FabSwingers.com forum: Giving control?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you ladies find it hard to give control sexually to a guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I have tried playing that way but it doesn't do as much for me. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I forget it’s just so natural taking the lead

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. I have tried playing that way but it doesn't do as much for me. X "

You prefer to be in control?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I would never give control to a casual meet

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Really depends on the circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would never give control to a casual meet"

Yah same for me.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Depends who it’s with.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Letting go of control and surrendering is process based on increasing levels of trust. Only as trust is forged would I be willing to let go of increasing amounts of control, I daresay it would be similar for any partner I have too?

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Yes, absolutely

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Letting go of control and surrendering is process based on increasing levels of trust. Only as trust is forged would I be willing to let go of increasing amounts of control, I daresay it would be similar for any partner I have too?"

This is so true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it very difficult not to be in control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A guy"? Yeah, fuck that.

My guy? No problem at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ladies find it hard to give control sexually to a guy?"

No ..

Because i don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the guy, the situation, my emotions that day, how well I know him and how much trust is there.

So no, I think too much.

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

I'm not a lady but I love giving control to a man xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it took him months..........

He recently I felt was disrespectful he will never see me again and left me feeling used and stupid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never met one lady who takes control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm submissive but it would still take time for me to feel I could give control to someone

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By *ilks xXxWoman
over a year ago

East Mids

This."

Totally agree. I don’t do casual, one off, so doesn’t apply. But, once I feel comfortable with someone I do prefer them to take control.... although I do surprise myself sometimes

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

This is not a yes or no question, it’s a holistic perhaps

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes it took him months..........

He recently I felt was disrespectful he will never see me again and left me feeling used and stupid. "

Sorry to hear that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a submissive is about being in total control.

I say with who, where, when, how. I have my safe word.

Disrespect my boundaries and you wont see my arse for dust.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Being a submissive is about being in total control.

I say with who, where, when, how. I have my safe word.

Disrespect my boundaries and you wont see my arse for dust."

Good attitude to have.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

From a guys point of view-

I find it much easier to give up control to a lady on a first meet and or before I know her well much more than I can take control.

when I know her better it is easier to take control or have her surrender it.

I also find it harder to take control over much younger ladies than I do ones around my age.

so I suppose we are all different, its about trust and the feeling that you can get out of any situation you get into I think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From a guys point of view-

I find it much easier to give up control to a lady on a first meet and or before I know her well much more than I can take control.

when I know her better it is easier to take control or have her surrender it.

I also find it harder to take control over much younger ladies than I do ones around my age.

so I suppose we are all different, its about trust and the feeling that you can get out of any situation you get into I think.

Always good to have a mans point of view

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

thank you sexy people xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"thank you sexy people xxx "

Your welcome

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

""A guy"? Yeah, fuck that.

My guy? No problem at all

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm happy to trust people appropriately . Someone I don't know has no control

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm happy to trust people appropriately . Someone I don't know has no control"

Would you trust a stranger ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm happy to trust people appropriately . Someone I don't know has no control

Would you trust a stranger ?"

To a point. Trust has to be earned before its given, and it can be broken so easily.

It sometimes seems to be the case, not just on fab, that some will say whatever they want to get whatever they want, then get amnesia.

Trust, its earned by actions not by words.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

If they're a good fuck i'd probably not mind. Tend to prefer taking the lead myself though so that i get the sex i want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve never met one lady who takes control "

Same here.. None are dominant.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

With the right guy....no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust. That’s what it boils down to. Hubby can have total and utter control when ever he likes. Anyone else? I doubt it very much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they're a good fuck i'd probably not mind. Tend to prefer taking the lead myself though so that i get the sex i want."

Good point

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I think the lead should be shared...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the lead should be shared..."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think the lead should be shared..."

O find guys mostly like me to be in control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worse if u lose it

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By *etAnotherDomMan
over a year ago

london

"I think the lead should be shared..."

I agree, there was a report on the BBC said it can give you terrible arthritis.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think the lead should be shared...

I agree, there was a report on the BBC said it can give you terrible arthritis.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

I'm submissive so I rarely take control. However, I don't meet single guys on my own so surrendering control for me I find ok.

This is because hubby is always there. We always chat about limits etc first and the safeword is agreed. So I know I'm safe to play as I can stop it. And I know for sure if I safeworded and they continued hubby would go nuts!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm submissive so I rarely take control. However, I don't meet single guys on my own so surrendering control for me I find ok.

