FabSwingers.com forum: I was thinking that life on Fab would be easier if..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

... I had a selected few who I could pm and get a rating 1-10 for prospective meets?

On my journey to find the perfect play mates I’m getting so many messages saying I’ve been on and off Fab for years and am now back with a new username. I ask why, they say cliques, problems, bullies, sometimes the forums are mentioned. Hmmm. I check verifications but as everyone if free to display or not, they don’t really help.

Now imagine all the combined knowledge on here ladies. Find out their old username. We pm and get instant info. Brilliant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having watched the shitty end of the stick that single men often get on here, I can only imagine how that info would get abused.

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

You could reverse image search them. Find their stolen photos on pornhub and have many many many private lady times

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Information certainly can be shared privately. Positively or otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Having watched the shitty end of the stick that single men often get on here, I can only imagine how that info would get abused. "

Well I am focusing on single men to meet so I’m not sure about that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Information certainly can be shared privately. Positively or otherwise. "

Noted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know about that, but I’m not really looking for single men

For me, is the select few I wanted all decided to suddenly move to Cardiff though....that would make things much easier

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Having watched the shitty end of the stick that single men often get on here, I can only imagine how that info would get abused.

Well I am focusing on single men to meet so I’m not sure about that."

And nothing about the OP specified guys.

I've shared that couples claiming to be non smokers actually smoke, that I've had unnecessary dramatic messages from women, and more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Or

You could reverse image search them. Find their stolen photos on pornhub and have many many many private lady times "

Ha! Will try this.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

... I've also shared that X is a great respectful guy who I'd recommend, more than once.

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By *amesnplanesMan
over a year ago

Banbridge and Dublin

If it were me, I'd invite all and sundry to one of the numerous clubs. Chams comes to mind.

I'd then use the club atmosphere to identify which of the possible persons would work for me.

And if all the correspondees were unreliable, well Chams is one of those venues that always puts a smile on your face!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Having watched the shitty end of the stick that single men often get on here, I can only imagine how that info would get abused.

Well I am focusing on single men to meet so I’m not sure about that.

And nothing about the OP specified guys.

I've shared that couples claiming to be non smokers actually smoke, that I've had unnecessary dramatic messages from women, and more. "

Exactly the kknd of info that’s very useful. Wasn’t referring to their sexual prowess

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it were me, I'd invite all and sundry to one of the numerous clubs. Chams comes to mind.

I'd then use the club atmosphere to identify which of the possible persons would work for me.

And if all the correspondees were unreliable, well Chams is one of those venues that always puts a smile on your face!"

Thank you for sharing your fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all honestly I'd rather make my own mind up on an individual, rather than taking someone else's opinion.. like everything on here there's 3 sides to every story.

Saff

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"In all honestly I'd rather make my own mind up on an individual, rather than taking someone else's opinion.. like everything on here there's 3 sides to every story.

Saff"

That's definitely true, although if you know/ like/ trust X, X has met Y, and Y is a potential meet for you... their opinion might be valuable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In all honestly I'd rather make my own mind up on an individual, rather than taking someone else's opinion.. like everything on here there's 3 sides to every story.

Saff"

Yes but as Ms Dress says, the non sexual stuff... just to help you decide whether to meet or not???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... I've also shared that X is a great respectful guy who I'd recommend, more than once. "

Share with whom exactly? A few mates? A wider audience?

Quite frankly, I find it a little creepy and distasteful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In all honestly I'd rather make my own mind up on an individual, rather than taking someone else's opinion.. like everything on here there's 3 sides to every story.

Saff

That's definitely true, although if you know/ like/ trust X, X has met Y, and Y is a potential meet for you... their opinion might be valuable. "

Yeah I agree with that but that's usually a conversation I'll have with a friend rather than give out randomly..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m too new to have mates on here yet, that’s why I wrote a selective few. Future friends

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"In all honestly I'd rather make my own mind up on an individual, rather than taking someone else's opinion.. like everything on here there's 3 sides to every story.

Saff

That's definitely true, although if you know/ like/ trust X, X has met Y, and Y is a potential meet for you... their opinion might be valuable.

Yeah I agree with that but that's usually a conversation I'll have with a friend rather than give out randomly.."

I'm talking about friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t know about that, but I’m not really looking for single men

For me, is the select few I wanted all decided to suddenly move to Cardiff though....that would make things much easier "

I'm not moving to Cardiff!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"... I've also shared that X is a great respectful guy who I'd recommend, more than once.

Share with whom exactly? A few mates? A wider audience?

