FabSwingers.com forum: Friendliness.....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

With the benefit of Saffie's wisdom, I'm well aware that personally I can appear to be a twatty, excitable, sarcastic arsehole at times, mostly unintentionally of course, but what about you guys? Should we give each other a little more BOTD, cut each other some slack and reach out occasionally to learn something and to avoid being surrounded by familiarity?

There are probably folk both on fab and from the real world who I've formed an opinion on based on one comment they made and then I've not bothered to find out anything further about them, it's all too easy to just pop them into the "twat" tray and file them away in the "never gonna be my friend" cabinet....

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm pretty friendly...

I think it's nice to be nice and so I try to compliment people and be kind without blowing smoke up their arse

I can be a complete sarcastic mare though, never mean to offend but my sense of humour is dry af.

And if I'm riled I can be a bitch.

But yeah, I think I'm friendly

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't generally make snap judgements about most people either on here or out there, and allow them to give themselves enough rope or step back from the parapet and show me their worth.

As with life generally though, some people you get on with, others you don't and some fall somewhere in the middle - all you can be is true to yourself, be thoughtful and considerate of others, and hope to get the same back in return.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I'm pretty friendly...

I think it's nice to be nice and so I try to compliment people and be kind without blowing smoke up their arse

I can be a complete sarcastic mare though, never mean to offend but my sense of humour is dry af.

And if I'm riled I can be a bitch.

But yeah, I think I'm friendly

I think you pitch it just right

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'm pretty friendly...

I think it's nice to be nice and so I try to compliment people and be kind without blowing smoke up their arse

I can be a complete sarcastic mare though, never mean to offend but my sense of humour is dry af.

And if I'm riled I can be a bitch.

But yeah, I think I'm friendly

I could have written this

This is me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m friendly here and in ‘normal’ life

I know I’ve come across as ‘venomous’ on here but in reality it’s just sarcasm taken the wrong way.

I dislike chavvy 70s/80s style innuendo here and everywhere so yes - I’m the same

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't generally make snap judgements about most people either on here or out there, and allow them to give themselves enough rope or step back from the parapet and show me their worth.

It's tricky at times, but you're dead right, treat ppl as you'd want them to treat you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'm pretty friendly...

I think it's nice to be nice and so I try to compliment people and be kind without blowing smoke up their arse

I can be a complete sarcastic mare though, never mean to offend but my sense of humour is dry af.

And if I'm riled I can be a bitch.

But yeah, I think I'm friendly

I could have written this

This is me too

Clearly, you're a wonderful person!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I'm pretty friendly...

I think it's nice to be nice and so I try to compliment people and be kind without blowing smoke up their arse

I can be a complete sarcastic mare though, never mean to offend but my sense of humour is dry af.

And if I'm riled I can be a bitch.

But yeah, I think I'm friendly

I could have written this

This is me too

You come across as super chilled Nora!

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

I think everyone falls foul of ‘confirmation bias’,

but learning about it and self-reflecting / checking your assumptions is a way to start addressing it. We’re multifaceted things and no one is fully represented by one thing they said, thought or did. To make such hard and fast (and inflexible) decisions about people can often speak to an insecurity or unresolved ability to accept difference (which may have very legitimate sources however may no longer be serving you well) on the part of the person making judgement.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m friendly here and in ‘normal’ life

I know I’ve come across as ‘venomous’ on here but in reality it’s just sarcasm taken the wrong way.

I dislike chavvy 70s/80s style innuendo here and everywhere so yes - I’m the same "

Some folk don't get sarcasm, it's a shame, I think there's nothing funnier! You always come across a one of the friendly ones in the forum to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I'm generally quite a happy positive person and that includes my interactions with others. At the very least I'm polite and respectful unless given reason to be otherwise.

On here I find it hard sometimes to step away from people, if they keep replying I do too because I don't want to offend, they're probably sat thinking the same about me

In real life I'm usually the one to draw people closer. Most of the people in my group of friends were my friend originally and I introduced them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think everyone falls foul of ‘confirmation bias’,

Tru dat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like to think so.

That is subject to change though....depending on my level of hunger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m friendly here and in ‘normal’ life

I know I’ve come across as ‘venomous’ on here but in reality it’s just sarcasm taken the wrong way.

I dislike chavvy 70s/80s style innuendo here and everywhere so yes - I’m the same

Some folk don't get sarcasm, it's a shame, I think there's nothing funnier! You always come across a one of the friendly ones in the forum to me

Bless you my child

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'm pretty friendly...

I think it's nice to be nice and so I try to compliment people and be kind without blowing smoke up their arse

I can be a complete sarcastic mare though, never mean to offend but my sense of humour is dry af.

And if I'm riled I can be a bitch.

But yeah, I think I'm friendly

I could have written this

This is me too

You come across as super chilled Nora!

Hahaha. Do I detect a hint of sarcasm there Steve?

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I think I'm friendly and try to look at posts and life in general objectively.

What some people don't appreciate is there is life outside of any online persona and that generally must come first.

I have found people here in the forums a really nice bunch of people. But as a newcomer sometimes find it tricky to decipher some of the 'in' jokes and comments and suss out the relationships of some people.

But I'm glad I started using the forums as we were seriously thinking fab was not for us but actually chatting to people about day to day random stuff as well as sexy stuff has made us want to stick around.

I look forward to popping in to see the messages and getting a little more confident of posting a response.....

Jo x

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I'm friendly but at the same time pretty reserved with people I don't yet know. I won't share my whole life story to anyone that'll listen and I take my time working people out. I'm a loyal friend though and will keep your secrets just as well as my own

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. I'm generally quite a happy positive person and that includes my interactions with others. At the very least I'm polite and respectful unless given reason to be otherwise.

On here I find it hard sometimes to step away from people, if they keep replying I do too because I don't want to offend, they're probably sat thinking the same about me

In real life I'm usually the one to draw people closer. Most of the people in my group of friends were my friend originally and I introduced them. "

Well I still like you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I'm pretty friendly...

I think it's nice to be nice and so I try to compliment people and be kind without blowing smoke up their arse

I can be a complete sarcastic mare though, never mean to offend but my sense of humour is dry af.

