FabSwingers.com forum: Expectations ... Reality

By *estSussexGuy76 OP Man
over a year ago

copthorne

Afternoon all,

I'm successful when I go out, on Tinder, POF, Match etc and I thought this site would be no different - Wow how wrong was I.

I've been a member for a few years, but never participated. This week, with a fresh attitude and more understanding I see the big difference between all the sites / the ladies on this site, to others.

My inbox hasn't been bursting at the seams but I've had constructive criticism which I've excepted and also the old fab ( Mainly from blokes - But a fab is a fab right ha ha )

I finally understand this site and I'm enjoying the forums and getting to know what it's all about.

Girls, for any newbie joining the site and had the wrong attitude like I did what 3 bits of advice would you give them ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest.

Be witty.

Don't overshare.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I think the difference between dating and swinger sites is that on dating sites women want love, whereas there would be very, very few who might consider swinging. Plus there's so many guys willing to cheat - sorry if I'm being dismissive.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

My go to three point mantra is:

Attitude

Approach

Expectations

Get those three right and you won't be going far wrong

The key is how to get them right though

That can only come through finding put for yourself mostly, as they may well be an individual thing - but a decent profile and pics help, as does being respectful and considerate, and graciously accepting rejection when it happens

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By *estSussexGuy76 OP Man
over a year ago

copthorne

"I think the difference between dating and swinger sites is that on dating sites women want love, whereas there would be very, very few who might consider swinging. Plus there's so many guys willing to cheat - sorry if I'm being dismissive."

This is not being dismissive at all, I fully understand where your coming from and 100% right ...

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By *estSussexGuy76 OP Man
over a year ago

copthorne

"My go to three point mantra is:

Attitude

Approach

Expectations

Get those three right and you won't be going far wrong

The key is how to get them right though

Those are the 3 things I got wrong .... But feel now I get it .... Just need to get them in order

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are a man now kid.

Let's do your bar miztvah

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By *estSussexGuy76 OP Man
over a year ago

copthorne

"You are a man now kid.

Let's do your bar miztvah "

Never heard of it mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are a man now kid.

Let's do your bar miztvah

Never heard of it mate "

Put one finger into your anu and put the TV on mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be patient

Be humble

Be magnanimous

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Welcome to the real world lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming that the majority of women on here are sat ready and waiting for your offer of "fun" and are up for sex any time day or night, at the click of your fingers, and will drive right over to you is not good.

Ours (women) to give .... not yours (men) to take.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

Dating sites are very different and I approach both with different mindsets.

Fab needs patience and perseverance and an excellent 6th sense. As well as respecting boundaries people have put up.

The boundaries are there for a reason. So read profiles, understand what people are after before taking a leap.

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By *estSussexGuy76 OP Man
over a year ago

copthorne

"Welcome to the real world lol"

This certainly is the real world

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By *estSussexGuy76 OP Man
over a year ago

copthorne

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By *estSussexGuy76 OP Man
over a year ago

copthorne

"Dating sites are very different and I approach both with different mindsets.

Fab needs patience and perseverance and an excellent 6th sense. As well as respecting boundaries people have put up.

The boundaries are there for a reason. So read profiles, understand what people are after before taking a leap."

I've come to learn all about boundaries

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By *estSussexGuy76 OP Man
over a year ago

copthorne

"Assuming that the majority of women on here are sat ready and waiting for your offer of "fun" and are up for sex any time day or night, at the click of your fingers, and will drive right over to you is not good.

Ours (women) to give .... not yours (men) to take.

This is very true, I've learnt that ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read profiles and make your messages worth reading

Be honest about what you want

And be yourself

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By *estSussexGuy76 OP Man
over a year ago

copthorne

"Read profiles and make your messages worth reading

Be honest about what you want

And be yourself

Sound advice

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Don't take yourself too seriously.

Don't take the site too seriously.

Remember , it's meant to be fun!

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