FabSwingers.com forum: Would you re-write the script?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just saw a comment on another thread about this and made me think. If you could go back 20/30 years would you totally change things and if so what or are you happy with the way your life has turned out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some parts, yes....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absofuckinglutely

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By *ltcouple666Couple
over a year ago

cheshire

No, even though horrible, even traumatic things have happened and mistakes have been made....I truly believe every single thing shapes us into the people we are right now and gives us the people we really need.

K x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes absolutely. Not totally but in some part !

I wouldn't have fucked a woman in a fiat panda

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I think with hindsight you’d not make some choices, however it doesn’t mean your life would have been any better than the path it took

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just saw a comment on another thread about this and made me think. If you could go back 20/30 years would you totally change things and if so what or are you happy with the way your life has turned out? "

Yep. I would have made a few different choices. I would have unpicked my conditioning much earlier and experienced many more things earlier. I wouldn’t have smoked and would have followed my passions rather than what my Mum and Dad instilled in me would be a good path.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly, I don't know

I do think if people are meant to cross paths they will one way or another, so I guess I'm happy with the way things are despite the shit I've been through with my ex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don’t think I would. I’ve been lucky to have a very happy life. The only thing I’d change would be the age gap between my children. I’d definitely have the second one earlier.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I absolutely love where I’m at in life, happy with my lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Everything I’ve been through, good and bad, I’ve learnt and grown from. My motivation for change has been the belief that the best is yet to come. I’ll take my chances.

Saff

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes. With you on the smoking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last 2 years I would definitely re-write it’s been hell on earth with a certain someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. With you on the smoking

Smoking was my only rebellion really. I should have found the rebel in me much earlier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooh tricky one. If I did would I still have ended up meeting the people that I have now, would it have just been via another fortunate cosmic route. Interesting

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By *hisCharManMan
over a year ago

South Manchester

No nothing, it’s made me what I am today

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I would certainly change some parts....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The last 2 years I would definitely re-write it’s been hell on earth with a certain someone "
the only thing he loved was his DRugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes absolutely. Not totally but in some part !

I wouldn't have fucked a woman in a fiat panda "
I sat in the back of one once and the rear seats are basically deckchairs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other than show a bit more self belief I'd not change anything.

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

Not at all.

We’d struggle to complain about much at all but life has to have some downs to contrast against the ups.

The downs are also character building x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I'm OK. I like where I am now, it was worth the times I struggled.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The last 2 years I would definitely re-write it’s been hell on earth with a certain someone the only thing he loved was his DRugs "

That must have been tough

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes absolutely. Not totally but in some part !

I wouldn't have fucked a woman in a fiat panda "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some parts yes i would do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The last 2 years I would definitely re-write it’s been hell on earth with a certain someone the only thing he loved was his DRugs

That must have been tough

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it was x

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

No. Knowing my luck I'd unwrite stuff that I cherish. From time to time life has sucked, I've made wrong decisions and people have been shitty to me, but inbetween, I've made some great memories and why would I want to erase those?

I guess if push comes to shove, I would probably want my eldest to have been healthy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't re-write it. I'd shunt the events on my timeline so they happened sooner.

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back

Could I just go back when they have a cure for cancer if not then a couple of months would be good there's only 2 things I would want to change

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Could I just go back when they have a cure for cancer if not then a couple of months would be good there's only 2 things I would want to change

xxx

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

No, apart from family dying and the odd heartbreak life hasn’t been too unkind. It could have been much, much worse. So i’ll Count my blessings and just be thankful for what i’ve Got, not worry about what could have been.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I changed anything , I wouldn’t have what I have now.

I’ve lost lots but I’d not risk not having my child

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every thing I have done over my life has led me to the person I am now .

All the good times , all the scars.

Don't let your past define you ,

Just enjoy the present and what's made you, you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Every thing I have done over my life has led me to the person I am now .

All the good times , all the scars.

Don't let your past define you ,

Just enjoy the present and what's made you, you

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"If I changed anything , I wouldn’t have what I have now.

I’ve lost lots but I’d not risk not having my child "

Exactly the same here

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We have been through some very tough times over the past 22 years but those things didn't kill us. They made us who we are. So no we wouldn't change a thing, because we're here today living our best life and that's what matters. To us anyway

Jo.Xx

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Of course I do! I would actually change quite a few things if I knew then what I know now, but hey, can't do anything about it now unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With one exception I’d keep my life exactly as it is, the good, the bad and the ugly parts.