And if I'm riled I can be a bitch.

But yeah, I think I'm friendly

I could have written this

This is me too

You come across as super chilled Nora!

Hahaha. Do I detect a hint of sarcasm there Steve?

Genuinely no!

You're one of the most balanced and fair ppl I've had the privilege of speaking to in here! Massive respect!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t really know how others view me to be honest. I’m the same on here, as I am out in the ‘real world’ I suppose.

I like to think I’m friendly and approachable. But, sometimes certain posts warrant a certain response. You just have to.

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X) "

I think im pretty friendly most times..

But if i get a feel for somebody and think they just not right then i wont entertain that person..

I would be friendly to everyone and treat as an equal as everybody bleeds the same but also i go with my gut instinct,and its not been wrong as yet..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’d like to think so.

That is subject to change though....depending on my level of hunger "

Hangry innit

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

I'm generally an arsehole on here. Then again, on here, people often say stupid stuff which I feel needs a stupid answer. Lol.

In real life, people who are nice, I'm great with them. I'll help them out, fix stuff for them, go out of my way for them, do anything I can for them really. Dickheads however, I'll usually highlight their insecurities, take the piss out of them, etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m friendly here and in ‘normal’ life

I know I’ve come across as ‘venomous’ on here but in reality it’s just sarcasm taken the wrong way.

I dislike chavvy 70s/80s style innuendo here and everywhere so yes - I’m the same

Some folk don't get sarcasm, it's a shame, I think there's nothing funnier! You always come across a one of the friendly ones in the forum to me

Bless you my child

You can call me child all day long my love I'm feeling decidedly old and achey today

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By *ewtoyouXXXMan
over a year ago

rochdale cowboy

I’m a nice genuine nice chap unless your a fecker with me

Always polite even if a little cheeky but I’m the whole I’m a good person

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X) "

I've chatted with you before. You gave me advice over a difficult and hurtful situation. You weren't a twat or sarcastic. You were actually kinda sweet and helped me when you had no reason to. So in my book you are one of the good guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'm pretty friendly...

I think it's nice to be nice and so I try to compliment people and be kind without blowing smoke up their arse

I can be a complete sarcastic mare though, never mean to offend but my sense of humour is dry af.

And if I'm riled I can be a bitch.

But yeah, I think I'm friendly

I could have written this

This is me too

You come across as super chilled Nora!

Hahaha. Do I detect a hint of sarcasm there Steve?

Genuinely no!

You're one of the most balanced and fair ppl I've had the privilege of speaking to in here! Massive respect!

X "

Aw thank you

. I am quite balanced just maybe a bit too feisty sometimes but I admit that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t really know how others view me to be honest. I’m the same on here, as I am out in the ‘real world’ I suppose.

I like to think I’m friendly and approachable. But, sometimes certain posts warrant a certain response. You just have to.

You look like the type of guy to have a lovely anus X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to be as friendly as i can towards others in the real world..i have no idea how i come across on the forums and i can be quite abrupt via pm ..but some men like that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I'm friendly and try to look at posts and life in general objectively.

What some people don't appreciate is there is life outside of any online persona and that generally must come first.

I look forward to popping in to see the messages and getting a little more confident of posting a response.....

Jo x"

Awww thats really great!

I was a bit the same with fab, finding it boring, and then I popped into the forums one day, starting talking shit and then bumped into my amazing other half here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm friendly but at the same time pretty reserved with people I don't yet know. I won't share my whole life story to anyone that'll listen and I take my time working people out. I'm a loyal friend though and will keep your secrets just as well as my own

No harm in that

Sometimes caution pays in here!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t really know how others view me to be honest. I’m the same on here, as I am out in the ‘real world’ I suppose.

I like to think I’m friendly and approachable. But, sometimes certain posts warrant a certain response. You just have to.

Haha, some post just call you don't they....

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I wouldn’t say i’m friendly as such. I’m just not like that, too shy.

But i’d hope i was ok in pm’s.

In person i’m lovely - all my veries say so

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X)

I think im pretty friendly most times..

But if i get a feel for somebody and think they just not right then i wont entertain that person..

I would be friendly to everyone and treat as an equal as everybody bleeds the same but also i go with my gut instinct,and its not been wrong as yet..

I'm very much like that myself, but beginning to wonder if it makes me miss out on a few amazing hidden gems in life

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I think I'm friendly and try to look at posts and life in general objectively.

What some people don't appreciate is there is life outside of any online persona and that generally must come first.

I look forward to popping in to see the messages and getting a little more confident of posting a response.....

Jo x

Awww thats really great!

I was a bit the same with fab, finding it boring, and then I popped into the forums one day, starting talking shit and then bumped into my amazing other half here

Think it helps massively being here as a couple, at least you can bounce thoughts off each other...nice feel good post. Thanks

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm generally an arsehole on here. Then again, on here, people often say stupid stuff which I feel needs a stupid answer. Lol.

Sometimes it's nice to have somewhere where you have the freedom to be an arse hole, but ppl are still ppl, even here, I think at times I forget that myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m a nice genuine nice chap unless your a fecker with me

Always polite even if a little cheeky but I’m the whole I’m a good person "

Good cowboy innit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X)

Awwww, you're a darling!

I hope that problem is now no longer a problem my love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I’m friendly to people on here and in real life. I’m not the type to be bitchy or nasty to people it’s just not in me. Yet I probably at times need to learn to be. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I'm pretty friendly...

I think it's nice to be nice and so I try to compliment people and be kind without blowing smoke up their arse

I can be a complete sarcastic mare though, never mean to offend but my sense of humour is dry af.

And if I'm riled I can be a bitch.

But yeah, I think I'm friendly

I could have written this

This is me too

You come across as super chilled Nora!

Hahaha. Do I detect a hint of sarcasm there Steve?

Genuinely no!

You're one of the most balanced and fair ppl I've had the privilege of speaking to in here! Massive respect!

Aw thank you

. I am quite balanced just maybe a bit too feisty sometimes but I admit that

Never excuse passion!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I try to be as friendly as i can towards others in the real world..i have no idea how i come across on the forums and i can be quite abrupt via pm ..but some men like that

You seem alright to me, keep being yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t say i’m friendly as such. I’m just not like that, too shy.

