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By *uteguy06 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Hi all just wondering do people on here mind asain guys?

It's that I'm an British Born Asain (class myself english) and whenever I'm talking to anyone as soon as I send the pic that's it no reply, messages deleted and in some cases getting blocked.

I'm always polite and would never send anyone a message like "do you wanna fuck" or anything on them lines, just don't understand.

I understand that I may not be everyone's cup of tea but it does start damaging confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been with asian guys nothing against them cause of their race!

Sammi

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Have you ever stopped to think that it might not be because your asian and that they just dont find you attractive.

Some will like asian guys and some wont. There is noway of telling by your profile that you are asian. Maybe put it in your profile. There is no description in your profile. Personally im more interested in whether i like the individual or not and not there ethnic background.

I know some asian guys on here that do pretty alright for themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever stopped to think that it might not be because your asian and that they just dont find you attractive.

"

took the words right outta my mouth diamonds

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By *uteguy06 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Ok still doesn't make anything better lol as they must just think I'm ugly then as I send my pic when ever I message anyone new. Lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Ok still doesn't make anything better lol as they must just think I'm ugly then as I send my pic when ever I message anyone new. Lol"

Might not make things better but might stop you obsessing that its because your asian.

Also if you send a picture with every new message, it might not even be your picture that they dont like, could be lots of things, they could have read your profile and found no common link, or simply your just not what they are looking for

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Ok still doesn't make anything better lol as they must just think I'm ugly then as I send my pic when ever I message anyone new. Lol"
Have you tried buffing up your profile? It doesnt really give much information about you and what you are looking for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you put on your profile you're Asian, then you will cut out any false optimism, a great deal. The people you speak to will know straight off, that your Asian (if they read your profile), and I haven't met a lady yet that didn't read my profile first before meeting.

Then its down to an attraction or finding/ building a connection. These are most important, unless your just wham bham sex.

And lastly remember its all about preference, if they don't like you, then don't worry about. I'm sure you don't fancy every lady you see on here, so give your recipient the same courtesy.

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By *uteguy06 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Your probably correct there but it's just so confidence draining when your getting no replies.

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By *uteguy06 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Well the profile is going I get updated this evening I think, needs to be done some good advice here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also. and i'm not being picky here, but as an asian guy, i would have thought you would be able to spell asian correctly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok still doesn't make anything better lol as they must just think I'm ugly then as I send my pic when ever I message anyone new. Lol

Might not make things better but might stop you obsessing that its because your asian.

Also if you send a picture with every new message, it might not even be your picture that they dont like, could be lots of things, they could have read your profile and found no common link, or simply your just not what they are looking for"

He's not 'obsessing', he's asking a valid question as I would be if I was on a swingers' site in India and I asked whether people there fancied blond, blue eyed north Europeans.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my suggestion is to get along to socials

sometimes people aren't particularly photogenic so letting people get to know the real you not just a photo will start to increase your chances of finding some fun

don't get hung up on it being because of one thing as it could be for a number of reasons

good luck

xxxx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Well the profile is going I get updated this evening I think, needs to be done some good advice here."

Write yourself a decent profile, you only have to mention that your asian briefly. Your not going to be for everyone for numerous reasons, but if someone is interested then you know that there not fussed by your ethnic background

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"also. and i'm not being picky here, but as an asian guy, i would have thought you would be able to spell asian correctly"

could just be typing too quickly i do it all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"also. and i'm not being picky here, but as an asian guy, i would have thought you would be able to spell asian correctly

could just be typing too quickly i do it all the time"

as i said, not being picky, but the header and twice in the message

little more than typing too quickly i think

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By *uteguy06 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Lol I'm sorry yes was my mistake schoolboy error.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"also. and i'm not being picky here, but as an asian guy, i would have thought you would be able to spell asian correctly

could just be typing too quickly i do it all the time

as i said, not being picky, but the header and twice in the message

little more than typing too quickly i think"

Lol, his confidence is already down, so let's attack his Sepllnig (that was deliberate, by the way xxxxx)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"also. and i'm not being picky here, but as an asian guy, i would have thought you would be able to spell asian correctly

could just be typing too quickly i do it all the time

as i said, not being picky, but the header and twice in the message

little more than typing too quickly i think

Lol, his confidence is already down, so let's attack his Sepllnig (that was deliberate, by the way xxxxx)"

not really, your profile is your shop window, so accuracy is important, hence the "not being picky",

suggesting his confidence is down (which it is not as it was a reasonable question) and saying he is being attacked (when he is not) is a negative comment that can bring his confidence down.

and as he has already pointed out prior to your comment, it had no effect as in his own words it was a schoolboy error

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all just wondering do people on here mind asain guys?

