FabSwingers.com forum: Thoughts on just chatting....?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been an on and off member of fab for over 5 years. Recently come back but I'm not immediately looking to meet. I've had a couple of messages. One nasty one in particular having a go at me cause I'm not meeting.

I'm not bothered by this. I pay my membership and I'll use the site how I like. Just interested in people's views

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see no problems at all with just chatting

I love chatting with people! Go for it and make friends!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just chatted for 8 months.. made some great friends and enjoyed it very much. Do exactly as you wish

Saff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chat to a lot of people on here with often no intention to meet - the site is what you make of it and who is to say there is a right and wrong way in which you want to use it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you take everything off your 'Looking for' list takes it you off the searches.

Otherwise you show up in the searches as looking to meet people and that wastes people's time. That's why they get pissed off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, there's no issue with it at all. People can use the site as they see fit, not meeting isn't breaking any rules (thankfully, as we're not meeting either) so carry on doing you!

Tea

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Happy to chat to anyone, about anything, and if that is how you want to use the site, then carry on!

Some people interest me and all I want to do is have a conversation with them, for some, that seem's strange (after all, its a swingers forum).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happy to chat to anyone, about anything, and if that is how you want to use the site, then carry on!

Some people interest me and all I want to do is have a conversation with them, for some, that seem's strange (after all, its a swingers forum).

There are some strange men on this site ^^^

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

There are a few here I chat to that there’s no chance of meeting. Until I can get them bundled into a van and driven a few hours to be closer anyway.

You’re not obliged to meet if you chat, just like you’re not obliged to have sex if you meet

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands

Chatting is fine. Sometimes leads to a fun meets. Other times it just nice to have a virtual flirt and a giggle. Or just save to world with a like minded person who lives far way.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

You don't owe anybody here anything. Communicate with people however you want to if you are respectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im here for the forums really, someone has blown me away recently after a perfect social. so my balls are all in one pocket as they say

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By *actilemale4uMan
over a year ago

London

It's good to talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love chatting. How can you decide whether you want to meet someone if you don’t chat first??

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I talk to most people and some geography is the enemy, but still good to chat

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I'm not a huge fan of chatting, got a handful of fab friends I talk to on a regular basis but random chat for the sake of it isn't really for me.

Each to their own of course.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Everyone is on here for their own reasons and it's no one's place to criticise. Use the site how you see fit and suits you best. Ignore the pettiness and nastiness. This should be fun and not a hassle

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back

"I've been an on and off member of fab for over 5 years. Recently come back but I'm not immediately looking to meet. I've had a couple of messages. One nasty one in particular having a go at me cause I'm not meeting.

I'm not bothered by this. I pay my membership and I'll use the site how I like. Just interested in people's views

There's nothing wrong with just chatting it's a shame you've had nasty messages there's no need for it it's your choice to use this site as you wish there's plenty others that use the site just to chat and have fun in the forums just block and move on o and welcome back

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you take everything off your 'Looking for' list takes it you off the searches.

Otherwise you show up in the searches as looking to meet people and that wastes people's time. That's why they get pissed off."

Thanks. Great tip! Didn't know that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are a few here I chat to that there’s no chance of meeting. Until I can get them bundled into a van and driven a few hours to be closer anyway.

You’re not obliged to meet if you chat, just like you’re not obliged to have sex if you meet

haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just chat at the moment. Potential meets maybe but for now it is just chatting.

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By *onygirlieWoman
over a year ago

Leicestershire

You don’t owe anything to anyone use the site as you wish. Quite a lot of people don’t meet for all sorts of reasons. That’s up to them. Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love chatting to like minded people. Love sharing stories and fantasies with members. Always available for chat if anyone fancies it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with just chatting, as someone else said there's no obligation to do anything. Enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you take everything off your 'Looking for' list takes it you off the searches.

Otherwise you show up in the searches as looking to meet people and that wastes people's time. That's why they get pissed off."