I’d give just about anything if I could wind the clock back and alter my grandsons genes, so he would be able to cope with life better than he can. I’d never risk going back if there was a chance he wouldn’t be in my life though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, if I rewrote the script of my life, I wouldn’t be true to myself and where I am today by the sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing I’d do is tell my younger self that the awkward teenage years don’t last forever and worry less about what others are doing.

Life turned out ok in the end

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

I wouldn't have got married. It was my mistake.

I would have spent more time with my daughter. You don't know what you've got till its gone.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I thought this was going to be a thread about the last series of GOT

Nope I wouldn't rewrite mine. Change any of the bad stuff and that could have a knock on effect and change some of the good stuff, I wouldn't risk that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way, even my totally horrendous fuck ups have made me the man I am today - I love my life - the good, the bad and the ugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There would definitely be a few cars we wouldn't have bought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I'd make one different choice age 25. My life may well have turned out equally badly, but I'd be fascinated to take a different path.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"Every thing I have done over my life has led me to the person I am now .

All the good times , all the scars.

Don't let your past define you ,

Just enjoy the present and what's made you, you

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By *V-AliceTV/TS
over a year ago

Ayr

Regrets, I've had a few; but then again ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are happy with your life as it is now, then everything in your past both good and bad, got you here.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

You can't change the past, only learn from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are happy with your life as it is now, then everything in your past both good and bad, got you here."

I was just thinking exactly that. The present is only precious if you have something precious in it.

Tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, no. Some times for me have been brutally hard, but who's to say a different path would have been any easier, plus I like myself now as I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not really, no. Some times for me have been brutally hard, but who's to say a different path would have been any easier, plus I like myself now as I am

Xteve ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I’d change loads. Mostly giving up my studies and future independence in return for a man whom I thought I trusted and had children with and became a homemaker, only 14 years later we split up and I’m left without anything and left high and dry, and he carry’s on to become wealthy. Big mistake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I’d change loads. Mostly giving up my studies and future independence in return for a man whom I thought I trusted and had children with and became a homemaker, only 14 years later we split up and I’m left without anything and left high and dry, and he carry’s on to become wealthy. Big mistake. "

Thats a long time, were those 14 years worth nothing? Didn't you enjoy your time at all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats a long time, were those 14 years worth nothing? Didn't you enjoy your time at all?

Errrrm!! Yes lots of great memories, but looking back I should of recognised the controlling signals instead I ignored them until it was to late.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

If I had a choice I wouldn't change anything. Due to all my mistakes in my life and there have been so many, if I'd taken any different turning at any point I wouldn't have my son and I wouldn't change that for anything.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I always struggle with this one - there's one thing I would change that has been a lifelong regret since I made that decision at 17 and it would probably have meant my life panned put completely differently and possibly better for it *BUT* there are too many things that are part of this life strand I have that are too precious to make a conscious decision to turn my back on - so on balance I probably wouldn't make that change, but there is a very big part of me that would be tempted still.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

No I wouldn't change things. We had some tough times over the years but like others have said, they shape you and make you strong.

But maybe I should have listened to the OH and ventured into this life sooner.....

But we are here now...time is right

Jo x

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

Yes and no. But why worry you change the past

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Actually to add to my last who knows what scripts remain to be written? They could form the best part of your life to come and you may miss out on them for the sake of a change that you actually don't know the outcome of.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your script has been written from the day you were born.

I don’t like parts of my life but they are what bought me here and I can honestly say because of what’s happened in the past, it’s made me the person I am today.

So no, I wouldn’t rewrite anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely yes. I'm not complaining, but if I had to do it again I'd be less passive.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Hannah and I met. That was the best thing ever.

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over a year ago

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

God yeah a few things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last ten years I'm happy with before not but it has made me the person I am today so would change nothing but being more forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would go back to 1990 and talk to my friend and stop them committing suicide x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would go back to 1990 and talk to my friend and stop them committing suicide x"

That’s sad. Those kind of things we’d all like to change.

. One of my best friends went to the doctors at age 26 twice and saw 2 different doctors as she knew her breasts weren’t right and they were also leaking. Was told twice it was because she’d not long had a baby. By 27 she was dead leaving 2 young children. Since then if i think it’s something serious I never take one opinion. So I’d change that

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