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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So what's everyone's views on a ddlg relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something ive done with an ex if its between 2 consenting adults and its your particular fetish then dont see a problem with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something ive done with an ex if its between 2 consenting adults and its your particular fetish then dont see a problem with it"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If some one wants me to call them daddy as they call me little girl....some thing went wrong in the relationship!

I have no problem or issue with other adults entering into that sort of relationship though

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

Consensuality is the essence of any such relationship.

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By *eclanHMan
over a year ago

Liphook

I think it’s a fun roleplay. Like with many of the kinks, I get the appeal of it as play. When it’s a 24hr lifestyle, an identity like Master / slave and Daddy / babygirl is harder for me to understand and therefore a little worrying for me personally. But who am I to judge?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My view is anything is fine as long as it’s legal and all parties consent.

Personally, it’s definitely not for me though.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't shoot me down ... genuine question, I know it's just role play but isn't it kind of like paedophile/child abuse role play? Genuine question because I don't understand and I have to say it as it appears to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't shoot me down ... genuine question, I know it's just role play but isn't it kind of like paedophile/child abuse role play? Genuine question because I don't understand and I have to say it as it appears to me. "

No, it’s not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a big fetish of mine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I'm in a Ds relationship it tends to be what I prefer. But I think people who don't understand the dynamics think its something else entirely.

To me it's having someone to have adoration of and having him take care of me

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"So what's everyone's views on a ddlg relationship?"

I want one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an interesting dynamic, people get too hung up on the label without bothering to try understand the actual relationship and reasoning for the name.

I think Tea would get a shock if I called him Daddy but we do have an element of him taking that role at times.

Dotty x

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By *estSussexGuy76Man
over a year ago

copthorne

Can someone explain what this it ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't shoot me down ... genuine question, I know it's just role play but isn't it kind of like paedophile/child abuse role play? Genuine question because I don't understand and I have to say it as it appears to me. "

Especially when the guy has daughter's makes it even more strange in my opinion but then some just like the whole control element although there is names for that without it being daddys little girl each to there own i wouldn't call any guy daddy in any circumstances

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Don't shoot me down ... genuine question, I know it's just role play but isn't it kind of like paedophile/child abuse role play? Genuine question because I don't understand and I have to say it as it appears to me.

Especially when the guy has daughter's makes it even more strange in my opinion but then some just like the whole control element although there is names for that without it being daddys little girl each to there own i wouldn't call any guy daddy in any circumstances "

Daddy used to be a very common form of endearment for a partner in the late 1800s early 1900s..

I think it's one of the kink that gets the most misrepresentation and people slate without really having any comprehension

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

The dynamic isn’t a problem with boundary agreement.

The problem is when others project, from themselves, what it stands for without understanding the dynamic.

Odd human trait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its something I want to try with the right person!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't shoot me down ... genuine question, I know it's just role play but isn't it kind of like paedophile/child abuse role play? Genuine question because I don't understand and I have to say it as it appears to me.

Especially when the guy has daughter's makes it even more strange in my opinion but then some just like the whole control element although there is names for that without it being daddys little girl each to there own i wouldn't call any guy daddy in any circumstances

Daddy used to be a very common form of endearment for a partner in the late 1800s early 1900s..

I think it's one of the kink that gets the most misrepresentation and people slate without really having any comprehension "

As we aren't in the late 1800s any more and daddy and little girl is a relationship within the nuclear family you can see surely why there would be this school of thought?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely fine for those who enjoy it..

no different to the master and slave dynamic in its literal sense... often misinterpreted by those that don't get it.

Saff

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s a big fetish of mine x"

I have to agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a big fetish of mine x

I have to agree "

Shame everyone who likes it is so spread out!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I'm in a Ds relationship it tends to be what I prefer. But I think people who don't understand the dynamics think its something else entirely.

To me it's having someone to have adoration of and having him take care of me "

100% some people just can't get their heads round it.

