FabSwingers.com forum: Children at home

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would any of you lovely people invite someone from fab to your home, while your children were tucked up in bed?

Why?

Why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t invite some around when he wasn’t here. Never mind when he was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, it’s not what we’re about we have four kids ages from16-6 they’re old enough to I understand things and it’s not fair to be bringing folk round for noisy crazy sex sessions when they’re in bed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, it’s not what we’re about we have four kids ages from16-6 they’re old enough to I understand things and it’s not fair to be bringing folk round for noisy crazy sex sessions when they’re in bed."

But what if whoever you invited round pinky promises to be quiet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But what if whoever you invited round pinky promises to be quiet?"

No, it won’t happen in our house. What if one of the kids happens to come downstairs. In our opinion it’s not really the best way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t invite some around when he wasn’t here. Never mind when he was "

This

. Never!

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull

Not a chance, definitely not when kids are in house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was in a position where I could invite someone around, I wouldn’t choose to do so, it’s my families home.

Keeping private life separate from Fabs is the sensible approach.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

No never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was in a position where I could invite someone around, I wouldn’t choose to do so, it’s my families home.

Keeping private life separate from Fabs is the sensible approach."

That’s the best way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not when kids are in its not right

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No not when kids are in its not right "

Why isn’t it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, not a chance. My child's safety comes first and I could not have sex with a man who isn't her father if she was in the house with me.

I read something the other day about a guy on here who turned up at a woman's house for sex and her young daughter was off school! It makes me uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, never.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

How could you relax knowing your children could wake up any minute ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How could you relax knowing your children could wake up any minute ?"

You could relax by getting fucked I assume

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"No not when kids are in its not right

Why isn’t it?"

When you hold your beautiful baby in your arms you will understand xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No not when kids are in its not right

Why isn’t it?

When you hold your beautiful baby in your arms you will understand xx"

Oh, I would never do it anyway. I’m just wondering why others wouldn’t

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Yea, obviously I'd load them up with calpol and lock them in their room first. Parenting 101.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yea, obviously I'd load them up with calpol and lock them in their room first. Parenting 101."

The sensible answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a chance, 1 if they woke up there would be questions and 2, who in their right mind would let a stranger off fab into their house while there kids slept, imagine them going to the toilet and having a sneak around your childs bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have children but if it got to where I felt comfortable going to theirs and they had their children there it would put me off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not a chance, 1 if they woke up there would be questions and 2, who in their right mind would let a stranger off fab into their house while there kids slept, imagine them going to the toilet and having a sneak around your childs bedroom

Many people, apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't want to go to someones house knowing there were kids there.

I have had it offered to me, twice

Both instant no-goes from me

If I meet someone, I want their attention 100%, I want to know there will be no interruptions, I don't want to feel awkward, I don't want to be looking over my shoulder, I don't want them to be looking over theirs

I want to meet with wild abandon

All the above detract from the potential for that

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

I would have to really really k kw them, and even then only for a cuppa lol mine are 12 and 13. The older will dit on their room and go to bed like a dream. The younger comes down every 5 minutes for hot chocolate, who was on the phone mum? Mum I got scratch on the back I cant reach, they split the hot chocolate, decides at 10:45pm homework is the most important thing and wants help to do it...now...argument about how I will not be helping at this time...11pm..its quiet...then they need a dump and shout where is the loo roll? can you make me another sandwich? Where is my pe kit for tomorrow?. Chance to sit down with a mate for a rum and a variety of potatoe based snacks would be great, the chances of being left alone with a " real life " man in the house while the kids are home...0

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a family home and sex isn't that important that I'd put it before my daughter and her needs and safety, and this applies even if she was a teenager and didn't need anyone checking up on her.

I don't want her seeing men come into the house who will never have any kind of involvement in her life just so I can have a quick fuck. I'd arrange it away from home if I really wanted a meet.

My next door neighbour brings home different men and you can hear her moaning and them banging against the wall and her daughter playing in the other room. I hate to judge people but I can't help but feel very uncomfortable!

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

"How could you relax knowing your children could wake up any minute ?