But i’d hope i was ok in pm’s.

In person i’m lovely - all my veries say so

I wouldn't have thought of you as shy from your posts, but then I guess that shows the difficulties with text. You always come across well in here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I’m friendly to people on here and in real life. I’m not the type to be bitchy or nasty to people it’s just not in me. Yet I probably at times need to learn to be. X "

Of you're lacking in bitchiness then that's a good thing, run with it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I’m friendly to people on here and in real life. I’m not the type to be bitchy or nasty to people it’s just not in me. Yet I probably at times need to learn to be. X

Of you're lacking in bitchiness then that's a good thing, run with it!

If*

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I wouldn’t say i’m friendly as such. I’m just not like that, too shy.

But i’d hope i was ok in pm’s.

In person i’m lovely - all my veries say so

That rings true for me as well.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I think that people see a snapshot of you at one particular point and quite quickly form a view based on that - confirmation biasing your subsequent responses etc. I'm trying to cut people more slack - you don't really know what someone is going through and being nice isn't taxing.

I've tried to be a lot less acerbic/cutting etc on the forum. I think part of it is I've changed as a person. I'm as friendly on here as I am off and try to show that friendliness in both incidents. People interpret it and you as they want though don't they? I've had well intentioned comments misinterpreted.

All you can do is be authentic to who you are.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I don't think I'm particularly friendly initially, I prefer to work out what someone's like first then they get my friendliness if I think they deserve it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think that people see a snapshot of you at one particular point and quite quickly form a view based on that - confirmation biasing your subsequent responses etc. I'm trying to cut people more slack - you don't really know what someone is going through and being nice isn't taxing.

All you can do is be authentic to who you are. "

I like that! "nice doesn't have to be taxing" just like the self assessment adverts

It's tricky though, I often find myself holding back of late in the forums and thinking thrice before deciding not to post or reply because ppl might take me the wrong way based on past impressions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think I'm particularly friendly initially, I prefer to work out what someone's like first then they get my friendliness if I think they deserve it."

But what if they're thinking along the same lines as you, there's a risk you might both just think fuck it I'm not gonna wait for the niceness to arrive? I think I've done that too often

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Hmm. I'm not really sure if I come across as friendly. I tend to be a bit guarded with people I don't know well and that might come off as unapproachable at first, I'm not sure. I try to be generally nice to people though, I don't really get those who seem to thrive on hostility.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hmm. I'm not really sure if I come across as friendly. I tend to be a bit guarded with people I don't know well and that might come off as unapproachable at first, I'm not sure. I try to be generally nice to people though, I don't really get those who seem to thrive on hostility. "

I've never seen you not look friendly! Certainly never seen you lose composure or grace, you're a good'un from what I can see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m friendly enough for this place

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm friendly but guarded. Too many times on my life I've become friendly with people to find they want more than I'm prepared to give and sometimes I don't even want to be their friend.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

One of my life mottos: it's nice to be nice. Along with: don't be a dick. So yes, despite my love of sarcasm and intolerance for poor spelling and grammar, I'd say I'm pretty friendly

Mrs TMN x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im much friendlier in real life

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

I'm just an all round bloody nice fella;

Surely this is clear to see on here too?...

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X) "

I rarely take anything said on the internet seriously. Just words on a screen.

I treat people the way I want to be treated as a rule. However if someone was rude or insulting, I would ignore them.

Life's too short for all that drama

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I think I'm pretty friendly...

I think it's nice to be nice and so I try to compliment people and be kind without blowing smoke up their arse

I can be a complete sarcastic mare though, never mean to offend but my sense of humour is dry af.

And if I'm riled I can be a bitch.

But yeah, I think I'm friendly

Same as Nora! Seems the three of us think a like!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm friendly but guarded. Too many times on my life I've become friendly with people to find they want more than I'm prepared to give and sometimes I don't even want to be their friend. "

Haha, too true, when you have unwanted or nuisance friends. Sometimes it difficult to be nice because it'll be taken the wrong way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X) "

Friendliness is relative.

I can be sharp, emphatic and kind, it generally depend on whether a body has bothered to read my profile.

I tend not to give many passes as in the past when I have the twits turn into a twats!

I may be seen as harsh by some but I believe I’m fair.

I’m also aware that the ‘rule’ I run my fabbing by also apply to me.

I’m not here to educate I’m here for ‘fun’.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"One of my life mottos: it's nice to be nice. Along with: don't be a dick. So yes, despite my love of sarcasm and intolerance for poor spelling and grammar, I'd say I'm pretty friendly

Mrs TMN x "

I've often been a nice dick....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Im much friendlier in real life"

Fuck, you must be super friendly irl then because you always seem really lovely in here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Im much friendlier in real life

Fuck, you must be super friendly irl then because you always seem really lovely in here

BTW I wasn't saying fuck you....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm just an all round bloody nice fella;

Surely this is clear to see on here too?..."

Kinda is tbf, I like you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X)

I rarely take anything said on the internet seriously. Just words on a screen.

I treat people the way I want to be treated as a rule. However if someone was rude or insulting, I would ignore them.

Life's too short for all that drama"

That's what I really struggle with, I just see it as words on a screen, but when you think a little deeper, they're words someone put on the screen and the person is as real as the person who told you that it's just words on a screen, innit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I'm pretty friendly...

I think it's nice to be nice and so I try to compliment people and be kind without blowing smoke up their arse

I can be a complete sarcastic mare though, never mean to offend but my sense of humour is dry af.

And if I'm riled I can be a bitch.

But yeah, I think I'm friendly

Same as Nora! Seems the three of us think a like!

Cliquey....

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I’m not very friendly on here or in real life.

You 2 should know this already

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X)

Friendliness is relative.

I can be sharp, emphatic and kind, it generally depend on whether a body has bothered to read my profile.

I tend not to give many passes as in the past when I have the twits turn into a twats!

I may be seen as harsh by some but I believe I’m fair.

I’m also aware that the ‘rule’ I run my fabbing by also apply to me.

I’m not here to educate I’m here for ‘fun’.

