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By *gnitemybody OP   Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I don't meet anymore,that's all out of my system,so why be here. I don't generally 'fit' in,routine maybe?! Will I be bothered if I completely delete,will I regret it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just have to do what you feel is best for you. I find that peoples perspective is a million miles away from what swinging is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You just have to do what you feel is best for you. I find that peoples perspective is a million miles away from what swinging is. "

Or

perhaps everyone simply has a different perspective of what it is? Even swinging has to change with the times...

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Become cynical about swinging, but can't do the playground that is Facebook either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't meet anymore,that's all out of my system,so why be here. I don't generally 'fit' in,routine maybe?! Will I be bothered if I completely delete,will I regret it. "

I stopped meeting.. just loitered.. then met this one from a platonic chat.. I'd stay just for a few good friends if it added a little something to my week.

Saff

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By *pepepipoxMan
over a year ago

London

As a man here, the rejection rates are expected, but sometimes feel a bit too much. Reading some profiles you wonder why bother... But just as I'm about to throw in my towel, phone battery dies and here I am again!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every goddam day

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I think it becomes habit. A safety net for when we can’t find what we want outside of Fab. We return to what we know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just back after a 4 month hiatus, and before that I'd stopped meeting.. I'm mainly here for the forums .. but i probably would miss it if i deleted the profile.. i usually do lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it isn't working and you aren't happy with things why bother? I haven't met in ages but I'm working back up to it. I use fab as a time filler now. I forum when I've got a few minutes. That's why I stay. I wouldn't if I was getting nothing out if it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it becomes habit. A safety net for when we can’t find what we want outside of Fab. We return to what we know."

Very astute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Frequently- had another one today

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Become cynical about swinging, but can't do the playground that is Facebook either"

Oh no, I can't do Facebook. I'd much rather pop in and out here.

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Every time I log in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. After 8 years it comes with the territory. I just see it for what it is and know that things with change. It's easy to get downhearted though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Frequently- had another one today"

But often a friend comes along and reminds me of possibilities and restores my faith

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. I get close to deleting often but then my friends convince me to stay

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

If I used the site just to meet then I would probably have left but I do enjoy the forum. In a strange way its comforting to see regular posters even if I may not ever talk to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often feel like I don’t belong here, I think I may be too vanilla to most men’s tastes and that makes me feel boring and inadequate but I stick around as I chat to a few people. I just very rarely meet these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Become cynical about swinging, but can't do the playground that is Facebook either"
Why cynical?

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Yep every so often. I tend to take a break when I feel like that

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I know exactly that feeling from past experiences here.

Since starting this new profile and a new ‘it is what it is’ philosophy I have loved my Fab life. I’m not here to fit in. I’m here to find mutual enjoyment with lovely debauched folk when it suits me. I don’t give a flying flip whether I’m liked or not.

It’s really been a game changer. Ignite, whatever you decide you are well liked here from what I can read.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I think it becomes habit. A safety net for when we can’t find what we want outside of Fab. We return to what we know.

Very astute"

Thanks, I surprise myself sometimes!

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By *onygirlieWoman
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Yes but not sure where is for me.

You can hide. Just pop in when you feel like it. And if you do go you can always come back fab’s doors are always open.

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By *iedTemptationMan
over a year ago

East Mids

Daily

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I am drawing to a close myself. For different reasons than you perhaps OP, to move on and take a risk on "love", to be brave.

Strangely as a single guy, I think using fab is rather cowardly or selfish: too scared to get hurt by something meaningful, too selfish to give up my promiscuity... I have fun (no honest! ), but in the dead of night, sleeping alone one can feel hollow.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I don't meet anymore,that's all out of my system,so why be here. I don't generally 'fit' in,routine maybe?! Will I be bothered if I completely delete,will I regret it. "

I feel like this too, and just take breaks without deleting the profile

It's usually STP talk that brings me back.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Frequently- had another one today

But often a friend comes along and reminds me of possibilities and restores my faith"

Gotta keep the faith Doc x

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I've not met anyone since Sep due to an experience that resulted in me having counselling. I'd be reluctant to meet anyone on a 1-2-1 ever again. Unless they lived within responsible travel distance for a coffee.

I've been hovering over the delete button for awhile now. I cant help with your question as I wish I had the answer.