You could relax by getting fucked I assume "

Doesn’t matter what the person feels like, just think about how the kids would feel like if they knew, scared laying in bed really worried about what happening to mum, who the person is and will they get harmed.

It’s quite shocking those people that do this. worse case is they could cause quite a lot of damage to the kids

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How could you relax knowing your children could wake up any minute ?

You could relax by getting fucked I assume

It’s quite shocking those people that do this. worse case is they could cause quite a lot of damage to the kids"

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was in a position where I could invite someone around, I wouldn’t choose to do so, it’s my families home.

Keeping private life separate from Fabs is the sensible approach."

I’m with you on that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would take a lot. I mean it’s circumstasial as well at times but I’d have to have an understanding with that person and then with me.

I get that for some people it might be an only option but there’s no bigger passion killer than a baby monitor going off and having to go in and sort your child out in nothing but a condom...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many people, apparently

Madness, i dont even put pics of my children on social media, cause i just dont know who might be looking at them!!!

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By *imandher84Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

The thing about children is they immediately change something in you(or should) the moment you hold your own, the fire you have in your belly to protect and keep them safe is hotter than the sun, so whilst "logistically" it may be possible and the reasoning for not doing it may be easy to poke holes in the fact of the matter is to most it just feels wrong and that is reason enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would any of you lovely people invite someone from fab to your home, while your children were tucked up in bed?

Why?

Why not?"

If i had kids no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many people, apparently

Madness, i dont even put pics of my children on social media, cause i just dont know who might be looking at them!!! "

This. I think people without kids or who’s kids have grown and flown the nest struggle to understand.

This is my family’s home and I don’t really want anyone in it off of fabs or similar while my kids are sleeping upstairs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No this is my kids home and no one comes here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea, obviously I'd load them up with calpol and lock them in their room first. Parenting 101."

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"Would any of you lovely people invite someone from fab to your home, while your children were tucked up in bed?

Why?

Why not?"

Definitely not !

This is our territory and safe zone why would I threaten that.

I don’t play at home and the only time I have in 4.5 years was with someone I’d met for three months prior so the trust was there, but my lad was never here

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

That not even taking in to consideration the safety issues..

Ine man wanted to go for a drive one night..sorry got kids. He tells me they will be on on their own..I said no, I wont leave them together ( war on an epic scale over a plastic bag last time I went to top of road to shop ) he moans that we wont be long..again I say no, its not happening...he then suggested...I fucking kid you not..that he bring some sweets and stuff round for them to sit in their rooms with or in lounge while I take him upstairs!! I thought it was a bad joke but after asking twice if it was, sadly no. He was serious. He was dressed for work so could say he was fixing something. Thst I should loosen up. I sent a message back of how I did t even k ow where to start with what was wrong with it all then blocked.. ok if that's how you wanna do things but not me. Been pretty much single since they were 19mths and 6mths old. I've not lived like a nun..but my kids have never, bumped Into, met, seen me with, or even heard of anyone I have had " sexy time" with. I introduced them to 1 fella I had a brief relationship with. The rest they dont to see, be around, hear of. And do you really know who your letting in? With your kids there? In your family home? That they can remember where it is?

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Not to mention all the extra housework and stuff I'd have to do

lmao

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not to mention all the extra housework and stuff I'd have to do

lmao "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many people, apparently

Madness, i dont even put pics of my children on social media, cause i just dont know who might be looking at them!!!

This. I think people without kids or who’s kids have grown and flown the nest struggle to understand.

This is my family’s home and I don’t really want anyone in it off of fabs or similar while my kids are sleeping upstairs! "

If your a parent, then your chikdren come first!!! If they dont then these parents need to take a good long look at themselvez and have a serious think about their parenting skills!!

Im having anxiety even thinking about this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea, obviously I'd load them up with calpol and lock them in their room first. Parenting 101."

Piriton works better than calpol helps them sleep haha

I wouldn't have a meet with my kids at home not on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has made me chuckle

I can't tell you how many "gentlemen" tried to convince me to allow them into my home when boy child was still living here.

The amount of these "gentlemen" that thought it was not only acceptable but actively encouraged me "to put the little one to bed"

I took great pleasure in informing them the "little one" was a teenager who'd knock them the fuck out for being in his home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not?

