FabSwingers.com forum: A Fab Code of Conduct

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lots of negativity floating about on Fab today, so how could we change the way fab operates, or rather...

If you were in charge, what changes would you make to the code of conduct on Fab, and what repercussions would you inflict for breaking the code.

I want people to stop moaning and start trying to affect change here on Fab and in the wider swinging world.

When I started, everyone was friendly, these days the words bigoted, entitled, drama, hassle, are all far too common place, let’s change it!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Nah , cant be arsed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is too short!

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I agree with the first two responses.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So life is too short to try and positively change something, but long enough to have a whinge about it, strange balance there...

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

sadly all fab reflects is society itself! and at my age i have not got enough time left (or inclination) to try and put it right lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s always been like that on the forums. If you choose to get involved with it. If message filters aren’t used and you get abuse for knocking back an unverified newbie what do you expect?

No. Bitch and moan on the forums with all the other negative keyboard warriors that have got fuck all else better to do. Just saying

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"So life is too short to try and positively change something, but long enough to have a whinge about it, strange balance there...

only if you whinge! i not got enough time left to do that either lol

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Fab is a cross section of society so whilst bigots, whingers and entitled people remain in the world they will remain in fab.

Unless of course you have to tick a box when registering confirming you are nine of the above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not sure many want to make the change.

Fab, like a lot of the world has become very tribal. People don’t want to reach outside there friends.

A lot of the negativity seen on the forums is more trying to signal to forum friends how cool they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So life is too short to try and positively change something, but long enough to have a whinge about it, strange balance there...

I rarely whinge about anything.. um, lifes too short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see it as whinging, I see it as people having an opinion and the only "whinging" that happens is people who think everything should be sweetness and light or that everything is a joke.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Life is too short!"

It's still the longest thing you'll ever do.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of negativity floating about on Fab today, so how could we change the way fab operates, or rather...

If you were in charge, what changes would you make to the code of conduct on Fab, and what repercussions would you inflict for breaking the code.

I want people to stop moaning and start trying to affect change here on Fab and in the wider swinging world.

When I started, everyone was friendly, these days the words bigoted, entitled, drama, hassle, are all far too common place, let’s change it!"

Apply to be a mod.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Lots of negativity floating about on Fab today, so how could we change the way fab operates, or rather...

If you were in charge, what changes would you make to the code of conduct on Fab, and what repercussions would you inflict for breaking the code.

I want people to stop moaning and start trying to affect change here on Fab and in the wider swinging world.

When I started, everyone was friendly, these days the words bigoted, entitled, drama, hassle, are all far too common place, let’s change it!

Apply to be a mod."

what!!!!! and have a mod that bans just because someone makes a comment that is not all sugar and spice!!!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't see it as whinging, I see it as people having an opinion and the only "whinging" that happens is people who think everything should be sweetness and light or that everything is a joke. "

I’m sorry you’ve taken my thought so badly.

I just think people could be better towards one another, on and off of Fab. And I find it almost abhorrent when people think it’s a throw away stance to have.

If people were nicer to one another, the world would be a very very different place.

And I’m not whinging, I’m trying to get people to join a common goal, a Fab where people want to come and have fun, not open mail boxes full of shit, face abuse on the forums for having an opinion and well, are generally happier people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lots of negativity floating about on Fab today, so how could we change the way fab operates, or rather...

If you were in charge, what changes would you make to the code of conduct on Fab, and what repercussions would you inflict for breaking the code.

I want people to stop moaning and start trying to affect change here on Fab and in the wider swinging world.

When I started, everyone was friendly, these days the words bigoted, entitled, drama, hassle, are all far too common place, let’s change it!

Apply to be a mod."

I’ve had too many bans for asking people to be nice to one another, they won’t let me haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After reading so many ranty threads today, isn't it simple.

We dont need codes of conduct, we just need....

to treat others how we may wish to be treated.

Perhaps too high an aspiration for a Monday?

Where is the

* shrugs and wonders if Thursday has come early this week

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lots of negativity floating about on Fab today, so how could we change the way fab operates, or rather...

If you were in charge, what changes would you make to the code of conduct on Fab, and what repercussions would you inflict for breaking the code.

I want people to stop moaning and start trying to affect change here on Fab and in the wider swinging world.

When I started, everyone was friendly, these days the words bigoted, entitled, drama, hassle, are all far too common place, let’s change it!

Apply to be a mod.

what!!!!! and have a mod that bans just because someone makes a comment that is not all sugar and spice!!!!! lol

I would be a very fair mod, I’m sure many have fallen foul if the double standards on Fab that exists within the current moderator caste on here.