Maybe it's just habit who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I think it becomes habit. A safety net for when we can’t find what we want outside of Fab. We return to what we know.

Very astute"

I agree

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By *illybare partyMan
over a year ago

hotel in teeside once a month

All the time. But the friends and meets on here have made it worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't meet anymore,that's all out of my system,so why be here. I don't generally 'fit' in,routine maybe?! Will I be bothered if I completely delete,will I regret it. "

Do you like the forums? You could stay for just that.

There's lots of aspects to the site. We don't have to use them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got lost, thought it was a golf appreciation group, but ended up sticking around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think anyone truly feels they 'fit in' .. it's great finding people you're just comfortable around.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I deleted my 1st profile. Then had hassle getting new veris when I decided to return. I just hide it when I decide I have had enough. 10 years on and I am still here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time! I have wtf am I doing on here all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's useful to pass the time when I'm at a loose end

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Frequently- had another one today

But often a friend comes along and reminds me of possibilities and restores my faith"

How could we live without your dodgy snake oil?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Who actually fits in? I think everyone experiences/has experienced moments of not being sure if the site is right for them.

Do you enjoy using the forum? Use them. You don't have to be fucking nightly to come on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've not met anyone since Sep due to an experience that resulted in me having counselling. I'd be reluctant to meet anyone on a 1-2-1 ever again. Unless they lived within responsible travel distance for a coffee.

I've been hovering over the delete button for awhile now. I cant help with your question as I wish I had the answer.

Maybe it's just habit who knows."

That's awful. Are you doing better now? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mainly play games on here. If I'm not banned for opening my mouth I get more orgasms with my toys than from fab meets lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't get what some people expect from a swinging site. My mind boggles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just hang around to flash my bits, chat nonsense, while looking at the pretty penises.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think anyone truly feels they 'fit in' .. it's great finding people you're just comfortable around. "

I'm really not sure what people are meant to be fitting in to. I come on here and chat to those I like. I comment in the forum while I'm doing other stuff. What am I meant to be fitting in with? Am I doing it wrong?

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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It wouldn’t be a place for me if I did what many people expect me to do. I do the bits I enjoy Ignite and I ignore the rest. If all I’m doing is going to the MLS and chatting on the forums and PMs with people I get along with, then I’m happy with that. I’ve always done my own thing in my own way and it works for me. If I fancy quiet time I’ll hide my profile for a while.

Only you know if you would miss it but I suspect if you decide on the parts you are happy to give up, it will then leave you with your answer.

I do think you fit in though and I enjoy seeing your around and interacting with you

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I'm here because it's a fun diversion. I meet fairly regularly and enjoy the daft chat on the forums.

If it stops being fun I'd be off.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I know we had only been on here just over a year when we deleted our profile but we regretted it pretty quickly, we lost so much on that profile.

If you're not really feeling it atm, then hide your profile and take a break, do 'just you' for a while and come back with a fresh mind.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think anyone truly feels they 'fit in' .. it's great finding people you're just comfortable around.

I'm really not sure what people are meant to be fitting in to. I come on here and chat to those I like. I comment in the forum while I'm doing other stuff. What am I meant to be fitting in with? Am I doing it wrong?"

Singletons have various different preferences on the type of relationship they'd ideally like.. whether it be fb, fwb or partner.. it's often challenged by people who don't believe it's a place to find a partner.. even though many people have met here. Hence not fitting into the traditional swinger mould..

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I've not met anyone since Sep due to an experience that resulted in me having counselling. I'd be reluctant to meet anyone on a 1-2-1 ever again. Unless they lived within responsible travel distance for a coffee.

I've been hovering over the delete button for awhile now. I cant help with your question as I wish I had the answer.

Maybe it's just habit who knows."

Bloody hell that terrible that such a bad experience should come out of here xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just use it as a comfy place to sit myself when Im bored now. We dont have to meet or even post here, we can loiter without intent if we want too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think anyone truly feels they 'fit in' .. it's great finding people you're just comfortable around.

I'm really not sure what people are meant to be fitting in to. I come on here and chat to those I like. I comment in the forum while I'm doing other stuff. What am I meant to be fitting in with? Am I doing it wrong?

Singletons have various different preferences on the type of relationship they'd ideally like.. whether it be fb, fwb or partner.. it's often challenged by people who don't believe it's a place to find a partner.. even though many people have met here. Hence not fitting into the traditional swinger mould.."

