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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just want to know why alot of people are dead set against winks, I mean they were put on this site for a reason. The way I see it it's a quick way of letting someone know your interested. I mean sometimes you will write a big lenghthy message which has had a lot of thought put into it only for you to not even get a polite no thankyou.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause I get so many in a day that I don’t bother checking them. I’m not against them, they’re just useless for me. If I’m interested in someone, I’ll message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cause I get so many in a day that I don’t bother checking them. I’m not against them, they’re just useless for me. If I’m interested in someone, I’ll message them. "
snap.i never look at mine now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not a moan or anything I just genuinely wanted to know why people didn't use them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cause I get so many in a day that I don’t bother checking them. I’m not against them, they’re just useless for me. If I’m interested in someone, I’ll message them. "

That’s why^

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cause I get so many in a day that I don’t bother checking them. I’m not against them, they’re just useless for me. If I’m interested in someone, I’ll message them.

That’s why^"

The number of winks you get is one reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cause I get so many in a day that I don’t bother checking them. I’m not against them, they’re just useless for me. If I’m interested in someone, I’ll message them.

That’s why^

The number of winks you get is one reason"

Yep. And the other reason is that I’d rather just message someone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cause I get so many in a day that I don’t bother checking them. I’m not against them, they’re just useless for me. If I’m interested in someone, I’ll message them.

That’s why^

The number of winks you get is one reason

Yep. And the other reason is that I’d rather just message someone "

Yeah but some people expect lengthy unique messages only to blank them and not even reply. I get that you message people but not everyone is like you

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I get plenty of new messages to check, as well as replying to people I know who are chatting . It says on my profile not to bother winking, cos if I checked out them too, I wouldn't have a life other than fab.

And when I open my filters if I am helping with an event ( August) or organising a social ( September) then it's madness

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get plenty of new messages to check, as well as replying to people I know who are chatting . It says on my profile not to bother winking, cos if I checked out them too, I wouldn't have a life other than fab.

And when I open my filters if I am helping with an event ( August) or organising a social ( September) then it's madness "

I think you need a pa to just run your account

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cause I get so many in a day that I don’t bother checking them. I’m not against them, they’re just useless for me. If I’m interested in someone, I’ll message them.

That’s why^

The number of winks you get is one reason

Yep. And the other reason is that I’d rather just message someone

Yeah but some people expect lengthy unique messages only to blank them and not even reply. I get that you message people but not everyone is like you"

I didn’t say they were like me. I’m explaining my reasons as to why I don’t use the feature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bunch of winkers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cause I get so many in a day that I don’t bother checking them. I’m not against them, they’re just useless for me. If I’m interested in someone, I’ll message them.

That’s why^

The number of winks you get is one reason

Yep. And the other reason is that I’d rather just message someone

Yeah but some people expect lengthy unique messages only to blank them and not even reply. I get that you message people but not everyone is like you

I didn’t say they were like me. I’m explaining my reasons as to why I don’t use the feature "

Cheers, I'm starting to understand why alot of people don't use winks

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

The ones I don't like getting Winks from are the black silhouette profiles with the gate minimum of text and info in them...what exactly am I supposed to be looking at??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use them, but with caveats. Quite often, we might be short on time, so just wink back to say, yes we’re interested. Quite often we get nothing back and it’s clear they’re either only mildly interested or expect us to start the conversation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We use them, but with caveats. Quite often, we might be short on time, so just wink back to say, yes we’re interested. Quite often we get nothing back and it’s clear they’re either only mildly interested or expect us to start the conversation. "

See if I winked at someone and they winked me back I would think that's an indication the attraction was mutual. But I would be the one messaging and I wouldn't expect the other person to message first

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I always check my winks out it shows someone is interested in me ,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always check my winks out it shows someone is interested in me , "

Exactly that's what I thought they were there for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We use them, but with caveats. Quite often, we might be short on time, so just wink back to say, yes we’re interested. Quite often we get nothing back and it’s clear they’re either only mildly interested or expect us to start the conversation.

See if I winked at someone and they winked me back I would think that's an indication the attraction was mutual. But I would be the one messaging and I wouldn't expect the other person to message first"

I do wonder if many people struggle to initiate a conversation and a wink is a way of avoiding that.

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

I've had several meets off the strength of a wink - including one from someone who clearly stated on their profile that under no circumstances would they ever respond to a wink.

There's no rules on Fab - just guidelines

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By *019ReadyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"We use them, but with caveats. Quite often, we might be short on time, so just wink back to say, yes we’re interested. Quite often we get nothing back and it’s clear they’re either only mildly interested or expect us to start the conversation. "

This

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We prefer a wink to a badly written message. However, either will lead to being blocked if the profile is knob pics and a list wants.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We prefer a wink to a badly written message. However, either will lead to being blocked if the profile is knob pics and a list wants. "

Winks are the way forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We prefer a wink to a badly written message. However, either will lead to being blocked if the profile is knob pics and a list wants.