Because I’m a decent parent that’s why.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Not to mention all the extra housework and stuff I'd have to do

lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not?

Because I’m a decent parent that’s why."

Exactly. I wouldn’t even think of meeting anyone who suggested this. Whether it be my kids or theirs. I don’t usually judge on here but I will with this. It’s disgusting. Anyone who doesn’t put their children before everything else wouldn’t be for me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only once iv gotten to know and trust them but a stranger no chance il fuck her over the back bins instead

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"This has made me chuckle

I can't tell you how many "gentlemen" tried to convince me to allow them into my home when boy child was still living here.

The amount of these "gentlemen" that thought it was not only acceptable but actively encouraged me "to put the little one to bed"

I took great pleasure in informing them the "little one" was a teenager who'd knock them the fuck out for being in his home

It's disgusting isnt it. Ine of my biggest pet hates its other people telling me what's ok to do regarding my kids...and also when they know the score..ask for meets they know I csnt do or make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only once iv gotten to know and trust them but a stranger no chance il fuck her over the back bins instead

You’re so romantic. I

you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done in the past, when my small child was still in a cot. Only 1 person who I then had a relationship with.

Tried again last year with a trusted long term friend from here, but couldn't fully relax so decided against it from then on.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

We have done before but only with the youngest.

Our older kids are away on weekends. Our baby sleeps through so if we don't have a sitter were okay to invite people over fter he's asleep. He's in his own room and sleeps through any noise.

We do warn people before they come though because we understand its not for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even have friends over in the evenings in case it wakes the kids up!!!

It would be terrifying for any child to find a stranger in the house.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

People have been sending me message so I want to clarify that no, I would never do it either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only once iv gotten to know and trust them but a stranger no chance il fuck her over the back bins instead

You’re so romantic. I

you "
i try my best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Short shot of rum sparks the little critters out. Job done. Get fucking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This has made me chuckle

I can't tell you how many "gentlemen" tried to convince me to allow them into my home when boy child was still living here.

The amount of these "gentlemen" that thought it was not only acceptable but actively encouraged me "to put the little one to bed"

I took great pleasure in informing them the "little one" was a teenager who'd knock them the fuck out for being in his home

It's disgusting isnt it. Ine of my biggest pet hates its other people telling me what's ok to do regarding my kids...and also when they know the score..ask for meets they know I csnt do or make. "

Absolutely.

Don't get me wrong, there are people who I WOULD have allowed into my home with my son here, those being people I knew well, knew would be respectful of the fact my lad was here and people I considered friends. There wouldn't have been any rudies occurring, but a pizza and chatting shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about a tent in the garden, make sure it has an internal bonfire and put the wee one out in it.

I'm now wondering if anyone anywhere has actually suggested this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck him/her in the coal shed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck him/her in the coal shed. "

Or just take the baby monitor out to the car and bang em on the back seat.

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By *inkylovers09Couple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

"If I was in a position where I could invite someone around, I wouldn’t choose to do so, it’s my families home.

Keeping private life separate from Fabs is the sensible approach."

nail on the head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck him/her in the coal shed.

Or just take the baby monitor out to the car and bang em on the back seat.

Now why sacrifice the comfort. Strap the critter into the car seat and lock it up. Bedrooms free that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck him/her in the coal shed.

Or just take the baby monitor out to the car and bang em on the back seat.

Now why sacrifice the comfort. Strap the critter into the car seat and lock it up. Bedrooms free that way.

I've been doing it so wrong all these years

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had kids. No way I would ever do that.

But then I plan on never having children so it's hypothetical entirely for me.

~Mia

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Nope,

Even if I turned up somewhere and a kid was still in the house. I wouldn’t be up for a “meet”. You want kids to feel safe whatever.

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By *imbo59seMan
over a year ago

North Norfolk area

I met a couple (from another site) a few years ago, turned up at their place for a first meet & chat.

She was only interested in the soaps on TV, he was standing in the kitchen doorway smoking . Kids (either side of 10 y/o) kept coming in and being curious about me. Asked them what the score was with the kids if we were going to play.... "its ok, we just lock them in their rooms and lock our bedroom door.....works fine" they replied!

