FabSwingers.com forum: Meets not turning up.

By *ilkey69 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

Well I was supposed to have a meet with someone on Monday.

Never showed no message to say not coming or anything.

Hotel paid for and a no show.

I get some people don't reply to messages but not turning up after arranging a meet is not on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly it happens. Block them and report them

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm afraid it's a thing that happens on here sometimes. I'm sympathetic, genuinely, but some people are like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you spoken to them since, asked them why? They may have had a family crisis or a crash en route.

When setting up the meet did you have a social first? I always have a social first and am pretty good at gauging whether or not they will meet again or want instant gratification.

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By *ilkey69 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

They have been reported but what happens to them.

Is it just a slap on the wrist?

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By *ilkey69 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

"Have you spoken to them since, asked them why? They may have had a family crisis or a crash en route.

When setting up the meet did you have a social first? I always have a social first and am pretty good at gauging whether or not they will meet again or want instant gratification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They have been reported but what happens to them.

Is it just a slap on the wrist?"

I think a court date will be set and they’ll be looking at at least 5 years, maybe 3 for good behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly it happens. Block them and report them "

Why report them? Anything could’ve happened and surely people can change their minds?

I understand blocking them but not reporting them

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By *ilkey69 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

"Have you spoken to them since, asked them why? They may have had a family crisis or a crash en route.

When setting up the meet did you have a social first? I always have a social first and am pretty good at gauging whether or not they will meet again or want instant gratification.

Not spoken to them they have not been on.

They have some veris and said they will turn up sadly not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly it happens. Block them and report them

Why report them? Anything could’ve happened and surely people can change their minds?

I understand blocking them but not reporting them "

You can report someone for arranging a meet and not turning up. Unless someone gave me a reason and an apology, I’d be reporting them

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"They have been reported but what happens to them.

Is it just a slap on the wrist?"

Nothing they can do, it's your word against theirs and they could just as easily say they went to the hotel and you didn't show.

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By *ilkey69 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

"Sadly it happens. Block them and report them

Why report them? Anything could’ve happened and surely people can change their minds?

I understand blocking them but not reporting them "

Why not report them if they agree to meet in the first place.

They could have explained why later

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By *ilkey69 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

"They have been reported but what happens to them.

Is it just a slap on the wrist?

Nothing they can do, it's your word against theirs and they could just as easily say they went to the hotel and you didn't show."

Surely admin can see all messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They have been reported but what happens to them.

Is it just a slap on the wrist?

Nothing they can do, it's your word against theirs and they could just as easily say they went to the hotel and you didn't show.

Surely admin can see all messages "

I would hope not

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Admin can look at messages when they're reported, I do know that.

Block, report if you think it's warranted (what happens who knows) and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you spoken to them since, asked them why? They may have had a family crisis or a crash en route.

When setting up the meet did you have a social first? I always have a social first and am pretty good at gauging whether or not they will meet again or want instant gratification.

I’d be more upset if they had been on line and not offered any explanation. By not being on line may mean that something has happened and they couldn’t show.

No shows are so frustrating, it happens to most of us, especially if you’ve booked and paid for a hotel. But as I said earlier that’s why I always have a social first

Not spoken to them they have not been on.

They have some veris and said they will turn up sadly not"

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Sorry this has happened to you, report and block. For future refence OP...

Top tips..

1. Don't take things off fab

2. Don't engage in wank chat

3. Don't swap endless pics

4. Don't travel ridiculous distances

5. Do pay a bit extra so you can cancel the hotel if needed

6. Do listen to your gut instinct, it's normally right

7. Do arrange a social in a public place before any sex

8. Do report any no show to admin

9. If a couple, speak to both halves.

10. Use common sense, if it's too good to be true, it probably is.

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By *ilkey69 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

"They have been reported but what happens to them.

Is it just a slap on the wrist?

I think a court date will be set and they’ll be looking at at least 5 years, maybe 3 for good behaviour. "

Hahaha

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By *ilkey69 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

"Sorry this has happened to you, report and block. For future refence OP...

Top tips..

1. Don't take things off fab

2. Don't engage in wank chat

3. Don't swap endless pics

4. Don't travel ridiculous distances

5. Do pay a bit extra so you can cancel the hotel if needed

6. Do listen to your gut instinct, it's normally right

7. Do arrange a social in a public place before any sex

8. Do report any no show to admin

9. If a couple, speak to both halves.

10. Use common sense, if it's too good to be true, it probably is."

Yes some very good ideas in there.

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By *ilkey69 OP Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

"They have been reported but what happens to them.

Is it just a slap on the wrist?

Nothing they can do, it's your word against theirs and they could just as easily say they went to the hotel and you didn't show.

Surely admin can see all messages

I would hope not

Just imagine hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What good would reporting to admin do ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry this has happened to you, report and block. For future refence OP...

Top tips..

1. Don't take things off fab

2. Don't engage in wank chat

3. Don't swap endless pics

4. Don't travel ridiculous distances

5. Do pay a bit extra so you can cancel the hotel if needed

6. Do listen to your gut instinct, it's normally right

7. Do arrange a social in a public place before any sex

8. Do report any no show to admin

9. If a couple, speak to both halves.

10. Use common sense, if it's too good to be true, it probably is."

All common sense, but then it's not common is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had the same happen couple of times it really upsets the wife as she always puts effort into getting ready for a meet. She takes it personally when they don’t show and knocks her self confidence makes her think she’s unattractive.

Common decency how hard is it to let someone know if you can’t make an arranged meet.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"They have been reported but what happens to them.

Is it just a slap on the wrist?"

Fab don't say specifically what they will do with each incident but they also don't want people here who will ruin it for others. They have a range of measures, ultimately with exclusion from the site permanently.

As long as we each submit the full information to admin, they always investigate and take the steps they feel are appropriate and multiple problems by the same people, alongside the info via their profile, obviously helps admin to take better action.

You did the right thing by reporting and the only way to potentially save money is via fully flexible bookings you can cancel for free until that afternoon. Aim to insist on pre-confirmation communication

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can they exclude someone permanently, just create another profile cant they?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"How can they exclude someone permanently, just create another profile cant they?"

Then block profiles without avatars and newbies from messaging along with using other filters. That should help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been on here a year, various profiles, couple then singles, this has happened to me about 4 times. Dont take it to heart, they are nobheads, move on and enjoy the decent people on here xx

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