Quite frankly, I find it a little creepy and distasteful. "

That's your prerogative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actively encourage those I want to meet to contact people on my verification list and get an independent review. I would never want someone to have the wrong impression of me.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Having watched the shitty end of the stick that single men often get on here, I can only imagine how that info would get abused.

Well I am focusing on single men to meet so I’m not sure about that."
I'm an open book , so you can ask me anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In all honestly I'd rather make my own mind up on an individual, rather than taking someone else's opinion.. like everything on here there's 3 sides to every story.

Saff

That's definitely true, although if you know/ like/ trust X, X has met Y, and Y is a potential meet for you... their opinion might be valuable.

Yeah I agree with that but that's usually a conversation I'll have with a friend rather than give out randomly..

I'm talking about friends. "

Sorry yes wasn't a dig.. meant that it would be a conversation with a close mate about someone I knew socially..I'd never discuss anyone I'd met as a partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t know about that, but I’m not really looking for single men

For me, is the select few I wanted all decided to suddenly move to Cardiff though....that would make things much easier

I'm not moving to Cardiff!!"

I thought we were moving to turkey?!

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Discussion is a good thing, it helps to keep people safe and to sort out expectations too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t know about that, but I’m not really looking for single men

For me, is the select few I wanted all decided to suddenly move to Cardiff though....that would make things much easier

I'm not moving to Cardiff!!

I thought we were moving to turkey?! "

Rather that than cardiff lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Discussion is a good thing, it helps to keep people safe and to sort out expectations too

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Discussion is a good thing, it helps to keep people safe and to sort out expectations too

Unless you’re unfairly and probably unknowingly the subject of that discussion.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Discussion is a good thing, it helps to keep people safe and to sort out expectations too

Unless you’re unfairly and probably unknowingly the subject of that discussion."

Discussion will happen anyway and already does.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Discussion is a good thing, it helps to keep people safe and to sort out expectations too

Unless you’re unfairly and probably unknowingly the subject of that discussion."

What you don’t know won’t hurt you.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I suppose this is more relative for women given issues such as safety, etc.

I personally come to my own conclusions before deciding to meet anyone. Sufficient back and forth messaging is enough to gove an indication if we're compatible and on the same page. Happy to say haven't been wrong yet

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I understand and see what you're saying OP, it would depend on a number of things though. The reliability of your sources, how much information was being shared, etc.

There is an awful lot of bitching and gossiping that goes on behind the scenes already and it's a fine line between getting impartial information and unfair reactive discussion.

Personally, I try and take people as I find them. I had quite stringent criteria for meeting people and rarely listened to what others were saying about them, even if that person was a good friend.

Ultimately we all have a different set of values that we base our judgements on, a great social to me might not be so to someone else. Ultimately the only person that you can rely on to make accurate decisions on whether someone will be a good meet for you, is you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

How would you choose the select few and how would you know how reliable their information was? This kind of thing reinforces in my mind the clique mentality that is vehemently denied on the forum.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"How would you choose the select few and how would you know how reliable their information was? This kind of thing reinforces in my mind the clique mentality that is vehemently denied on the forum. "

My circles are based on who I've spent considerable time getting to know and have spent time with, which so far includes no regular forum users and includes people with low levels of "success" on Fab.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I don't think I would want to know another guys opinion of a potential meet even if it were offered to me. Prefer to draw my own conclusions and if I have a great time then I have the satisfaction of knowing I found a diamond in the rough all on my own.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I suppose this is more relative for women given issues such as safety, etc.

Safety is an enormous factor. And it's a thing that happens everywhere and will continue to happen.

I also use intuition and my own evidence, but if I have an opinion from my inner circle, absolutely I'll use it.

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull

Recon it will be hard to share,

When one like big man doggy style the other can prefere smaller one cowgirl style, and the big one would be to much for her but depends on position,

In my opinion too many variables to make that efficient

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"How would you choose the select few and how would you know how reliable their information was? This kind of thing reinforces in my mind the clique mentality that is vehemently denied on the forum.

I was referring to the op. Also how on earth will these people have information on every potential meet?

Of course the safety of everyone involved in a meet is paramount.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"How would you choose the select few and how would you know how reliable their information was? This kind of thing reinforces in my mind the clique mentality that is vehemently denied on the forum.

I was referring to the op. Also how on earth will these people have information on every potential meet?

Of course the safety of everyone involved in a meet is paramount. "

Oh no, if a friend has happened to meet someone I might ask about character (polite, respectful, pushy, etc). That's all.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

I'm interested in meeting X and I know Y has met her, so I ask for his review.