They seemed quite surprised when I made my excuses and left.....rapidly!!

(their 3 staffies which had spent the whole time jumping all over me was the icing on the cake)

Some people!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I met a couple (from another site) a few years ago, turned up at their place for a first meet & chat.

They seemed quite surprised when I made my excuses and left.....rapidly!!

(their 3 staffies which had spent the whole time jumping all over me was the icing on the cake)

Some people!!!!!! "

Oh wow. This makes me really sad reading this

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

The one time i met a man at my home (when my children were away) i’d done so after chatting and skyping for ages.

When we met he turned out to be someone i felt unsafe with and i had great difficulty in getting him out of my house.

He then went on to try and bl*ckmail me and harrass me to meet again until i had to resort to telling him if be contacted me again i’d be contacting the Police with evidence of what he’d said/done.

I would NEVER meet someone at my home again. Regardless of who was there.

However, i appreciate that some folk use the option to meet at their home (when kids are not home) and that is up to them.

I’d just say be aware of the risks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have children but I definitely wouldn't go to someone's house if they had children there. I would not feel comfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just no and wouldn’t visit someone who has unless they are a very very young age in a cot etc but after a certain age it’s a no go, just our preference.

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By *rinthiaMan
over a year ago

dundee

"I would have to really really k kw them, and even then only for a cuppa lol mine are 12 and 13. The older will dit on their room and go to bed like a dream. The younger comes down every 5 minutes for hot chocolate, who was on the phone mum? Mum I got scratch on the back I cant reach, they split the hot chocolate, decides at 10:45pm homework is the most important thing and wants help to do it...now...argument about how I will not be helping at this time...11pm..its quiet...then they need a dump and shout where is the loo roll? can you make me another sandwich? Where is my pe kit for tomorrow?. Chance to sit down with a mate for a rum and a variety of potatoe based snacks would be great, the chances of being left alone with a " real life " man in the house while the kids are home...0

liked the rum and crisps part

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

Nope never. We don't have meets at our home at all. It's our children's home. Their safe space. We don't like the thought of inviting strangers into our kids safe space. We meet at clubs for this reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What sort of men do you meet?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No. I've been offered, and I don't want to be put in that position.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

It’s my children’s home too and they should be respected for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never invite to risky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, it won’t happen in our house. What if one of the kids happens to come downstairs. In our opinion it’s not really the best way."

This for us too.

If the couple became genuine friends and it was more like a social then yes, even with a bit of light flirting/touching.

But a full session of sexy time - not with kids in the house, no never!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Short shot of rum sparks the little critters out. Job done. Get fucking.

Haha

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By *eclanHMan
over a year ago

Liphook

I’m assuming the case where, if there weren’t any kids in the house, you would invite partners into your home, but there are, in fact, kids the house.

I’m in two minds.

I *suspect* some people may be reluctant to expose their children to non-monogamy because of an underlying sense that our lifestyle is not quite normal and maybe even a bit wrong or a little shameful. But it’s not. So, on the one hand, I’d like to be honest with my kids about my relationship with my wife and other partners. As a former religious person, I deeply regret the decades of feeling ashamed of my vanilla sexual desire, let alone my kinky quirks. I don’t want that for my children. And being respectfully upfront with them seems better than omitting.

On the other hand, there is something to be said about educating children at the right time on the right things. Children are not ready, in my view, to conceptionally learn about say a Dom/sub dynamic. These, I do feel is more of an adult topic requiring some maturity. Perhaps, a swinger’s relationship falls in this domain, something to learn about a little later in life.

There is, of course, just the personal preference of people who might just feel awkward to know their children know *and* that the children are in the house. There’s a difference between that and for the children to know, but for you to be out of the house.

Personally, I err on the side of caution. And also, I think most people are just more comfortable without having to worry about children. I will educate my children about all things sex over many years as they grow, introducing topics when I think they’re ready for it. I’ve already started with my boy (he’s 10 now) and that went very well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is, of course, just the personal preference of people who might just feel awkward to know their children know *and* that the children are in the house. There’s a difference between that and for the children to know, but for you to be out of the house.