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By *illybare partyMan
over a year ago

hotel in teeside once a month

It's another form of D\s relationship tbg in in a private Facebook group. Curious but never had the opportunity to indulge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all good fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its been really good reading everyone's take on it. Everyone is different & we all have various things that make us tick. I personally think what 2 consenting adults do is completely fine. Not everyone needs to understand it. Variety is the spice of life and all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't shoot me down ... genuine question, I know it's just role play but isn't it kind of like paedophile/child abuse role play? Genuine question because I don't understand and I have to say it as it appears to me. "

This is how I see it too.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"Don't shoot me down ... genuine question, I know it's just role play but isn't it kind of like paedophile/child abuse role play? Genuine question because I don't understand and I have to say it as it appears to me.

This is how I see it too. "

Major difference that people need to try and educate themselves on (I don't mean that aggressively).

Paedophilia is a physical attraction to a children of the ages prior to puberty.

Hebephilia is the physical attraction to children going through the stages of puberty.

The dd/lg scenario is all role play, consenting role play. The attraction is generally to the innocence and dom/sub side of things, the playfulness, the nurturing side of it all if you will. Every part of it is consenting and none predatory.

That's a very basic generalisation of it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't shoot me down ... genuine question, I know it's just role play but isn't it kind of like paedophile/child abuse role play? Genuine question because I don't understand and I have to say it as it appears to me.

This is how I see it too.

Major difference that people need to try and educate themselves on (I don't mean that aggressively).

Paedophilia is a physical attraction to a children of the ages prior to puberty.

Hebephilia is the physical attraction to children going through the stages of puberty.

The dd/lg scenario is all role play, consenting role play. The attraction is generally to the innocence and dom/sub side of things, the playfulness, the nurturing side of it all if you will. Every part of it is consenting and none predatory.

That's a very basic generalisation of it though.

"

As every one here has their own opinions on it, I am having mine, I like being nurtured as I am usually the nurturer, in my job, as a mum of 4, an auntie etc. But it's the role of an older male whether it be daddy or not with a 'little girl' and what that suggests/potentially glorifies ... it seems creepy to me, if a man I was in a relationship with suggested this kind of play, I would be concerned if he was attracted to children and wouldn't want him near mine. Can't we just be affectionate and adoring and whatever else you claim this fetish is about without it involving little girls and daddies?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"Don't shoot me down ... genuine question, I know it's just role play but isn't it kind of like paedophile/child abuse role play? Genuine question because I don't understand and I have to say it as it appears to me.

This is how I see it too.

Major difference that people need to try and educate themselves on (I don't mean that aggressively).

Paedophilia is a physical attraction to a children of the ages prior to puberty.

Hebephilia is the physical attraction to children going through the stages of puberty.

The dd/lg scenario is all role play, consenting role play. The attraction is generally to the innocence and dom/sub side of things, the playfulness, the nurturing side of it all if you will. Every part of it is consenting and none predatory.

That's a very basic generalisation of it though.

As every one here has their own opinions on it, I am having mine, I like being nurtured as I am usually the nurturer, in my job, as a mum of 4, an auntie etc. But it's the role of an older male whether it be daddy or not with a 'little girl' and what that suggests/potentially glorifies ... it seems creepy to me, if a man I was in a relationship with suggested this kind of play, I would be concerned if he was attracted to children and wouldn't want him near mine. Can't we just be affectionate and adoring and whatever else you claim this fetish is about without it involving little girls and daddies? "

The same can be said about a lot of other fetish/kink, it is quite easy to pull apart any other fetish due to not being able to fully understand the true appeal of it.

There are people who enjoy forced role play, people who enjoy extreme impact and in some cases abuse.

If its not for "you" don't do it, but if you want to judge people who do, then first do some deep research in to what something entails and all aspects of it, positives, negatives, motivations etc. And not just the surface value of it.

Your reasoning for it esentially stems from the same problem some people have against breastfeeding, especially in public. The failure to separate none sexual and sexual.

Also NOTE I am not comparing a full sexual lifestyle to the feeding of a child, only the comparison of how the mind arrives at both points.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I could ever be owned x

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By *iking-RaiderMan
over a year ago

suffolk

Yeh one of those things that i always think ok whatever floats your boat. Personally I've never been able to get my head around this one. But thats just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with it at all.