That's fair enough, and I'm similar, I'm primarily here just for FUN (the funny kind) and for myself and Saff. Are you open to being educated at all though or learning as you go along through fab?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m not very friendly on here or in real life.

You 2 should know this already

You're far too fucking friendly young lady!!!!! Last time I saw you you interrupted sex and stopped me from cumming by singing Taylor Swift up at the bedroom window, then forced entry and told me I smell of fabric conditioner! Then tried to smother me with your body before leaving......

I do love you dearly I though lexi

Xteve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here I suspect more people have taken exception to me than the other way round. I suppose I could start a thread titled "what is your favourite band t-shirt" but I think there's enough of that already.

I'd rather post with a harmless twist for a more varied reaction, which I know leads some to think I'm a bit of a twat but I'm happy enough to take the risk. I will occasionally post an opinion whether it belongs to me or not.

I have contact with different people almost daily at work so I have to be friendly and approachable. I'm amenable with work colleagues and people I socialise with but the 'acerbic wit' as somebody on here once called it, is part of my fake and real make-up.

At home - I'm almost always as friendly as poss.

Here - misunderstood

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ahhhh you think I'm right again?!?

But I thought you were a bit of a muppet.. now I know you're not.. so I am occassionally wrong.

Life's too short to actively dislike others without very good reason and I can honestly say there's nobody on here that I could say that about. If others think that of me I'd much prefer an opportunity to change their mind.

A snapshot of comments can be very hard to interpret so benefit of the doubt is a great thing to have until proved otherwise.

It's nice to be nice

We all need a kind word every now and again.

Saff

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

"I don't think I'm particularly friendly initially, I prefer to work out what someone's like first then they get my friendliness if I think they deserve it.

But what if they're thinking along the same lines as you, there's a risk you might both just think fuck it I'm not gonna wait for the niceness to arrive? I think I've done that too often

I can live with that, too many twats about unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On here I suspect more people have taken exception to me than the other way round. I suppose I could start a thread titled "what is your favourite band t-shirt" but I think there's enough of that already.

At home - I'm almost always as friendly as poss.

Here - misunderstood

I think you are utterly brilliant! I love how your mind works and I think you have a great approach to fab! I never see you as anything other than friendly, even with the lashes of sarcasm

Steve x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Im much friendlier in real life

Fuck, you must be super friendly irl then because you always seem really lovely in here

X"
was that for me? I wouldnt have thought i came across as lovely. But yes im much friendlier in real life

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Im much friendlier in real life

Fuck, you must be super friendly irl then because you always seem really lovely in here

Xwas that for me? I wouldnt have thought i came across as lovely. But yes im much friendlier in real life"

Yes, you!

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X)

I rarely take anything said on the internet seriously. Just words on a screen.

I treat people the way I want to be treated as a rule. However if someone was rude or insulting, I would ignore them.

Life's too short for all that drama

Yes, but everyone is Superman / Wonderwoman online.

Ultimately you make a decision as to the tone. If it's malicious, I'll take note of the poster.

If it's just someone being a twat, I'm far more forgiving as we can all be twats from time to time.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Im much friendlier in real life

Fuck, you must be super friendly irl then because you always seem really lovely in here

Xwas that for me? I wouldnt have thought i came across as lovely. But yes im much friendlier in real life

Yes, you!

"
well thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X)

I rarely take anything said on the internet seriously. Just words on a screen.

I treat people the way I want to be treated as a rule. However if someone was rude or insulting, I would ignore them.

Life's too short for all that drama

Yes, but everyone is Superman / Wonderwoman online.

Ultimately you make a decision as to the tone. If it's malicious, I'll take note of the poster.

If it's just someone being a twat, I'm far more forgiving as we can all be twats from time to time."

I hear you buddy, I always look at motivation and intent, plus all of us have a shit day now and then too and we can't be perfect all of the time. I'm not saying there aren't some awful nasty ppl on here or irl, clearly there are, just sometimes they spoil it for the twats who are just having a bad day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think in general I’m a friendly person, will make sure people are comfortable when they’re around me. I treat others how I would like to be treated, always have time for a smile & a hello.

I am also aware tho that, with age, I’ve become a lot more straight talking and don’t suffer fools gladly, this doesn’t always come across as I have intended on Fabs where as in reality people know what my intentions are from body language.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think in general I’m a friendly person, will make sure people are comfortable when they’re around me. I treat others how I would like to be treated, always have time for a smile & a hello.

When you just have text to judge a person from then I think first impressions or the mood of the reader, whether they're argumentative, hungry, anxious, excitable, insecure etc count a lot! Just like when two ppl read the same book they'll give the characters a different voice, face etc. It's not just body language either, you can't pick up tone from a text, so sarcasm goes way past some people and they might take unnecessary offence....

I think the point I was trying to make in the OP was that maybe we could all think a little more and consider that when we're here and also irl, to stay open, friendly, and try not to see unintended offence

Steve x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Im much friendlier in real life

Fuck, you must be super friendly irl then because you always seem really lovely in here

Xwas that for me? I wouldnt have thought i came across as lovely. But yes im much friendlier in real life

Yes, you!

well thank you xx"

Thank YOU

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’d say I’m pretty friendly all round. Not a bad quality to have.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X) "

Hooray !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At home - I'm almost always as friendly as poss.

Here - misunderstood

I think you are utterly brilliant! I love how your mind works and I think you have a great approach to fab! I never see you as anything other than friendly, even with the lashes of sarcasm

Steve x"

Thank you Steve, you've genuinely made me blush.

But you've made me realise 2 things; one about myself which is neither here nor there and one about the way in which we all use the internet as a whole.

My mind's default setting is to look at things in a different way. Once I see a post, either serious or funny, I'm automatically looking at how else it can be construed. It works the same on real life.

That's by the by. For those of us who were adults back in the days of dial-up, posting on the internet has changed somewhat. I've been posting off and on since those days, mostly on special interest (non sexual, non dating) forums.

There was a thread on here yesterday called 'where would you rather be?' or something. The thread is mostly a list of one line posts citing idyllic places or settings with no background information provided.

Back in the day when we were all sitting at our desktops posting, there would be much more detail in the posts.

