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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive read that people have been ghosted a fair bit, but call me Mr naive what does that mean?

I replied to a couple and have been messaging, things seemed to be going well. Even was asked for a social meet which i thought went well. Messages continued after for a few days, then allbof a sudden nothing. Nothing being sent or read. Have i had my 1st experience of ghosting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive read that people have been ghosted a fair bit, but call me Mr naive what does that mean?

I replied to a couple and have been messaging, things seemed to be going well. Even was asked for a social meet which i thought went well. Messages continued after for a few days, then allbof a sudden nothing. Nothing being sent or read. Have i had my 1st experience of ghosting?"

Sounds like you have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems so...but yes ghosting is where they literally become a ghost and disappear. Not a great trait for anyone to have in my opinion.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

yes you have been ghosted. Its a fairly common occurence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes you have been ghosted. Its a fairly common occurence"

There is a support team on the support forums if you want to talk to someone about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get ghosted all the time on here and chat apps.. I'm surprised it is ur first time OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres a ghost in my house

And I cant hide

She keeps on haunting me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive read that people have been ghosted a fair bit, but call me Mr naive what does that mean?

I replied to a couple and have been messaging, things seemed to be going well. Even was asked for a social meet which i thought went well. Messages continued after for a few days, then allbof a sudden nothing. Nothing being sent or read. Have i had my 1st experience of ghosting?"

I would say no. Ghosting to me, is when you are actually meeting in person... not in a random social/meet capacity, but more of a dating/relationship or even an fwb type dynamic and then they go quiet. Losing interest on fab, when you are just at the messaging/social stage, would not be regarded as ghosted in my opinion. Feelings need to be involved.

Holly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes it was first time being ghosted. Only had a few meets since joining. I was gutted because they were just what i was looking for.

But i wont lose sleep over it. Just wish that people would be more honest. I can take rejection as i maybe not everyones cup of tea, just dont like being taken for a mug

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"Ive read that people have been ghosted a fair bit, but call me Mr naive what does that mean?

I replied to a couple and have been messaging, things seemed to be going well. Even was asked for a social meet which i thought went well. Messages continued after for a few days, then allbof a sudden nothing. Nothing being sent or read. Have i had my 1st experience of ghosting?

I would say no. Ghosting to me, is when you are actually meeting in person... not in a random social/meet capacity, but more of a dating/relationship or even an fwb type dynamic and then they go quiet. Losing interest on fab, when you are just at the messaging/social stage, would not be regarded as ghosted in my opinion. Feelings need to be involved.

Holly "

I agree. Happened to me after 7mths. It wasnt just a fwb, it was the good stuff, which makes it so much harder to ever understand. If your done with me, fine, just say, I'm a big girl. Anything would of been better than the nothingness, even if it wasnt what I wanted to hear. No news isnt always good news lol

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Here I see it differently tho. If you were in a bar and chatted to a bloke, does that mean you then have to say hello and chat to him everytime you see him?

Thst is up until you get to the point of arranging a meet...then I just get stood up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive read that people have been ghosted a fair bit, but call me Mr naive what does that mean?

I replied to a couple and have been messaging, things seemed to be going well. Even was asked for a social meet which i thought went well. Messages continued after for a few days, then allbof a sudden nothing. Nothing being sent or read. Have i had my 1st experience of ghosting?"

That's not ghosting ... thats just rude!

Ghosting is when you're in an actual relationship with a person and they go suddenly awol with no explanation at all! It's emotionally horrendous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its very childish if people aren’t at least honest or they just sulk. Icedgem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a ghost tonight. At the meet he simply never responded no more.

Hard luck though as I was sat with a sexy Caribbean beauty. Ha ha.

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By *miles4himandmeCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Theres a ghost in my house

And I cant hide

She keeps on haunting me...."
R Dean Taylor

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's standard fab terms that no reply or contact means there's no further interest. Even if contact went beyond fab, it's likely still to be the same.

Everyone should be used to or understand this in fab, due to the site terms - but it's less usual in the wider world, hence this term gaining awareness upon it.

Spread your interest widely and assume that most people who you chat with you will not meet and even fewer will you fuck. A much smaller number will be repeat fuck buddies.

Get used to being dropped without any details or farewell message.

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