But if they take the few seconds it takes to read ops profile it's clear she don't meet as is mine so they are wasting their own time messaging if a meet is all they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m chatting to a sexy lady who is miles and miles away, but... it’s all good! I will venture to her neck of woods one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chat more than I meet

The ones who presume I’m interested when I send a innocent message get on my tits though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to chat, just to myself most the time haha.....

I only get conversations inside forums but on very rare occasions a message or two to give abuse most the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very upfront about the way I use this site. I take no notice of any negative messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the same not interested in meeting at all but very happy to chat and join in with you lovely lot in the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on here for about 12 years off and on. During that time I've developed a few really good "chat" buddies. Men who I can have top banter with but would rarely meet. If ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the chats on here, have started making some lovely friends, dont let a couple of dickheads dictate how you use the site, thank god for that block button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am the same not interested in meeting at all but very happy to chat and join in with you lovely lot in the forums

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. Not sure why I hit that emoji

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

were here for chatting and see what happens, each to there own what they want from the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's some really lovely people on here and I adore chatting. And if they were nearer things might be different.

But I've realised lots of men misinterpret "chatting" as aural sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"were here for chatting and see what happens, each to there own what they want from the site

Here here

I love chatting to new people.

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Nothing wrong with chatting and if you don't want to meet that's entirely your choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m chatting to a sexy lady who is miles and miles away, but... it’s all good! I will venture to her neck of woods one day

Sounds a lit like me, chatting to this amazingly funny man miles away could it be you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m chatting to a sexy lady who is miles and miles away, but... it’s all good! I will venture to her neck of woods one day

Sounds a lit like me, chatting to this amazingly funny man miles away could it be you

I wish lol

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By *estSussexGuy76Man
over a year ago

copthorne

My first instincts is to find someone to meet, maybe attend events and meets and explore.

Having taken the time over the last few days I'm understanding more about what the sites about - It appears that the key thing is respect and actually looking beyond just meeting up right away like other sites.

What I'm looking for hasn't changed but I'm happy to get involved and chat and if there's a mutual interest then let's see what happens ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m chatting to a sexy lady who is miles and miles away, but... it’s all good! I will venture to her neck of woods one day

Sounds a lit like me, chatting to this amazingly funny man miles away could it be you

Could be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m chatting to a sexy lady who is miles and miles away, but... it’s all good! I will venture to her neck of woods one day

Sounds a lit like me, chatting to this amazingly funny man miles away could it be you

Could be

just could be pffft

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

Use the site as you see fit and what suits your needs. Not everyone if after a quick fuck. Sometimes just chatting can lead to finding the person you least expected to find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You use the site exactly how you want too. I do have to giggle sometimes when I see "we are all here for the same thing right"

Actually no we aren't.

Some just chat on forum

Some meet lots of different people

Some are looking for a Fwb and don't do random meets (ahem me

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Aslong as your happy with how you use it then that's all that matters x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally with you OP

I'll meet when I'm ready, not because someone tells me that meeting them is in my better interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m chatting to a sexy lady who is miles and miles away, but... it’s all good! I will venture to her neck of woods one day

Sounds a lit like me, chatting to this amazingly funny man miles away could it be you

Could be

just could be pffft

it’s definitely me! Get ya coat my dear, you’ve pulled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m chatting to a sexy lady who is miles and miles away, but... it’s all good! I will venture to her neck of woods one day

Sounds a lit like me, chatting to this amazingly funny man miles away could it be you

Could be

just could be pffft

it’s definitely me! Get ya coat my dear, you’ve pulled

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about time I mean how long does one have to drop drastic hints huh

who's going where though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m chatting to a sexy lady who is miles and miles away, but... it’s all good! I will venture to her neck of woods one day

Sounds a lit like me, chatting to this amazingly funny man miles away could it be you

Could be

just could be pffft

it’s definitely me! Get ya coat my dear, you’ve pulled

about time I mean how long does one have to drop drastic hints huh

who's going where though? "

Woohoo! He shoots, he scores, get in there Smudge

Somewhere in the middle?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m chatting to a sexy lady who is miles and miles away, but... it’s all good! I will venture to her neck of woods one day

Sounds a lit like me, chatting to this amazingly funny man miles away could it be you

Could be

just could be pffft

it’s definitely me! Get ya coat my dear, you’ve pulled

about time I mean how long does one have to drop drastic hints huh

who's going where though?