I've been to plenty of places just because I've read about them on the forums. Places as close as beauty spots (Dovedale, worth a day of anybody's life)in the Peak District to as far as Naples in Florida which somebody mentioned on that thread. Now before I would have discussed Naples with the poster whose name escapes me but to be honest I just can't be arsed on my phone so I wrote some twatty bollox about being in my next door neighbours house instead.

Like everything else, we're posting in the go now and bot really taking time to post much of note....which is why it's taken me about half an hour to type this inbetween carrying out the chores that I am.

Sometimes that can come across as unfriendly, I guess.

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

"I’m not very friendly on here or in real life.

You 2 should know this already

Keep wearing that bikini and I'll be your friend!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X)

Hooray !"

LOL what?

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I occasionally attempt humour that might be perceived as snarky but generally I’m a dream!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And also why my posts are so littered with mistakes.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X)

Hooray !

LOL what?

That was me being postive

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

At home - I'm almost always as friendly as poss.

Here - misunderstood

I think you are utterly brilliant! I love how your mind works and I think you have a great approach to fab! I never see you as anything other than friendly, even with the lashes of sarcasm

Steve x

Thank you Steve, you've genuinely made me blush.

But you've made me realise 2 things; one about myself which is neither here nor there and one about the way in which we all use the internet as a whole.

Back in the day when we were all sitting at our desktops posting, there would be much more detail in the posts.

Sometimes that can come across as unfriendly, I guess.

you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m not very friendly on here or in real life.

You 2 should know this already

Keep wearing that bikini and I'll be your friend!

Don't you want it off?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X)

Hooray !

LOL what?

That was me being postive

Pmsl thank you my love, I'm slow it's a Sunday

(genuinely giggling now

)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I occasionally attempt humour that might be perceived as snarky but generally I’m a dream!

I would!

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

"I’m not very friendly on here or in real life.

You 2 should know this already

I do love you dearly I though lexi

Xteve "

You wouldn’t have me any other way!!!

#thirdwheel

I’m sure your both missing me whilst I’m on my jollies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here I don't suffer fools so that often comes across as being unfriendly. I'm not bothered if that's how strangers see me. I don't want to be liked by everyone... Just the people that matter. In real life I'm friendly enough and polite to those I don't know but I don't go out of my way. You can't be friends with everyone so I don't waste my efforts. Guarded is how I would describe my approach to friendliness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to be quite guarded online. I'm far more open in real life as I'm able to read people with body language and their general interactions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m not very friendly on here or in real life.

You 2 should know this already

I do love you dearly I though lexi

Xteve

You wouldn’t have me any other way!!!

#thirdwheel

I’m sure your both missing me whilst I’m on my jollies

Practically crippled with loss rn

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

"I’m not very friendly on here or in real life.

You 2 should know this already

Keep wearing that bikini and I'll be your friend!

Don't you want it off? "

Have it off?

Hell yeah!...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On here I don't suffer fools so that often comes across as being unfriendly. I'm not bothered if that's how strangers see me. I don't want to be liked by everyone... Just the people that matter. In real life I'm friendly enough and polite to those I don't know but I don't go out of my way. You can't be friends with everyone so I don't waste my efforts. Guarded is how I would describe my approach to friendliness. "

How do you know who matters though if you don't open up to potential matterers? You come across pretty friendly on here anyway to me

Steve

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m not very friendly on here or in real life.

You 2 should know this already

Keep wearing that bikini and I'll be your friend!

Don't you want it off?

Have it off?

Hell yeah!..."

GET IT OFF MAN! I CAN FIX YOU UP!!!

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

"I’m not very friendly on here or in real life.

You 2 should know this already

Keep wearing that bikini and I'll be your friend!

Don't you want it off?

Have it off?

Hell yeah!...

GET IT OFF MAN! I CAN FIX YOU UP!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I tend to be quite guarded online. I'm far more open in real life as I'm able to read people with body language and their general interactions. "

I guess online you need to look at safety, but I just think we could all be a little friendlier without necessarily leading ppl on or giving them false hopes, especially applicable to forum life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm friendly but I'm not a smoke blower

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I present friendly enough as a situation requires it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know who matters though if you don't open up to potential matterers? You come across pretty friendly on here anyway to me

Steve "

That's a good question. I think it is easier in real life as certain people you just warm to. I guess those people I'd be more friendly towards as I could see us getting on. Online it's much easier to dismiss people instantly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm friendly but I'm not a smoke blower"

Be yourself, and be comfortable with it friend

I have a rough idea what smoke blower means but I kinda see it as a box for ppl to place others in and I've witnessed some of the less friendly folk on here use that kind of language to often devalue a genuine, friendly compliment to a nice person from a nice person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All you can do is be authentic to who you are. "

I've never noticed you being cutting. I've noticed you being supportive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you know who matters though if you don't open up to potential matterers? You come across pretty friendly on here anyway to me

Steve

Absolutely, I'm really one of those that decides if I like someone instantly just from their face on a first meeting. So it's really hard not to judge the same way in text without all the additional info....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I present friendly enough as a situation requires it "

Best way, and you can't be friendly to mean ppl, just try to understand them....

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I’m friendly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm friendly but I'm not a smoke blower

Be yourself, and be comfortable with it friend

What other people say is beyond my control

I can't remember calling anyone in particular out for them praising others

I do compliment people - I just won't do it with intent, to endear myself to them as a primary driver

I am friendly, both on here and off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At home - I'm almost always as friendly as poss.

Here - misunderstood

I think you are utterly brilliant! I love how your mind works and I think you have a great approach to fab! I never see you as anything other than friendly, even with the lashes of sarcasm

Steve x

Thank you Steve, you've genuinely made me blush.

But you've made me realise 2 things; one about myself which is neither here nor there and one about the way in which we all use the internet as a whole.

Back in the day when we were all sitting at our desktops posting, there would be much more detail in the posts.

Sometimes that can come across as unfriendly, I guess.

I like the way you think.

Everyone can come across as unfriendly sometimes.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

"I’m not very friendly on here or in real life.

You 2 should know this already

Keep wearing that bikini and I'll be your friend!

Don't you want it off?

Have it off?

Hell yeah!...