But you’re missing my point, it’s not about everything being sugar and spice, it’s about people being decent towards one another.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After reading so many ranty threads today, isn't it simple.

We dont need codes of conduct, we just need....

to treat others how we may wish to be treated.

Perhaps too high an aspiration for a Monday?

Where is the

* shrugs and wonders if Thursday has come early this week"

This

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"After reading so many ranty threads today, isn't it simple.

We dont need codes of conduct, we just need....to treat others how we may wish to be treated.

Perhaps too high an aspiration for a Monday?

Where is the

* shrugs and wonders if Thursday has come early this week"

May I modify that slightly to treat everyone how THEY wish to be treated?

Some days, every day is a Thursday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have the right to moan so none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have the right to moan so none "

Not me. I never moan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think Ive read anymore ranty threads than normal. Dont sweat the small stuff, I would say. *sweating

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I find just being myself and leaving people to it works best.. truth always tends to come out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have the right to moan so none

Not me. I never moan

Lies your as bad as me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have the right to moan so none

Not me. I never moan

Lies your as bad as me"

I’m not as bad as I used to be. I try and keep away from the extreme leftwing, radical feminist, SJW posts now. Doesn’t leave many to comment on though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have the right to moan so none

Not me. I never moan

Lies your as bad as me

I’m not as bad as I used to be. I try and keep away from the extreme leftwing, radical feminist, SJW posts now. Doesn’t leave many to comment on though

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u lost your fight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have the right to moan so none

Not me. I never moan

Lies your as bad as me

I’m not as bad as I used to be. I try and keep away from the extreme leftwing, radical feminist, SJW posts now. Doesn’t leave many to comment on though

u lost your fight

I accept I’m in the minority on here and most people don’t like me lol. I’m cool with it

. The ones who matter like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think Ive read anymore ranty threads than normal. Dont sweat the small stuff, I would say. *sweating "

It's all the small stuff

All that small stuff eventually gets to be big stuff, and then....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have the right to moan so none

Not me. I never moan

Lies your as bad as me

I’m not as bad as I used to be. I try and keep away from the extreme leftwing, radical feminist, SJW posts now. Doesn’t leave many to comment on though

u lost your fight

I accept I’m in the minority on here and most people don’t like me lol. I’m cool with it

. The ones who matter like me

i suspect more folks like you than you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have the right to moan so none

Not me. I never moan

Lies your as bad as me

I’m not as bad as I used to be. I try and keep away from the extreme leftwing, radical feminist, SJW posts now. Doesn’t leave many to comment on though

u lost your fight

I accept I’m in the minority on here and most people don’t like me lol. I’m cool with it

. The ones who matter like me

i suspect more folks like you than you think"

Awwww I know you loves me. That makes me warm inside

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

As with many things these days, it’s about managing expectations.

If you’re a plumber and someone wants their kitchen done in 2 weeks, you know the floor is going to be 3 weeks and the bloke doing the tiles won’t be in any state to do them in July because he’s going on that 4 day stag weekend.

Is your job about soldering pipes? No, it’s about managing expectations.

With Fab it’s not really well defined how people should interact, how they should present themselves and what the likely outcomes are. If that was more easily understood, perhaps we’d have fewer ranty threads here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As with many things these days, it’s about managing expectations.

Is your job about soldering pipes? No, it’s about managing expectations.

You’ve better articulated my thoughts

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"People have the right to moan so none

Not me. I never moan

Lies your as bad as me

I’m not as bad as I used to be. I try and keep away from the extreme leftwing, radical feminist, SJW posts now. Doesn’t leave many to comment on though

u lost your fight

I accept I’m in the minority on here and most people don’t like me lol. I’m cool with it

. The ones who matter like me

I like you...ish

We have very similar views and opinions and i'm not at all bothered to be in the minority. I tend to avoid those threads anyway though will admit I sometimes can't keep completely quiet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think Ive read anymore ranty threads than normal. Dont sweat the small stuff, I would say. *sweating

It's all the small stuff

All that small stuff eventually gets to be big stuff, and then...."

Put it all through the mincer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's left to discuss if everyone here holds the same opinion? And who decides who should be punished etc. It's bad enough the way it is, without more twatty rules for ppl to abuse..... Let everyone speak and it's our own duty to be able to stand up for our beliefs and debate any idiots or we'd soon find we were living in delusional censorship and unable to understand what is actually bad about "bad"....