Woohoo! He shoots, he scores, get in there Smudge

Somewhere in the middle? "

It's okay I will make my way to you princess, you keep them nice soft feet up. Knight in shinning armour on the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m chatting to a sexy lady who is miles and miles away, but... it’s all good! I will venture to her neck of woods one day

Sounds a lit like me, chatting to this amazingly funny man miles away could it be you

Could be

just could be pffft

it’s definitely me! Get ya coat my dear, you’ve pulled

about time I mean how long does one have to drop drastic hints huh

who's going where though?

Woohoo! He shoots, he scores, get in there Smudge

Somewhere in the middle?

It's okay I will make my way to you princess, you keep them nice soft feet up. Knight in shinning armour on the way "

Awww bless ya

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If you are open about just chatting,I don't see why people have such a problem tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only chat on here as meets are far easier in the real world. Not that I wouldn't meet a lady from fab, I'm just not actively seeking one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet in clubs so I will only chat on here. I make it clear in first message and on profile when it's active . Had some cracking conversations and the guys I speak too actually like the fact that they have someone to talk too even if it's never going to lead to anything.

For instance guy i was chatting too yesterday.. awesome conversation about stalking and how we would need to put up a system of we ever bump into one another in a club.

I see no reason why I can't just talk to someone as long as I'm clear at the outset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love just chatting with people until someone sparks an interest

Anyone wanna chat lol

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"Use the site as you see fit and what suits your needs. Not everyone if after a quick fuck. Sometimes just chatting can lead to finding the person you least expected to find. "

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love just chatting with people until someone sparks an interest

Anyone wanna chat lol"

Anytime!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"Nothing wrong with just chatting, as someone else said there's no obligation to do anything. Enjoy."

Precisely this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing wrong with just chatting, as someone else said there's no obligation to do anything. Enjoy.

Precisely this

Hi fellow fan x

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By *elshmuzzyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I'm here mainly just for chatting (and maybe the odd perv) as I'm married and most women won't meet married men (at least without partners consent)

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I've chatted with people over the years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m chatting to a sexy lady who is miles and miles away, but... it’s all good! I will venture to her neck of woods one day

Sounds a lit like me, chatting to this amazingly funny man miles away could it be you

Could be

just could be pffft

it’s definitely me! Get ya coat my dear, you’ve pulled

about time I mean how long does one have to drop drastic hints huh

who's going where though?

Woohoo! He shoots, he scores, get in there Smudge

Somewhere in the middle?

It's okay I will make my way to you princess, you keep them nice soft feet up. Knight in shinning armour on the way

Awww bless ya

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I'm a delight so I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m mainly here to chat now but that could just as quickly change for the right person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m chatting to a sexy lady who is miles and miles away, but... it’s all good! I will venture to her neck of woods one day

Sounds a lit like me, chatting to this amazingly funny man miles away could it be you

Could be

just could be pffft

it’s definitely me! Get ya coat my dear, you’ve pulled

about time I mean how long does one have to drop drastic hints huh

who's going where though?

Woohoo! He shoots, he scores, get in there Smudge

Somewhere in the middle?

It's okay I will make my way to you princess, you keep them nice soft feet up. Knight in shinning armour on the way

Awww bless ya

I'm a delight so I am "

You sure are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone to there own. I love to chat, even if it goes nowhere. It's still nice, then if it does its magical as you know what turns a lady on. It's the more relaxed and polite way in life. Instead on first message "fancy a fuck" lol. I know where that message goes. Straight block and delete. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m mainly here to chat now but that could just as quickly change for the right person

I was on here for just chatting, someone tempted me. Now I am back to just chatting to others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m mainly here to chat now but that could just as quickly change for the right person

I was on here for just chatting, someone tempted me. Now I am back to just chatting to others

Hi x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to chat but almost no one replies to messages that I send. And no they're not obscene, they generally refer to whatever had been put on the status

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