't allowed on school grounds anymore and must arrange for her child to be dropped off by another member of the family. If she does not comply with their rules the child will then be excluded from the nursery group and letters will be sent out to surrounding nurseries. They are also going to monitor the child further "

Shame they have not used this to support this kid, excluding is not the answer here.....punishing the kid if mum dsnt comply? Shameful....thanks for update OP...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did he give her the finger back and say lol??

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I feel really sick reading this.. That poor child....

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Surely it is better for the child to spend as much time as possible at nursery rather than with the abusive mother. Don't see how excluding an innocent child will help matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No point reporting to the nursery, what can they do about it.

Should just quietly and calmly say to the parent, "You shouldn't talk to your child like that when I am around, it would a shame to be orphaned at such a young age!"

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I don't have children, and never will. I do know that they can be quite trying, and parenting is more than a full time job that is often done on top of a full time job. I can understand getting frustrated and saying things that you later regret.

But these things can be damaging. I've spent quite enough time with a psychologist picking through the irrational beliefs that I've been carrying since childhood.

Telling a child that they're stupid, and that they are wrong to be excited about their day and want to share it - that's going to have an effect.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

In truth, it is likely the mother does not see she is doing anything wrong. Just her way of speaking to people in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable "

She ought to be horse whipped. That language is not acceptable at any time to a child or anyone for that matter. Wonder what shes like at home with the child. A very scarey thought.

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By *innerforthreeMan
over a year ago

London/herts

I've told the Mrs to mind her language when picking up the kids!

I love Love Island. It's like a documentary on a different species....

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Do not think "horse whipping" will help much. There are folk around who use that sort of language habitually and think it is normal... It is matter of trying to show them there is another way to communicate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No point reporting to the nursery, what can they do about it.

Should just quietly and calmly say to the parent, "You shouldn't talk to your child like that when I am around, it would a shame to be orphaned at such a young age!"

"

The parent will probably take it out on the child when they get home if someone said that to them.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"No point reporting to the nursery, what can they do about it.

Should just quietly and calmly say to the parent, "You shouldn't talk to your child like that when I am around, it would a shame to be orphaned at such a young age!"

"

They have a duty of care that's what......their payed to look after those kids not just chuck them in a room full of toys, nursery is the begining of a child's school life not just a babysitter...

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

Don’t agree with how the nursery has dealt with this, surely excluding a child is wrong??...for all they know the nursery could be the only safe environment that child could have, but to then punish them for the mothers behaviour is wrong on so many levels. If they are doing there job properly they should have some indication of what the child’s home life is like?...if so is this an isolated incident? And if not then the correct authorities should be involved. And a quiet word to the mother for her behaviour untill this is investigated further Shame on the nursery for not putting the child first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just an Update on this. Took grandson to nursery earlier on and the head and deputy head were waiting for the mother to pull into the car park. She was told she isn't allowed on school grounds anymore and must arrange for her child to be dropped off by another member of the family. If she does not comply with their rules the child will then be excluded from the nursery group and letters will be sent out to surrounding nurseries. They are also going to monitor the child further

Shame they have not used this to support this kid, excluding is not the answer here.....punishing the kid if mum dsnt comply? Shameful....thanks for update OP..."

Said exactly the same further up the thread and the nursery saying it will send out letters to other nurseries in the area, wow that's making sure that child is socially excluded from everywhere.

Like I said the nursery should be reported, sounds very unprofessional, is it even licensed ?

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Yes, both the mother and child need help but in totally different ways....

The nursery should understand that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable

ANIMAL. "

Worse than animals. We're supposed to have coherent thought? And these are the people who,as someone else said, will wonder why they have such awful children in years to come? And us as society are expected to pick up the pieces?

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable "

What gives anyone right to judge without knowing all the story of that mother and child.

Would be nice to find out before judging.

Just the fought.

Don't think it's ok to say that to 4yo but would not go as far as call her animal, if something call her human and stop offending animals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously not fab members

Everyone knows fab members are perfect in everything they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable

What gives anyone right to judge without knowing all the story of that mother and child.

Would be nice to find out before judging.

Just the fought.

Don't think it's ok to say that to 4yo but would not go as far as call her animal, if something call her human and stop offending animals "

The story of that mother and child is irrelevant. Nobody should speak to a child like that. End of.

