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By *litterbabe OP   Woman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Does anybody else get disheartened with people, there are so few people that I actually manage to maintain respect for, and sometimes it makes me feel a little bit cynical.

Does anybody else ever feel like that.

I think I'm an animal person, they are so much more real, loyal and consistent.

It's not just on this site, its in all aspects of my life, although I think it can be easier to see people's traits sometimes on here.

Do you have ways of taking a view and finding ways to maintain respect for people who often don't even seem to respect themselves in the way that they behave and treat others?

I try to see the good in people, but I feel as I age it's getting harder and harder to tolerate many people.

I could possibly be the next cat lady!

Normally I feel like I'm good at accepting people and taking the good and the bad as an interesting mixture.

Today I'm not really feeling that. Any tips to get me back into harmony with the human race?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anybody else get disheartened with people, there are so few people that I actually manage to maintain respect for, and sometimes it makes me feel a little bit cynical.

Does anybody else ever feel like that.

I think I'm an animal person, they are so much more real, loyal and consistent.

It's not just on this site, its in all aspects of my life, although I think it can be easier to see people's traits sometimes on here.

Do you have ways of taking a view and finding ways to maintain respect for people who often don't even seem to respect themselves in the way that they behave and treat others?

I try to see the good in people, but I feel as I age it's getting harder and harder to tolerate many people.

I could possibly be the next cat lady!

Normally I feel like I'm good at accepting people and taking the good and the bad as an interesting mixture.

Today I'm not really feeling that. Any tips to get me back into harmony with the human race?

"

I think it’s an age thing. I’m getting worse as I get older. I don’t have much tolerance at all now for idiots and negativity. I can’t stand cats either though

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Does anybody else get disheartened with people, there are so few people that I actually manage to maintain respect for, and sometimes it makes me feel a little bit cynical.

Does anybody else ever feel like that.

I think I'm an animal person, they are so much more real, loyal and consistent.

It's not just on this site, its in all aspects of my life, although I think it can be easier to see people's traits sometimes on here.

Do you have ways of taking a view and finding ways to maintain respect for people who often don't even seem to respect themselves in the way that they behave and treat others?

I try to see the good in people, but I feel as I age it's getting harder and harder to tolerate many people.

I could possibly be the next cat lady!

Normally I feel like I'm good at accepting people and taking the good and the bad as an interesting mixture.

Today I'm not really feeling that. Any tips to get me back into harmony with the human race?

"

I completely sympathise with all of that, except the cat lady bit. I've been misanthropic since I was a teenager. Unfortunately there is no cure, you just have to deal with people the best you can.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I think there's more good people out there than bad.

You can choose which you focus on.

You can't change other people, but you can change your own outlook on life.

You can sit there and feel helpless and think the world is a terrible place, or you can go out and do something that makes a difference.

I'd recommend some voluntary work, loads to choose from.

Worked for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anybody else get disheartened with people, there are so few people that I actually manage to maintain respect for, and sometimes it makes me feel a little bit cynical.

Does anybody else ever feel like that.

I think I'm an animal person, they are so much more real, loyal and consistent.

It's not just on this site, its in all aspects of my life, although I think it can be easier to see people's traits sometimes on here.

Do you have ways of taking a view and finding ways to maintain respect for people who often don't even seem to respect themselves in the way that they behave and treat others?

I try to see the good in people, but I feel as I age it's getting harder and harder to tolerate many people.

I could possibly be the next cat lady!

Normally I feel like I'm good at accepting people and taking the good and the bad as an interesting mixture.

Today I'm not really feeling that. Any tips to get me back into harmony with the human race?

I think it’s an age thing. I’m getting worse as I get older. I don’t have much tolerance at all now for idiots and negativity. I can’t stand cats either though "

Exactly what this lady said

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it's easy to misunderstand individuals and what drives them. However yeah, on the whole people can be crap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I can relate OP. I think the worst comes out online because of the anonymity of it all but I feel there's more stories of intolerance and general cruelty going around now than ever before but maybe it was always bad we just hear about it more with social media and instant news. I guess maybe just try and switch off from it do something creative, I usually write when I feel down or like things are getting to me. Sometimes just putting my emotions into words helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dogs are the best. Just buy a good hoover.

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By *tudmcmuffinMan
over a year ago

Swindon

It’s definitely an age thing I think, we all get less tolerant of the bs people chuck out there the older we get. Can I be the crazy cat man or is that not a thing??

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By *litterbabe OP   Woman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I don't really feel down, I feel strong and independent in myself, but that seems to be part of it.

I seem to have lost faith in the people around me that although I do care about certain people, I just don't have faith in people very much.