In the subject of twatty rules, the "rule" about not being able to use both a singles and couples account springs to mind, still never had a definitive answer on that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's left to discuss if everyone here holds the same opinion? And who decides who should be punished etc. It's bad enough the way it is, without more twatty rules for ppl to abuse..... Let everyone speak and it's our own duty to be able to stand up for our beliefs and debate any idiots or we'd soon find we were living in delusional censorship and unable to understand what is actually bad about "bad"....

In the subject of twatty rules, the "rule" about not being able to use both a singles and couples account springs to mind, still never had a definitive answer on that one

Oh,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have the right to moan so none

Not me. I never moan

Lies your as bad as me

I’m not as bad as I used to be. I try and keep away from the extreme leftwing, radical feminist, SJW posts now. Doesn’t leave many to comment on though

u lost your fight

I accept I’m in the minority on here and most people don’t like me lol. I’m cool with it

. The ones who matter like me

I like you...ish

We have very similar views and opinions and i'm not at all bothered to be in the minority. I tend to avoid those threads anyway though will admit I sometimes can't keep completely quiet

ish??

You have similar views to me? Never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think Ive read anymore ranty threads than normal. Dont sweat the small stuff, I would say. *sweating

It's all the small stuff

All that small stuff eventually gets to be big stuff, and then....

Put it all through the mincer "

I'll fire up the barbeque

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"People have the right to moan so none

Not me. I never moan

Lies your as bad as me

I’m not as bad as I used to be. I try and keep away from the extreme leftwing, radical feminist, SJW posts now. Doesn’t leave many to comment on though

u lost your fight

I accept I’m in the minority on here and most people don’t like me lol. I’m cool with it

. The ones who matter like me

I like you...ish

We have very similar views and opinions and i'm not at all bothered to be in the minority. I tend to avoid those threads anyway though will admit I sometimes can't keep completely quiet

ish??

You have similar views to me? Never

I do

How's that for a surprise?

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"People have the right to moan so none

Not me. I never moan

Lies your as bad as me

I’m not as bad as I used to be. I try and keep away from the extreme leftwing, radical feminist, SJW posts now. Doesn’t leave many to comment on though

u lost your fight

I accept I’m in the minority on here and most people don’t like me lol. I’m cool with it

. The ones who matter like me

I like you...ish

We have very similar views and opinions and i'm not at all bothered to be in the minority. I tend to avoid those threads anyway though will admit I sometimes can't keep completely quiet

ish??

You have similar views to me? Never

no heis being nice in case the fab pc police tell him off!!!!!!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"With Fab it’s not really well defined how people should interact, how they should present themselves and what the likely outcomes are. If that was more easily understood, perhaps we’d have fewer ranty threads here

A sensible post Adam?

No, I'd agree with all of this.

I think if people started with treated each other with more courtesy and respect it could remove a lot of rantiness. I like the differing opinions that are presented on the forum - I like reading a snapshot of society and its views. I don't want a dull, everyone agreeing with everyone forum - there'd not be any discussion or interesting discourse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have the right to moan so none

Not me. I never moan

Lies your as bad as me

I’m not as bad as I used to be. I try and keep away from the extreme leftwing, radical feminist, SJW posts now. Doesn’t leave many to comment on though

u lost your fight

I accept I’m in the minority on here and most people don’t like me lol. I’m cool with it

. The ones who matter like me

I like you...ish

We have very similar views and opinions and i'm not at all bothered to be in the minority. I tend to avoid those threads anyway though will admit I sometimes can't keep completely quiet

ish??

You have similar views to me? Never

I do

How's that for a surprise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have the right to moan so none

Not me. I never moan

Lies your as bad as me

I’m not as bad as I used to be. I try and keep away from the extreme leftwing, radical feminist, SJW posts now. Doesn’t leave many to comment on though

u lost your fight

I accept I’m in the minority on here and most people don’t like me lol. I’m cool with it

. The ones who matter like me

i suspect more folks like you than you think

Awwww I know you loves me. That makes me warm inside

"
thats called an orgasm love im just that good

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Meh, much as your idea and sentiment is admirable OP and everyone should of course follow the basic tenets of life never mind Fab, the truth of the matter is people have been saying similar to what you are for centuries to no avail - people will still disagree, people will still either be largely negative or largely positive thinkers - and lets not forget that what you see as ranty or negative, may have been someome else's genuine cry for help, or looking to gather opinion.