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable

What gives anyone right to judge without knowing all the story of that mother and child.

Would be nice to find out before judging.

Just the fought.

Don't think it's ok to say that to 4yo but would not go as far as call her animal, if something call her human and stop offending animals

The story of that mother and child is irrelevant. Nobody should speak to a child like that. End of. "

Why not, in fact she could be best mother in the world, just because she uses words like that does not mean she's bad mother

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside


"Just an Update on this. Took grandson to nursery earlier on and the head and deputy head were waiting for the mother to pull into the car park. She was told she isn't allowed on school grounds anymore and must arrange for her child to be dropped off by another member of the family. If she does not comply with their rules the child will then be excluded from the nursery group and letters will be sent out to surrounding nurseries. They are also going to monitor the child further "

I can not believe this! - totally the wrong way to handle the situation. Stepping away from this now before I get into trouble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable

What gives anyone right to judge without knowing all the story of that mother and child.

Would be nice to find out before judging.

Just the fought.

Don't think it's ok to say that to 4yo but would not go as far as call her animal, if something call her human and stop offending animals

The story of that mother and child is irrelevant. Nobody should speak to a child like that. End of.

Why not, in fact she could be best mother in the world, just because she uses words like that does not mean she's bad mother "

Then we have different opinions on how to treat a child. Fair enough

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull


"Just an Update on this. Took grandson to nursery earlier on and the head and deputy head were waiting for the mother to pull into the car park. She was told she isn't allowed on school grounds anymore and must arrange for her child to be dropped off by another member of the family. If she does not comply with their rules the child will then be excluded from the nursery group and letters will be sent out to surrounding nurseries. They are also going to monitor the child further

I can not believe this! - totally the wrong way to handle the situation. Stepping away from this now before I get into trouble. "

Shame on the nursery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable

What gives anyone right to judge without knowing all the story of that mother and child.

Would be nice to find out before judging.

Just the fought.

Don't think it's ok to say that to 4yo but would not go as far as call her animal, if something call her human and stop offending animals

The story of that mother and child is irrelevant. Nobody should speak to a child like that. End of.

Why not, in fact she could be best mother in the world, just because she uses words like that does not mean she's bad mother "

no matter how pissed off and wound up I've ever been by my kids I wouldn't, even in anger, say those things to my kids. Speaking to kids like that is bad parenting. No matter the circumstances.

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside


"Just an Update on this. Took grandson to nursery earlier on and the head and deputy head were waiting for the mother to pull into the car park. She was told she isn't allowed on school grounds anymore and must arrange for her child to be dropped off by another member of the family. If she does not comply with their rules the child will then be excluded from the nursery group and letters will be sent out to surrounding nurseries. They are also going to monitor the child further

I can not believe this! - totally the wrong way to handle the situation. Stepping away from this now before I get into trouble.

Shame on the nursery "

Indeed

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable

What gives anyone right to judge without knowing all the story of that mother and child.

Would be nice to find out before judging.

Just the fought.

Don't think it's ok to say that to 4yo but would not go as far as call her animal, if something call her human and stop offending animals

The story of that mother and child is irrelevant. Nobody should speak to a child like that. End of.

Why not, in fact she could be best mother in the world, just because she uses words like that does not mean she's bad mother

Then we have different opinions on how to treat a child. Fair enough "

Story is relevant

What if mother was forcefully taken and family forced her to have that baby and raise it, and only thing she see in kid it's a face of rapist, would you still judge her so lightly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable

What gives anyone right to judge without knowing all the story of that mother and child.

Would be nice to find out before judging.

Just the fought.

Don't think it's ok to say that to 4yo but would not go as far as call her animal, if something call her human and stop offending animals

The story of that mother and child is irrelevant. Nobody should speak to a child like that. End of.

Why not, in fact she could be best mother in the world, just because she uses words like that does not mean she's bad mother

Then we have different opinions on how to treat a child. Fair enough

Story is relevant

What if mother was forcefully taken and family forced her to have that baby and raise it, and only thing she see in kid it's a face of rapist, would you still judge her so lightly "

I’d judge her exactly the same. You do not speak to a child like that.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton


"Why not, in fact she could be best mother in the world, just because she uses words like that does not mean she's bad mother "

Using that language to anyone is totally unacceptable but a mother to her child.....?? On the information provided she does not look too good to me.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

It’s not, they are I’ll educated imbeciles

Sorry but that’s what in breeding and living off the welfare breeds

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By *icetouch83Man
over a year ago

swansea


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable

What gives anyone right to judge without knowing all the story of that mother and child.