I feel that I have and show loyalty, empathy, care and honesty, and when I look at the world and the things that are going on and also at the people that I'm in contact with, I'm less able to relate and connect on a deeper level.

It's not that I feel down, it's almost that I feel that I don't want to spend a lot of time particularly around other people because I have everything within myself that I need and other people become harder to tolerate.

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By *litterbabe OP   Woman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"It’s definitely an age thing I think, we all get less tolerant of the bs people chuck out there the older we get. Can I be the crazy cat man or is that not a thing??

"

Definitely can be the crazy cat man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can definitely relate OP

I am not a people person at all.

It is definitely an age thing - a couple of my female friends feel the same way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really feel down, I feel strong and independent in myself, but that seems to be part of it.

I seem to have lost faith in the people around me that although I do care about certain people, I just don't have faith in people very much.

I feel that I have and show loyalty, empathy, care and honesty, and when I look at the world and the things that are going on and also at the people that I'm in contact with, I'm less able to relate and connect on a deeper level.

It's not that I feel down, it's almost that I feel that I don't want to spend a lot of time particularly around other people because I have everything within myself that I need and other people become harder to tolerate. "

I totally get this

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By *tudmcmuffinMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"It’s definitely an age thing I think, we all get less tolerant of the bs people chuck out there the older we get. Can I be the crazy cat man or is that not a thing??

Definitely can be the crazy cat man"

Awesome that’s me sorted for the twilight years then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anybody else get disheartened with people, there are so few people that I actually manage to maintain respect for, and sometimes it makes me feel a little bit cynical.

Does anybody else ever feel like that.

I think I'm an animal person, they are so much more real, loyal and consistent.

It's not just on this site, its in all aspects of my life, although I think it can be easier to see people's traits sometimes on here.

Do you have ways of taking a view and finding ways to maintain respect for people who often don't even seem to respect themselves in the way that they behave and treat others?

I try to see the good in people, but I feel as I age it's getting harder and harder to tolerate many people.

I could possibly be the next cat lady!

Normally I feel like I'm good at accepting people and taking the good and the bad as an interesting mixture.

Today I'm not really feeling that. Any tips to get me back into harmony with the human race?

"
I'm disheartened by the youth of today although went to Oxford the other day sat down on a bench outside one of the grand university buildings in beautiful gardens to have my lunch and got chatting to a really lovely young guy studying French philosophy at Oxford he was not only interesting but interested, so there is hope

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

I’ve always been an animal lover and if I’m honest a people person . But as I’ve got older my tolerance has diminished and with it my expectations of others . Yes cynicism can creep in but generally my ethos is about being the best I can be for my own well being and mindset . Always remember the only thing you can control is you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really feel down, I feel strong and independent in myself, but that seems to be part of it.

I seem to have lost faith in the people around me that although I do care about certain people, I just don't have faith in people very much.

I feel that I have and show loyalty, empathy, care and honesty, and when I look at the world and the things that are going on and also at the people that I'm in contact with, I'm less able to relate and connect on a deeper level.

It's not that I feel down, it's almost that I feel that I don't want to spend a lot of time particularly around other people because I have everything within myself that I need and other people become harder to tolerate. "

There was a thread the other day, the lady OP was feeling down and a stranger noticed her and made her feel better. Some people are nice. Maybe search out stories like that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really feel down, I feel strong and independent in myself, but that seems to be part of it.

I seem to have lost faith in the people around me that although I do care about certain people, I just don't have faith in people very much.

I feel that I have and show loyalty, empathy, care and honesty, and when I look at the world and the things that are going on and also at the people that I'm in contact with, I'm less able to relate and connect on a deeper level.

It's not that I feel down, it's almost that I feel that I don't want to spend a lot of time particularly around other people because I have everything within myself that I need and other people become harder to tolerate. "

Ive taken myself away from most situations that involve other people. I am in general quite self contained too with the exception of a few close people I enjoy being with. I dont think its a bad thing as long as you aren't feeling lonely or isolated. People can be generally hard work. Xx

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

There are very few people I truely enjoy the company of. It takes a lot to win me over, though I respect everyone unless I am given a reason to change that view about a person - does not mean I have to like them though!

I don't take to new people quickly, or at least not often, a few have surprised myself though.

The more I see/hear of people I don't like/relate to the more I enjoy the company of the small group I do like.

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By *litterbabe OP   Woman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I'm really glad that so many people relate, and it seems like it's not an abnormal way to feel about the world around me. I have no malice or bad feeling towards anyone, I just enjoy my own company and feel self-sufficient more and more and find myself biting my tongue so often in the company of others due to their behaviour, intention or actions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop feeding your cat and see how loyal, loving and consistent they are. They will be out your life and cosied up at number 3 before you know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like people. I like individuals but I don't like people.

