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By *eastAndTheHarlot OP   Couple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Now we're not rude people, if a guy messages us and sends a face pic with a nice message we will reply even if they're not for us.

It's just polite I guess.

Lately though if I turn a guy down for X reason he will tell us that no, the photo just isn't accurate.

If that photo isn't accurate then why are you sending it? It's dishonest and now I definitely don't want to meet.

I know everyone likes to send their best photos but if it's a different body shape or looks a different age then DON'T USE IT!

OK... Rant over

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Just another way to try to argue about rejection. Their problem.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

People will try everything, I had somebody ages ago send me a photo and then when I was interested and we agreed to have a chat on cam he was a completely different skin colour to the photo here showed me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been called shallow when I’ve asked for a close up photo

Sending one that shows you miles away - doesn’t help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the filters and face app things that annoy me. It’s so bloody obvious!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every picture tells a lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now we're not rude people, if a guy messages us and sends a face pic with a nice message we will reply even if they're not for us.

It's just polite I guess.

Lately though if I turn a guy down for X reason he will tell us that no, the photo just isn't accurate.

If that photo isn't accurate then why are you sending it? It's dishonest and now I definitely don't want to meet.

I know everyone likes to send their best photos but if it's a different body shape or looks a different age then DON'T USE IT!

OK... Rant over"

I agree why all my photos are recent. Past month,

I get “but babe i look better in the flesh”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every picture tells a lie "

So can words though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s the filters and face app things that annoy me. It’s so bloody obvious!!"

Shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every picture tells a lie

So can words though "

Damn right

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Or sorry, the conversation isn't doing anything for me. Oh, I'm much better in person just try me! Uh. No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s the filters and face app things that annoy me. It’s so bloody obvious!!

Shit "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or sorry, the conversation isn't doing anything for me. Oh, I'm much better in person just try me! Uh. No. "

Yeah had that

Or

Its a fuck Thats all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every picture tells a lie

So can words though "

Sadly true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My pictures make me look better than i am but i tell the truth....im fat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My pictures make me look better than i am but i tell the truth....im fat "

Yeah I think I look better in my pics to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel for ppl on here sometimes, when you're their twentieth rejection that morning it's understandable that they'll be burrhurt and try to argue, but it's not gonna do anyone any favours to engage in that..... .....delete/block and move on, but don't stress because that's perpetuating the kind of emotion you've just experienced from Mr Butthurt....

Steve x

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By *eastAndTheHarlot OP   Couple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

It's okay to look your best in pics but what I'm talking about is turning down guys because they're muscular and immediately they tell me they don't look like that anymore.

I'm pretty sure people would be pissed off if they seen my slim body in pics and I showed up being a size 18.

We all have our preference but nobody likes a liar.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't reject people for physical characteristics, if we give any reason it will be distance or mismatched criteria.

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

This is were up to date verifications are handy, I always find you get a better picture of someone than the photos that are posted.

As for me, what you see is what you get and I think my verifications confirm this xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People will try everything, I had somebody ages ago send me a photo and then when I was interested and we agreed to have a chat on cam he was a completely different skin colour to the photo here showed me."

Ive had this same thing too, completely different skin colour and much smaller in real life than he stated on his profile height wise. Daft thing is it wouldn't have bothered me it was the deception that did x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My pictures make me look better than i am but i tell the truth....im fat

Yeah I think I look better in my pics to be honest "

I take an awful photo, iv been told many times I look better in person. I'm just not photogenic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

very true just best show say how it is


"It's okay to look your best in pics but what I'm talking about is turning down guys because they're muscular and immediately they tell me they don't look like that anymore.

I'm pretty sure people would be pissed off if they seen my slim body in pics and I showed up being a size 18.

We all have our preference but nobody likes a liar. "

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’m actually 74. With all my filters I can just about pass for 43

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

I hate it when you get a guy sending face pic with those bunny ears, puppy noses or jazzy glasses. I mean..why? How is that going to make me want him?

Quite baffled by that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel for ppl on here sometimes, when you're their twentieth rejection that morning it's understandable that they'll be burrhurt and try to argue, but it's not gonna do anyone any favours to engage in that..... .....delete/block and move on, but don't stress because that's perpetuating the kind of emotion you've just experienced from Mr Butthurt....

Steve x "

I try and remember that they've probably been rejected a lot of times. Even the strongest person would have their confidence knocked by that.