Would be nice to find out before judging.

Just the fought.

Don't think it's ok to say that to 4yo but would not go as far as call her animal, if something call her human and stop offending animals

The story of that mother and child is irrelevant. Nobody should speak to a child like that. End of.

Why not, in fact she could be best mother in the world, just because she uses words like that does not mean she's bad mother

Then we have different opinions on how to treat a child. Fair enough

Story is relevant

What if mother was forcefully taken and family forced her to have that baby and raise it, and only thing she see in kid it's a face of rapist, would you still judge her so lightly "

What's it to you it's all ifs and buts you got your opinion others there's maybe you should have less of an opinion of other people views

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable

What gives anyone right to judge without knowing all the story of that mother and child.

Would be nice to find out before judging.

Just the fought.

Don't think it's ok to say that to 4yo but would not go as far as call her animal, if something call her human and stop offending animals

The story of that mother and child is irrelevant. Nobody should speak to a child like that. End of.

Why not, in fact she could be best mother in the world, just because she uses words like that does not mean she's bad mother

Then we have different opinions on how to treat a child. Fair enough

Story is relevant

What if mother was forcefully taken and family forced her to have that baby and raise it, and only thing she see in kid it's a face of rapist, would you still judge her so lightly

I’d judge her exactly the same. You do not speak to a child like that. "

Well we have different opinion, how to judge people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable

What gives anyone right to judge without knowing all the story of that mother and child.

Would be nice to find out before judging.

Just the fought.

Don't think it's ok to say that to 4yo but would not go as far as call her animal, if something call her human and stop offending animals

The story of that mother and child is irrelevant. Nobody should speak to a child like that. End of.

Why not, in fact she could be best mother in the world, just because she uses words like that does not mean she's bad mother

Then we have different opinions on how to treat a child. Fair enough

Story is relevant

What if mother was forcefully taken and family forced her to have that baby and raise it, and only thing she see in kid it's a face of rapist, would you still judge her so lightly

I’d judge her exactly the same. You do not speak to a child like that.

Well we have different opinion, how to judge people "

We most certainly do.

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable

What gives anyone right to judge without knowing all the story of that mother and child.

Would be nice to find out before judging.

Just the fought.

Don't think it's ok to say that to 4yo but would not go as far as call her animal, if something call her human and stop offending animals

The story of that mother and child is irrelevant. Nobody should speak to a child like that. End of.

Why not, in fact she could be best mother in the world, just because she uses words like that does not mean she's bad mother

Then we have different opinions on how to treat a child. Fair enough

Story is relevant

What if mother was forcefully taken and family forced her to have that baby and raise it, and only thing she see in kid it's a face of rapist, would you still judge her so lightly

I’d judge her exactly the same. You do not speak to a child like that.

Well we have different opinion, how to judge people

We most certainly do. "

Can't agree with everyone about everything

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

Sadly I see this type of behaviour and language towards children more and more.

Children are a beautiful gift, as parents our job is to love, to support, to nurture, encourage, educate, facilitate and to guide them.

To see children treated like this makes me sad. Very sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many schools now provide additional help for children in the form of teaching assistants to deal with children with SEN and many of them if not all are from dysfunctional families whose parents also get guidance, each child that comes under SEN can be allocated £6,000 pa or at least the school can be allocated that and many schools are finding this an absolute bonus, not really much they can do about the ever increasing population of ignorant people and parents though.

That’s a totally different thing! SEN is nothing to do with abusive parents. SEN exists because of them, parents going through unpleasant divorces, substance abuse parents, lower income parents, abusive parents, depression, uneducated and ignorant parents it all takes it toll on the innocent children.

I think you need to do a little reading as to what SEN actually is. It has absolutely nothing to do with the parents.

Google autism, ADHD, cerebral palsy and then come back when you're ready to take your comments back.

