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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you ever find your response to a thread depends on who the OP is?

I know it's a common thing, men get different responses to women, newbies get different ones to regulars but I was just wondering if you're aware you do it?

Do you ever find yourself just jumping on the bandwagon? If a thread has gone a certain way do you just join in?

For me it's certainly not a conscious thing but I know I've been guilty of it. I'm just musing as to why that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No im random

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I just like to amuse people. Some threads are not for me but its not cos of the OP

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By *icetouch83Man
over a year ago

swansea

Yes guilty I'm just easily led

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah sometimes. If I know them I’ll probably be a bit more sarky if I know they’ll get me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes maybe, it's not something I'm aware of.

I'm always just saying whatever I think though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a thread today that I’ve replied to and I’m questioning whether I needed to express my view as it was similar to others.. I think some things trigger a response and the fingers seem to automatically type the reply

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

A bit like a pub! You see a busy pub you’re more likely to go in. You see an empty pub and give it a miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I know the OP is a wind up merchant and in for the giggles then yes, I don't take it seriously and roll with it.

If I'm unaware of the OP and their humour/posting style then I take it at face value and respond based on exactly my interpretation, no matter how others are reacting.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A bit like a pub! You see a busy pub you’re more likely to go in. You see an empty pub and give it a miss "

I quite like empty pubs and threads but I’m more considered in how I behave in them, less auto-pilot

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Not usually. I'll take more liberties with someone I've got more of a sense of (more joking/ less straight laced) but generally I reply to the substance. Unless I know it's sarcastic then I'll just run with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some threads I refuse to even look at purely because I don't like the OP and know any response will be based on my dislike for them as a person rather than the subject.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some threads I refuse to even look at purely because I don't like the OP and know any response will be based on my dislike for them as a person rather than the subject.

P"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not usually. I'll take more liberties with someone I've got more of a sense of (more joking/ less straight laced) but generally I reply to the substance. Unless I know it's sarcastic then I'll just run with it. "

I'm learning how far I can push you with my dry replies before I overstep the mark

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some threads I refuse to even look at purely because I don't like the OP and know any response will be based on my dislike for them as a person rather than the subject.

P"

True. There’s a couple of people I won’t comment on.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Not usually. I'll take more liberties with someone I've got more of a sense of (more joking/ less straight laced) but generally I reply to the substance. Unless I know it's sarcastic then I'll just run with it.

I'm learning how far I can push you with my dry replies before I overstep the mark

P"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Some threads I refuse to even look at purely because I don't like the OP and know any response will be based on my dislike for them as a person rather than the subject.

P

True. There’s a couple of people I won’t comment on. "

This too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seem to get drawn into some threads, realise my opinion has already been shared, give it anyway and get ignored. A bit like the odd bloke in a pub who sits at the end of the bar and hijacks conversations - but in real life pubs I don't do that! Odd!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not usually. I'll take more liberties with someone I've got more of a sense of (more joking/ less straight laced) but generally I reply to the substance. Unless I know it's sarcastic then I'll just run with it.

I'm learning how far I can push you with my dry replies before I overstep the mark

P

"

There have been a few where I've hovered over the post button before thinking fuck it, and hope you realise I'm teasing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like everyone, so will randomly read posts, but yes my reply will vary depending on knowledge of the OP's style.

I mostly make an effort not to be helpful or focused, though I have been known to slip up from time to time and make an unintentional useful post...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like everyone, so will randomly read posts, but yes my reply will vary depending on knowledge of the OP's style.

I mostly make an effort not to be helpful or focused, though I have been known to slip up from time to time and make an unintentional useful post... "

I've caught you before now! I've caught you opening up too and was quite humbled.

P

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Not usually. I'll take more liberties with someone I've got more of a sense of (more joking/ less straight laced) but generally I reply to the substance. Unless I know it's sarcastic then I'll just run with it.

I'm learning how far I can push you with my dry replies before I overstep the mark

P

There have been a few where I've hovered over the post button before thinking fuck it, and hope you realise I'm teasing "

Usually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No Rubi, I never do such things

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Not in so much the man/woman response but more in the I respond differently to those I know (or am comfortable with).

I alternate between being giddily chirpy with simple humour and a sarcastic, mocking, pretentious fucker - some posters are more likely to get the latter because I like them and feel relaxed around them.

Take yesterday for example - I had *the* perfect response to a thread but couldn't post it because after consulting my bestie it might be misconstrued as ouch not fantastic dry wit.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yes In so much as I totally avoid some threads depending on the poster.,especially if they tend to all go the same way.

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By *ewtoyouXXXMan
over a year ago

rochdale cowboy

Yes sometimes I feel like I need to diving but I do get a response these days think I passed initial let’s get to know you think that happens on here

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By *ewtoyouXXXMan
over a year ago

rochdale cowboy

Miss Morgan I love your account/profile just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do, especially when I reply to you OP. My hands start shaking and inevitably something gets misplet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are times I see certain posters names and roll my eyes but on the whole I try to say what I think whoever the poster is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I just wander in to a thread post bollucks and slip back into the man cave....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No im random"

When it’s one of your threads I normally need to put my crazy head on!!

LJ

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't avoid threads because of who has posted them, although in some instances I'll know that the thread is going to be provocative just because of who posted it, but that won't necessarily shape my answer which, if I give one, will always be an open and honest, balanced and reasoned reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't avoid threads because of who has posted them, although in some instances I'll know that the thread is going to be provocative just because of who posted it, but that won't necessarily shape my answer which, if I give one, will always be an open and honest, balanced and reasoned reply."

Oh yes, you are always balanced and reasoned.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

No not at all.

I just say what I’m thinking, it doesn’t matter who it is that’s started the post and I wouldn’t agree / disagree with things to suit some

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I try not to but I probably do.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I (Luke) only click on a thread title that sounds interesting, then I only post if I have something to say. Usually I try to be humorous. Whether I succeed or not is open to debate.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

It's hard not being here long as I don't really know who's who and the dynamic of the group sometimes. So I'm more likely to jump on regular daily threads I suppose.

Jo x

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

We comment on anything that we can relate to really

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Not really. I don’t have forum favourites. I join in by thread and not by who the OP is.

Saying that, there are some folk i try to avoid as well ()

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually write what goes into my head at that moment

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I usually write what goes into my head at that moment

"

I'm not sure an anal fixation is healthy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually write what goes into my head at that moment

I'm not sure an anal fixation is healthy "

I'll run you if you like ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know anyone that posts threads so I respond largely to what's said rather than who said it. I rarely look at profiles of forum users....And I'm guilty of not reading entire threads so jumping on band wagons really ain't my thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"jumping on band wagons really ain't my thing. "

Bit old for it now, but jumping on bands tour busses led to some pretty awesome parties back in the day

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I post on whatever thread tickles me pickle at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just comment on what takes our fancy at the time

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

I comment here, there and everywhere.......not really fussed on who the OP is just the content of the thread.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that my response can vary according to who the OP is, if I know they'll appreciate a fuller answer or if I know them, then I may be sarcastic. The same goes for responding to posts etc.

I don't stay away from anyone's threads per se, although I may give one a wider berth if it's a provocative or 'mates thread'.

Tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like everyone, so will randomly read posts, but yes my reply will vary depending on knowledge of the OP's style.

I mostly make an effort not to be helpful or focused, though I have been known to slip up from time to time and make an unintentional useful post... "

You helped on the blocking a stalker thread the other day. That was really kind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ears were burning me

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