I think the objection is more along the lines of you wouldn't want your 10 year old to walk in while you, Martin and Gladys from a few streets away are indulging in a bit of DVP on the lounge floor.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though"

Fear of the judgemental ones?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would any of you lovely people invite someone from fab to your home, while your children were tucked up in bed?

Why?

Why not?"

Not having kids of my own doesn't change my feelings on this. No chance of any play if I did and they were there. Never mind that they may wake and see stuff that will be tricky to explain if they were old enough to talk and ask. I just wouldn't want to. I can't really elaborate further on it. Just the ways I feels on that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't got kids but I would probably go to someone's house when tgeir kids were in bed.

No dramas.

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By *eclanHMan
over a year ago

Liphook

I think the objection is more along the lines of you wouldn't want your 10 year old to walk in while you, Martin and Gladys from a few streets away are indulging in a bit of DVP on the lounge floor. "

Sure, if the adults will feel embarrassed or if rumours may start in the neighbourhood. But I don’t see it as much different to my kids walking in on me fucking my wife while she’s retrained to the kitchen table.

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By *eclanHMan
over a year ago

Liphook

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though"

Maybe you can voice their thoughts?

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

What sort of men do you meet?

I don’t think that sort give out any red flags, you shouldn’t trust any strange man that comes into your home

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though

Maybe you can voice their thoughts?"

Not my place to do so

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By *eclanHMan
over a year ago

Liphook

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though

Maybe you can voice their thoughts?

Not my place to do so"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would any of you lovely people invite someone from fab to your home, while your children were tucked up in bed?

Why?

Why not?"

No way it's not like you know these people. The safety of my child comes first I'm afraid.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I had a meet once years ago where upon arriving i discovered the lady had her four year old son sleeping in the bedroom. We played in her living room and it was an excellent meet but somewhat odd. In one occasion the boy awoke and was making noises so naturally she went to check on him. I didn't go back there a second time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard enough to have sex in a full house as it is without it being a new person to boot so No I wouldn't.

Laws must get relaxed in new relationship type situations though or how would people ever have sex again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, not a chance. My child's safety comes first and I could not have sex with a man who isn't her father if she was in the house with me.

I read something the other day about a guy on here who turned up at a woman's house for sex and her young daughter was off school! It makes me uncomfortable. "

It's disrespectful. It's the child's home not a brothel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What sort of men do you meet?

I don’t think that sort give out any red flags, you shouldn’t trust any strange man that comes into your home"

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

The safety of your children should be every parents priority.

A much as we may not like to think about it, there are people online who deliberately befriend people with children in order to have access to the kids. How do you know that the person you’re chatting with isn’t one of these people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My child is far more important to me than a sex life.

How many times did you used to hear your parents at it when you was a child and they thought you were asleep

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over a year ago

"I had a meet once years ago where upon arriving i discovered the lady had her four year old son sleeping in the bedroom. We played in her living room and it was an excellent meet but somewhat odd. In one occasion the boy awoke and was making noises so naturally she went to check on him. I didn't go back there a second time. "

You should of left the second you found out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have kids, nor will I, but I wouldn't have a meet with kids in the house if i did. I don't think I'd have meets at the house even when they weren't there unless it was someone I'd known a while.

I find it quite shocking people do if I'm honest.

There have been 2 occasions where I've arrived at someone's house for a meet only to discover their kids are in bed. Both times I left the second I found out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should of left the second you found out"

He wouldn't have got his fuck then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You should of left the second you found out

He wouldn't have got his fuck then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What sort of men do you meet?

The same as most other people on fab, do i really know anything about them?? Not really!! Its not like there advertising there a peado!! Would i jeopardise my children's safety for a meet with someone from fab or anywhere else.... Not a fuckin chance

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By *abat40xWoman
over a year ago

North Lincolnshire

Definitely not my one golden rule no meet when my child is home very disrespectful in my eyes, but each to their own

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though"

If people choose to tell you privately why then that’s good. But also respect why they wouldn’t post here as may get judged to harshly.

Everyone has their reasons why they do something or not and we should not judge others as everyone’s situation is different

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though

If people choose to tell you privately why then that’s good. But also respect why they wouldn’t post here as may get judged to harshly.

