FabSwingers.com forum: Honesty with someone you fancy..

By *ifferent69 OP Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

Ladies help please....

A lady I work with I find I really fancy.... though spoken for out of bounds.

Got me thinking...

In some warped universe we did start seeing each other or I meet someone else...

Should I be honest and let her know about Fabbing ?

I mean everybody has a past right?

Would it be something you,d need to know? Would it be a deal breaker?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never met anyone outside of fab so its not something i have ever had to deal with..

I suppose it depends on their outlook and on how serious you both are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t mix work and fab, no no no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some things are best left unsaid...

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Not unless you intend to swing.

Someone tells me stuff from their past and i tend to dwell on it. Not in a good way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on the person and the relationship.

For me personally I can't see me being with someone who's not sexually liberated and I'd expect them to know that they could tell me anything.

On the other hand there are people who would judge or be upset and it may affect things moving forward so I'm not sure why you would offer up that info to them, I'm not saying lie about it but it is in the past and if you're committed to them and a monogamous relationship then it's irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I’d probably leave that one just for you.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

It depends how serious the relationship is. If she finds out later, would it ruin everything? If you told her now would she just accept it and either move on or express interest?

If it's not a serious relationship then I'd say keep quiet.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't think there's a single definitive answer to the question OP - It's something that would have to be answered on a case by case basis according to circumstances and personal judgement - however most new couples have "that conversation" fairly early on about prior sexual history - guess that would be the time to make that judgement call.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm a big believer in transparency. If you're up front from the start nothing can bite you on the bum later.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Also it saves time to find out early on if knowing the real you is a deal breaker

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By *ifferent69 OP Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

Thanks for the responses guys...

Would fabbing be deemed worse than...

Watching explicit porn addict...

Serial one night stander...

A liar..

A drug user.....

A guy who pays for sex....

A home/ family wrecker...

A cheat....

Undeclared offspring.....

Etc etc etc

Etc ,etc,etc....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks for the responses guys...

Would fabbing be deemed worse than...

Watching explicit porn addict...

Serial one night stander...

A liar..

A drug user.....

A guy who pays for sex....

A home/ family wrecker...

A cheat....

Undeclared offspring.....

Etc etc etc

Etc ,etc,etc....

To who? Everyone has different criteria for what's acceptable and what's not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly OP? I'm kind of secretly seeing someone at work, he knows about fab. But he's the only person I work with who knows. If I enter into a sexual relationship with someone outside of fab, they get told about fab quite early but that I'm not meeting.

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