Good points there. Your lucky to have someone looking out for you.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"I think the lead should be shared...

O find guys mostly like me to be in control."

I can see why too !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t give control to every man, I have to trust them. Mr has earned my trust and knows how far to go with me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think the lead should be shared...

O find guys mostly like me to be in control.

I can see why too !"

And why is that?

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"I think the lead should be shared...

O find guys mostly like me to be in control.

I can see why too !

And why is that?"

1. I can imagine you standing over me dressed in just that white suit in the picture on your profile.

2 I can imagine you in black lingerie with stockings and heels

3. I have a filthy mind and an over active imagination !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think the lead should be shared...

O find guys mostly like me to be in control.

I can see why too !

And why is that?

1. I can imagine you standing over me dressed in just that white suit in the picture on your profile.

2 I can imagine you in black lingerie with stockings and heels

3. I have a filthy mind and an over active imagination !"

I did ask

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"I think the lead should be shared...

O find guys mostly like me to be in control.

I can see why too !

And why is that?

1. I can imagine you standing over me dressed in just that white suit in the picture on your profile.

2 I can imagine you in black lingerie with stockings and heels

3. I have a filthy mind and an over active imagination !

I did ask

Ask anything you want, if its really naughty message me !

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

With the right person no. But for someone to take control fully doesn't happen overnight and as mentioned the trust needs to be built. But with the right person...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Equal turns for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"With the right person no. But for someone to take control fully doesn't happen overnight and as mentioned the trust needs to be built. But with the right person...

It can be hot with the right person

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Always said it is a dance, one leads and if the other doesn’t follow, it’s not a dance.

When the dance works, river rhythm flows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the guy, the situation, my emotions that day, how well I know him and how much trust is there.

So no, I think too much. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no control over anything

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have no control over anything"

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

I'm sub so I'm more in control than my Fuck buddy realises xx

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

I give control ot others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I like the control, other times I might like to be controlled, depends my mood

But only with someone i trust.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I give control ot others "

Always ?

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Does anyone always give control 'all' the time, I don't, very much depends on company and time and place ! (company more than the others).

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By *etAnotherDomMan
over a year ago

london

Carrying on the dad jokes:

I find it hard to give up the control because I have ran out lynx cans and I am too busy photographing my humungous cock next to it...roar!

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

"Do you ladies find it hard to give control sexually to a guy?"

I prefer it so for me it's easy. The issue is finding guys that want to take control and are properly Dom not just 50 shade readers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Carrying on the dad jokes:

I find it hard to give up the control because I have ran out lynx cans and I am too busy photographing my humungous cock next to it...roar!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm happy to trust people appropriately . Someone I don't know has no control

Would you trust a stranger ?

To a point. Trust has to be earned before its given, and it can be broken so easily.

It sometimes seems to be the case, not just on fab, that some will say whatever they want to get whatever they want, then get amnesia.

Trust, its earned by actions not by words.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm happy to trust people appropriately . Someone I don't know has no control

Would you trust a stranger ?

To a point. Trust has to be earned before its given, and it can be broken so easily.

It sometimes seems to be the case, not just on fab, that some will say whatever they want to get whatever they want, then get amnesia.

Trust, its earned by actions not by words.

This is so true

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over a year ago

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To a stranger, yes.

To someone you trust..well I am submissive so for me it is a huge turn on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To a stranger, yes.

To someone you trust..well I am submissive so for me it is a huge turn on."

Turn on for me too.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Yes... That's the point of being a brat lol

Id never submit to anyone other than beast and even then he's gotta work for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ladies find it hard to give control sexually to a guy?"

Nope so long as boundaries are respected otherwise I turn into.the devil

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Could only do it with someone I’ve built that trust up with

Likewise I won’t expect a man to give up his control without trust of me

You both need to feel comfortable, having discussed what it means and be respectful of each other’s boundaries

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

As a general rule, I find it hard to give up control...however, there are a couple of people where the dynamic is just that way, and I don't have any qualms about it.

So it very much depends on the person for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As a general rule, I find it hard to give up control...however, there are a couple of people where the dynamic is just that way, and I don't have any qualms about it.

So it very much depends on the person for me "

Yah someone you trust helps

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over a year ago

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