Tea"
oh it does I'm afraid I have a close friend who deals with it their are many problems associated with it as I've said but ignorance of parents are amongst the main problems and the anguish thrust upon children during messy divorces, my friend councils the parents as well as the children as part of her job, in the Ops example sure it could have been a one off bad day for that parent but how often do you go out on the street and see similar outrageous behaviour from parents to their children I was in Exeter last week the dad looked on while the mother held the child by his head on the ground and swore profusely at the boy saying he was grounded for a year etc you could see he the dad was embarrassed many people watching her lose it, the pub example I gave earlier it's a common occurrence these days, bad language is common, young kids talk to each other using profanity, you must see it to, I rarely swear and I never lose it, my kids are well rounded and well behaved and educated, I never hit my kids and yet my example from my father was a good hiding, he hated swearing mind and it was less common when I was young.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many schools now provide additional help for children in the form of teaching assistants to deal with children with SEN and many of them if not all are from dysfunctional families whose parents also get guidance, each child that comes under SEN can be allocated £6,000 pa or at least the school can be allocated that and many schools are finding this an absolute bonus, not really much they can do about the ever increasing population of ignorant people and parents though.

That’s a totally different thing! SEN is nothing to do with abusive parents. SEN exists because of them, parents going through unpleasant divorces, substance abuse parents, lower income parents, abusive parents, depression, uneducated and ignorant parents it all takes it toll on the innocent children.

I think you need to do a little reading as to what SEN actually is. It has absolutely nothing to do with the parents.

Google autism, ADHD, cerebral palsy and then come back when you're ready to take your comments back.

Teaoh it does I'm afraid I have a close friend who deals with it their are many problems associated with it as I've said but ignorance of parents are amongst the main problems and the anguish thrust upon children during messy divorces, my friend councils the parents as well as the children as part of her job, in the Ops example sure it could have been a one off bad day for that parent but how often do you go out on the street and see similar outrageous behaviour from parents to their children I was in Exeter last week the dad looked on while the mother held the child by his head on the ground and swore profusely at the boy saying he was grounded for a year etc you could see he the dad was embarrassed many people watching her lose it, the pub example I gave earlier it's a common occurrence these days, bad language is common, young kids talk to each other using profanity, you must see it to, I rarely swear and I never lose it, my kids are well rounded and well behaved and educated, I never hit my kids and yet my example from my father was a good hiding, he hated swearing mind and it was less common when I was young. "

Again. Nothing to do with SEN. Your ignorance is embarrassing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many schools now provide additional help for children in the form of teaching assistants to deal with children with SEN and many of them if not all are from dysfunctional families whose parents also get guidance, each child that comes under SEN can be allocated £6,000 pa or at least the school can be allocated that and many schools are finding this an absolute bonus, not really much they can do about the ever increasing population of ignorant people and parents though.

That’s a totally different thing! SEN is nothing to do with abusive parents. SEN exists because of them, parents going through unpleasant divorces, substance abuse parents, lower income parents, abusive parents, depression, uneducated and ignorant parents it all takes it toll on the innocent children.

I think you need to do a little reading as to what SEN actually is. It has absolutely nothing to do with the parents.

Google autism, ADHD, cerebral palsy and then come back when you're ready to take your comments back.

Teaoh it does I'm afraid I have a close friend who deals with it their are many problems associated with it as I've said but ignorance of parents are amongst the main problems and the anguish thrust upon children during messy divorces, my friend councils the parents as well as the children as part of her job, in the Ops example sure it could have been a one off bad day for that parent but how often do you go out on the street and see similar outrageous behaviour from parents to their children I was in Exeter last week the dad looked on while the mother held the child by his head on the ground and swore profusely at the boy saying he was grounded for a year etc you could see he the dad was embarrassed many people watching her lose it, the pub example I gave earlier it's a common occurrence these days, bad language is common, young kids talk to each other using profanity, you must see it to, I rarely swear and I never lose it, my kids are well rounded and well behaved and educated, I never hit my kids and yet my example from my father was a good hiding, he hated swearing mind and it was less common when I was young.

Again. Nothing to do with SEN. Your ignorance is embarrassing. "
lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many schools now provide additional help for children in the form of teaching assistants to deal with children with SEN and many of them if not all are from dysfunctional families whose parents also get guidance, each child that comes under SEN can be allocated £6,000 pa or at least the school can be allocated that and many schools are finding this an absolute bonus, not really much they can do about the ever increasing population of ignorant people and parents though.

That’s a totally different thing! SEN is nothing to do with abusive parents. SEN exists because of them, parents going through unpleasant divorces, substance abuse parents, lower income parents, abusive parents, depression, uneducated and ignorant parents it all takes it toll on the innocent children.