I still don't get about the fitting in bit. Most of the forum seems to be people not meeting or singletons looking to find someone. So it can't be that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had weeks like this. I deleted my last profile because I felt this way. Mine is more of a confidence thing, when I first joined 18months ago I had a blast, I would say up until Christmas just gone. Now I get hundreds of messages a day and really can't find anyone I am up for meeting anymore. I pass my time in the forums on my long night shifts. But I think until I manage to do something about my body and confidence this is where I will be hiding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think anyone truly feels they 'fit in' .. it's great finding people you're just comfortable around.

I'm really not sure what people are meant to be fitting in to. I come on here and chat to those I like. I comment in the forum while I'm doing other stuff. What am I meant to be fitting in with? Am I doing it wrong?

Singletons have various different preferences on the type of relationship they'd ideally like.. whether it be fb, fwb or partner.. it's often challenged by people who don't believe it's a place to find a partner.. even though many people have met here. Hence not fitting into the traditional swinger mould..

I still don't get about the fitting in bit. Most of the forum seems to be people not meeting or singletons looking to find someone. So it can't be that. "

And so many of those people feel like they don't fit into what the site is for..even though yes there are lots in the same boat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Answering your question though, I was back a couple of weeks after deleting. I did regret leaving and losing an my old pics and contacts that I now can't find. But it did give me a fresh start to put new pics up and be realistic about who I am and what I want. Good luck with your decision xxx

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Had weeks like this. I deleted my last profile because I felt this way. Mine is more of a confidence thing, when I first joined 18months ago I had a blast, I would say up until Christmas just gone. Now I get hundreds of messages a day and really can't find anyone I am up for meeting anymore. I pass my time in the forums on my long night shifts. But I think until I manage to do something about my body and confidence this is where I will be hiding "

The forums are a great place I think to hide away from the rest of the site if needed x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I don't meet anymore,that's all out of my system,so why be here. I don't generally 'fit' in,routine maybe?! Will I be bothered if I completely delete,will I regret it. "

I am exactly the same if I am being honest, I think I stay mainly out of habit, maybe someday someone will blow me away, but I highly doubt it, but there is a minuscule of hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely do, I'm not fussed about meets, would happily have a social. I see some of the cringy/ angry/ sad status and think WTF. Also read some of the forum posts and feel some can be such smoke blowers/ attention seekers at times. Maybe I do need a break...

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"Answering your question though, I was back a couple of weeks after deleting. I did regret leaving and losing an my old pics and contacts that I now can't find. But it did give me a fresh start to put new pics up and be realistic about who I am and what I want. Good luck with your decision xxx "

I have left and come back a number of times, the last time was 3 years ago and I had a two year break. Its easier to leave if you delete the profile, losing verifications is harsh (perhaps more so for a fella) but as I tend to think I am leaving "for good" the regrets come later. Still a chance to start afresh when/if you do come back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some interesting people and perspectives on here. That's about it really. I certainly don't stay for the meet potential. Reality is far more simple..

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Back in the day I would play Snake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't meet anymore,that's all out of my system,so why be here. I don't generally 'fit' in,routine maybe?! Will I be bothered if I completely delete,will I regret it. "

We would miss you.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"I don't meet anymore,that's all out of my system,so why be here. I don't generally 'fit' in,routine maybe?! Will I be bothered if I completely delete,will I regret it.

We would miss you."

Seconded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Back in the day I would play Snake"

Couple of weeks ago google map app had a special snake game running.

I wasted a good hour or two on it

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"Back in the day I would play Snake

Couple of weeks ago google map app had a special snake game running.

I wasted a good hour or two on it "

I still have Snake on my phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think anyone truly feels they 'fit in' .. it's great finding people you're just comfortable around.

I'm really not sure what people are meant to be fitting in to. I come on here and chat to those I like. I comment in the forum while I'm doing other stuff. What am I meant to be fitting in with? Am I doing it wrong?

Singletons have various different preferences on the type of relationship they'd ideally like.. whether it be fb, fwb or partner.. it's often challenged by people who don't believe it's a place to find a partner.. even though many people have met here. Hence not fitting into the traditional swinger mould..

I still don't get about the fitting in bit. Most of the forum seems to be people not meeting or singletons looking to find someone. So it can't be that.