GET IT OFF MAN! I CAN FIX YOU UP!!!

Your pimping me out again!??

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

"I’m not very friendly on here or in real life.

You 2 should know this already

Keep wearing that bikini and I'll be your friend!

Don't you want it off?

Have it off?

Hell yeah!...

GET IT OFF MAN! I CAN FIX YOU UP!!!

Won’t be long

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m friendly

You are! You're lovely! One of the few ppl in here I see as a constant friend, never any drama

Steve x

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"One of my life mottos: it's nice to be nice. Along with: don't be a dick. So yes, despite my love of sarcasm and intolerance for poor spelling and grammar, I'd say I'm pretty friendly

Mrs TMN x

I've often been a nice dick....

Are you talking literally? X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm friendly but I'm not a smoke blower

Be yourself, and be comfortable with it friend

What other people say is beyond my control

I can't remember calling anyone in particular out for them praising others

I do compliment people - I just won't do it with intent, to endear myself to them as a primary driver

I am friendly, both on here and off "

I understood that before. I didn't say you had called anyone out on anything, I just avoid terms like that because they're often used in a very negative way in this place to keep newcomers down. A guy can say something nice and genuinely friendly and suddenly he's a smoke blowing, virtue signalling, white Knight narcissist before he's even got line two out, that's all....

I like most of what you post and that's not smoke blowing

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over a year ago

"I’m not very friendly on here or in real life.

You 2 should know this already

Keep wearing that bikini and I'll be your friend!

Don't you want it off?

Have it off?

Hell yeah!...

GET IT OFF MAN! I CAN FIX YOU UP!!!

Your pimping me out again!??

Yeah, trying to keep you occupied when you get back

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

In real life I’m the friendliest person ever on the forums - I’ve no idea. I try to join in and just have a laugh but know of a few people that have said nasty things about me/ spread rumours around the scene so can’t be as great in response to them I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"One of my life mottos: it's nice to be nice. Along with: don't be a dick. So yes, despite my love of sarcasm and intolerance for poor spelling and grammar, I'd say I'm pretty friendly

Mrs TMN x

I've often been a nice dick....

Are you talking literally? X"

Saff says so - I'm not sure if she just means I'm a harmless twat or whether she's complimenting my cock....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In real life I’m the friendliest person ever on the forums - I’ve no idea. I try to join in and just have a laugh but know of a few people that have said nasty things about me/ spread rumours around the scene so can’t be as great in response to them I suppose. "

Those ppl will always be here unfortunately, but you seem pretty decent to me. Rise above it, stay positive and others will see you for who you are

Steve x

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I’m friendly

You are! You're lovely! One of the few ppl in here I see as a constant friend, never any drama

Steve x"

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I think I'm quite friendly, but I suppose my friends would be better to answer that.

It's hard to form friendships with people online, that's why we like to go to socials because you get a real feel of a person. (not in the pervy way)

It's also difficult to trust new people, so although I'm friendly I'm also cautious.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I'm quite friendly, but I suppose my friends would be better to answer that.

It's hard to form friendships with people online, that's why we like to go to socials because you get a real feel of a person. (not in the pervy way)

It's also difficult to trust new people, so although I'm friendly I'm also cautious.

Jo.Xx "

I've found you guys to be really friendly, but I'm obv riding on Saffie's coat tails and she already told me that you were both beautiful people because you've met in person so you started on a high in my mind. You always come across as level headed, friendly and funny on the forums.

Looking forward to meeting you both myself at MLS

Steve x

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I think I'm quite friendly, but I suppose my friends would be better to answer that.

It's hard to form friendships with people online, that's why we like to go to socials because you get a real feel of a person. (not in the pervy way)

It's also difficult to trust new people, so although I'm friendly I'm also cautious.

Jo.Xx

Looking forward to meeting you both myself at MLS

Steve x"

Thank you Steve

We both have huge respect for Saffron and believe she is very genuinely a decent woman, we do feel blessed to call her our friend.

We are both looking forward to meeting you too, it's going to be brilliant.

Jo.Xx

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

"I’m not very friendly on here or in real life.

You 2 should know this already

Keep wearing that bikini and I'll be your friend!

Don't you want it off?

Have it off?

Hell yeah!...

GET IT OFF MAN! I CAN FIX YOU UP!!!

Your pimping me out again!??

Yeah, trying to keep you occupied when you get back

Already covered

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X)

I think im pretty friendly most times..

But if i get a feel for somebody and think they just not right then i wont entertain that person..

I would be friendly to everyone and treat as an equal as everybody bleeds the same but also i go with my gut instinct,and its not been wrong as yet..

I'm very much like that myself, but beginning to wonder if it makes me miss out on a few amazing hidden gems in life

I think if your meant to meet them "hidden gems" then you will regardless of anything else..

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X)

I think im pretty friendly most times..

But if i get a feel for somebody and think they just not right then i wont entertain that person..

I would be friendly to everyone and treat as an equal as everybody bleeds the same but also i go with my gut instinct,and its not been wrong as yet..

I'm very much like that myself, but beginning to wonder if it makes me miss out on a few amazing hidden gems in life

I think if your meant to meet them "hidden gems" then you will regardless of anything else..

I 100% agree with this, trust your gut and if it's 'meant to be' then it will be.

Jo.Xx

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

I'd like to think I'm friendly and come across as a good natured individual....sarcasm doesn't help at times though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think i come across much nicer in real life

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I'm quite friendly, but I suppose my friends would be better to answer that.

It's hard to form friendships with people online, that's why we like to go to socials because you get a real feel of a person. (not in the pervy way)

It's also difficult to trust new people, so although I'm friendly I'm also cautious.

Jo.Xx

Looking forward to meeting you both myself at MLS

Steve x

Thank you Steve

We both have huge respect for Saffron and believe she is very genuinely a decent woman, we do feel blessed to call her our friend.

We are both looking forward to meeting you too, it's going to be brilliant.

Jo.Xx "

Ahhhh love you guys!! Can't wait for September!

Saff x

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

"I’m not very friendly on here or in real life.

You 2 should know this already

Keep wearing that bikini and I'll be your friend!

Don't you want it off?

Have it off?

Hell yeah!...

