FabSwingers.com forum: What really pisses me off..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Inadequate baby rooms.

I’m out with my youngest who still needs his milk warming. I see a baby room and think ‘yes! I don’t have to go buy a coffee and ask for a mug of hot water to warm his milk.’

I open the baby room door and it’s just a couple of chairs both of which have women feeding in. Nothing else.

While I get the want and need for privacy us blokes need to be able to look after our littlest ones too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m also annoyed I just walked in on those two women which it’s probably disturbed their kids and them from feeding properly.

I’m not just moaning for myself but for the two poor sods I’ve just walked in on.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Get your baby used to drinking cold milk. Makes it so much easier. Over a week gradually reduce the temperature.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

It’s been so long since I had a little baba that I can’t remember how I coped.

I do think that there should be adequate facilities though. Hope you managed to warm the milk in the end. I’m sure the ladies didn’t mind the intrusion, you weren’t there for nefarious purposes. It’s just one of those things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get your baby used to drinking cold milk. Makes it so much easier. Over a week gradually reduce the temperature. "

Sorry, but, no. With his mum no longer around if it provides him comfort in having warm milk, I’m not going to do that for my own convenience.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Get your baby used to drinking cold milk. Makes it so much easier. Over a week gradually reduce the temperature.

Sorry, but, no. With his mum no longer around if it provides him comfort in having warm milk, I’m not going to do that for my own convenience. "

Why not take a flask of hot water with you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get your baby used to drinking cold milk. Makes it so much easier. Over a week gradually reduce the temperature.

Sorry, but, no. With his mum no longer around if it provides him comfort in having warm milk, I’m not going to do that for my own convenience.

Why not take a flask of hot water with you?

I’ve tried this and forgotten / had it spill and ruin nappy bags etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a woman who had a child who was bottle fed rather than breast fed, well, I planned, I timed, I took everything I could possibly need with me.

Oh, and rarely went out.

Hope this helps.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Inadequate baby rooms.

I’m out with my youngest who still needs his milk warming. I see a baby room and think ‘yes! I don’t have to go buy a coffee and ask for a mug of hot water to warm his milk.’

I open the baby room door and it’s just a couple of chairs both of which have women feeding in. Nothing else.

While I get the want and need for privacy us blokes need to be able to look after our littlest ones too! "

Top man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you complain to the establishments management?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As a woman who had a child who was bottle fed rather than breast fed, well, I planned, I timed, I took everything I could possibly need with me.

Oh, and rarely went out.

Hope this helps.

Helps in telling someone you think they’re doing a shit job?

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

At least they have feeding rooms now, I used to have to use the disabled toilets, lovely not.

Sounds like you're doing an ok job there OP, I remember well how every trip out had to be planned like a military manoeuvre, and there would always be something I'd left behind.

Never the baby tho, so I wasn't that bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never relied on somewhere to provide for me when i was with my daughter I would have a flask of hot water with me or for shorter times I would pre warm it and keep it in an insulating pouch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things are much better now than they were 13/14 years ago.

When I wanted to change my eldest son, I once ended up doing on the floor as all of the change facilities were in the ladies.

Obviously the situation isn't ideal yet but I've seen some places with lockable feeding rooms and multipurpose changing areas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Things are much better now than they were 13/14 years ago.

When I wanted to change my eldest son, I once ended up doing on the floor as all of the change facilities were in the ladies.

Obviously the situation isn't ideal yet but I've seen some places with lockable feeding rooms and multipurpose changing areas. "

This was Tea by the way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't recall ever having a problem on that side of things even with twins, just use to carry a flask of hot water about

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By *sm81Couple
over a year ago

warwickshire

We sometimes made a bottle up before going out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get your baby used to drinking cold milk. Makes it so much easier. Over a week gradually reduce the temperature.

Sorry, but, no. With his mum no longer around if it provides him comfort in having warm milk, I’m not going to do that for my own convenience. "

Awww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m also annoyed I just walked in on those two women which it’s probably disturbed their kids and them from feeding properly.

I’m not just moaning for myself but for the two poor sods I’ve just walked in on. "

The kids will be used to people being around. They can't lock the door in case someone else wants to use the room - as you did.