With the age I am, it's been quite popular with the younger ladies on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think I could ever be owned x"

Dd/lg isn’t about being owned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't shoot me down ... genuine question, I know it's just role play but isn't it kind of like paedophile/child abuse role play? Genuine question because I don't understand and I have to say it as it appears to me.

This is how I see it too.

Major difference that people need to try and educate themselves on (I don't mean that aggressively).

Paedophilia is a physical attraction to a children of the ages prior to puberty.

Hebephilia is the physical attraction to children going through the stages of puberty.

The dd/lg scenario is all role play, consenting role play. The attraction is generally to the innocence and dom/sub side of things, the playfulness, the nurturing side of it all if you will. Every part of it is consenting and none predatory.

That's a very basic generalisation of it though.

"

So why do the women dress like little girls in ankle socks and little pink girly things and school outfits etc still just think its weird when the guy actually has daughter's they are the only ones who should call him daddy not a grown woman who clearly has daddy daughter issues if its dom / sub call him master and not daddy just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think I could ever be owned x

Dd/lg isn’t about being owned "

With each passing pregnancy week, you're getting sexier!.....especially them boobs! X

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By *uxomBloomsWoman
over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells

It's an interesting topic, I've been involved in D/s relationships and in later years have been drawn towards the D/l dynamic. But it really is just the dynamic, I have no Interest in acting out scenes where mummy is out... that is disturbing to me. I just want a firm, controlling but nurturing man in my life at times. I also think it might turn me on to call him Daddy sometimes but I've not yet analyse that.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I find it a total turn off, and I wouldn't meet anyone that I knew was into it. Pictures of adult women dressed like little girls cuddling teddy bears and sucking their thumbs etc whilst trying also to appear sexual makes me feel a little bit nauseous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it a total turn off, and I wouldn't meet anyone that I knew was into it. Pictures of adult women dressed like little girls cuddling teddy bears and sucking their thumbs etc whilst trying also to appear sexual makes me feel a little bit nauseous."

Totally agree with you

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"Don't shoot me down ... genuine question, I know it's just role play but isn't it kind of like paedophile/child abuse role play? Genuine question because I don't understand and I have to say it as it appears to me.

This is how I see it too.

Major difference that people need to try and educate themselves on (I don't mean that aggressively).

Paedophilia is a physical attraction to a children of the ages prior to puberty.

Hebephilia is the physical attraction to children going through the stages of puberty.

The dd/lg scenario is all role play, consenting role play. The attraction is generally to the innocence and dom/sub side of things, the playfulness, the nurturing side of it all if you will. Every part of it is consenting and none predatory.

That's a very basic generalisation of it though.

So why do the women dress like little girls in ankle socks and little pink girly things and school outfits etc still just think its weird when the guy actually has daughter's they are the only ones who should call him daddy not a grown woman who clearly has daddy daughter issues if its dom / sub call him master and not daddy just saying"

Because when dressing up in such things they are not actual little girls, the attraction is not to the body of a little girl. Which is the thing people are clearly unable to separate in their own minds. The fantasy is not about a child, if people actually bother to do research in the the dynamic of it all, and in addition to that also do some research in to how the mind of a human actually operates you would have a much better understanding of a lot of things that do not interest you. In turn be far less judgemental of other people in a matter that is zero harm to anybody.

Instead people don't, they are unable to see what could be appealing about something so take it no further than simply straight-up kink shame. When in fact (doing said research) you will find out so much more about it and the people that do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think I could ever be owned x

Dd/lg isn’t about being owned "

So why say owned in profile text then??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think I could ever be owned x

Dd/lg isn’t about being owned

So why say owned in profile text then??"

Who?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it a total turn off, and I wouldn't meet anyone that I knew was into it. Pictures of adult women dressed like little girls cuddling teddy bears and sucking their thumbs etc whilst trying also to appear sexual makes me feel a little bit nauseous.

Totally agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't shoot me down ... genuine question, I know it's just role play but isn't it kind of like paedophile/child abuse role play? Genuine question because I don't understand and I have to say it as it appears to me.

This is how I see it too.

Major difference that people need to try and educate themselves on (I don't mean that aggressively).

Paedophilia is a physical attraction to a children of the ages prior to puberty.