GET IT OFF MAN! I CAN FIX YOU UP!!!

Your pimping me out again!??

Yeah, trying to keep you occupied when you get back

Already covered

You little minx Lexi

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m not very friendly on here or in real life.

You 2 should know this already

Keep wearing that bikini and I'll be your friend!

Don't you want it off?

Have it off?

Hell yeah!...

GET IT OFF MAN! I CAN FIX YOU UP!!!

Your pimping me out again!??

Yeah, trying to keep you occupied when you get back

Already covered

Covered in what? Have you been I the bushes again love?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X)

I think im pretty friendly most times..

But if i get a feel for somebody and think they just not right then i wont entertain that person..

I would be friendly to everyone and treat as an equal as everybody bleeds the same but also i go with my gut instinct,and its not been wrong as yet..

I'm very much like that myself, but beginning to wonder if it makes me miss out on a few amazing hidden gems in life

I think if your meant to meet them "hidden gems" then you will regardless of anything else..

I found my gem

, I just mean there might be other great ppl and experiences out there I could learn from who maybe I've dismissed too quickly x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd like to think I'm friendly and come across as a good natured individual....sarcasm doesn't help at times though

Sarcasm is ace, never curb your sarcasm!

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I think I'm nicer in person than on here... I can be very brash on here st times..

I'm naturally a openly friendly person but.. I will let someone know if they are being a twat...

However in my many years on fab I've learnt to be very guarded with being to close to most people. And far to many two faced and back stabbing people. But I'm still nice to most of those too... as it's funny as they don't know how to take it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I'm nicer in person than on here... I can be very brash on here st times..

I'm naturally a openly friendly person but.. I will let someone know if they are being a twat...

Kill them with love and watch their lost little faces, innit

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'm nicer in person than on here... I can be very brash on here st times..

I'm naturally a openly friendly person but.. I will let someone know if they are being a twat...

Agreed

Think I’d learn after my time on here but occasionally I’ll get sucked in

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"I think I'm nicer in person than on here... I can be very brash on here st times..

I'm naturally a openly friendly person but.. I will let someone know if they are being a twat...

Agreed

Think I’d learn after my time on here but occasionally I’ll get sucked in "
I mostly leave people two their politics but yes sometimes you get sucked In. But then sometimes you hit friendship gold x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'm nicer in person than on here... I can be very brash on here st times..

I'm naturally a openly friendly person but.. I will let someone know if they are being a twat...

Agreed

Think I’d learn after my time on here but occasionally I’ll get sucked in I mostly leave people two their politics but yes sometimes you get sucked In. But then sometimes you hit friendship gold x"

True story...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm known as quite a friendly person in real life. In the fab world I've been a lot more shallow than I ever thought I could be, however generally when I've let my guard down and been nice and trusting I've had my fingers burnt.

There are people on here I've initially thought twat, but once got to know them they have been a delight.... and the other way around

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm known as quite a friendly person in real life. In the fab world I've been a lot more shallow than I ever thought I could be, however generally when I've let my guard down and been nice and trusting I've had my fingers burnt.

There are people on here I've initially thought twat, but once got to know them they have been a delight.... and the other way around "

Such is life - can you not be guarded but still open? I just mean in terms of being friendly and open and not forming snap opinions of people without getting to know them. That's something I'd like to try to change about myself anyway

My first ever exchange with my other half in here was hot and angry, but thankfully we got the opportunity to get know each other better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are people on here I've initially thought twat, but once got to know them they have been a delight.... and the other way around

My first ever exchange with my other half in here was hot and angry, but thankfully we got the opportunity to get know each other better! "

Yes and there are a few that I have got know and been a delight. Normally though my gut instinct is right.

Should I go and see who I've had a row with and try again? Haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There are people on here I've initially thought twat, but once got to know them they have been a delight.... and the other way around

My first ever exchange with my other half in here was hot and angry, but thankfully we got the opportunity to get know each other better!

Yes and there are a few that I have got know and been a delight. Normally though my gut instinct is right.

Should I go and see who I've had a row with and try again? Haha"

Funny you should say that, but Saff was suggesting I should do just that very thing earlier today. Never hurts to challenge yourself

Steve x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heavens yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Heavens yes

Heavens yes to what/who?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just as friendly on here as in day to day life.

Often I'm not sure if that comes across as genuine thou!

That Doesn't mean I'm always friendly mind, especially if you cross me ... or my Mr

Miss

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I think I'm quite friendly, but I suppose my friends would be better to answer that.

It's hard to form friendships with people online, that's why we like to go to socials because you get a real feel of a person. (not in the pervy way)

It's also difficult to trust new people, so although I'm friendly I'm also cautious.

Jo.Xx

Looking forward to meeting you both myself at MLS

Steve x

Thank you Steve

We both have huge respect for Saffron and believe she is very genuinely a decent woman, we do feel blessed to call her our friend.

We are both looking forward to meeting you too, it's going to be brilliant.

Jo.Xx

Ahhhh love you guys!! Can't wait for September!

Saff x"

Love you beautiful.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often told that I'm friendly and easy to talk to. I'm probably becoming less tolerant with folk on here though.

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By *unningFoxWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

unfortunately I’m too nice sometimes but I can be right Bword when someone piss me off and that’s like 3 times a year. Sometimes I feel badly to not answer message in here or ghost people who are not for me

I have started to grow balls

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

"Are you as friendly as you could be towards others? Both on fab and in real life?

What do you think? Please do comment but please keep replies positive and impart some wisdom

Enjoy your Sunday afternoon!

Steve (X)

I rarely take anything said on the internet seriously. Just words on a screen.

I treat people the way I want to be treated as a rule. However if someone was rude or insulting, I would ignore them.

Life's too short for all that drama

Yes, but everyone is Superman / Wonderwoman online.

Ultimately you make a decision as to the tone. If it's malicious, I'll take note of the poster.