Unbeknown to me Y is a possessive fruitloop who is obsessed with X and wants to keep her all for himself.

The feedback reads; "she's awful, turned up an hour late, looks 30 years older than her profile pics and her armpits smelt worse than rotten cheese"

He then tells X I've been asking all sorts of personal and intimate questions about her.

And thus two people's meet has been denied.

In theory it's a good idea. In practice, I feel less so....

Two pence spent.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How would you choose the select few and how would you know how reliable their information was? This kind of thing reinforces in my mind the clique mentality that is vehemently denied on the forum.

I was referring to the op. Also how on earth will these people have information on every potential meet?

Of course the safety of everyone involved in a meet is paramount. "

Thank you for asking but as I said, I would ask the opinions of those I’m drawn to on the forums or at social events. A small group of friends as in any other sphere of life. Again, again, again, not necessarily to compare sexual stuff, I know what I like, but other things that are just as important that might help decide whether to meet or not. Friends do this anyway or mine do.

Perhaps this is me saying ‘somebody, please be my friend’.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm interested in meeting X and I know Y has met her, so I ask for his review.

Unbeknown to me Y is a possessive fruitloop who is obsessed with X and wants to keep her all for himself.

The feedback reads; "she's awful, turned up an hour late, looks 30 years older than her profile pics and her armpits smelt worse than rotten cheese"

He then tells X I've been asking all sorts of personal and intimate questions about her.

And thus two people's meet has been denied.

In theory it's a good idea. In practice, I feel less so....

Two pence spent. "

Thank you for sharing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"How would you choose the select few and how would you know how reliable their information was? This kind of thing reinforces in my mind the clique mentality that is vehemently denied on the forum.

I was referring to the op. Also how on earth will these people have information on every potential meet?

Of course the safety of everyone involved in a meet is paramount.

Perhaps this is me saying ‘somebody, please be my friend’.

So it would be like any group of friends discussing whether or not to meet another person? That I can sort of understand especially as a single person on fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How would you choose the select few and how would you know how reliable their information was? This kind of thing reinforces in my mind the clique mentality that is vehemently denied on the forum.

I was referring to the op. Also how on earth will these people have information on every potential meet?

Of course the safety of everyone involved in a meet is paramount.

Perhaps this is me saying ‘somebody, please be my friend’.

So it would be like any group of friends discussing whether or not to meet another person? That I can sort of understand especially as a single person on fab.

Yes, as that is exactly what I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm interested in meeting X and I know Y has met her, so I ask for his review.

Unbeknown to me Y is a possessive fruitloop who is obsessed with X and wants to keep her all for himself.

The feedback reads; "she's awful, turned up an hour late, looks 30 years older than her profile pics and her armpits smelt worse than rotten cheese"

He then tells X I've been asking all sorts of personal and intimate questions about her.

And thus two people's meet has been denied.

In theory it's a good idea. In practice, I feel less so....

Two pence spent. "

Exactly this. I’ve had women I know try to put me off someone numerous times. It usually makes me wonder why. Usually makes me think it’s because they want to keep them!

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I'm interested in meeting X and I know Y has met her, so I ask for his review.

Unbeknown to me Y is a possessive fruitloop who is obsessed with X and wants to keep her all for himself.

The feedback reads; "she's awful, turned up an hour late, looks 30 years older than her profile pics and her armpits smelt worse than rotten cheese"

He then tells X I've been asking all sorts of personal and intimate questions about her.

And thus two people's meet has been denied.

In theory it's a good idea. In practice, I feel less so....

Two pence spent. "

You’ve met Y as well?

You’re right, and then the judgement comes down to how much you value the information. As said above, the final decision is always yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps this is me saying ‘somebody, please be my friend’.

Has your inbox exploded with new 'friends' ?

We have quite a large circle of swinging friends. Sometimes we meet as a group, sometimes just us and them.

We just don’t talk about anyone else we’ve met. It seems wrong and so indiscreet. We wouldn’t like to be talked about and won’t do it, even when asked. These are people we’ve met in real life.

We’re all aware that behind the scenes on Fab, lots of gossip goes on. The thought appals me and is one reason we don’t get involved too much with people on the forums.

Codifying that into something a little more formal is even worse and, I imagine, could have legal ramifications.

The safety aspect is a bit of a pink kipper. Be responsible for yourself. What happens if I say someone is ok, and he batters you during the meet. Is it my fault? Am I slightly to blame? No thanks....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Perhaps this is me saying ‘somebody, please be my friend’.

Has your inbox exploded with new 'friends' ?