I think you need to do a little reading as to what SEN actually is. It has absolutely nothing to do with the parents.

Google autism, ADHD, cerebral palsy and then come back when you're ready to take your comments back.

Teaoh it does I'm afraid I have a close friend who deals with it their are many problems associated with it as I've said but ignorance of parents are amongst the main problems and the anguish thrust upon children during messy divorces, my friend councils the parents as well as the children as part of her job, in the Ops example sure it could have been a one off bad day for that parent but how often do you go out on the street and see similar outrageous behaviour from parents to their children I was in Exeter last week the dad looked on while the mother held the child by his head on the ground and swore profusely at the boy saying he was grounded for a year etc you could see he the dad was embarrassed many people watching her lose it, the pub example I gave earlier it's a common occurrence these days, bad language is common, young kids talk to each other using profanity, you must see it to, I rarely swear and I never lose it, my kids are well rounded and well behaved and educated, I never hit my kids and yet my example from my father was a good hiding, he hated swearing mind and it was less common when I was young.

Again. Nothing to do with SEN. Your ignorance is embarrassing. "
I bow to your superior knowledge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many schools now provide additional help for children in the form of teaching assistants to deal with children with SEN and many of them if not all are from dysfunctional families whose parents also get guidance, each child that comes under SEN can be allocated £6,000 pa or at least the school can be allocated that and many schools are finding this an absolute bonus, not really much they can do about the ever increasing population of ignorant people and parents though.

That’s a totally different thing! SEN is nothing to do with abusive parents. SEN exists because of them, parents going through unpleasant divorces, substance abuse parents, lower income parents, abusive parents, depression, uneducated and ignorant parents it all takes it toll on the innocent children.

I think you need to do a little reading as to what SEN actually is. It has absolutely nothing to do with the parents.

Google autism, ADHD, cerebral palsy and then come back when you're ready to take your comments back.

Teaoh it does I'm afraid I have a close friend who deals with it their are many problems associated with it as I've said but ignorance of parents are amongst the main problems and the anguish thrust upon children during messy divorces, my friend councils the parents as well as the children as part of her job, in the Ops example sure it could have been a one off bad day for that parent but how often do you go out on the street and see similar outrageous behaviour from parents to their children I was in Exeter last week the dad looked on while the mother held the child by his head on the ground and swore profusely at the boy saying he was grounded for a year etc you could see he the dad was embarrassed many people watching her lose it, the pub example I gave earlier it's a common occurrence these days, bad language is common, young kids talk to each other using profanity, you must see it to, I rarely swear and I never lose it, my kids are well rounded and well behaved and educated, I never hit my kids and yet my example from my father was a good hiding, he hated swearing mind and it was less common when I was young.

Again. Nothing to do with SEN. Your ignorance is embarrassing. I bow to your superior knowledge "

Good because believe me, in this particular subject my knowledge is almost certainly superior to yours judging by your ridiculous comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many schools now provide additional help for children in the form of teaching assistants to deal with children with SEN and many of them if not all are from dysfunctional families whose parents also get guidance, each child that comes under SEN can be allocated £6,000 pa or at least the school can be allocated that and many schools are finding this an absolute bonus, not really much they can do about the ever increasing population of ignorant people and parents though.

That’s a totally different thing! SEN is nothing to do with abusive parents. SEN exists because of them, parents going through unpleasant divorces, substance abuse parents, lower income parents, abusive parents, depression, uneducated and ignorant parents it all takes it toll on the innocent children.

I think you need to do a little reading as to what SEN actually is. It has absolutely nothing to do with the parents.

Google autism, ADHD, cerebral palsy and then come back when you're ready to take your comments back.

Teaoh it does I'm afraid I have a close friend who deals with it their are many problems associated with it as I've said but ignorance of parents are amongst the main problems and the anguish thrust upon children during messy divorces, my friend councils the parents as well as the children as part of her job, in the Ops example sure it could have been a one off bad day for that parent but how often do you go out on the street and see similar outrageous behaviour from parents to their children I was in Exeter last week the dad looked on while the mother held the child by his head on the ground and swore profusely at the boy saying he was grounded for a year etc you could see he the dad was embarrassed many people watching her lose it, the pub example I gave earlier it's a common occurrence these days, bad language is common, young kids talk to each other using profanity, you must see it to, I rarely swear and I never lose it, my kids are well rounded and well behaved and educated, I never hit my kids and yet my example from my father was a good hiding, he hated swearing mind and it was less common when I was young.