It's certainly not an excuse for rudeness so I often tell them that. Sometimes they apologise and explain they just don't feel human anymore because of all the rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't reject people for physical characteristics, if we give any reason it will be distance or mismatched criteria.

"

Same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m actually 74. With all my filters I can just about pass for 43 "

Catfish

Knew it

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"I’m actually 74. With all my filters I can just about pass for 43

Catfish

Knew it "

Stop it Big Dave from Birmingham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m actually 74. With all my filters I can just about pass for 43

Catfish

Knew it

Stop it Big Dave from Birmingham "

Brian ... actually

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I don't have an issue with filters, I use them myself as think they improve the look of most pictures. I draw the line at using them to disguise anything about me or change how I look as I would be gutted if someone was disappointed I didn't look like my pics when they met me.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"Now we're not rude people, if a guy messages us and sends a face pic with a nice message we will reply even if they're not for us.

It's just polite I guess.

Lately though if I turn a guy down for X reason he will tell us that no, the photo just isn't accurate.

If that photo isn't accurate then why are you sending it? It's dishonest and now I definitely don't want to meet.

I know everyone likes to send their best photos but if it's a different body shape or looks a different age then DON'T USE IT!

OK... Rant over"

Rejection justified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see people on here and normal dating sites with photos from years ago and to be fair even 6 months ago.

Now I know that my weight can go up and down a lot in 6 months. Last year I dropped from a tight 34 waist to... A very tight 30 ( ok I'd have got in a 31, but you try finding that size )

Now within 6 months I'm back in 34" with a dad bod again.

We all try putting our best photos online, but some certainly don't show the lumps and bumps we all have. I've met up with people and been shocked how they don't look at all like their photos ( some good, some bad )

Maybe it's an idea to have a video chat before meeting up?

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Best policy is to actually look like your pics and send recent ones on request...especially if there have been some changes from older ones. No one likes fake advertising.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't look good in pics

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By *eastAndTheHarlot OP   Couple
over a year ago

Hartlepool


"I don't look good in pics "

We've just seen your profile.. you definitely do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't look good in pics "

Look ok in the 2 I see

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I don't look good in pics

We've just seen your profile.. you definitely do "

That's because you can't see my face

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By *eastAndTheHarlot OP   Couple
over a year ago

Hartlepool


"I don't look good in pics

We've just seen your profile.. you definitely do

That's because you can't see my face "

You're welcome to try and prove is wrong, but the photos you do have up are lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't have an issue with filters, I use them myself as think they improve the look of most pictures. I draw the line at using them to disguise anything about me or change how I look as I would be gutted if someone was disappointed I didn't look like my pics when they met me."

I'm the same, I like crayons and paints, so I'm going to be drawn to dip my pics in a bit of colour. I'd never use them to pull in or out parts of my body. It clearly states on my profile my dress sizes, granted the majority do struggle with words. I can only allow for so much, beyond that I'm me in or out of my pictures.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Best policy is to actually look like your pics and send recent ones on request...especially if there have been some changes from older ones. No one likes fake advertising."

Absolutely. I update my pictures regularly, and delete the old ones, for that very reason.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Before I meet someone I always ask for a face pic then follow up with a cheeky “will I recognise you when I walk in”

I’ve been lucky pics are true to the person, no point hiding who you really are to anyone you plan meeting

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

To be fair most of my pics are ancient and I really do need to make time to take some new ones. That said, I usually send a fresh face pic with messages so no one should gat any mast surprises.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best policy is to actually look like your pics and send recent ones on request...especially if there have been some changes from older ones. No one likes fake advertising.

Absolutely. I update my pictures regularly, and delete the old ones, for that very reason. "

Why i do too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best policy is to actually look like your pics and send recent ones on request...especially if there have been some changes from older ones. No one likes fake advertising.

Absolutely. I update my pictures regularly, and delete the old ones, for that very reason. "

Me too. My ones last year were much better. But misleading as I’ve put weight on so I changed them all.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm really sorry..I really do look like my latest pictures lol

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

All my pics are recent and I've been told I look like them. I may hide some of my wobbly bits but basically what you see is who I am. I can't see the point of not being honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (mr) am a Graphic Designer. When ever we get pics sent I study them.

Checking if they have been edited in anyway (and if you know what you are looking for you can tell) but most importantly - usually when we get the out of the blue message from a woman - reverse image search.

If I am not sure I ask for others, or a love verification. Normally always s out the fakers.

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