And so many of those people feel like they don't fit into what the site is for..even though yes there are lots in the same boat."

I don't get it though. This is a site predominantly for swinging. So if you aren't swinging is it surprising to feel you don't fit in? If I joined a golfer's site but played tennis would I be right to complain I don't fit in? Although I have every right to be there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And deleting really isn't a big deal. I've done it many times. You can always come back. No big deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me and my age, I find its now just the anticipation of being wanted that keeps me here.

Rarely anything happens.

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By *olexMan
over a year ago

Hull

Now & again the rejections get to me but i have a couple of good friends i've made on here & i'd miss them if i went.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Here for the forums really.... although met a absolutely worldie..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Back in the day I would play Snake

Couple of weeks ago google map app had a special snake game running.

I wasted a good hour or two on it

I still have Snake on my phone "

It had London landmarks to collect

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Not had luck on here but that is down to many factors.....just log onto to chat with folk and perv on pics.....

Given up hope on meeting anyone now ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think anyone truly feels they 'fit in' .. it's great finding people you're just comfortable around.

I'm really not sure what people are meant to be fitting in to. I come on here and chat to those I like. I comment in the forum while I'm doing other stuff. What am I meant to be fitting in with? Am I doing it wrong?

Singletons have various different preferences on the type of relationship they'd ideally like.. whether it be fb, fwb or partner.. it's often challenged by people who don't believe it's a place to find a partner.. even though many people have met here. Hence not fitting into the traditional swinger mould..

I still don't get about the fitting in bit. Most of the forum seems to be people not meeting or singletons looking to find someone. So it can't be that.

And so many of those people feel like they don't fit into what the site is for..even though yes there are lots in the same boat.

I don't get it though. This is a site predominantly for swinging. So if you aren't swinging is it surprising to feel you don't fit in? If I joined a golfer's site but played tennis would I be right to complain I don't fit in? Although I have every right to be there. "

Predominantly yes.. but a very high proportion of the site are single..they use the site differently.. likewise the forums are a tiny pool..so the chances of finding a match on the forums are slim. So many people feel like they struggle to connect with someone..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think anyone truly feels they 'fit in' .. it's great finding people you're just comfortable around.

I'm really not sure what people are meant to be fitting in to. I come on here and chat to those I like. I comment in the forum while I'm doing other stuff. What am I meant to be fitting in with? Am I doing it wrong?

Singletons have various different preferences on the type of relationship they'd ideally like.. whether it be fb, fwb or partner.. it's often challenged by people who don't believe it's a place to find a partner.. even though many people have met here. Hence not fitting into the traditional swinger mould..

I still don't get about the fitting in bit. Most of the forum seems to be people not meeting or singletons looking to find someone. So it can't be that.

And so many of those people feel like they don't fit into what the site is for..even though yes there are lots in the same boat.

I don't get it though. This is a site predominantly for swinging. So if you aren't swinging is it surprising to feel you don't fit in? If I joined a golfer's site but played tennis would I be right to complain I don't fit in? Although I have every right to be there.

Predominantly yes.. but a very high proportion of the site are single..they use the site differently.. likewise the forums are a tiny pool..so the chances of finding a match on the forums are slim. So many people feel like they struggle to connect with someone.. "

I don't get why that's an issue though. I wouldn't expect to "connect" with anyone on a swinging site...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think anyone truly feels they 'fit in' .. it's great finding people you're just comfortable around.

I'm really not sure what people are meant to be fitting in to. I come on here and chat to those I like. I comment in the forum while I'm doing other stuff. What am I meant to be fitting in with? Am I doing it wrong?

Singletons have various different preferences on the type of relationship they'd ideally like.. whether it be fb, fwb or partner.. it's often challenged by people who don't believe it's a place to find a partner.. even though many people have met here. Hence not fitting into the traditional swinger mould..

I still don't get about the fitting in bit. Most of the forum seems to be people not meeting or singletons looking to find someone. So it can't be that.

And so many of those people feel like they don't fit into what the site is for..even though yes there are lots in the same boat.

I don't get it though. This is a site predominantly for swinging. So if you aren't swinging is it surprising to feel you don't fit in? If I joined a golfer's site but played tennis would I be right to complain I don't fit in? Although I have every right to be there.