Hebephilia is the physical attraction to children going through the stages of puberty.

The dd/lg scenario is all role play, consenting role play. The attraction is generally to the innocence and dom/sub side of things, the playfulness, the nurturing side of it all if you will. Every part of it is consenting and none predatory.

That's a very basic generalisation of it though.

So why do the women dress like little girls in ankle socks and little pink girly things and school outfits etc still just think its weird when the guy actually has daughter's they are the only ones who should call him daddy not a grown woman who clearly has daddy daughter issues if its dom / sub call him master and not daddy just saying

Because when dressing up in such things they are not actual little girls, the attraction is not to the body of a little girl. Which is the thing people are clearly unable to separate in their own minds. The fantasy is not about a child, if people actually bother to do research in the the dynamic of it all, and in addition to that also do some research in to how the mind of a human actually operates you would have a much better understanding of a lot of things that do not interest you. In turn be far less judgemental of other people in a matter that is zero harm to anybody.

Instead people don't, they are unable to see what could be appealing about something so take it no further than simply straight-up kink shame. When in fact (doing said research) you will find out so much more about it and the people that do it."

I actually have a life and research into why someone wants to call someone else daddy/ master or anything else is way down on bottom of my list, just saying my opinion (like so many others have done) and that is that i can see that is not about the guy liking little girls but it is still very close to the border when the guy actually has daughter's dont you think? call him a million other things leave the daddy word to his actual kids we do live in a time and age where this is all very much at the front of peoples minds so blurred lines are always going to happen in this, anyway as i said before each to their own and if someone needs to call someone daddy and say they are owned in order to get off then good luck to them if people dont like others opinions then dont read the forums simple as that, now where did i leave my bag of do i give a f****

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Short answer - doesn't bother me as long as it's between consenting adults.

The long answer is quite a bit longer.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

I’ve never really been able to get my head around this, personally it’s a huge turn off, seen it many times in the kink world over the years, I can see how it might be attractive for women to regress to a level where they are vulnerable and innocent and either unable to make choices or enjoying being a naughty child and for the daddy’s having a woman acting in such a way might make them feel protective and controlling and nurturing but then my eyes tell me they are grown women and it does look unsettling when I think about it if it’s linked to sex

I’ve had the man in a nappy approach me wanting to be a baby a few times too

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

Like every kink there will be those that like it and those that don't.

It's something I've played with as a little and as mommy. I have partners that get it, and ones that don't. The partners that don't get it don't think that because I've roleplayed mommy that I'm actually attracted to children.

For one previous play partner it was a cathartic way for them to deal with actual abuse they had suffered as a child, it gave them back control and let them guide what happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The dynamic doesn't suit me personally but I can see the appeal of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not a thing for me at all. I have only ever had one Daddy, he was 50% responsible for creating me. He helped me find my glasses when I lost them, he used to pick me up when I fell over, he taught me how to tie my shoelaces. He is the only man I could ever completely trust. He's not with me anymore, and I miss him so much. He's the *only* man I would ever call my Daddy.

I would never ever judge anyone else if it's the type of thing for them though.

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over a year ago

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By *incs Kinks CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I thoroughly enjoy ddlg. We dont take the roles 24/7 but most of our sex is ddlg and sometimes it slips into daily living. I enjoy the whole love and adoration part of it just as much as the level of control and punishments. It's not always sexual and it's great fun being a spoiled bratty princess.

And for those who think it .... no I dont have daddy issues. None at all. It's all about the security and love for me. G xx

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

We have an element of ddlg in our relationship.

Obviously, as the name says, I am a brat. I'm a type of sub who likes to be mischievous and act up a lot. That's quite childish and silly but I love making beast fight for my submission and TAKE it rather than me just hand it over.

Beast has a kind of daddy dom role because I'm so shy he helps me open up. It's a more nurturing role than just the bdsm side.

I can be cute and snuggle up on him. Feeling so vulnerable yet so safe in his arms.

People see the label and don't understand it or just freak out. I get why they'd be like that but it's so much more than it seems.

Even just last night at a club, we had someone saying how weird the 'daddy' thing is but then making comments about how tiny and cute I look in beasts arms and how he's so good at taking care of me.

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