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"My biggest pressure I’d say is making sure the lass finishes as I have so many female friends who complain about it being shit I feel pressured to ensure the lady finishes" Maybe they should take a more pro-active approach instead of whinging to others? | |||
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"No, with age and experience has come confidence, as in every area of my life. You're not always going to be feeling it, you're not always going to click, shit happens, sometimes men may have difficulty with getting or maintaining an erection, or holding themselves back in a new encounter. Grownups get this." Love this post. | |||
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"I think fab propagates the ideal of the ‘expert swordsman’ (you don’t see many veris saying people were ‘average’ or ‘poor’. This naturally leads guys to worry if their own performance will be up to scratch. This is a viscous circle and overthinking it will affect your performance. It’s a self fulfilling prophecy! I’d be honest with a potential partner(s) about your concerns, if the worst happens it happens. They will either deal with it and you’ll no doubt carry on and have a good time or, if they don’t (or you make your excuses) you probably won’t be/want to meet them again. " | |||
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"Sex is different for us all, it doesn't have to be bells and whistles every time surely, meaning there are different ways to enjoy things. If someone is still there with you at the end then I reckon you've done ok " | |||
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"No. I tend to live in the moment and go with what feels right. I think this is probably more an issue for men though, the perceived onus is on them to be some kind of stallion and have loads of tricks and treats when really sex takes two, there's so much more to it than the physical acts, if the chemistry is right then mediocre sex can me mind-blowing just like if it isn't there then no matter how good your performance is it just won't cut it. " I agree with this. In the past I've not met people if I felt that the expectation or pressure was on me to be some form of machine or they took the attitude that it was about 'measuring up'. Sex should be mutual. Tea | |||
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"Not having the stamina I once had because of depression meds does tend to bother me (mr) but I'm working fairly hard to get my fitness back up to counter act it" Just pound it to the max! | |||
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"If I fancy the guy, all is well. If I don't, we won't have sex. Simple as that. If we get on and chemistry is mutual, then we'll find out how to work our bodies." good Jesus You can work my body anyday | |||
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"Performance?.... It's not a competition OP, ever. We are none of us circus animals.... Isn't it more about what we give receive share, rather than worrying about keeping score? Perhaps feeling the need to "perform" less, and relate more, may be better for you, and for others? Miss you hine " | |||
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"I do have wobbles. An ex cheated on me and blamed it on my inability to take a very hard, deep pounding because I find it uncomfortable. I try not to let my insecurities ruin experiences for me though. As long as they seem to be enjoying themselves its all good and the best experiences are when you communicate with each other in order to create a satisfying experience for you both rather than it being about "specific skills"." He sounds like an arsehole | |||
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"I do have wobbles. An ex cheated on me and blamed it on my inability to take a very hard, deep pounding because I find it uncomfortable. I try not to let my insecurities ruin experiences for me though. As long as they seem to be enjoying themselves its all good and the best experiences are when you communicate with each other in order to create a satisfying experience for you both rather than it being about "specific skills". He sounds like an arsehole " Aye | |||
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