Everyone has their reasons why they do something or not and we should not judge others as everyone’s situation is different "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What sort of men do you meet?

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What sort of men do you meet?

Quite!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though

If people choose to tell you privately why then that’s good. But also respect why they wouldn’t post here as may get judged to harshly.

Everyone has their reasons why they do something or not and we should not judge others as everyone’s situation is different "

If someone is putting their child's wellbeing at risk for a shag with a stranger, why shouldn't we judge them?

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

I would never meet anyone with children in the house it's just wrong on so many levels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though

If people choose to tell you privately why then that’s good. But also respect why they wouldn’t post here as may get judged to harshly.

Everyone has their reasons why they do something or not and we should not judge others as everyone’s situation is different

If someone is putting their child's wellbeing at risk for a shag with a stranger, why shouldn't we judge them?"

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though

If people choose to tell you privately why then that’s good. But also respect why they wouldn’t post here as may get judged to harshly.

Everyone has their reasons why they do something or not and we should not judge others as everyone’s situation is different

If someone is putting their child's wellbeing at risk for a shag with a stranger, why shouldn't we judge them?"

I agree I’m off to get the hay fork too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though

If people choose to tell you privately why then that’s good. But also respect why they wouldn’t post here as may get judged to harshly.

Everyone has their reasons why they do something or not and we should not judge others as everyone’s situation is different

If someone is putting their child's wellbeing at risk for a shag with a stranger, why shouldn't we judge them?"
but what if u met 2 times for cake and popcorn that makes them good people

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though

If people choose to tell you privately why then that’s good. But also respect why they wouldn’t post here as may get judged to harshly.

Everyone has their reasons why they do something or not and we should not judge others as everyone’s situation is different

If someone is putting their child's wellbeing at risk for a shag with a stranger, why shouldn't we judge them?but what if u met 2 times for cake and popcorn that makes them good people"

Wrong on so many levels

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Lots of people on here talk about having sex in public(day and night)Is there a lot of difference,in terms of being caught by children??.

My children are now adults but for some(esp single parent both m and f) it maybe the only opportunity....

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though

If people choose to tell you privately why then that’s good. But also respect why they wouldn’t post here as may get judged to harshly.

Everyone has their reasons why they do something or not and we should not judge others as everyone’s situation is different

If someone is putting their child's wellbeing at risk for a shag with a stranger, why shouldn't we judge them?"

This is precisely why people won’t speak up in here... everyone quick to judge and say they are automatically putting their kids at risk and making assumptions, when no one knows the facts !

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though

If people choose to tell you privately why then that’s good. But also respect why they wouldn’t post here as may get judged to harshly.

Everyone has their reasons why they do something or not and we should not judge others as everyone’s situation is different

If someone is putting their child's wellbeing at risk for a shag with a stranger, why shouldn't we judge them?"

The other assumption that so many of you are making is that the person they are inviting is a complete stranger... OP’s question was “invite someone from fab to your home”. There was no mention of the length of time that you might have known that person or the number of times you would have meet previously before inviting them to their home

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By *kiptongueMan
over a year ago

Barnoldswick

I personally would not be happy being invited around with kids upstairs, they are so unpredictable

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I wouldn’t invite anyone to my home ever, with or without children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please shop at my new online store.

Search for:

Acme-witch hunting-mob supplies/pitchforks&torches

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

I have been invited, but at the time I did not know until I was in their house. We were quiet and all was good I suppose depend on the character of both involved. Actually, have happened to me on a couple of times.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I wouldn’t invite some around when he wasn’t here. Never mind when he was "

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over a year ago

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though

If people choose to tell you privately why then that’s good. But also respect why they wouldn’t post here as may get judged to harshly.

Everyone has their reasons why they do something or not and we should not judge others as everyone’s situation is different

If someone is putting their child's wellbeing at risk for a shag with a stranger, why shouldn't we judge them?

This is precisely why people won’t speak up in here... everyone quick to judge and say they are automatically putting their kids at risk and making assumptions, when no one knows the facts ! "

If they were happy and comfortable with their decision they wouldn't care what other people think.

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By *eclanHMan
over a year ago

Liphook

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though

If people choose to tell you privately why then that’s good. But also respect why they wouldn’t post here as may get judged to harshly.

