FabSwingers.com forum: Men who have lady pics on their profile

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm struggling to understand why men post images of ladies they have played with on their profile. Well done, you have scored? She's fit you're punching way above your category? Will other ladies and couples be impressed? Anyone have an idea, I don't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘Look!!!!! I’ve had sex with someone who probably doesn’t know I’ve put their photo on the internet!!!!!!’

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By *019ReadyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"‘Look!!!!! I’ve had sex with someone who probably doesn’t know I’ve put their photo on the internet!!!!!!’"

This!

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Are these photos proof of their sexual prowess?

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By *heeky-gingerWoman
over a year ago

Not meeting

"‘Look!!!!! I’ve had sex with someone who probably doesn’t know I’ve put their photo on the internet!!!!!!’"

Exactly this

It’s a very good way to advertise that you probably aren’t someone who respects boundaries! It’s also against the site rules I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah. Find it kinda creepy to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not impressed. And I wouldn't meet them either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"‘Look!!!!! I’ve had sex with someone who probably doesn’t know I’ve put their photo on the internet!!!!!!’"

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By *axwellCouple
over a year ago

south lakes

Why would you put pictures of women/men on fab that you have indulge with without them knowing !!??

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Half the time you never even see more than bits of his cock..younwouldnt even know of it was actually the profile holder at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thought so, a bit 'Yay, I've scored' but so unlikely to be trusted again. What happens in Vegas etc, unless all parties wish to share their experience online, which obviously needs permission. Why would you? Bizarre!

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By *axwellCouple
over a year ago

south lakes

"Thought so, a bit 'Yay, I've scored' but so unlikely to be trusted again. What happens in Vegas etc, unless all parties wish to share their experience online, which obviously needs permission. Why would you? Bizarre!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't care what you think.

Why only men? plenty of couples do the same(ie not their partners)and women, are they bragging or just free from criticism?

If it makes me less a prospective shag, I dont really give a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*like to add, never have I posted a pic without consent.

*I might be in pics of some of my past meets profiles

*You can pigeon hole people for their profile content without knowing about the people in questions motivations for posting such imagery,sounds fair.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I really don't care what you think.

Why only men? plenty of couples do the same(ie not their partners)and women, are they bragging or just free from criticism?

If it makes me less a prospective shag, I dont really give a fuck."

Okay, I think? Haven't seen couples doing this but won't argue. My point was I don't understand why anyone would. It's a sex site so sex is kinda expected during a meet. My sole point was why they post pics of others on their own profile?

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By *erDirtyRockstarMan
over a year ago

buckinghamshire

"Why can't everyone be cool and respect each other" - by someone, pre social media.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't care what you think.

Why only men? plenty of couples do the same(ie not their partners)and women, are they bragging or just free from criticism?

If it makes me less a prospective shag, I dont really give a fuck.

here is the scenario:

a couple meets another couple, they all have sex and agree to film/photograph it. each couple posts pics of their play within the rules of the site.

so are they bragging they've met another hot couple? maybe, maybe not.

Now why would that be different for me as a single male, following the same rules as the couples?

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

"I really don't care what you think.

Why only men? plenty of couples do the same(ie not their partners)and women, are they bragging or just free from criticism?

If it makes me less a prospective shag, I dont really give a fuck.

This might be a sex site, but I make it clear to people I'm meeting that sex is not a given.

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By *erDirtyRockstarMan
over a year ago

buckinghamshire

Sex site = fair share of nutbars. No further discussion required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Massive turn off, i usually ignore those messages x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd also say I've never used any single females as some form of bargaining chip to get a meet with either a couple or girl(or to attend a party).

I've had couples ask before if I could bring someone they've seen in the pics(possibly read a verify),I always direct them to their profile.

Sorry OP, I just think it's a bit easy to attack the low hanging fruit.

This has been asked over the 10 years I've been on fab and nobody ever addresses it:

If you post a pic of another on your profile, you follow the rules and have consent.Regardless of your gender or marital status.

