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"Lots, normally because I have no confidence and I'm a little shy. Not good character traits for on here." So use this as a ‘hello dudes’ type thing | |||
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"Yes plenty im curious about but not necessarily for positive reasons so i wont be messaging them" Fair enough | |||
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"Curious in what way OP? I'm happy to chat with anyone to be honest, on pretty much any topic. Sex never comes into my conversations. I just realised how weird I sound on a swinging site... Tea" Curious about why they post what they post , their views etc etc | |||
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"Certainly. Or I assume they wouldn't be interested in me. " Fair point | |||
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"My curiosity usually piques from forum threads and I'll usually send a message to them x" Brave ... I chicken out with the populars though  | |||
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"Think most people do A lot of the time it's because they are afraid that they will be out of the other people's league so just don't bother to try and strike up a conversation Same goes for the club Scene" Ahh interesting | |||
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"Several, but they are either a long distance away or I assume they wouldn't be interested in me, or both." They could be thinking the same | |||
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"My curiosity usually piques from forum threads and I'll usually send a message to them x Brave ... I chicken out with the populars though "I've sent a few first messages from forum posts. Some get ignored, some reply, some I've had really great conversations from. I don't like 'what if...' so I'll be proactive x | |||
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"My curiosity usually piques from forum threads and I'll usually send a message to them x Brave ... I chicken out with the populars though
I've sent a few first messages from forum posts. Some get ignored, some reply, some I've had really great conversations from. I don't like 'what if...' so I'll be proactive x"I want to be you  | |||
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"My curiosity usually piques from forum threads and I'll usually send a message to them x Brave ... I chicken out with the populars though
I've sent a few first messages from forum posts. Some get ignored, some reply, some I've had really great conversations from. I don't like 'what if...' so I'll be proactive x
I want to be you "I'm more confident on here than in real life x | |||
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"My curiosity usually piques from forum threads and I'll usually send a message to them x Brave ... I chicken out with the populars though
I've sent a few first messages from forum posts. Some get ignored, some reply, some I've had really great conversations from. I don't like 'what if...' so I'll be proactive x
I want to be you
I'm more confident on here than in real life x" me too | |||
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"Curious in what way OP? I'm happy to chat with anyone to be honest, on pretty much any topic. Sex never comes into my conversations. I just realised how weird I sound on a swinging site... Tea Curious about why they post what they post , their views etc etc " Oh, I see. I've often received messages in the past regarding my posts on the forums and I'll happily message someone to chat if I think its worth it, for a variety of reasons. I kind of think that's what the forums are good for; making connections and making friends/chatting based on the topics in hand. Not everything is about sex! | |||
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"Mostly the forum men (as i tend to get on better with men). You see someone post something funny or insightful and you wonder about them, what they’re really like etc. Just everyday stuff, not what their sexual repertoire is like. But i’m too shy to initiate contact with anyone so just leave it. " That’s what I mean.... I get curious about why they post what they do | |||
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"I never send PMs first, but most people on fab I am curious about. " Interesting .. | |||
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"My curiosity usually piques from forum threads and I'll usually send a message to them x Brave ... I chicken out with the populars though
I've sent a few first messages from forum posts. Some get ignored, some reply, some I've had really great conversations from. I don't like 'what if...' so I'll be proactive x"I think that more people should be like this. Tea | |||
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"Curious in what way OP? I'm happy to chat with anyone to be honest, on pretty much any topic. Sex never comes into my conversations. I just realised how weird I sound on a swinging site... Tea Curious about why they post what they post , their views etc etc Oh, I see. I've often received messages in the past regarding my posts on the forums and I'll happily message someone to chat if I think its worth it, for a variety of reasons. I kind of think that's what the forums are good for; making connections and making friends/chatting based on the topics in hand. Not everything is about sex! " Absolutely
I think certain people would stress less if they messaged and found out the real connotations of threads before jumping the gun | |||
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"My curiosity usually piques from forum threads and I'll usually send a message to them x Brave ... I chicken out with the populars though
I've sent a few first messages from forum posts. Some get ignored, some reply, some I've had really great conversations from. I don't like 'what if...' so I'll be proactive x
I think that more people should be like this.
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"I do send messages to people im curious about for good reasons. plus i do get quite a few messages i think they know they are safe with me as i dont meet" I get that xx | |||
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"No, if I’m interested in someone I’ll message them. If I’m filtered out then such is Fablife." Absolutely | |||
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"I never send PMs first, but most people on fab I am curious about. Interesting .. "But its a good question, made me think type thing. In my head I am shy and retiring (quit sniggering at the back) but at work, or on a forum (anywhere there's lots of people) I "act" gregarious, outspoken, even loud, but when it comes to intimate or individual conversations I fall to pieces so don't initiate them. Plain old weird me | |||
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"Yes because I'm too shy and I'm worried they think I'm a twat "Messsge me ANYTIME | |||
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"I never send PMs first, but most people on fab I am curious about. Interesting ..
But its a good question, made me think type thing. In my head I am shy and retiring (quit sniggering at the back) but at work, or on a forum (anywhere there's lots of people) I "act" gregarious, outspoken, even loud, but when it comes to intimate or individual conversations I fall to pieces so don't initiate them.
