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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We had an interesting discussion about it of how some just rush into finding a partner just to get married but then later regret it, what would you do? I would rather stay single for years to find the one if I wanted a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We compared it of it was back in the days were you had to find someone before being 21 or so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know it's the right one unless you date and have some form of relationship though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you know it's the right one unless you date and have some form of relationship though? "

My thoughts exactly.

Relationships are just trial and error aren't they?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How do you know it's the right one unless you date and have some form of relationship though?

My thoughts exactly.

Relationships are just trial and error aren't they? "
That is right too as you have to find out that way too.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Love can easily turn into hate after a few years together, so longevity doesn’t mean it’ll work.

At the start of a relationship we show the best sides to ourselves, no farting cooking meals for two with candles, long meaningful conversation etc...then work, families and friends start becoming part of the equation. No time for each other, boring vanilla sex...after match of the day love we can just see the other as part of the furniture.

That doesn’t mean I think rushing into things is better, just get to know that real person, not the image they’re selling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good singleship until you find the love of your life and start a relationship everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good singleship until you find the love of your life and start a relationship everyone "

Until then, fuck fruit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is, you never know if it is the right person. And over t

Even if you initially thought it was the right person, they can turn out to be the wrong one over time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good singleship until you find the love of your life and start a relationship everyone

Until then, fuck fruit. "

Fresh fruits though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m definitely looking for the right long term partner and use Fab in the meantime to find playmates...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im going to be the crazy old cat lady....no bugger wants a relationship with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not overly fussed about getting married. So for me dating is about other things rather 1 track mind of marriage etc.

I am 6 months out of a relationship that almost lasted 6years and I'm not dating anyone or seeing anyone yet and not in a rush to either.

~Mia

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I've been single for a while now. To begin with I did want a relationship and ideally I would love to date. I miss all the nice bits about being together with someone. The mad passionate sex on a regular basis and cuddles and being kissed.. Someone to go out to cinema with or even just a walk. But so far it hasn't happened.

But as time goes on I'm just embracing my single life. I don't need someone in my life to make me happy, and I would rather stay single then settle for average.

My inner self likes to think he's out there somewhere and I'll meet him when the time is right, and if it doesn't happen then that's OK too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im on dating apps and sick of all these dates and it not leading to anything.

It’s difficult to find someone who is just basically nice and normal’ish

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Im on dating apps and sick of all these dates and it not leading to anything.

It’s difficult to find someone who is just basically nice and normal’ish "

^^^^this the dating apps are awful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an awkward one isn't it.

You can think you've found your forever love, I'm sure my parents did but after 30 years they split which I truly believe was the right thing for them to do.

In some cases religion is involved too, divorce could be frowned upon. You could find yourself staying with someone for the sake of not disappointing your parents, whilst the true love of your life is left in limbo, giving away what's left of the best years of their life in wait.

I have a friend who's in exactly that situation, completely in love with someone but too afraid of the fallout to make any changes, doesn't want to upset their parents and immediate family or friends.

I think it's incredibly sad, as they are unable to move on in life and will more than likely find themselves really lonely when the person who's holding out for them realises they're worth more than being in limbo, and deserves to be with someone who will love them completely and commit to them fully. What's even sadder about it is my mate doesn't even believe in religion, it's all to keep everyone else happy! Not fair on anyone involved. 2 people separated but living together to keep up a show for their parents, meaning neither can move on and be happy.

Fact is people change and step families are pretty much the norm.

P

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Im on dating apps and sick of all these dates and it not leading to anything.

It’s difficult to find someone who is just basically nice and normal’ish

^^^^this the dating apps are awful "

Absolutely, send message no reply or dreary conversation about nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good singleship until you find the love of your life and start a relationship everyone

Until then, fuck fruit.

Fresh fruits though "

Stay clear of strawberries though, they just turn to mush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im going to be the crazy old cat lady....no bugger wants a relationship with me "
Awww someone for everyone on this planet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im going to be the crazy old cat lady....no bugger wants a relationship with me Awww someone for everyone on this planet"
well maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im going to be the crazy old cat lady....no bugger wants a relationship with me Awww someone for everyone on this planetwell maybe"
relationships are formed initially with give and take then once established generally the man gives lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im going to be the crazy old cat lady....no bugger wants a relationship with me Awww someone for everyone on this planetwell mayberelationships are formed initially with give and take then once established generally the man gives lol "
i was married 18 yrs believe thats not how it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im going to be the crazy old cat lady....no bugger wants a relationship with me Awww someone for everyone on this planetwell mayberelationships are formed initially with give and take then once established generally the man gives lol i was married 18 yrs believe thats not how it is "
Ahhh I did say it tongue in cheek but that was how it was for me lol

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By *carlet_heavenWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the sticks


"Im on dating apps and sick of all these dates and it not leading to anything.

It’s difficult to find someone who is just basically nice and normal’ish "

So true!! I've often wondered if all the 'normal' people all live in one village or town...everyone I've met in the last few years just aren't even capable of a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people can't differentiate between emotional attachment and being in love, this and the fact we are pretty much taught, from an early age, that we are not proper people unless in a committed relationship, leads to the misery cause by failed ones, with people we weren't compatible nor in love with in the first place, usually.