Some people will judge,others wont.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Even if sex occurs, posting pics online surely needs consent?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if sex occurs, posting pics online surely needs consent?"

If you post a pic of another on your profile, you follow the rules and have consent.Regardless of your gender or marital status.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I don’t know why they do it but it does nothing for me.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I'm not sure if you have to be impressed? There are different reasons. For example some may have photos of them may in a 3 some, to express that they are happy with group play, experienced and genuine. Some people are just proud of their adventures. Some may just like the photos as they capture in a sweet moment. I don't think on a swinging site people should be abashed by the concept someone is having sex with others as long as it's done with respect. Its simply part of people putting their wares on sale, like it or be put off by it thats up to you. I assume you feel the same about ladies profiles that show them with men and would not message them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t get this either. Instant block for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a turn off for me

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"I'm struggling to understand why men post images of ladies they have played with on their profile. Well done, you have scored? She's fit you're punching way above your category? Will other ladies and couples be impressed? Anyone have an idea, I don't?

Haha I know ! Even more strange when the whole pic is the woman and her lovely body with maybe a hand or just the cock of the man !!

Maybe to get them on hotpics or something ?

Personally it’s an instant turn off for me

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

It doesn’t bother me, it’s their profile and as long as they have consent?

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Haha I know ! Even more strange when the whole pic is the woman and her lovely body with maybe a hand or just the cock of the man !!

Maybe to get them on hotpics or something ?

Personally it’s an instant turn off for me "

Me too. Instant turn off. I just think yuk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never understood this either. That’s always been an instant delete for me, no matter if I liked them or not. Total turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if sex occurs, posting pics online surely needs consent?

If you post a pic of another on your profile, you follow the rules and have consent.Regardless of your gender or marital status."

Not everyone has consent. Most of the men who I've asked who the woman is in their photos, have said it's their ex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if sex occurs, posting pics online surely needs consent?

If you post a pic of another on your profile, you follow the rules and have consent.Regardless of your gender or marital status.

Not everyone has consent. Most of the men who I've asked who the woman is in their photos, have said it's their ex. "

Yeah especially if there’s no condom! Oh that’s my ex

. Okaaaaaaaayyyyy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if sex occurs, posting pics online surely needs consent?

If you post a pic of another on your profile, you follow the rules and have consent.Regardless of your gender or marital status.

Not everyone has consent. Most of the men who I've asked who the woman is in their photos, have said it's their ex. "

True and I bet the ex doesn’t even know their pic is being used

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By *ddit...Man
over a year ago

Land of the giants... ;-)

I'm thinking when a bloke does this it's even more basic.

They are proving they are actually physically able to have sex.

Which I guess can be taken as a positive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm thinking when a bloke does this it's even more basic.

They are proving they are actually physically able to have sex.

Which I guess can be taken as a positive?

Hmmmm

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I don’t like it either.

It’s usually a woman’s body and a man’s hand.

I don’t want to see it really, it does put me off.

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Have to say this is the same other way round) with some ladies on here and also quite a lot of couples have photos of others. These are all off putting to us.

Mr2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not my thing at all..

Why would i want to see some random woman sucking on a prospective meets cock? No thanks

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By *ddit...Man
over a year ago

Land of the giants... ;-)

"I'm thinking when a bloke does this it's even more basic.

They are proving they are actually physically able to have sex.

Which I guess can be taken as a positive?

Hmmmm

Morning shortish.. the sarcasm slipped out of me... tucked it back in now.. xx

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Even if sex occurs, posting pics online surely needs consent?

If you post a pic of another on your profile, you follow the rules and have consent.Regardless of your gender or marital status.

Not everyone has consent. Most of the men who I've asked who the woman is in their photos, have said it's their ex.

Yeah especially if there’s no condom! Oh that’s my ex

. Okaaaaaaaayyyyy"

Pmsl - yeah with pics of at least 4 different women too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see one, I avoid that person no matter how nice they may or may not be....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm thinking when a bloke does this it's even more basic.

They are proving they are actually physically able to have sex.

Which I guess can be taken as a positive?