Again. Nothing to do with SEN. Your ignorance is embarrassing. I bow to your superior knowledge

Good because believe me, in this particular subject my knowledge is almost certainly superior to yours judging by your ridiculous comments. "

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..


"Many schools now provide additional help for children in the form of teaching assistants to deal with children with SEN and many of them if not all are from dysfunctional families whose parents also get guidance, each child that comes under SEN can be allocated £6,000 pa or at least the school can be allocated that and many schools are finding this an absolute bonus, not really much they can do about the ever increasing population of ignorant people and parents though.

That’s a totally different thing! SEN is nothing to do with abusive parents. SEN exists because of them, parents going through unpleasant divorces, substance abuse parents, lower income parents, abusive parents, depression, uneducated and ignorant parents it all takes it toll on the innocent children.

I think you need to do a little reading as to what SEN actually is. It has absolutely nothing to do with the parents.

Google autism, ADHD, cerebral palsy and then come back when you're ready to take your comments back.

Teaoh it does I'm afraid I have a close friend who deals with it their are many problems associated with it as I've said but ignorance of parents are amongst the main problems and the anguish thrust upon children during messy divorces, my friend councils the parents as well as the children as part of her job, in the Ops example sure it could have been a one off bad day for that parent but how often do you go out on the street and see similar outrageous behaviour from parents to their children I was in Exeter last week the dad looked on while the mother held the child by his head on the ground and swore profusely at the boy saying he was grounded for a year etc you could see he the dad was embarrassed many people watching her lose it, the pub example I gave earlier it's a common occurrence these days, bad language is common, young kids talk to each other using profanity, you must see it to, I rarely swear and I never lose it, my kids are well rounded and well behaved and educated, I never hit my kids and yet my example from my father was a good hiding, he hated swearing mind and it was less common when I was young. "

You don’t appear to understand SEN unfortunately.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable "


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable "

Where I used to live that would have been the 4yo talking to his mum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable "

Being an old fart(very old!) This is symptomatic of the falling standards in every day life in this country. Never mind all the moaners about immigrants and all the other rubbish,I love progress and think we're lucky to live in the country that we do. But where has our pride gone? Standards are slipping everywhere and we're rearranging deck chairs... Get a grip Britain! We can be great again! I've very strong views on why we're getting worse but that's not for here? Let's hope we don't need the luftwaffe before we all wake up and pull our collective fingers out?

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable "

I was working in a house a few years ago one summers day doing some repairs to the kitchen.

The lady of the house had a mouth like a sewer.

Anyways

Kid about 4/5 maybe play Out front of the house with friends,

Dunno what happened but he shouted loudly

"Fuck off you cunt"

At one of the others

From the front room I heard a shout

"YOU WHAT? YOU FUCKING WHAT"

Mrs comes thundering thro run's into front garden and delivers a barrage of abuse at nipper along the lines of

" How many fucking times have I fucking told you about swearing you little cunt"

And sends him off to his room.

I rolled my eyes and had a rye smile at the irony.

Kid doesn't stand a chance and will grow up to be a product of his environment probably!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread makes me sad. Just think of all the services that are going to be expected to pick up the pieces or deal with the consequences of these foul upbringings. Poor buggers.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Ain't that the truth......!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many schools now provide additional help for children in the form of teaching assistants to deal with children with SEN and many of them if not all are from dysfunctional families whose parents also get guidance, each child that comes under SEN can be allocated £6,000 pa or at least the school can be allocated that and many schools are finding this an absolute bonus, not really much they can do about the ever increasing population of ignorant people and parents though.

That’s a totally different thing! SEN is nothing to do with abusive parents. SEN exists because of them, parents going through unpleasant divorces, substance abuse parents, lower income parents, abusive parents, depression, uneducated and ignorant parents it all takes it toll on the innocent children. "

Good heavens ! You need educating !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just an Update on this. Took grandson to nursery earlier on and the head and deputy head were waiting for the mother to pull into the car park. She was told she isn't allowed on school grounds anymore and must arrange for her child to be dropped off by another member of the family. If she does not comply with their rules the child will then be excluded from the nursery group and letters will be sent out to surrounding nurseries. They are also going to monitor the child further

Shame they have not used this to support this kid, excluding is not the answer here.....punishing the kid if mum dsnt comply? Shameful....thanks for update OP..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do not think "horse whipping" will help much. There are folk around who use that sort of language habitually and think it is normal... It is matter of trying to show them there is another way to communicate."

