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Organized v disorganized sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have found to my surprise that sexual encounters on Fab are actually very organized affairs.

They have strongly proscribed movements, just like a waltz or foxtrot, and when I come to think about it are quite different compared to the encounters off fab, which are more improvisational.

Has anyone else found this to be their experience?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I liken it to a 1,2,3,4 a 1,2,3,4 count compared to House of Pains Jump around!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

No I've not found that, if people try to plan what will happen with me its a turn off and I probably wouldn't meet them. I like things to develop more naturally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No I've not found that, if people try to plan what will happen with me its a turn off and I probably wouldn't meet them. I like things to develop more naturally. "
I find there is a bit too much spelling out for my liking. Which hinders that lovely flow of 'disorganization' if you get my drift?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends i usually like to plan but the last time i met anyone on monday something spontaneous and unexpected happened and it really blew my mind

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It depends i usually like to plan but the last time i met anyone on monday something spontaneous and unexpected happened and it really blew my mind"
Without getting into the details, in a good way I hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends i usually like to plan but the last time i met anyone on monday something spontaneous and unexpected happened and it really blew my mindWithout getting into the details, in a good way I hope."
awesome way was pure magic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to do it both ways.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It depends i usually like to plan but the last time i met anyone on monday something spontaneous and unexpected happened and it really blew my mindWithout getting into the details, in a good way I hope.awesome way was pure magic"
Great!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like to do it both ways. "
The best of both worlds, go for it!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to do it both ways. The best of both worlds, go for it!!!"

Why not, some things you can plan and some things take you by surprise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like to do it both ways. The best of both worlds, go for it!!!

Why not, some things you can plan and some things take you by surprise. "
I guess, I'm seeking more surprises!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Found exactly the same thing tbh I really don't like prescribed anything let alone sex! Makes it mechanical and rather boring...

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We certainly find it works best if we can all find our way to the same location.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind of get I think...?

Like with my current meet we tend to talk about what we might like to try next time. Those things might not happen but they're on the cards.

Whereas I'm having a thing with someone I work with. We had sex for the first time on Monday and we didn't plan it at all, it just happened.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Found exactly the same thing tbh I really don't like prescribed anything let alone sex! Makes it mechanical and rather boring... "
So I am not alone in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We certainly find it works best if we can all find our way to the same location. "
I understand that, that has to be arranged on here. It's the lack of spontanaeity that might be the 'issue' generally on most profiles. which when added to an overly organized 'happening' tends to make things pretty dull.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate planny meets.

It takes out all of the fun for me.

I don't like plans in general to be honest - if I've had a night out planned for ages - I almost always want to cancel it.

Spontaneous is always better for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hate planny meets.

It takes out all of the fun for me.

I don't like plans in general to be honest - if I've had a night out planned for ages - I almost always want to cancel it.

Spontaneous is always better for me.

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I totally agree!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I suppose it depends how and whom you play with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I suppose it depends how and whom you play with. "
I think you said it in one!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I like meets to be planned after taking time to get to know the person, planned sexual activities? No chance, just go with the flow, the guys that are all mouth? Are just that in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like meets to be planned after taking time to get to know the person, planned sexual activities? No chance, just go with the flow, the guys that are all mouth? Are just that in my opinion "
Explain that a bit more clearly for us. I'm not trying to be rude in asking, just seeking to understand that better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like meets to be planned after taking time to get to know the person, planned sexual activities? No chance, just go with the flow, the guys that are all mouth? Are just that in my opinion Explain that a bit more clearly for us. I'm not trying to be rude in asking, just seeking to understand that better."
One of the things I think you are saying is the talkers are just that, talkers, and from my perspective I would have to agree.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like meets to be planned after taking time to get to know the person, planned sexual activities? No chance, just go with the flow, the guys that are all mouth? Are just that in my opinion Explain that a bit more clearly for us. I'm not trying to be rude in asking, just seeking to understand that better.One of the things I think you are saying is the talkers are just that, talkers, and from my perspective I would have to agree."
...or I should say are almost always just that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plan the meet to a T. Right up till the hotel door shuts...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still trying to organise my first meet. I wouldn't like to plan everthing to detail though.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Depending on what you mean by planning. We do plan the date and venue but what actually happens once we meet is not planned.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Plan the meet to a T. Right up till the hotel door shuts..."

I like to be prepared for a meeting but there is no planning for what happens when the door shuts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depending on what you mean by planning. We do plan the date and venue but what actually happens once we meet is not planned."
That way is fine, it leaves room for that nice use of imagination, anticipation and encourages the person you are meeting to be inventive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Plan the meet to a T. Right up till the hotel door shuts..."
Sounds about right!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

It’s good to plan a time and place obviously but after that I would rather go with the flow.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

No plan survives first contact with the enemy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No plan survives first contact with the enemy. "
Always looking for holes to break through?

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