Hmmmm

Morning shortish.. the sarcasm slipped out of me... tucked it back in now.. xx

Morning Audit I should think so too ... but your forgiven... xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no idea why men do this. It's the biggest turn-off to me (along with the ubiquitous cock pics)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't bother me.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Depends on the photo quality and the number of pics. If the photos are done well (like Keenphotographers) then i find them erotic because it looks sexy.

But if it’s just a badly taken photo of someone having their cock sucked it does nothing for me. If they have other non action shots then i’m ok with that.

If it seems to be action shots with the same woman then i’ll probably skip them, as they are peacocking.

I’ve had a blowjob pic on my profile - why? Because i know men like to see that sort of thing as they are visually aroused by it, and i enjoy making men hard.

I don’t think people post them for any reason than they think the photos are hot to them, and someone else may enjoy them.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

What about women showing people they can out a penis in their mouth?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bragging rights/trying to prove they're worth their weight.

Unless it's either an amazing photo of them (I'm guilty of this one, because I have an image up from a shoot I did for a mates site/products) or it's kink related, there isn't really a reason for someone else to be in a photo on here

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

It annoys me more on couples profiles, at least if it's a guys profile I know he's the one with the penis. On some couples profiles I find myself having to scrutinise the pics to figure out who the male half is, especially if there's loads of group shots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't care what you think.

Why only men? plenty of couples do the same(ie not their partners)and women, are they bragging or just free from criticism?

If it makes me less a prospective shag, I dont really give a fuck.

You can’t look at many couples profiles! Loads have pics of two women together or a guy and presumably the female half. You tend to presume the partner is behind the camera.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It annoys me more on couples profiles, at least if it's a guys profile I know he's the one with the penis. On some couples profiles I find myself having to scrutinise the pics to figure out who the male half is, especially if there's loads of group shots."

There playing the game " Guess Who" the penis version

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There playing the game " Guess Who" the penis version

I’m copywriting that as a new adult after dinner game. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost as daft as people who have pictures of their pets on Tinder...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if sex occurs, posting pics online surely needs consent?"

Fully agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit that it puts me off.

It's worse when it's their avatar.

But it is a case of... it's their profile and they can do what they please with it.

I got a load of abuse the other day for saying I wasnt meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if sex occurs, posting pics online surely needs consent?

If you post a pic of another on your profile, you follow the rules and have consent.Regardless of your gender or marital status.

Not everyone has consent. Most of the men who I've asked who the woman is in their photos, have said it's their ex.

True and I bet the ex doesn’t even know their pic is being used

Nope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Almost as daft as people who have pictures of their pets on Tinder..."

Or even worse, their offspring.

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By *hocoholicWoman
over a year ago

The big D

1st appearances & all that jazz, yup it’s a huge turn off, I don’t mind if there’s a small percentage in there profile but as their profile pic, nope & Iv a feeling majority percentage of d gals haven’t given their consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There playing the game " Guess Who" the penis version

I’m copywriting that as a new adult after dinner game. Thanks

Just send the royalty payments in cake every month

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Almost as daft as people who have pictures of their pets on Tinder...

Or even worse, their offspring. "

Yes! Totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Almost as daft as people who have pictures of their pets on Tinder...

Or even worse, their offspring. "

This happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Almost as daft as people who have pictures of their pets on Tinder...

Or even worse, their offspring.

This happens

Yes it 100% happens!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Have to say this is the same other way round) with some ladies on here and also quite a lot of couples have photos of others. These are all off putting to us.

Mr2

I have a pic of me and a woman to show I'm bi and a pic of me and two men to show I enjoy group sex. I have the permission of the other people to post them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't care what you think.

Why only men? plenty of couples do the same(ie not their partners)and women, are they bragging or just free from criticism?

If it makes me less a prospective shag, I dont really give a fuck.

If your point is why would anyone do it then I suggest you think about how you title your threads, as this one clearly states men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if sex occurs, posting pics online surely needs consent?

If you post a pic of another on your profile, you follow the rules and have consent.Regardless of your gender or marital status."