Sounds perfectly good to me. Theres no way you communicate with someone like that. If shes been in that environment thats how she will talk. My fear is for the child. Shes a lost cause

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton


"Sounds perfectly good to me. Theres no way you communicate with someone like that. If shes been in that environment thats how she will talk. My fear is for the child. Shes a lost cause"

Not really, violence begets violence, bad language begets bad language. Could be a lost cause as you say but there are times when education and showing someone there is another path does work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable

What gives anyone right to judge without knowing all the story of that mother and child.

Would be nice to find out before judging.

Just the fought.

Don't think it's ok to say that to 4yo but would not go as far as call her animal, if something call her human and stop offending animals

The story of that mother and child is irrelevant. Nobody should speak to a child like that. End of.

Why not, in fact she could be best mother in the world, just because she uses words like that does not mean she's bad mother "

You’re shitting me with that thought process!

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull


"These are the words I have just heard a mother scream at her 4 year old child, while picking my grandson up from little legs nursery. Why on earth do people do this or think it's acceptable

What gives anyone right to judge without knowing all the story of that mother and child.

Would be nice to find out before judging.

Just the fought.

Don't think it's ok to say that to 4yo but would not go as far as call her animal, if something call her human and stop offending animals

The story of that mother and child is irrelevant. Nobody should speak to a child like that. End of.

Why not, in fact she could be best mother in the world, just because she uses words like that does not mean she's bad mother

You’re shitting me with that thought process!

"

Why, it's just words

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By *innerforthreeMan
over a year ago

London/herts

Wow that took a turn this evening!

Some rather odd understanding of how SEN kids are looked after at school!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds perfectly good to me. Theres no way you communicate with someone like that. If shes been in that environment thats how she will talk. My fear is for the child. Shes a lost cause

Not really, violence begets violence, bad language begets bad language. Could be a lost cause as you say but there are times when education and showing someone there is another path does work"

Well thats my opinion and i stick with it. Sometimes talking isnt enough and i guess if you tried to talk to her you probably get a smack then tell me violence is bad. Of course it is but that child will know no better as he gets older and that is sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get losing your patience, but Jesus. "

Yeah agreed.

People have bad days but if it's that bad and you lash out that much at a child it's concerning.

As someone who isn't a parent I have a lot of sympathy as it seems to be the toughest job in the world but you can't react like that in public without worrying others about the child's safety.

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull

That's all bollocks, my parents spoke to me like that and I ain't whining, turn up OK.

Never spoke to my kids like that having memory of my parents.

And no no social services was ever involved and no strange people as well.

Wrong and good it's just words, if kid is not resilient enough, he will lose it if he is he will thrive on that.

And definetaly judgment from afar does not help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's all bollocks, my parents spoke to me like that and I ain't whining, turn up OK.

Never spoke to my kids like that having memory of my parents.

And no no social services was ever involved and no strange people as well.

Wrong and good it's just words, if kid is not resilient enough, he will lose it if he is he will thrive on that.

And definetaly judgment from afar does not help "

Losing control starts with words.

Coercive control starts with words.

Abuse, domestic / child / other starts with words.

It’s way more than “it’s just words”.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"That's all bollocks, my parents spoke to me like that and I ain't whining, turn up OK.

Never spoke to my kids like that having memory of my parents.

And no no social services was ever involved and no strange people as well.

Wrong and good it's just words, if kid is not resilient enough, he will lose it if he is he will thrive on that.

And definetaly judgment from afar does not help "

Why didn't you speak to your kids like that? If it helps them thrive as you say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just an Update on this. Took grandson to nursery earlier on and the head and deputy head were waiting for the mother to pull into the car park. She was told she isn't allowed on school grounds anymore and must arrange for her child to be dropped off by another member of the family. If she does not comply with their rules the child will then be excluded from the nursery group and letters will be sent out to surrounding nurseries. They are also going to monitor the child further

Shame they have not used this to support this kid, excluding is not the answer here.....punishing the kid if mum dsnt comply? Shameful....thanks for update OP..."

