FabSwingers.com forum: My Friday rant

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m so fucked off

My ‘bio dad’ who kicked me, my mum, and my brother out when I was two, has got photos of me and my brother on Facebook. Which he’s taken from my profile, somehow, despite it being extremely private.

Can’t go into too much detail but he’s a horrible, nasty piece of scum. We have always had the choice in seeing him (my brother is 15 months younger than me) but because of everything that happened when we were wee, we chose not too. He made no effort whatsoever. Nine years ago he messaged me out the blue, but I told him I didn’t want to hear any of it. He tried a lot of guilt tripping, but nope, didn’t work on this smart gal.

In April 2017, shortly after me and C got married, he took photos from our wedding day and put them on his Facebook. Coincidentally, C’s mum had to do a few shifts in another store, where he was. Which is the only reason I found out he had taken my photos.

So at the time, I messaged and told him to delete them. He did.

Turns out he’s had these ‘new photos’ on his profile since October of the same year! So fuck it, despite me telling him to get them off, he’s shoved them back on. With loads more photos of all his other kids (he’s still having kids with women younger than me; he’s in his fifties now). He’s even made a collage of us all together; cute right?!

The only reason I know about this is because my mum was talking about exes with my dad the other night, so had a Facebook search for him. She phoned me in tears tonight, wondering if me and my brother have been in contact. I told her at the time (nine years ago) he had messaged me, asking for me and my brother. My brother is autistic (the reason we got kicked out when I was two!) and I never told him. I confirmed neither of us have spoken to him again. So she’s fuming as well.

Ughhhhhh.

I’ve messaged again saying to take my photos down.

But I’m so angry arghhhhh.

Just needed to rant.

Please continue with your joyous Fridays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Families

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By *lltogethernowMan
over a year ago

Brighton

It's good to rant sometimes

Especially how you feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

it’s the fucking collage photos that get me; I’ve never met these fuckers

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

Sorry to say if you join social media. Your get fucked by social media!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I'm not sure how Facebook works, can't you block him so he can't take the pictures? Or is he getting someone else to get them for him?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not sure how Facebook works, can't you block him so he can't take the pictures? Or is he getting someone else to get them for him? "

He’s getting someone else. After the episode in April I blocked him. One of the photos of me was taken in September that year. I had to unblock him tonight to message him

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I'm not sure how Facebook works, can't you block him so he can't take the pictures? Or is he getting someone else to get them for him?

He’s getting someone else. After the episode in April I blocked him. One of the photos of me was taken in September that year. I had to unblock him tonight to message him"

Gotcha, that would piss me off more, knowing that someone was being the middle man and passing the pics on to him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not sure how Facebook works, can't you block him so he can't take the pictures? Or is he getting someone else to get them for him?

He’s getting someone else. After the episode in April I blocked him. One of the photos of me was taken in September that year. I had to unblock him tonight to message him

Gotcha, that would piss me off more, knowing that someone was being the middle man and passing the pics on to him."

I can’t even think who it would be; nobody knows his name, our last names aren’t the same. Which means it’s possibly someone in my extended family, who does know him. Ugh

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By *heBirminghamWeekendMan
over a year ago

here

Facebook

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm not sure how Facebook works, can't you block him so he can't take the pictures? Or is he getting someone else to get them for him?

He’s getting someone else. After the episode in April I blocked him. One of the photos of me was taken in September that year. I had to unblock him tonight to message him"

I don't think you can deal with people like him. It looks as if he's spinning a social media life designed to make his real life appear very different to how it really is.

I think you're going to have to think carefully about any pictures you put up from now on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can report the pic to Facebook and say he doesn’t have your permission. Hopefully they will remove them then x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm not sure how Facebook works, can't you block him so he can't take the pictures? Or is he getting someone else to get them for him?

He’s getting someone else. After the episode in April I blocked him. One of the photos of me was taken in September that year. I had to unblock him tonight to message him

Gotcha, that would piss me off more, knowing that someone was being the middle man and passing the pics on to him.

I can’t even think who it would be; nobody knows his name, our last names aren’t the same. Which means it’s possibly someone in my extended family, who does know him. Ugh"

This was my first thought or a "friend"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not sure how Facebook works, can't you block him so he can't take the pictures? Or is he getting someone else to get them for him?

He’s getting someone else. After the episode in April I blocked him. One of the photos of me was taken in September that year. I had to unblock him tonight to message him

I don't think you can deal with people like him. It looks as if he's spinning a social media life designed to make his real life appear very different to how it really is.

I think you're going to have to think carefully about any pictures you put up from now on. "

I’m thinking whoever it is I’ve removed as a friend; he hasn’t got any new photos of me or my brother since 2017, but all his other children he has very recent photos of

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can report the pic to Facebook and say he doesn’t have your permission. Hopefully they will remove them then x "

I’ve done that as well. Thank you x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"You can report the pic to Facebook and say he doesn’t have your permission. Hopefully they will remove them then x "

This

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By *eclanHMan
over a year ago

Liphook

I’m sorry to hear. That’s fucked up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He’s removed them

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"He’s removed them

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I also have a Toxic parent so I can completely empathise

Yeah Facebook will remove any images you're in from his profile if asked. If they don't do it then you should escalate it.

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