And how would you prove consent, were someone to turn nasty

Action shots smack of "I feel the need to prove Ive had sex"

Vulgar, crass and a little bit sad

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

It’s a blue peter moment for one. Here’s one I made earlier as they can remember whether they stole the photo or gained the permission of the person to use it

Regardless it’s also against the rules of fab in the first place. But hey what the fuck if they won’t verify you sure just put up the hidden camera photos to prove you had sexi times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if sex occurs, posting pics online surely needs consent?

If you post a pic of another on your profile, you follow the rules and have consent.Regardless of your gender or marital status.

And how would you prove consent, were someone to turn nasty

Action shots smack of "I feel the need to prove Ive had sex"

Vulgar, crass and a little bit sad"

please dont assume that you are correct as some form of fact, whether you think it's vulgar,crass or sad.

by your own statement one could say it's a bit vulgar that you have a shot of you partially unclothed as your avatar- why not just be clothed?- now that isn't a fair judgement is it?

Fab does not ask you to prove consent was asked, it has a common sense feature built in that will assume those in pictures are over the age of 18 and have consented.

As I previously stated, the rules are that you can have other people in your pictures as long as they cannot be identified, and this is not tailored towards any particular group.

Whether you agree with it is irrelevant,whether you like it is irrelevant.

If anything was to go nasty- ie revenge porn, you contact the police as fab can do fuck all about it really.

I hope you are not being gender specific to who can post imagery on an adult based site, which pretty much encourages its users by rewarding them with more pictures for the users account and there is also different categories of 'vulgarity', you feel that you can say a man or woman(or couple) who have an action shot are just proving that they can have sex?- or are you just being gender specific?

If you don't like action shots fine, no need to judge others as crass,vulgar nor sad.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Anyone I have on my profile knows about it, in fact, they posted the picture first. The worst is meeting a couple and suddenly they pull out a camera which if they mention it beforehand I would have declined. the point being you can always find stuff to moan about. This is more common with couples.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

This has needed saying.

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

"I'm not impressed. And I wouldn't meet them either."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *agmanMan
over a year ago

Cockermouth

The one thing that comes through in all these comments is that people on here are getting so bloody opinionated and quite arrogant!

It's beginning to feel like facebook where everybody gets offended everytime the wind changes.

"I wouldn't meet them because of it.........."

"are they just trying to show off that the've had sex?"

How on earth do you know why that person put that pic up?

It could be for hundreds of reasons that they thought it applicable - hundreds of reasons that you have no idea about.

I had rather a nasty situation just recently - where i contacted a couple i had messaged before, in response to their request for a meet - to say that myself and a friend were available - and you know the friend xxxxxxxx " .

They immediately replied to say we don't condone you two having a conversation about us - and goodbye! Then proceeded to block everybody.

errrrr........we didn't have a conversation about you.......we have never spoke about you to each other.

They then updated their status to tell the whole of fabworld that they cannot trust people any longer ffs!

Myself and the other guy had never ever discussed them - ever!

How did i know that they knew my friend?

Via their veris's on their own profile.

Assumptions...........they make an ass out of u and me!

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By *YC SausageMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I actually never though of it like that! I have permission from the lady in my pics but I think your right. It’s all about respect, trust and discretion.

My pics were all in the “friends photos” part but have now been removed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The one thing that comes through in all these comments is that people on here are getting so bloody opinionated and quite arrogant!

It's beginning to feel like facebook where everybody gets offended everytime the wind changes.

"I wouldn't meet them because of it.........."

"are they just trying to show off that the've had sex?"

How on earth do you know why that person put that pic up?

It could be for hundreds of reasons that they thought it applicable - hundreds of reasons that you have no idea about.

They immediately replied to say we don't condone you two having a conversation about us - and goodbye! Then proceeded to block everybody.

errrrr........we didn't have a conversation about you.......we have never spoke about you to each other.

They then updated their status to tell the whole of fabworld that they cannot trust people any longer ffs!

Myself and the other guy had never ever discussed them - ever!

