FabSwingers.com forum: Any idea

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How to break up with someone without feeling shite!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her its not you its me

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Who, you or them (or both)?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Be a psychopath or sociopath.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eat your favourite ice cream during it.

Be quick about it; nothing worse than a really long breakup. Got it over and done with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Look, I tried, I wanted it to work but it’s just not. I want you to know it’s not me, it’s you. Whilst you’re reading this text I understand you may be upset, even a little confused but I think it’s for the best.”

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Eat your favourite ice cream during it.

Be quick about it; nothing worse than a really long breakup. Got it over and done with

What if she cries man, canny deal when she starts crying

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"“Look, I tried, I wanted it to work but it’s just not. I want you to know it’s not me, it’s you. Whilst you’re reading this text I understand you may be upset, even a little confused but I think it’s for the best.” "

Can’t do it through text man, needs to be face to face

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

So breaking up with someone using advice you got from a public forum on a swingers site wouldn’t make you feel shite? Hmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Eat your favourite ice cream during it.

Be quick about it; nothing worse than a really long breakup. Got it over and done with

What if she cries man, canny deal when she starts crying "

Ask her if she wants a hug. If she doesn’t, leave her to it

Put on your big boy pants and do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t do it through text man, needs to be face to face "

Take her out? Have a meal and romantic sex and then whisper in her ear that it’s over?

That’s quite gentle?

As you can tell...I’m great with break ups

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So breaking up with someone using advice you got from a public forum on a swingers site wouldn’t make you feel shite? Hmmm

I’m not meaning me feeling like shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

do it, feel like shite for a while then move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Eat your favourite ice cream during it.

Be quick about it; nothing worse than a really long breakup. Got it over and done with

What if she cries man, canny deal when she starts crying

Ask her if she wants a hug. If she doesn’t, leave her to it

Put on your big boy pants and do it

Thank you

*goes to wardrobe to get big boy pants*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't. You just need to get on with it and be honest making it clear that it's over and not leave any ambiguity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can't. You just need to get on with it and be honest making it clear that it's over and not leave any ambiguity. "

Yeah true, there is no easy way to do it is there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be a grown up and take it like a man.

There's going to be tears get over it...

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

It's like ripping a plaster off.

Best done quickly.

If it's over, make it clear it's over.

Don't be one of those that keeps someone hanging, with hope there's still a chance.

That's cruel

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Be a grown up and take it like a man.

There's going to be tears get over it...

Yeah true. Just hate making people feel shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be straight with them no games

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

It’s like taking a plaster off. Best do it quickly.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Don’t do it after you’ve just been to the pictures together.

Don’t eye roll and break into a “i’m freeeee” slow jog when they shout after you “you’ll never find anyone as good to you as me” until you’re at least 1/2 a mile away from them and wearing trainers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers everyone, just need to get it done and hope she will be alright

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By *ems17Couple (FF)
over a year ago

Walsall

I had to leave my ex, who I was living with, it was horrible.

But I had to think...when I’m 80 years old will I look back and be glad I stayed in a place where I didn’t belong, or look back and be glad I put myself first. So I left and I couldn’t be happier now! It takes time but you’ll get there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had to leave my ex, who I was living with, it was horrible.

That’s a great way to look at it thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hide the sharp knives first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show her that you're on fab. That'll do the trick I'd imagine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So breaking up with someone using advice you got from a public forum on a swingers site wouldn’t make you feel shite? Hmmm

you make a good point

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You can't but you can do it in such a way that you feel less awful. Unless they deserve it because they've been really awful then you don't need to feel bad at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just got to be honest! It may be shit at the time and will leave you both feeling awful, but it’s better to just bite the bullet and do it than dragging it out.

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Do something u know she wont like then she will break up with you. Problem solved.. actually maybe not the best idea

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

How long have you been going out?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How long have you been going out? "

Been together 4 years :-/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best way is to just do it....yes it will hurt but better than hanging on

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"How long have you been going out?

Been together 4 years :-/"

Sit down with her. Tell her in clear terms that it's over. Don't beat about the bush or give false hope. If she asks why (she will) tell her as kindly as possible why you feel you're no longer suited, answer her questions as far as possible. Don't promise friendship or time to think it over or anything like that. Quick and clean heals faster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ghost them x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"How long have you been going out?