Predominantly yes.. but a very high proportion of the site are single..they use the site differently.. likewise the forums are a tiny pool..so the chances of finding a match on the forums are slim. So many people feel like they struggle to connect with someone..

I don't get why that's an issue though. I wouldn't expect to "connect" with anyone on a swinging site..."

Why not? Mutual openness on sex and kinks.. it's as good a place as any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think anyone truly feels they 'fit in' .. it's great finding people you're just comfortable around.

I'm really not sure what people are meant to be fitting in to. I come on here and chat to those I like. I comment in the forum while I'm doing other stuff. What am I meant to be fitting in with? Am I doing it wrong?

Singletons have various different preferences on the type of relationship they'd ideally like.. whether it be fb, fwb or partner.. it's often challenged by people who don't believe it's a place to find a partner.. even though many people have met here. Hence not fitting into the traditional swinger mould..

I still don't get about the fitting in bit. Most of the forum seems to be people not meeting or singletons looking to find someone. So it can't be that.

And so many of those people feel like they don't fit into what the site is for..even though yes there are lots in the same boat.

I don't get it though. This is a site predominantly for swinging. So if you aren't swinging is it surprising to feel you don't fit in? If I joined a golfer's site but played tennis would I be right to complain I don't fit in? Although I have every right to be there.

Predominantly yes.. but a very high proportion of the site are single..they use the site differently.. likewise the forums are a tiny pool..so the chances of finding a match on the forums are slim. So many people feel like they struggle to connect with someone..

I don't get why that's an issue though. I wouldn't expect to "connect" with anyone on a swinging site...

Why not? Mutual openness on sex and kinks.. it's as good a place as any. "

It might happen... but I certainly wouldn't expect it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been doing that today

There are wonderful people who keep me here and on the flip side there are a couple who have recently not been so kind .....

I’ll stay - until the wind changes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been feeling a bit meh for a while. Even turning fab off for a day or two. Think sometimes I have so much going on in real life I have nothing left to give on here. But I have a lot of friends I would miss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think anyone truly feels they 'fit in' .. it's great finding people you're just comfortable around.

I'm really not sure what people are meant to be fitting in to. I come on here and chat to those I like. I comment in the forum while I'm doing other stuff. What am I meant to be fitting in with? Am I doing it wrong?

Singletons have various different preferences on the type of relationship they'd ideally like.. whether it be fb, fwb or partner.. it's often challenged by people who don't believe it's a place to find a partner.. even though many people have met here. Hence not fitting into the traditional swinger mould..

I still don't get about the fitting in bit. Most of the forum seems to be people not meeting or singletons looking to find someone. So it can't be that.

And so many of those people feel like they don't fit into what the site is for..even though yes there are lots in the same boat.

I don't get it though. This is a site predominantly for swinging. So if you aren't swinging is it surprising to feel you don't fit in? If I joined a golfer's site but played tennis would I be right to complain I don't fit in? Although I have every right to be there.

Predominantly yes.. but a very high proportion of the site are single..they use the site differently.. likewise the forums are a tiny pool..so the chances of finding a match on the forums are slim. So many people feel like they struggle to connect with someone..

I don't get why that's an issue though. I wouldn't expect to "connect" with anyone on a swinging site...

Why not? Mutual openness on sex and kinks.. it's as good a place as any.

It might happen... but I certainly wouldn't expect it. "

But that's the point.. it's just being around likeminded people. Anything can happen. But if someone says they're looking for an exclusive relationship they are frowned up.. and feel like they shouldn't be open about it.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"I don't meet anymore,that's all out of my system,so why be here. I don't generally 'fit' in,routine maybe?! Will I be bothered if I completely delete,will I regret it. "

I don't genrally fit in, that why I'm on here. Met my matching misfit on here so it must be the right place for a weirdo like me.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I definitely do, I'm not fussed about meets, would happily have a social. I see some of the cringy/ angry/ sad status and think WTF. Also read some of the forum posts and feel some can be such smoke blowers/ attention seekers at times. Maybe I do need a break...

"

If it starts getting to me or making me jaded I'd just hide my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I still don't get the fitting in bit. I do my own thing and don't try to fit in with anything/ anyone. Works well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't meet anymore,that's all out of my system,so why be here. I don't generally 'fit' in,routine maybe?! Will I be bothered if I completely delete,will I regret it. "

Awww don’t go Ignite. I like you

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I don't meet anymore,that's all out of my system,so why be here. I don't generally 'fit' in,routine maybe?! Will I be bothered if I completely delete,will I regret it.