We have quite a large circle of swinging friends. Sometimes we meet as a group, sometimes just us and them.

We’re all aware that behind the scenes on Fab, lots of gossip goes on. The thought appals me and is one reason we don’t get involved too much with people on the forums.

Codifying that into something a little more formal is even worse and, I imagine, could have legal ramifications.

Not forcing you to do anything

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm interested in meeting X and I know Y has met her, so I ask for his review.

Unbeknown to me Y is a possessive fruitloop who is obsessed with X and wants to keep her all for himself.

The feedback reads; "she's awful, turned up an hour late, looks 30 years older than her profile pics and her armpits smelt worse than rotten cheese"

He then tells X I've been asking all sorts of personal and intimate questions about her.

And thus two people's meet has been denied.

In theory it's a good idea. In practice, I feel less so....

Two pence spent.

Exactly this. I’ve had women I know try to put me off someone numerous times. It usually makes me wonder why. Usually makes me think it’s because they want to keep them!"

Plenty of fish out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can kinda see your point but at the same time I'd still prefer to just trust my judgement.

Even my friends I've known for years can have very different experiences and opinions of people we know and at times they can be unintentionally negative about them.

I know it has been specified it might be things like they smoke or they're married but again not all "facts" are true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... I had a selected few who I could pm and get a rating 1-10 for prospective meets?

Now imagine all the combined knowledge on here ladies. Find out their old username. We pm and get instant info. Brilliant.

Kik group a innit....

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"... I had a selected few who I could pm and get a rating 1-10 for prospective meets?

Now imagine all the combined knowledge on here ladies. Find out their old username. We pm and get instant info. Brilliant.

Kik group a innit....

Or like if the Mother’s Union had a breakaway sex group

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm interested in meeting X and I know Y has met her, so I ask for his review.

Unbeknown to me Y is a possessive fruitloop who is obsessed with X and wants to keep her all for himself.

The feedback reads; "she's awful, turned up an hour late, looks 30 years older than her profile pics and her armpits smelt worse than rotten cheese"

He then tells X I've been asking all sorts of personal and intimate questions about her.

And thus two people's meet has been denied.

In theory it's a good idea. In practice, I feel less so....

Two pence spent.

Exactly this. I’ve had women I know try to put me off someone numerous times. It usually makes me wonder why. Usually makes me think it’s because they want to keep them!"

Always look at motivation and understand that others will look at yours in return and your reputation will follow from that I a small place like this, innit

Steve x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm interested in meeting X and I know Y has met her, so I ask for his review.

Unbeknown to me Y is a possessive fruitloop who is obsessed with X and wants to keep her all for himself.

The feedback reads; "she's awful, turned up an hour late, looks 30 years older than her profile pics and her armpits smelt worse than rotten cheese"

He then tells X I've been asking all sorts of personal and intimate questions about her.

And thus two people's meet has been denied.

In theory it's a good idea. In practice, I feel less so....

Two pence spent.

Exactly this. I’ve had women I know try to put me off someone numerous times. It usually makes me wonder why. Usually makes me think it’s because they want to keep them!

Always look at motivation and understand that others will look at yours in return and your reputation will follow from that I a small place like this, innit

Steve x"

Ffs every message I've posted today has had a typo.....

In not I*

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I'm interested in meeting X and I know Y has met her, so I ask for his review.

Unbeknown to me Y is a possessive fruitloop who is obsessed with X and wants to keep her all for himself.

The feedback reads; "she's awful, turned up an hour late, looks 30 years older than her profile pics and her armpits smelt worse than rotten cheese"

He then tells X I've been asking all sorts of personal and intimate questions about her.

And thus two people's meet has been denied.

In theory it's a good idea. In practice, I feel less so....

Two pence spent.

Exactly this. I’ve had women I know try to put me off someone numerous times. It usually makes me wonder why. Usually makes me think it’s because they want to keep them!

Always look at motivation and understand that others will look at yours in return and your reputation will follow from that I a small place like this, innit

Steve x

Ffs every message I've posted today has had a typo.....

In not I*

You probably focus too much on "innit" and forget to check the rest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm interested in meeting X and I know Y has met her, so I ask for his review.

Unbeknown to me Y is a possessive fruitloop who is obsessed with X and wants to keep her all for himself.

The feedback reads; "she's awful, turned up an hour late, looks 30 years older than her profile pics and her armpits smelt worse than rotten cheese"

He then tells X I've been asking all sorts of personal and intimate questions about her.

And thus two people's meet has been denied.

In theory it's a good idea. In practice, I feel less so....