How did i know that they knew my friend?

Via their veris's on their own profile.

Assumptions...........they make an ass out of u and me!

So you offered to meet them with another man but you hadn't asked the other man about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started off as singles.

We both have pics of each other on our singles profiles. Those pics are part of our journey to where we are now, they are a snapshot of our memories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if sex occurs, posting pics online surely needs consent?

If you post a pic of another on your profile, you follow the rules and have consent.Regardless of your gender or marital status.

And how would you prove consent, were someone to turn nasty

Action shots smack of "I feel the need to prove Ive had sex"

Vulgar, crass and a little bit sad

please dont assume that you are correct as some form of fact, whether you think it's vulgar,crass or sad.

by your own statement one could say it's a bit vulgar that you have a shot of you partially unclothed as your avatar- why not just be clothed?- now that isn't a fair judgement is it?

Fab does not ask you to prove consent was asked, it has a common sense feature built in that will assume those in pictures are over the age of 18 and have consented.

As I previously stated, the rules are that you can have other people in your pictures as long as they cannot be identified, and this is not tailored towards any particular group.

Whether you agree with it is irrelevant,whether you like it is irrelevant.

If anything was to go nasty- ie revenge porn, you contact the police as fab can do fuck all about it really.

If you don't like action shots fine, no need to judge others as crass,vulgar nor sad.

Yeah oakie doke

You know as well as I do that most guys that have pics of them hanging outta some woman, do not have consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if sex occurs, posting pics online surely needs consent?

If you post a pic of another on your profile, you follow the rules and have consent.Regardless of your gender or marital status.

And how would you prove consent, were someone to turn nasty

Action shots smack of "I feel the need to prove Ive had sex"

Vulgar, crass and a little bit sad

please dont assume that you are correct as some form of fact, whether you think it's vulgar,crass or sad.

by your own statement one could say it's a bit vulgar that you have a shot of you partially unclothed as your avatar- why not just be clothed?- now that isn't a fair judgement is it?

Fab does not ask you to prove consent was asked, it has a common sense feature built in that will assume those in pictures are over the age of 18 and have consented.

As I previously stated, the rules are that you can have other people in your pictures as long as they cannot be identified, and this is not tailored towards any particular group.

Whether you agree with it is irrelevant,whether you like it is irrelevant.

If anything was to go nasty- ie revenge porn, you contact the police as fab can do fuck all about it really.

If you don't like action shots fine, no need to judge others as crass,vulgar nor sad.

Yeah oakie doke

You know as well as I do that most guys that have pics of them hanging outta some woman, do not have consent.

I don't really concern myself with what others do.Though if I see a couples profile where theres 4 female arses shown(I don't know if they are all on fab or consented), I just think they had a great night I rather than showoffs,vulgar or sad.

Though, I'd still ask the question if it is more acceptable that women/couples have others in their pics that means they are excluded from the OPs criticism or given automatic approval.

We can't have one group being criticized over another because of some might be doing something perceivably wrong in someone's opinion.

Personally,I find quite a few of the comments in the thread quite opinionated and judgemental about what others should/shouldn't have on their profiles.

Not exactly unheard of from the forums of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We started off as singles.

We both have pics of each other on our singles profiles. Those pics are part of our journey to where we are now, they are a snapshot of our memories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if sex occurs, posting pics online surely needs consent?

If you post a pic of another on your profile, you follow the rules and have consent.Regardless of your gender or marital status.

And how would you prove consent, were someone to turn nasty

Action shots smack of "I feel the need to prove Ive had sex"

Vulgar, crass and a little bit sad

please dont assume that you are correct as some form of fact, whether you think it's vulgar,crass or sad.

by your own statement one could say it's a bit vulgar that you have a shot of you partially unclothed as your avatar- why not just be clothed?- now that isn't a fair judgement is it?

Fab does not ask you to prove consent was asked, it has a common sense feature built in that will assume those in pictures are over the age of 18 and have consented.

As I previously stated, the rules are that you can have other people in your pictures as long as they cannot be identified, and this is not tailored towards any particular group.