Been together 4 years :-/"

Awwwww, that's quite a long time for someone your age I think. Do you think she might see it coming? I don't think it's going to be easy however.

I wouldn't go out for dinner ~ Too romantic.

I wouldn't ask her to come to yours ~ she might hang around for ages.

I wouldn't go to hers ~ you'll feel bad about leaving her.

I'm shit at this stuff, sorry!

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Do it quick, do it clean.

Be honest about it but don't give them too much detail.They dont need an inventory of their faults, or details of how wonderful the new person you've (maybe) met is..Be kind.

It's going to hurt, however you do it but try and do it with some kind of decency.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How long have you been going out?

Been together 4 years :-/"

She'll probably have an idea already if that's the case, women are detectives!

If you're sure it's what you want then just be straight with her, but don't get pulled back in by guilt, you're doing what's best for you both in the end. Split full stop, avoid a "break" because breaks always end and need dealing with again....

Good luck!

Steve x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How long have you been going out?

Been together 4 years :-/

Awwwww, that's quite a long time for someone your age I think. Do you think she might see it coming? I don't think it's going to be easy however.

I wouldn't go out for dinner ~ Too romantic.

I wouldn't ask her to come to yours ~ she might hang around for ages.

I wouldn't go to hers ~ you'll feel bad about leaving her.

I'm shit at this stuff, sorry! "

She keeps asking if we are alright or I am okay with her but I’m sure I’ve been normal with her.

I was thinking just going for a drive park up somewhere and just tell her straight that I want to break up.

Thanks for your help though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How long have you been going out?

Been together 4 years :-/

She'll probably have an idea already if that's the case, women are detectives!

Good luck!

Steve x"

I’ve always beeen pulled in by guilt, the tears come and I’m like but maybe we can make it work and I’m back in the same position 3-4 months later

Cheers Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How long have you been going out?

Been together 4 years :-/

Awwwww, that's quite a long time for someone your age I think. Do you think she might see it coming? I don't think it's going to be easy however.

I wouldn't go out for dinner ~ Too romantic.

I wouldn't ask her to come to yours ~ she might hang around for ages.

I wouldn't go to hers ~ you'll feel bad about leaving her.

I'm shit at this stuff, sorry!

She keeps asking if we are alright or I am okay with her but I’m sure I’ve been normal with her.

I was thinking just going for a drive park up somewhere and just tell her straight that I want to break up.

Thanks for your help though "

Don’t do that. You will then have to drive back together and that could be awful for her.

Do it sensitively but with somewhere she can escape to if she needs to get away from you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers everyone for your help and advice

. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never know, she might want to break up with you too

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"Show her that you're on fab. That'll do the trick I'd imagine."

I was just going to say show her your profile on here and she’ll dump you and save you the hassle

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

I mean... You already have a secret fab profile so it's clear you don't give a shit about the girl. You just don't want to feel guilty or face any consequences.

Do her a favour and get it over with.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Just be honest and do it, if there’s tears just deal with it, you never know she might feel the same and be relieved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I mean... You already have a secret fab profile so it's clear you don't give a shit about the girl. You just don't want to feel guilty or face any consequences.

Do her a favour and get it over with. "
Boom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no easy way, she will hurt, you will feel bad, longer you leave it, the worse it will be.

Good luck

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Do you live together?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Point out if she was only as good as her sister....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her you love her brother

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

London & North Wessex Downs

You or her feeling shit?

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

London & North Wessex Downs

"Point out if she was only as good as her sister...."

….or if you're from a particularly rural area only as good as your sister

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"I mean... You already have a secret fab profile so it's clear you don't give a shit about the girl. You just don't want to feel guilty or face any consequences.

Do her a favour and get it over with. Boom "

like others have said . She will have an idea already

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"Point out if she was only as good as her sister....

….or if you're from a particularly rural area only as good as your sister

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pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show them your thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you live together? "

Nah we don’t live together

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You or her feeling shit?"

Her feeling shit

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"You or her feeling shit?

Her feeling shit "

You can't. Life is tough sometimes and as an adult you occasionally have to do things that you really wish you didn't have to.

Face your responsibility to her, you will probably hurt her feelings but you're stringing her along if you don't make a clean break and soon.

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Interested in what has happened with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell her your gay

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