I have less patience and tolerance for people, particularly narcissistic people.

It's been more prevalent in me as I've got older. I just don't want to waste my energy on drama!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep people can be disheartening and the internet makes it worse as you can message someone and they don't reply for days or never at all. Social media can cause disheartenment as you can view others as having more fun than yourself. Also the internet has caused some people to loose their real life social skills.

I think some people in general have become more entitled. Some people seem less willing to help each other out ect these days x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Stop feeding your cat and see how loyal, loving and consistent they are. They will be out your life and cosied up at number 3 before you know it "

so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stop feeding your cat and see how loyal, loving and consistent they are. They will be out your life and cosied up at number 3 before you know it

so true "

Haha I know A few men with the same traits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find a cave, get a dog, walk the fells, and only come out if you actually trust another.

Its remarkably peaceful....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm certainly less tolerant of people as I've got older or it might be I'm just a lot more discerning with my friends and a lot more tolerant of my dog

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm really glad that so many people relate, and it seems like it's not an abnormal way to feel about the world around me. I have no malice or bad feeling towards anyone, I just enjoy my own company and feel self-sufficient more and more and find myself biting my tongue so often in the company of others due to their behaviour, intention or actions."
many people are becoming very insular in this country I'm quite the opposite I talk to everyone and although animals appear to enjoy me I'm not really an animal lover but get the puppy eyed you need to feed me look mummy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we are all probably in the same boat and that we all feel like that at times.

These days I just try and cultivate a bit of compassion instead of turning cynical, which makes me feel better. It makes me feel closer to the people I care about and more fulfilled. I try very hard not to form expectations anymore that people should behave in a certain way. On days when I feel vunerable and let down by folk, which happens a lot, I just try to maintain my integrity and switch the feeling to that may be they are having a bad day or struggling? I think I've actually found after years of being very cynical that this is the best way to stop myself from taking my thoughts to a dark place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Consistency is very rare on these kind of website where most people are after instant and selfish gratification.

But it does exist though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think we are all probably in the same boat and that we all feel like that at times.

These days I just try and cultivate a bit of compassion instead of turning cynical, which makes me feel better. It makes me feel closer to the people I care about and more fulfilled. I try very hard not to form expectations anymore that people should behave in a certain way. On days when I feel vunerable and let down by folk, which happens a lot, I just try to maintain my integrity and switch the feeling to that may be they are having a bad day or struggling? I think I've actually found after years of being very cynical that this is the best way to stop myself from taking my thoughts to a dark place."

I read your profile and it makes for sobering reading. I didn't realise quite how bad it can be for single women on here and I'm sorry to hear you've had all those bad experiences but it's amazing you can still keep your compassion and make yourself feel a little better.

I think trying to spread a little joy and fun on the forums helps even out some of the mean crap messages people get on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think we are all probably in the same boat and that we all feel like that at times.

These days I just try and cultivate a bit of compassion instead of turning cynical, which makes me feel better. It makes me feel closer to the people I care about and more fulfilled. I try very hard not to form expectations anymore that people should behave in a certain way. On days when I feel vunerable and let down by folk, which happens a lot, I just try to maintain my integrity and switch the feeling to that may be they are having a bad day or struggling? I think I've actually found after years of being very cynical that this is the best way to stop myself from taking my thoughts to a dark place.

I read your profile and it makes for sobering reading. I didn't realise quite how bad it can be for single women on here and I'm sorry to hear you've had all those bad experiences but it's amazing you can still keep your compassion and make yourself feel a little better.

I think trying to spread a little joy and fun on the forums helps even out some of the mean crap messages people get on here. "

Yes, it's tough at times on here for everyone and even though I've had some bad experiences, there are plenty of kind hearted and funny people that keep me smiling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think we are all probably in the same boat and that we all feel like that at times.

These days I just try and cultivate a bit of compassion instead of turning cynical, which makes me feel better. It makes me feel closer to the people I care about and more fulfilled. I try very hard not to form expectations anymore that people should behave in a certain way. On days when I feel vunerable and let down by folk, which happens a lot, I just try to maintain my integrity and switch the feeling to that may be they are having a bad day or struggling? I think I've actually found after years of being very cynical that this is the best way to stop myself from taking my thoughts to a dark place.

I read your profile and it makes for sobering reading. I didn't realise quite how bad it can be for single women on here and I'm sorry to hear you've had all those bad experiences but it's amazing you can still keep your compassion and make yourself feel a little better.

I think trying to spread a little joy and fun on the forums helps even out some of the mean crap messages people get on here.

Yes, it's tough at times on here for everyone and even though I've had some bad experiences, there are plenty of kind hearted and funny people that keep me smiling. "

Glad to hear it

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