Yes of course there are those who deliberately stir the pot, or post just to be provocative, and those who will post negative things because they're "glass half empty" types and you'll never change that - again people like that have been around for centuries, and are just part of life's rich tapestry - whether to engage with them, or seek to stir their pots in another direction etc is an individual call.

Again not arguing or putting down your sentiment, but pragmatic realist that I am, I also know you'll not change a thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see it as whinging, I see it as people having an opinion and the only "whinging" that happens is people who think everything should be sweetness and light or that everything is a joke. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the subject of twatty rules, the "rule" about not being able to use both a singles and couples account springs to mind, still never had a definitive answer on that one

It's in the forum rules that people can't use one of their other profiles to get round a ban. Perhaps that's the one you're thinking of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see it as whinging, I see it as people having an opinion and the only "whinging" that happens is people who think everything should be sweetness and light or that everything is a joke.

I’m sorry you’ve taken my thought so badly.

I just think people could be better towards one another, on and off of Fab. And I find it almost abhorrent when people think it’s a throw away stance to have.

If people were nicer to one another, the world would be a very very different place.

I haven't taken anything badly!

Actually if you regularly read my posts you would know I often call out what I consider "bad attitude" or people rounding on others for having a different opinion.

My point is the forums would be dull if everything was light hearted. People can and should express different opinions.

Its not what you say, it's the way you say it.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Meh, much as your idea and sentiment is admirable OP and everyone should of course follow the basic tenets of life never mind Fab, the truth of the matter is people have been saying similar to what you are for centuries to no avail - people will still disagree, people will still either be largely negative or largely positive thinkers - and lets not forget that what you see as ranty or negative, may have been someome else's genuine cry for help, or looking to gather opinion.

Again not arguing or putting down your sentiment, but pragmatic realist that I am, I also know you'll not change a thing

ffs i though gemini were supposed to be split personalities!!! you for a change talk sense!!! lol only kidding you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the subject of twatty rules, the "rule" about not being able to use both a singles and couples account springs to mind, still never had a definitive answer on that one

I've seen a mod answer that question more than once tbf.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

In the subject of twatty rules, the "rule" about not being able to use both a singles and couples account springs to mind, still never had a definitive answer on that one

I've seen a mod answer that question more than once tbf. "

from my understanding its not against the rules to have a single and couples account! only to open multiple accounts to get around bans etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the subject of twatty rules, the "rule" about not being able to use both a singles and couples account springs to mind, still never had a definitive answer on that one

I've seen a mod answer that question more than once tbf.

from my understanding its not against the rules to have a single and couples account! only to open multiple accounts to get around bans etc

That's my understanding too.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

In the subject of twatty rules, the "rule" about not being able to use both a singles and couples account springs to mind, still never had a definitive answer on that one

I've seen a mod answer that question more than once tbf.

from my understanding its not against the rules to have a single and couples account! only to open multiple accounts to get around bans etc

That's my understanding too.

There isn't a rule stopping you from having a single and a couples profile, I have both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the subject of twatty rules, the "rule" about not being able to use both a singles and couples account springs to mind, still never had a definitive answer on that one

I've seen a mod answer that question more than once tbf.

from my understanding its not against the rules to have a single and couples account! only to open multiple accounts to get around bans etc

What I read was; they can't be used to deceive others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you post constructive criticism on a fab forum you will be banned from posting on forums and later your account deleted, we’re speaking from experience from our old account of 4 years that got removed, but hey the fake single guys are more important than the real swingers on fab if it’s bringing in the money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you post constructive criticism on a fab forum you will be banned from posting on forums and later your account deleted, we’re speaking from experience from our old account of 4 years that got removed, but hey the fake single guys are more important than the real swingers on fab if it’s bringing in the money

Criticism about what?

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"sadly all fab reflects is society itself! and at my age i have not got enough time left (or inclination) to try and put it right lol

What they said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A sensible post Adam?

No, I'd agree with all of this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think there is a lot of truth in this.

I’ve been banned from the forums multiple times for trying to rally the troops into being nicer to one another, only to be told I was causing unrest, when it was a result of fake accounts and crappy messages that made me post in the first place.

People just need to be nicer to one another and respect that we’re all human

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

In the subject of twatty rules, the "rule" about not being able to use both a singles and couples account springs to mind, still never had a definitive answer on that one

The mods did answer this one...

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/feedback/888122

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

" I’m sure many have fallen foul if the double standards on Fab that exists within the current moderator caste on here.

That comment itself shows you in a very different light to the one you try to portray. The moderators are all volunteers and don't deserve such abuse!

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