It's that I'm an British Born Asain (class myself english) and whenever I'm talking to anyone as soon as I send the pic that's it no reply, messages deleted and in some cases getting blocked.

I'm always polite and would never send anyone a message like "do you wanna fuck" or anything on them lines, just don't understand.

I understand that I may not be everyone's cup of tea but it does start damaging confidence."

Welcome to the club my friend, been through all of the above...but you need to remain positive if you want meets... asians are like marmites..99% hate them 1 % like them...so patience my friend, your turn will come...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well i think your being picky and childish picking someone up on an error

Your just making an assumption that he would have spelt it like that on his profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well i think your being picky and childish picking someone up on an error

Your just making an assumption that he would have spelt it like that on his profile"

and here we go again.

a little bit of advise turns into a full blown argument on a thread.

i was trying to help, not critisise.

would a mod please remove my comment to please those who interpreted it wrongly

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By *uteguy06 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Thanks 123 I will keep going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"also. and i'm not being picky here, but as an asian guy, i would have thought you would be able to spell asian correctly

could just be typing too quickly i do it all the time

as i said, not being picky, but the header and twice in the message

little more than typing too quickly i think

Lol, his confidence is already down, so let's attack his Sepllnig (that was deliberate, by the way xxxxx)

not really, your profile is your shop window, so accuracy is important, hence the "not being picky",

suggesting his confidence is down (which it is not as it was a reasonable question) and saying he is being attacked (when he is not) is a negative comment that can bring his confidence down.

and as he has already pointed out prior to your comment, it had no effect as in his own words it was a schoolboy error"

In my defence OP said it was confidence draining, which implied their confidence was down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a wit an intelligence and sense of humour that can engage but my face has the uncanny ability to disengage all that hard work for me!!

Nothing I can do about that other than laugh really because It doesn't bother me one little bit. You will find someone who wants some of what your selling and then you will be fine - keep looking and just be yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my suggestion is to get along to socials

sometimes people aren't particularly photogenic so letting people get to know the real you not just a photo will start to increase your chances of finding some fun

don't get hung up on it being because of one thing as it could be for a number of reasons

good luck

xxxx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a wit an intelligence and sense of humour that can engage but my face has the uncanny ability to disengage all that hard work for me!!

Nothing I can do about that other than laugh really because It doesn't bother me one little bit. You will find someone who wants some of what your selling and then you will be fine - keep looking and just be yourself"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excellent constructive words of wisdom

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

im gutted not everyone wants to meet 5ft ,size 14 red heads ! lol !! as folks have said everyone has their preferences be it tall ,short slight bulit or big build ect ! no one is going to be everyones cup of tea and you can get knock backs anywhere .how you deal with them is going to decide how sucessful you are on here . you can lick your wounds and blame "what ever" you want for ppl not being interested .OR use this as a learn that current profile isnt getting what you want , grab it by the balls,shake it up and change it !re-vamp profile and get new pics ,think what is best way to put yourself and what your looking for across and gonna get you noticed above all the other profiles on here . what ever you decide all the best x

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By *uteguy06 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Thanks all

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By *uteguy06 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Do you think a profile pic would help?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Do you think a profile pic would help?"

definetly

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By *uteguy06 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Done hopefully that will be a good start

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Thats better, and your definetly not ugly, now you just need to revamp your profile a bit

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By *uteguy06 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Thanks will do that this evening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not sexually attracted towards asian men but if i was talking to one and they sent me a pic i would send them a 'your not for me' message back, manners cost nothing

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By *uteguy06 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Yeah manners don't cost anything. But unfortunately in this modern world in general people have forgotten their manners & politeness!

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