I don't genrally fit in, that why I'm on here. Met my matching misfit on here so it must be the right place for a weirdo like me."

Matching misfit...that made me all mushy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I definitely do, I'm not fussed about meets, would happily have a social. I see some of the cringy/ angry/ sad status and think WTF. Also read some of the forum posts and feel some can be such smoke blowers/ attention seekers at times. Maybe I do need a break...

If it starts getting to me or making me jaded I'd just hide my profile."

Great minds, did just that earlier today

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I deleted and came back (after a very short absence) due to a few reasons. I regret having deleted the profile however - starting over is not fun.

I use it mostly as a bit of bordem. The vast majority of the people that interest me either are not interested in me, or are many miles away. There are of course always those special rare ones that popup and something sticks.

With that said I'm far from a swinger, I don't really fit in to any specific sexual label. So I'm here not expecting anything, just letting whatever happens take its course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I definitely do, I'm not fussed about meets, would happily have a social. I see some of the cringy/ angry/ sad status and think WTF. Also read some of the forum posts and feel some can be such smoke blowers/ attention seekers at times. Maybe I do need a break...

If it starts getting to me or making me jaded I'd just hide my profile.

Great minds, did just that earlier today "

I hide my profile most nights if I remember

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure I ever fit in anywhere.

Sometimes I wander in, sometimes I comment on the forums, sometimes I just cba. Then I just wander away...

Yet never quote to the extent of deleting my account.

After all none of us know the future, or what we may feel about anything, fab included, tomorrow....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel the same way i use to love fab but now i just can't be bothered so hid my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only you know what you’re looking for from this site OP.

I have to say in last year or so fabs isn’t doing it for me, not the sites fault it’s something within me that’s changed.

I’m not sure I truly belong but I dip in and out as it suits me.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I don't meet anymore,that's all out of my system,so why be here. I don't generally 'fit' in,routine maybe?! Will I be bothered if I completely delete,will I regret it. "

We feel exactly the same way .

It’s been over a year since we met anyone and we don’t miss it one bit .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't leave !

Who I am gonna do fake birthday thread to ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't leave !

Who I am gonna do fake birthday thread to ?

"

Whoa, easy with the dick pic big fella!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't leave !

Who I am gonna do fake birthday thread to ?

Whoa, easy with the dick pic big fella! "

Doesn't it look like a sign that indicate to the right ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't leave !

Who I am gonna do fake birthday thread to ?

Whoa, easy with the dick pic big fella!

Doesn't it look like a sign that indicate to the right ? "

This way to the gents toilets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't leave !

Who I am gonna do fake birthday thread to ?

Whoa, easy with the dick pic big fella!

Doesn't it look like a sign that indicate to the right ?

This way to the gents toilets."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't meet anymore,that's all out of my system,so why be here. I don't generally 'fit' in,routine maybe?! Will I be bothered if I completely delete,will I regret it. "

Yeah, right about now haha. Rosé is keeping me company. No one in local area that tickles my fancy anymore, shame really.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm in it for the boobs... advice...and the feeling of being part of a community that thinks the same way I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in it for the boobs... advice...and the feeling of being part of a community that thinks the same way I do"

This is actually the only reason I stay here. Like minded people.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

It’s a strange place in hear my general census is I have to be 6 ft till be white or Black, have hair or no hair be a gym freak and be open-minded what can I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel it sometimes, it tends to be when things are going on in my life so I'm a bit sensitive then things on here upset me that normally wouldn't. Twice this weekend I got upset.

But then I just get a bit of perspective, it's really just a bunch of people hanging out. There are no expectations and I really shouldn't let strangers affect my mood.

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By *icetouch83Man
over a year ago

swansea


"I feel it sometimes, it tends to be when things are going on in my life so I'm a bit sensitive then things on here upset me that normally wouldn't. Twice this weekend I got upset.

But then I just get a bit of perspective, it's really just a bunch of people hanging out. There are no expectations and I really shouldn't let strangers affect my mood. "

I fell the same it does bother me sometimes but I try not to let it get to me but it is hard when things not going your way .