If it's just someone being a twat, I'm far more forgiving as we can all be twats from time to time.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I try to be nice, treat others as I want them to treat me, online and in real life x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"unfortunately I’m too nice sometimes but I can be right Bword when someone piss me off and that’s like 3 times a year. Sometimes I feel badly to not answer message in here or ghost people who are not for me

I have started to grow balls

You're lovely, you didn't even type the b-word out loud

Steve x

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By *unningFoxWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I have started to grow balls

You're lovely, you didn't even type the b-word out loud

Steve x "

Aww, Can’t do anything right

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I like to think I'm open, friendly and empathetic. In real life I'm told so. However we all have a bad day.

I try not to be judgemental but sometimes it creeps in. Live and let live is my mantra xx

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

I’m confused, apparently it’s unfriendly to ask someone to clarify what they mean. Hey ho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m confused, apparently it’s unfriendly to ask someone to clarify what they mean. Hey ho.

Did you use those words? Or was it more “what the fuck are you on about?!”

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"I’m confused, apparently it’s unfriendly to ask someone to clarify what they mean. Hey ho.

Did you use those words? Or was it more “what the fuck are you on about?!” "

If I had then I really should be given the benefit of the doubt so people get to know me - I’m a potty mouthed gobshite. Although to be fair, I absolutely didn’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m confused, apparently it’s unfriendly to ask someone to clarify what they mean. Hey ho.

Did you use those words? Or was it more “what the fuck are you on about?!”

If I had then I really should be given the benefit of the doubt so people get to know me - I’m a potty mouthed gobshite. Although to be fair, I absolutely didn’t.

I know, that’s why I asked

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"I’m confused, apparently it’s unfriendly to ask someone to clarify what they mean. Hey ho.

Did you use those words? Or was it more “what the fuck are you on about?!”

If I had then I really should be given the benefit of the doubt so people get to know me - I’m a potty mouthed gobshite. Although to be fair, I absolutely didn’t.

I know, that’s why I asked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an arsehole on fab and less of an arsehole in real life, but real life people might disagree.

But they're not on here so fuck'em

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m confused, apparently it’s unfriendly to ask someone to clarify what they mean. Hey ho.

Ha ha Is this like hitting the boys you fancy?

Saff

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m confused, apparently it’s unfriendly to ask someone to clarify what they mean. Hey ho.

Did you use those words? Or was it more “what the fuck are you on about?!”

If I had then I really should be given the benefit of the doubt so people get to know me - I’m a potty mouthed gobshite. Although to be fair, I absolutely didn’t.

I know, that’s why I asked

Really now?

Do you fancy me or something? That's the only explanation for the attention you're giving me tonight. Jesus h.... Leave me alone for a bit my love and chill

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m confused, apparently it’s unfriendly to ask someone to clarify what they mean. Hey ho.

Ha ha Is this like hitting the boys you fancy?

Saff "

Beat me to it baby

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm an arsehole on fab and less of an arsehole in real life, but real life people might disagree.

But they're not on here so fuck'em

You're anything but an arsehole, well in public from what I've seen anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm an arsehole on fab and less of an arsehole in real life, but real life people might disagree.

But they're not on here so fuck'em

You're anything but an arsehole, well in public from what I've seen anyway

You've seen me in public

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I'm very friendly in person I'm a lot less friendly over the internet. I have a big lack of trust in anything cyber based.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"I’m confused, apparently it’s unfriendly to ask someone to clarify what they mean. Hey ho.

Ha ha Is this like hitting the boys you fancy?

Saff "

Lord no, I was sent to read the thread because I’m not playing correctly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm an arsehole on fab and less of an arsehole in real life, but real life people might disagree.

But they're not on here so fuck'em

You're anything but an arsehole, well in public from what I've seen anyway

You've seen me in public

Just on the forums posting

Steve

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"I’m confused, apparently it’s unfriendly to ask someone to clarify what they mean. Hey ho.

Did you use those words? Or was it more “what the fuck are you on about?!”

If I had then I really should be given the benefit of the doubt so people get to know me - I’m a potty mouthed gobshite. Although to be fair, I absolutely didn’t.

I know, that’s why I asked

Really now?

Do you fancy me or something? That's the only explanation for the attention you're giving me tonight. Jesus h.... Leave me alone for a bit my love and chill

No, I just like clarity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm very friendly in person I'm a lot less friendly over the internet. I have a big lack of trust in anything cyber based."

It's tricky to trust ppl until you've met them for real, I get that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m confused, apparently it’s unfriendly to ask someone to clarify what they mean. Hey ho.

Did you use those words? Or was it more “what the fuck are you on about?!”

If I had then I really should be given the benefit of the doubt so people get to know me - I’m a potty mouthed gobshite. Although to be fair, I absolutely didn’t.

I know, that’s why I asked

Really now?

Do you fancy me or something? That's the only explanation for the attention you're giving me tonight. Jesus h.... Leave me alone for a bit my love and chill

No, I just like clarity. "

In that case you're barking up the wrong tree, you won't find it here tonight my love

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m confused, apparently it’s unfriendly to ask someone to clarify what they mean. Hey ho.

Ha ha Is this like hitting the boys you fancy?

Saff

Lord no, I was sent to read the thread because I’m not playing correctly.

Ha ha if I tried to understand my beloved from just his forum posts I'd be non the wiser by now.. he's so chilled in person it still makes no sense

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"I’m confused, apparently it’s unfriendly to ask someone to clarify what they mean. Hey ho.

Did you use those words? Or was it more “what the fuck are you on about?!”

If I had then I really should be given the benefit of the doubt so people get to know me - I’m a potty mouthed gobshite. Although to be fair, I absolutely didn’t.

I know, that’s why I asked

Really now?

Do you fancy me or something? That's the only explanation for the attention you're giving me tonight. Jesus h.... Leave me alone for a bit my love and chill

No, I just like clarity.

In that case you're barking up the wrong tree, you won't find it here tonight my love

Exactly. I’m just answering your question - it’s called being friendly. Please don’t read friendliness as fancying - just to clarify.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"I’m confused, apparently it’s unfriendly to ask someone to clarify what they mean. Hey ho.

Ha ha Is this like hitting the boys you fancy?

Saff

Lord no, I was sent to read the thread because I’m not playing correctly.

Ha ha if I tried to understand my beloved from just his forum posts I'd be non the wiser by now.. he's so chilled in person it still makes no sense

I fancy you, Saff. I understand your posts.

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