Exactly, and from a safeguarding perspective you wouldn't want to exclude the child because then they are lost from the radar.

Victoria Climbie, Daniel Pelka all ignored and failed by the system.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea


"Just an Update on this. Took grandson to nursery earlier on and the head and deputy head were waiting for the mother to pull into the car park. She was told she isn't allowed on school grounds anymore and must arrange for her child to be dropped off by another member of the family. If she does not comply with their rules the child will then be excluded from the nursery group and letters will be sent out to surrounding nurseries. They are also going to monitor the child further "

That’s quite surprising for parents to find out all this information, they shouldn’t let other people know about private information like that, better practice is to speak to more her privately and defiantly not let all that information be passed onto the other parents even ones to hat witnesses the behaviour of this woman

I’m guessing this is a private nursery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just an Update on this. Took grandson to nursery earlier on and the head and deputy head were waiting for the mother to pull into the car park. She was told she isn't allowed on school grounds anymore and must arrange for her child to be dropped off by another member of the family. If she does not comply with their rules the child will then be excluded from the nursery group and letters will be sent out to surrounding nurseries. They are also going to monitor the child further

Shame they have not used this to support this kid, excluding is not the answer here.....punishing the kid if mum dsnt comply? Shameful....thanks for update OP...

Exactly, and from a safeguarding perspective you wouldn't want to exclude the child because then they are lost from the radar.

Victoria Climbie, Daniel Pelka all ignored and failed by the system.

"

exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just an Update on this. Took grandson to nursery earlier on and the head and deputy head were waiting for the mother to pull into the car park. She was told she isn't allowed on school grounds anymore and must arrange for her child to be dropped off by another member of the family. If she does not comply with their rules the child will then be excluded from the nursery group and letters will be sent out to surrounding nurseries. They are also going to monitor the child further

That’s quite surprising for parents to find out all this information, they shouldn’t let other people know about private information like that, better practice is to speak to more her privately and defiantly not let all that information be passed onto the other parents even ones to hat witnesses the behaviour of this woman

I’m guessing this is a private nursery "

Wouldn't matter if it was private or LEA based, the rules enforced by Ofsted, as written in the National Minimum Standards need to be complied with no matter what

Worrying that they are informing other Nurseries, they are essentially trying to block intervention for the child.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea


"Just an Update on this. Took grandson to nursery earlier on and the head and deputy head were waiting for the mother to pull into the car park. She was told she isn't allowed on school grounds anymore and must arrange for her child to be dropped off by another member of the family. If she does not comply with their rules the child will then be excluded from the nursery group and letters will be sent out to surrounding nurseries. They are also going to monitor the child further

That’s quite surprising for parents to find out all this information, they shouldn’t let other people know about private information like that, better practice is to speak to more her privately and defiantly not let all that information be passed onto the other parents even ones to hat witnesses the behaviour of this woman

I’m guessing this is a private nursery

Wouldn't matter if it was private or LEA based, the rules enforced by Ofsted, as written in the National Minimum Standards need to be complied with no matter what

Worrying that they are informing other Nurseries, they are essentially trying to block intervention for the child."

Sorry if I wasn’t clear I was meaning other parents finding out this about the girl surely that should have been said privately in an office or the child’s home not in a car park

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"No point reporting to the nursery, what can they do about it.

Should just quietly and calmly say to the parent, "You shouldn't talk to your child like that when I am around, it would a shame to be orphaned at such a young age!"

"

Blimey

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I think the Nursery dealt with it totally unprofessional..I though there are procedures to go through rather than discuss the situation with the mother in the playground, then tell other mothers what they have decided to do / allow other mothers to hear the conversation. Then the poor child who could end up excluded for no fault of her own.

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside


"I think the Nursery dealt with it totally unprofessional..I though there are procedures to go through rather than discuss the situation with the mother in the playground, then tell other mothers what they have decided to do / allow other mothers to hear the conversation. Then the poor child who could end up excluded for no fault of her own.

"

There are, and the nursery should be reported for not following them.

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Heard a woman in Tescos tell her small children that she wasn't 'fucking made of money'.

My language has always been pretty fruity but not around my daughter when she was young. Now she's an adult she, like me, swears like a trooper, but like me she knows when it is inappropriate to do so.

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