Everyone has their reasons why they do something or not and we should not judge others as everyone’s situation is different

If someone is putting their child's wellbeing at risk for a shag with a stranger, why shouldn't we judge them?

This is precisely why people won’t speak up in here... everyone quick to judge and say they are automatically putting their kids at risk and making assumptions, when no one knows the facts !

If they were happy and comfortable with their decision they wouldn't care what other people think. "

Hmm

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though

If people choose to tell you privately why then that’s good. But also respect why they wouldn’t post here as may get judged to harshly.

Everyone has their reasons why they do something or not and we should not judge others as everyone’s situation is different

If someone is putting their child's wellbeing at risk for a shag with a stranger, why shouldn't we judge them?

This is precisely why people won’t speak up in here... everyone quick to judge and say they are automatically putting their kids at risk and making assumptions, when no one knows the facts !

If they were happy and comfortable with their decision they wouldn't care what other people think. "

Who’s to say they are not happy with their decision. However, they might not want to disclose the full details on a public message boards to strangers

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By *eclanHMan
over a year ago

Liphook

"I’ve had a few people explain to me why they WOULD do it, i wish they’d respond to this post though

If people choose to tell you privately why then that’s good. But also respect why they wouldn’t post here as may get judged to harshly.

Everyone has their reasons why they do something or not and we should not judge others as everyone’s situation is different

If someone is putting their child's wellbeing at risk for a shag with a stranger, why shouldn't we judge them?

This is precisely why people won’t speak up in here... everyone quick to judge and say they are automatically putting their kids at risk and making assumptions, when no one knows the facts !

If they were happy and comfortable with their decision they wouldn't care what other people think.

Who’s to say they are not happy with their decision. However, they might not want to disclose the full details on a public message boards to strangers"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can imagine the conversation over Sunday lunch at the grandparents house now ‘well Uncle Tony was there Monday, Uncle Bryan and Uncle Steve Tuesday, Auntie Sue Wednesday’

‘That’s a lot of uncles little man’

‘Mum takes them to the bedroom when she thinks I’m asleep, they make lots of noise, how they think I can sleep with’ (doing the noises)

Meanwhile little mans actual uncle is about to shove a sausage in his mouth but let’s it drop as nanny and grandad stare at their daughter in horror.

Yeah, not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s happened to me before. It made me feel a bit uncomfortable and I couldn’t really relax

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I remember someone posting that they d.rugge.d their kids and locked them in their rooms so they could fuck strangers.

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By *eclanHMan
over a year ago

Liphook

"I remember someone posting that they d.rugge.d their kids and locked them in their rooms so they could fuck strangers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I remember someone posting that they d.rugge.d their kids and locked them in their rooms so they could fuck strangers.

excuse me what

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I remember someone posting that they d.rugge.d their kids and locked them in their rooms so they could fuck strangers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My son is 20 and has aspergers. I never ask guys round because of this. My son wouldn't understand, its a pain sometimes but I won't break my rule x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I remember someone posting that they d.rugge.d their kids and locked them in their rooms so they could fuck strangers.

I remember that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I remember someone posting that they d.rugge.d their kids and locked them in their rooms so they could fuck strangers.

say what!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I remember someone posting that they d.rugge.d their kids and locked them in their rooms so they could fuck strangers.

Calpol and lock on the outside of the door iirc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was thinking on this thread earlier on and I remember speaking to a woman who under no circumstance would accommodate at hers, supposedly because of kids.

When I said I wouldn’t either due to my own, I got called all sorts and labelled everything from a cheat to a liar.

Strange that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was thinking on this thread earlier on and I remember speaking to a woman who under no circumstance would accommodate at hers, supposedly because of kids.

When I said I wouldn’t either due to my own, I got called all sorts and labelled everything from a cheat to a liar.

Strange that. "

Men who can’t accommodate are married, duh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was thinking on this thread earlier on and I remember speaking to a woman who under no circumstance would accommodate at hers, supposedly because of kids.

When I said I wouldn’t either due to my own, I got called all sorts and labelled everything from a cheat to a liar.

Strange that.