Two pence spent.

Exactly this. I’ve had women I know try to put me off someone numerous times. It usually makes me wonder why. Usually makes me think it’s because they want to keep them!

Always look at motivation and understand that others will look at yours in return and your reputation will follow from that I a small place like this, innit

Steve x

Ffs every message I've posted today has had a typo.....

In not I*

You probably focus too much on "innit" and forget to check the rest.

Innit....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm interested in meeting X and I know Y has met her, so I ask for his review.

Unbeknown to me Y is a possessive fruitloop who is obsessed with X and wants to keep her all for himself.

The feedback reads; "she's awful, turned up an hour late, looks 30 years older than her profile pics and her armpits smelt worse than rotten cheese"

He then tells X I've been asking all sorts of personal and intimate questions about her.

And thus two people's meet has been denied.

In theory it's a good idea. In practice, I feel less so....

Two pence spent.

Exactly this. I’ve had women I know try to put me off someone numerous times. It usually makes me wonder why. Usually makes me think it’s because they want to keep them!

Always look at motivation and understand that others will look at yours in return and your reputation will follow from that I a small place like this, innit

Steve x

Ffs every message I've posted today has had a typo.....

In not I*

You probably focus too much on "innit" and forget to check the rest.

Innit....

Groan. Bin it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm interested in meeting X and I know Y has met her, so I ask for his review.

Unbeknown to me Y is a possessive fruitloop who is obsessed with X and wants to keep her all for himself.

The feedback reads; "she's awful, turned up an hour late, looks 30 years older than her profile pics and her armpits smelt worse than rotten cheese"

He then tells X I've been asking all sorts of personal and intimate questions about her.

And thus two people's meet has been denied.

In theory it's a good idea. In practice, I feel less so....

Two pence spent.

Exactly this. I’ve had women I know try to put me off someone numerous times. It usually makes me wonder why. Usually makes me think it’s because they want to keep them!

Always look at motivation and understand that others will look at yours in return and your reputation will follow from that I a small place like this, innit

Steve x

Ffs every message I've posted today has had a typo.....

In not I*

You probably focus too much on "innit" and forget to check the rest.

Innit....

Groan. Bin it."

Never!

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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own

"... I had a selected few who I could pm and get a rating 1-10 for prospective meets?

Now imagine all the combined knowledge on here ladies. Find out their old username. We pm and get instant info. Brilliant.

Whilst I understand the logic behind your thinking, it's not something I'd ever take part in. What goes on between myself and anyone that I meet is something that is strictly between us, no one else.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I don’t think it would be the best plan. One person’s awesome meet is another person’s meh. Plus I’d hate to be subject of such discussions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... I've also shared that X is a great respectful guy who I'd recommend, more than once. "

Hey, X is my old username

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm interested in meeting X and I know Y has met her, so I ask for his review.

Unbeknown to me Y is a possessive fruitloop who is obsessed with X and wants to keep her all for himself.

The feedback reads; "she's awful, turned up an hour late, looks 30 years older than her profile pics and her armpits smelt worse than rotten cheese"

He then tells X I've been asking all sorts of personal and intimate questions about her.

And thus two people's meet has been denied.

In theory it's a good idea. In practice, I feel less so....

Two pence spent. "

I wish someone would have warned me about you

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I'm interested in meeting X and I know Y has met her, so I ask for his review.

Unbeknown to me Y is a possessive fruitloop who is obsessed with X and wants to keep her all for himself.

The feedback reads; "she's awful, turned up an hour late, looks 30 years older than her profile pics and her armpits smelt worse than rotten cheese"

He then tells X I've been asking all sorts of personal and intimate questions about her.

And thus two people's meet has been denied.

In theory it's a good idea. In practice, I feel less so....

Two pence spent.

I wish someone would have warned me about you

I asked them all not to mention it and hide their veris.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Not something I would partake in because 1) I like to make up my own mind about a person; and 2) what goes on between me and another person is our private business and not something I would share; and 3) even if I did share, everyone is so different so what I might find great / exceptional about someone, does not mean anyone else would

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Not something I would partake in because 1) I like to make up my own mind about a person; and 2) what goes on between me and another person is our private business and not something I would share; and 3) even if I did share, everyone is so different so what I might find great / exceptional about someone, does not mean anyone else would "

In a nutshell - this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly this.

I'm a grown up....almost.... and make my own decisions about others based on my own interactions with them. Relying on others to make or influence decisions about my personal emotional or sex life suggests I lack the necessary skills to do so. And I prefer discretion to gossip.....

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