I will be avoiding any sort of commitment again, anyway, so not a problem for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im going to be the crazy old cat lady....no bugger wants a relationship with me Awww someone for everyone on this planetwell mayberelationships are formed initially with give and take then once established generally the man gives lol i was married 18 yrs believe thats not how it is Ahhh I did say it tongue in cheek but that was how it was for me lol"
oh i know you did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops broke thread sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d rather be single than with anyone that didn’t add something to life. Spent the last 8 years alone and would do it all over again if necessary. I don’t need a partner, but it’s nice to want one again..

saff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d rather be single than with anyone that didn’t add something to life. Spent the last 8 years alone and would do it all over again if necessary. I don’t need a partner, but it’s nice to want one again..

saff "
i dont need one but would be nice to have someone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d rather be single than with anyone that didn’t add something to life. Spent the last 8 years alone and would do it all over again if necessary. I don’t need a partner, but it’s nice to want one again..

saff i dont need one but would be nice to have someone x"

I never expected to find one.. weird how things just happen when you’re not looking x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d rather be single than with anyone that didn’t add something to life. Spent the last 8 years alone and would do it all over again if necessary. I don’t need a partner, but it’s nice to want one again..

saff i dont need one but would be nice to have someone x

I never expected to find one.. weird how things just happen when you’re not looking x "
thats the trouble i dont look something happens then it goes arse over tit and im on my own oops now im going on .....and ive decided not goung to be crazy cat women.....im going to have a house full of vivs

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I've never found the one so I've never got married to just someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never found the one so I've never got married to just someone "
that maybe says more about you as a person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been single for nearly 5yrs for a number of reasons but mostly because I haven’t met someone who is worth giving up my single life for just yet. No settling here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been single for nearly 5yrs for a number of reasons but mostly because I haven’t met someone who is worth giving up my single life for just yet. No settling here!"
you're still young, travel see the world then settle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been single for nearly 5yrs for a number of reasons but mostly because I haven’t met someone who is worth giving up my single life for just yet. No settling here!you're still young, travel see the world then settle "

That’s what I’ve spent most of my 20’s doing, all solo very glad to have been able to be carefree and completely selfish.

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over a year ago

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

The 'right one' never materialises.

Seek happiness.

Just do the things you enjoy whilst creating happiness for others.

So marry and change partners as often as you wish ...... The one you want when you are 17 won't be the one you want at 21 or 51 or 70.

If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with.

Amen sisters.

Up yours brothers.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"The 'right one' never materialises.

Seek happiness.

Just do the things you enjoy whilst creating happiness for others.

So marry and change partners as often as you wish ...... The one you want when you are 17 won't be the one you want at 21 or 51 or 70.

If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with.

Amen sisters.

Up yours brothers. "

Good post Granny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good singleship until you find the love of your life and start a relationship everyone

Until then, fuck fruit.

Fresh fruits though

Stay clear of strawberries though, they just turn to mush "

Especially if you try to put them into eldery's anuses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The 'right one' never materialises.

Seek happiness.

Just do the things you enjoy whilst creating happiness for others.

So marry and change partners as often as you wish ...... The one you want when you are 17 won't be the one you want at 21 or 51 or 70.

If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with.

Amen sisters.

Up yours brothers.

Good post Granny "

This

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By *ereforthafunMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been Married, never had a relationship that's lasted more than 6 months spent my childhood in care homes, been a rolling Stone all my life, no kids (not that I know of anyway), my job has seen to that in my adult life.

Some say I am lucky but I look back and think cursed more like. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The 'right one' never materialises.

Seek happiness.

Just do the things you enjoy whilst creating happiness for others.

So marry and change partners as often as you wish ...... The one you want when you are 17 won't be the one you want at 21 or 51 or 70.

If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with.

Amen sisters.

Up yours brothers. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or stay single forever cold and calculating is the safe option

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's an awkward one isn't it.

You can think you've found your forever love, I'm sure my parents did but after 30 years they split which I truly believe was the right thing for them to do.

In some cases religion is involved too, divorce could be frowned upon. You could find yourself staying with someone for the sake of not disappointing your parents, whilst the true love of your life is left in limbo, giving away what's left of the best years of their life in wait.

I have a friend who's in exactly that situation, completely in love with someone but too afraid of the fallout to make any changes, doesn't want to upset their parents and immediate family or friends.

I think it's incredibly sad, as they are unable to move on in life and will more than likely find themselves really lonely when the person who's holding out for them realises they're worth more than being in limbo, and deserves to be with someone who will love them completely and commit to them fully. What's even sadder about it is my mate doesn't even believe in religion, it's all to keep everyone else happy! Not fair on anyone involved. 2 people separated but living together to keep up a show for their parents, meaning neither can move on and be happy.

Fact is people change and step families are pretty much the norm.

P"
Yes, it is a quite awkward one too

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"I would rather stay single for years to find the one if I wanted a relationship."

You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince/princess.

One reason we treasure our relationship is because we have both been in bad ones and recognise a good one when we see it. We refer to them to avoid the mistakes of the past.

Life experiences, including bad ones, are still valuable. It's more important to be willing and able to escape from bad situations than sequester yourself away and never run the risk of being in a bad one. Risk is part of any relationship. If you avoid risk, you may end up missing the very thing that you hope to find and/or brings you happiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you know it's the right one unless you date and have some form of relationship though?

My thoughts exactly.

Relationships are just trial and error aren't they? That is right too as you have to find out that way too."

Yep! You can learn from them. You have to try if you're looking for the "right one" otherwise becomes more difficult. I have never married, but dating in the past was fun. If things progress with the right person that would be amazing.

In the mean time single life ain't bad you know... it's fabulous. As they say expect the unexpected... you just never know what could happen

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I'm not one of those who need an other half. I would rather be on my own than with the wrong person. I'm not going to settle. I'd rather just do me.

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