Men who can’t accommodate are married, duh!

I had someone ask me just that earlier because I have two kids, one of which is still drinking milk.

I do find it hard having to explain things sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was thinking on this thread earlier on and I remember speaking to a woman who under no circumstance would accommodate at hers, supposedly because of kids.

When I said I wouldn’t either due to my own, I got called all sorts and labelled everything from a cheat to a liar.

Strange that.

Men who can’t accommodate are married, duh!

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Or live at home or might house share? Don’t be so judgemental queenie

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was thinking on this thread earlier on and I remember speaking to a woman who under no circumstance would accommodate at hers, supposedly because of kids.

When I said I wouldn’t either due to my own, I got called all sorts and labelled everything from a cheat to a liar.

Strange that.

Men who can’t accommodate are married, duh!

Or live at home or might house share? Don’t be so judgemental queenie

It was sarcasm, I’m well aware that there are other reasons men do not accommodate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our kids go to bed later than we do these days so that wouldn’t work lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was thinking on this thread earlier on and I remember speaking to a woman who under no circumstance would accommodate at hers, supposedly because of kids.

When I said I wouldn’t either due to my own, I got called all sorts and labelled everything from a cheat to a liar.

Strange that.

Men who can’t accommodate are married, duh!

Or live at home or might house share? Don’t be so judgemental queenie

It was sarcasm, I’m well aware that there are other reasons men do not accommodate "
so was my sarcastic comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our kids go to bed later than we do these days so that wouldn’t work lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If your kid is old enough you can easily just send them out for a walk with the dog

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your kid is old enough you can easily just send them out for a walk with the dog "

Is this dogging?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If your kid is old enough you can easily just send them out for a walk with the dog

Is this dogging? "

I believe so

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I was thinking on this thread earlier on and I remember speaking to a woman who under no circumstance would accommodate at hers, supposedly because of kids.

When I said I wouldn’t either due to my own, I got called all sorts and labelled everything from a cheat to a liar.

Strange that. "

Rather than they ask why’s that then, they jump to the obvious. I know a few single dad’s that have their kids full time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So that giant orgy I’ve organised for you for December is out the window then

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

Omg no they'd be scared for life if they woke to anything.

Although a lady friend of mine was caught by her dad being spit roast by two guys when she was younger she said he shut the door with a bang and couldn't look her in the eyes for a while but never spoke about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So that giant orgy I’ve organised for you for December is out the window then"

yes hun

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

Maybe. I live in a 3 story house. Rooms and wide and large, walls/ floors very good. Children on second floor me on top floor rooms.

They can't hear a subwoofer on while sleep, so doubt any issues

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

our home is our sanctuary if we want to have naughty times we go to a club

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By *ilk_TrayMan
over a year ago

Hampshire

It happens a lot on Fabs.

Speaking from experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It happens a lot on Fabs.

Speaking from experience "

I know. So I’m asking if you would do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It happens a lot on Fabs.

Speaking from experience

I know. So I’m asking if you would do it "

I guess you just have to be true to what you believe to be right at the end of the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was in a position where I could invite someone around, I wouldn’t choose to do so, it’s my families home.

Keeping private life separate from Fabs is the sensible approach."

This! X

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

ive never needed a fuck bad enough to invite someone here when my child was here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would any of you lovely people invite someone from fab to your home, while your children were tucked up in bed?

Why?

Why not?"

Is it necessary to explain why?

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over a year ago

"Would any of you lovely people invite someone from fab to your home, while your children were tucked up in bed?

Why?

Why not?

Is it necessary to explain why?

NOT *

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over a year ago

"Would any of you lovely people invite someone from fab to your home, while your children were tucked up in bed?

Why?

Why not?

Is it necessary to explain why?

NOT *"

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went around to this womans house I met off a dating site before I knew about this we were laid in bed just chatting after the wildness and I heard someone downstairs I asked her and she told me her son (18) had been in the lounge the whole time... I was a bit freaked out because we weren't exactly quiet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just no!! Never. I dont see the need to explain why, it should go without saying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just no!! Never. I dont see the need to explain why, it should go without saying. "

You don’t need to explain. But many people would do it, so that’s why I asked why

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