Winks are the way forward"

Not for everyone though..

Do what suits you

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I use winks as per the below:

If someone winks me I'll message if interested.

If I like someone I may send them a wink. If they wink back I message.

The end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use winks as per the below :

I don’t use winks and I don’t look at them

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"I use winks as per the below :

I don’t use winks and I don’t look at them "

Oi copycat!

Night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I use winks as per the below :

I don’t use winks and I don’t look at them

Oi copycat!

Night "

You haven’t done your nightly routine yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just want to know why alot of people are dead set against winks, I mean they were put on this site for a reason. The way I see it it's a quick way of letting someone know your interested. I mean sometimes you will write a big lenghthy message which has had a lot of thought put into it only for you to not even get a polite no thankyou."

I actually prefer a wink to a message, opening messages are so bland mostly that I just delete them (sorry).

But if I get a wink I check out the profile and then get in touch if I fancy it x

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"I use winks as per the below :

I don’t use winks and I don’t look at them

Oi copycat!

Night

You haven’t done your nightly routine yet "

Indeed I have not. It's coming up soon, keep your eyes peeled

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

No winks yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile clearly says winks from guys will be deleted and still they come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No winks yet "

Check again stallion

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport


"I just want to know why alot of people are dead set against winks, I mean they were put on this site for a reason. The way I see it it's a quick way of letting someone know your interested. I mean sometimes you will write a big lenghthy message which has had a lot of thought put into it only for you to not even get a polite no thankyou."

We don’t get many so we’re happy to view, wink or message back or delete or in some cases block and delete!

I’m guilty of not often checking them too!

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"No winks yet

Check again stallion "

Ride me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No winks yet

Check again stallion

Ride me? "

Meet me behind Asda in 53 minutes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No winks yet

Check again stallion

Ride me? "

Hmmm now this is one time I maybe could watch

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By *ye ManMan
over a year ago

Weymouth

I wink at people and don’t get any response. I can send some people a thought out, lengthy message, but I don’t get any response. But, if I get a wink, I’ll message them back, thanking them, even if I’m not interested. I also reply to every message I get. I think that it’s just polite.

I know some people will get a lot, but if someone has taken the time to put a proper message together, not just a ‘fancy a fuck’ then it’s polite to reply. Even if it’s just a quick ‘not interested’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always check my winks out it shows someone is interested in me , "

I really like the way your bellend is pointing to what you've written.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A hundred not interested messages a day gets a bit much.

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Don't mind a wink or two,clearly we don't get that many lol we do check them and reply to those we feel we could or would like to meet or talk to ,it's just an ice breaker for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No winks yet

Check again stallion

Ride me?

Meet me behind Asda in 53 minutes "

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M0quXl_od3g

Black Box - Ride on Time (Official Video) - YouTube

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not a moan or anything I just genuinely wanted to know why people didn't use them"

I use them only wink back if I like the person and their profile though

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"No winks yet

Check again stallion

Ride me?

Meet me behind Asda in 53 minutes "

44 mins to go (aubergine emoji)

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I'm sure that winks have there place but I rarely look at them or friends requests. I pick up on messages but even then I can by pass them straight to the forum.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"No winks yet

Check again stallion

Ride me?

Hmmm now this is one time I maybe could watch "

Through a microscope?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No winks yet

Check again stallion

Ride me?

Meet me behind Asda in 53 minutes

44 mins to go (aubergine emoji)"

I really want your meet to go well, even though I'm insanely jealous. Dude, use a watermelon emoji.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd recommend anyone who actually wanted to talk to me didn't send a wink.

I'm not against the concept but they really build up so I don't even look at them anymore.

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By *ommyxyzMan
over a year ago

Crawley

I quite like receiving a wink, but then I’m not that popular and understand those who are not replying to them. I don’t send them though as I suppose I excpect them to be ignored!

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"No winks yet

Check again stallion

Ride me?

Meet me behind Asda in 53 minutes

44 mins to go (aubergine emoji)

I really want your meet to go well, even though I'm insanely jealous. Dude, use a watermelon emoji."

That's for when I'm super erect and/or really need a wee

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I'd recommend anyone who actually wanted to talk to me didn't send a wink.

I'm not against the concept but they really build up so I don't even look at them anymore. "

Why are the hot ones so far away

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Dont mind them but don’t often look and find them pointless when the person/people have their profile hidden or no pics on there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tend to use them if I like a profile but I’m not going to message, (age range etc). Just a compliment effectively

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer winks to unsolicited messages tbh and say this on my profile .... depending on where they are (again I say this on my profile) I check out their profile and if I want to chat to them I wink back!

A wonderful thing without any hassle ... saves much time for all!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So basically they work with some people and not with others. Each to their own

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton


"I always check my winks out it shows someone is interested in me ,

I really like the way your bellend is pointing to what you've written."

my bellend is showing the way forward wink wink ,

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London

I never pay any attention to any of our winks. Its hard enough to get through the messages.

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