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I So agree sometimes you need to say that’s just how it is and I need to get on with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont belong here. I dont want to be here..... but here I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take a break?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I stayed on here to see what ruby's eyes looked like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I stayed on here to see what ruby's eyes looked like "

Bye then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Frequently- had another one today

But often a friend comes along and reminds me of possibilities and restores my faith

How could we live without your dodgy snake oil? "

You’d survive. Man does not live on dodgy snake oil alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And deleting really isn't a big deal. I've done it many times. You can always come back. No big deal. "

I’d never get veried again

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No. I'm not here online 24/7, so living my broader life comes first as it will typically do for others. No interest in being on, I'd be doing something else. So much more to do here than meet for sex etc. It fits me if I use it according to my changing needs, as much as I may not be a typical user.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've not met anyone since Sep due to an experience that resulted in me having counselling. I'd be reluctant to meet anyone on a 1-2-1 ever again. Unless they lived within responsible travel distance for a coffee.

I've been hovering over the delete button for awhile now. I cant help with your question as I wish I had the answer.

Maybe it's just habit who knows."

That’s awful. Hope the counselling is working.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I adore being here! I want to have a gang bang with EVERYONE!

In retrospect op, never place all of your eggs into a single basket. This website is a small part of what is a rather large community. Go to a social/club and have other avenues outside of the swinging community for your “hole”. It’s rather presumptuous to expect that, swingers would be so promiscuous that; they’d instantly drop their undies for every Tom dick and Harry - they may prefer Larry, or, Samantha?

Relax and enjoy the madness xoxo

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I do all the time, I have long breaks. Maybe if one day I find what I'm looking for then I won't need fab... But in the meantime I read the forums and have an occasional meet.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire


"I don't meet anymore,that's all out of my system,so why be here. I don't generally 'fit' in,routine maybe?! Will I be bothered if I completely delete,will I regret it. "

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, never.

Id leave if i felt like that.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"I stayed on here to see what ruby's eyes looked like

Bye then "

Think I might hang around..her nose and mouth might appear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every time I log on I think there is nothing here for me. I've only stayed for the Forums and to have a perv through my Hotlist.

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By *gnitemybody OP   Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Thankyou for your comments especially some of you,I was having a moment I think. I just need to find my inner happy(ish),I'm way too old for swinging and all that nonsense anymore,I can't be bothered. If I feel the need I'll just grab my vibrator. I want way more than here.

Good thing is I haven't been kicked off any Facebook dating sites recently! Joined some diy,craft's and gardening sites mind,cool eh. Who needs sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thankyou for your comments especially some of you,I was having a moment I think. I just need to find my inner happy(ish),I'm way too old for swinging and all that nonsense anymore,I can't be bothered. If I feel the need I'll just grab my vibrator. I want way more than here.

Good thing is I haven't been kicked off any Facebook dating sites recently! Joined some diy,craft's and gardening sites mind,cool eh. Who needs sex."

What did you get kicked off the Facebook sites for? This sounds raunchy.

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By *gnitemybody OP   Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Thankyou for your comments especially some of you,I was having a moment I think. I just need to find my inner happy(ish),I'm way too old for swinging and all that nonsense anymore,I can't be bothered. If I feel the need I'll just grab my vibrator. I want way more than here.

Good thing is I haven't been kicked off any Facebook dating sites recently! Joined some diy,craft's and gardening sites mind,cool eh. Who needs sex.

What did you get kicked off the Facebook sites for? This sounds raunchy. "

It was far from raunchy just me having another 'moment and not wanting to see some rude meme about anal on a Facebook dating site. Next min I'd been kicked off some people are way too touchy. Hmm or was that me I wonder...

I don't trust myself nowadays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thankyou for your comments especially some of you,I was having a moment I think. I just need to find my inner happy(ish),I'm way too old for swinging and all that nonsense anymore,I can't be bothered. If I feel the need I'll just grab my vibrator. I want way more than here.

Good thing is I haven't been kicked off any Facebook dating sites recently! Joined some diy,craft's and gardening sites mind,cool eh. Who needs sex.

What did you get kicked off the Facebook sites for? This sounds raunchy.

It was far from raunchy just me having another 'moment and not wanting to see some rude meme about anal on a Facebook dating site. Next min I'd been kicked off some people are way too touchy. Hmm or was that me I wonder...

I don't trust myself nowadays."

Sounds like you did the right thing.

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