No idea about facilities so can't help there. But it sounds like you care and that's awesome.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Its amazing how many changing rooms are still mother and baby one was even mothercare. Dont know if theyve changed ot now

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I don't recall ever having a problem on that side of things even with twins, just use to carry a flask of hot water about"

The problem with having twins was I often couldn't get the double buggy through the toilet door ! Had to use disabled then people scowled at me.

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By *tooveMan
over a year ago

belfast

totally understand where the op is coming from.all the baby stuff is aimed at women. thats not a whinge, just a fact. was even worse when mine were babies but even with grandkids now it isnt much better.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"totally understand where the op is coming from.all the baby stuff is aimed at women. thats not a whinge, just a fact. was even worse when mine were babies but even with grandkids now it isnt much better."

People need to flag it up with stores etc. They cant afford to lose customers and hopefully will start to take notice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get your baby used to drinking cold milk. Makes it so much easier. Over a week gradually reduce the temperature.

Sorry, but, no. With his mum no longer around if it provides him comfort in having warm milk, I’m not going to do that for my own convenience. "
I tried this didnt work. My little one wouldn't have cold milk.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't recall ever having a problem on that side of things even with twins, just use to carry a flask of hot water about"

I guess, moving to a different place things are different. In London the baby rooms had curtained curbicles for breast feeding and a separate area for bottle feeding.

It was just one of those days today.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Hi O.P. Sorry you had a shit day but thanks for highlighting this problem. I'd never considered a father facing difficulties when out with a youngster.

I had my children over 40 years ago and nothing was provided for anyone. We did it ourselves.

But if things are available for parents with babies then people breast feeding shouldn't be shocked when someone walks in .

I think you should maybe contact stores. Why not ? Make it your goal to improve things for other fathers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The problem isn’t so much stores. I don’t go in to a shop and instantly think oh no little one needs milk. It’s actually shopping malls.

If I’m out at a supermarket I plan accordingly and using a shopping mall which has a baby area which isn’t really sufficient is where it gets frustrating.

As I said, it’s just one of those days. Nowhere wants disgruntled babies because that equals disgruntled parents who’ll leave early and not shop properly.

As many people highlighted - fail to prepare, prepare to fail. I guess they are just better parents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a woman who had a child who was bottle fed rather than breast fed, well, I planned, I timed, I took everything I could possibly need with me.

Oh, and rarely went out.

Hope this helps.

Helps in telling someone you think they’re doing a shit job? "

That's not telling you you're doing a shit job, I'm saying I was crap at it, hence the... I rarely went out. Sorry my misplaced humour missed the mark

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"The problem isn’t so much stores. I don’t go in to a shop and instantly think oh no little one needs milk. It’s actually shopping malls.

If I’m out at a supermarket I plan accordingly and using a shopping mall which has a baby area which isn’t really sufficient is where it gets frustrating.

As I said, it’s just one of those days. Nowhere wants disgruntled babies because that equals disgruntled parents who’ll leave early and not shop properly.

As many people highlighted - fail to prepare, prepare to fail. I guess they are just better parents. "

No not at all about being a better parent, I feed mine on demand breastfeeding you can't prepare for that.

I had the boobs and their food on command so bottles weren't an issue.

Maybe a bottle in an insolated bag

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I can identify with what your staying. I was left holding the baby at 6 months old, with a 4 year old in toe. It amazed me how many places still have the baby changing station only in the women's toilets. Caused a lot of frustration and embassement. I faced a lot of awkward moments with my son in what is still a womans world. However I'm pretty sure this was not of woman design, more of men who don't see the need for men to need this too. I doubt many women designers/building managers would want to discourage men taking more of the work load when it comes to raising baby's. At the moment raising babies is still a woman's world and we get a bit pushed out of it.

It's hard work mate, but don't put too much pressure on your self. As long as kids have bags full of love the rest sorts it's self out. And things do get easier (or at least less work intensive) as time goes on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't recall ever having a problem on that side of things even with twins, just use to carry a flask of hot water about

I guess, moving to a different place things are different. In London the baby rooms had curtained curbicles for breast feeding and a separate area for bottle feeding.

It was just one of those days today. "

Could be a location thing I guess I always found the "mums" quite chatty and friendly, most gave respect that your a guy bringing up the little ones

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