Whether you agree with it is irrelevant,whether you like it is irrelevant.

If anything was to go nasty- ie revenge porn, you contact the police as fab can do fuck all about it really.

If you don't like action shots fine, no need to judge others as crass,vulgar nor sad.

Yeah oakie doke

You know as well as I do that most guys that have pics of them hanging outta some woman, do not have consent.

Though, I'd still ask the question if it is more acceptable that women/couples have others in their pics that means they are excluded from the OPs criticism or given automatic approval.

We can't have one group being criticized over another because of some might be doing something perceivably wrong in someone's opinion.

Personally,I find quite a few of the comments in the thread quite opinionated and judgemental about what others should/shouldn't have on their profiles.

Not exactly unheard of from the forums of course.

I’m not at all judgemental about what people do as it doesn’t affect me but if I’m involved then yes I’m Queen judge and yes I would just delete straight away without even looking at anything else. May not bother other people, it bothers me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's the guy with a partner and it's obvious he is the main subject of the pic it's totally understandable. What we find as totally disrespectful is when the only part of him (if any) is parts of fingers, a little of a leg, or the tip of his cock poking in from the edge. The actual subject of the pic is not him.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Why worry what others do with their profile op,

folk may offer an opinion why they have in reality the only person who could answer your question is the person whos profile it is.. have you asked them? Why do some couples have them, some single women in fact its likely some in every category has.. don't like them move on to a profile that does interest.

Consent is very rarely mentioned about guys in other folks pictures needing consent.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I have seen some single women's profile where a man has his hand on her knee with the top of her stockings showing and I think that's quite sexy and when I get time to meet again I would ask the man I'm meeting if he would be prepared to stage this photo for my profile.

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Have to say this is the same other way round) with some ladies on here and also quite a lot of couples have photos of others. These are all off putting to us.

Mr2

I have a pic of me and a woman to show I'm bi and a pic of me and two men to show I enjoy group sex. I have the permission of the other people to post them. "

Don't you think that being bi would show on your written part of your profile and also Group sex would show under you're likes/tastes. Also in your verifications. We prefer to see the person whose profile it is in the photos and not anyone else.

Of course you are entitled to show any photo you like which we understand but everyone is different and can have their own preferences.

Mr2

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By *ltcouple666Couple
over a year ago

cheshire

"‘Look!!!!! I’ve had sex with someone who probably doesn’t know I’ve put their photo on the internet!!!!!!’

Exactly this

It’s a very good way to advertise that you probably aren’t someone who respects boundaries! It’s also against the site rules I think"

Yes it's really off putting

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By *agmanMan
over a year ago

Cockermouth

Assumptions...........they make an ass out of u and me!

So you offered to meet them with another man but you hadn't asked the other man about it? "

lol........there you go again.....making assumptions.........

Do you not know your friends? Do you not know what they are up for or would be happy to get involved in?

Ok......i'll tell you how it went.

I put up a status and a meet request for a specific day. Me looking for company for the afternoon / evening.

Both the other parties in the scenario checked me out. I can see this, 'cos of the 'Who's looked at me' facility on your profile page.

My friend then got in touch with me, via here - to say........."by the way, if you get any response - i'm always available to help out if anyone wants another".

Not the first time we have shared group fun with this guy. He's a friend.

Later on i messaged the couple to say something like "if you're up for it......me and my friend are also up for it...and by the way, you know him already etc......."

At no time at all have my friend or I talked about that particular couple and discussed or compared notes or made arrangements to meet that specific couple.

If, after a meet had been arranged and the subject of 'A. N. Other' had been discussed - and they were still up for it. And all parties were still up for it........then that would have been the time to make details known to all concerned. And..in this particular case - no-one would really have had the need to explain 'details' -' cos they all already knew each other!

If they had not been up for it....then there would have been a message to my friend to say......."Sorry, but, not tonight........"

Not every body has to swing like you. We are allowed to have our own flexibilities, preferences, scenarios or roles.

Flexibility in approach.

Relax............it's supposed to be fun.