Plain old weird me "Plain weird is good | |||
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"Yes because I'm too shy and I'm worried they think I'm a twat "Me too. | |||
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"Lots, normally because I have no confidence and I'm a little shy. Not good character traits for on here." I’m the same mate,but have found there’s some very nice women on here who like to just chat about anything and everything. So even tho it’s a swinging site all conversations don’t have to be about sex,so no pressure to try and impress. Good luck | |||
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"Yes because I'm too shy and I'm worried they think I'm a twat
Me too. "Maybe today we should take the bull by the horns | |||
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"tell you what does get on my wick and ive actually had loads this week. Random lurkers messaging you for absolutly no apparent reason whatsoever. I cant get my head round why someone would message a complete blank profile who they dont know for know real reason" Weird isn’t it I’ve had lurkers but I’ve a profile that’s active | |||
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"Yes plenty im curious about but not necessarily for positive reasons so i wont be messaging them" Haha snap | |||
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"tell you what does get on my wick and ive actually had loads this week. Random lurkers messaging you for absolutly no apparent reason whatsoever. I cant get my head round why someone would message a complete blank profile who they dont know for know real reason Weird isn’t it I’ve had lurkers but I’ve a profile that’s active " cant get my head round it. Ive had 15 this week but i know three of them messaged me of the back of one thread. No idea why the others did | |||
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"tell you what does get on my wick and ive actually had loads this week. Random lurkers messaging you for absolutly no apparent reason whatsoever. I cant get my head round why someone would message a complete blank profile who they dont know for know real reason" I think there's, they've read our personality over time so think they know us. Maybe, but we don't know them. | |||
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"Yeah but I always think people will imagine we're after meeting. You know like the "anyone up for a social possibly more" scenario." Yup I get that | |||
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"Yes because I'm too shy and I'm worried they think I'm a twat "Yess, alot of the time, this is my reasoning too... That age the general age restrictions. | |||
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"There are a few sexy females I would like to chat to but havent got the confidence. The same with the blokes really. Also there are people whose profiles make me actually angry so I want to stay well clear "We spoke and you’re lovely  | |||
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"I'm curious about a few ladies. I rarely message although I would always thank the odd wink or fab. " Curious for what reason though I’m meaning for personality reasons - not jump someone’s bones | |||
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"There are a few sexy females I would like to chat to but havent got the confidence. The same with the blokes really. Also there are people whose profiles make me actually angry so I want to stay well clear
We spoke and you’re lovely "We did and you made me feel a million times better. | |||
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"Isn't it weird though. Forum chat/ meet is often so rewarding. " Absolutely | |||
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"There are a few sexy females I would like to chat to but havent got the confidence. The same with the blokes really. Also there are people whose profiles make me actually angry so I want to stay well clear
We spoke and you’re lovely
We did and you made me feel a million times better. " | |||
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"Lots and lots This was a genius idea then "L we wouldn't let them know coz we'd be blown out and we had enough of that this week  | |||
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"I don’t believe I’m shy and will message someone usually about their forum comments that interest me. However there are also some narcissistic twats on the forum that I either message to wind up or ignore... " I get you | |||
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"Lots and lots This was a genius idea then
L we wouldn't let them know coz we'd be blown out and we had enough of that this week "It’s not about it being sexual ... it’s curious about what they post or their thinking | |||
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"I don’t believe I’m shy and will message someone usually about their forum comments that interest me. However there are also some narcissistic twats on the forum that I either message to wind up or ignore... ". . . Oh any shy, normal people who just want to chat? Please message me. I love a good banter | |||
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"Yes, especially in clubs always waiting to be approached. Actually put my face picture up few minutes ago and one of my crushes contacted me "Ahh nice | |||
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"Yes, especially in clubs always waiting to be approached. Actually put my face picture up few minutes ago and one of my crushes contacted me " well you cant get much better for a Saturday | |||
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"Yeah but I always think people will imagine we're after meeting. You know like the "anyone up for a social possibly more" scenario. Yup I get that " I think a fairly good guage of whether non sexual type contact would be appreciated and reciprocated is how a person interacts with you on the forum. | |||
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"Yes, especially in clubs always waiting to be approached. Actually put my face picture up few minutes ago and one of my crushes contacted me
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"Yes, especially in clubs always waiting to be approached. Actually put my face picture up few minutes ago and one of my crushes contacted me
well you cant get much better for a Saturday "True that Let hunt begin | |||
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"I have messaged men from the forums I have found to be humerous, or they say something that I strongly agree with. Others I am curious about, but not sure how a message would be received, so I stay quiet. " | |||
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"Its a shame really that a lot of the find a friend posts are about looking at photos rather than actually chatting to someone whose personality interests you. It'd be lovely if more people felt confident enough to instigate random chats without feeling that their messages could be misinterpreted for trying to meet x Saff" Completely agree | |||
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"Yes. In fact I’ve made more friends than anything else on here which is the reason I stay or keep coming back. A couple of lifelong friends too, which I never expected to be honest. I do sometimes find it difficult to message as more often than not people take it that I’m interested sexually but as nice couple said you can usually tell with forum people what they’re actually like. Even if I am interested in someone sexually, if they go straight into sex talk it puts me off anyway x " It’s completely off putting isn’t it x | |||
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"Yes. In fact I’ve made more friends than anything else on here which is the reason I stay or keep coming back. A couple of lifelong friends too, which I never expected to be honest. I do sometimes find it difficult to message as more often than not people take it that I’m interested sexually but as nice couple said you can usually tell with forum people what they’re actually like. Even if I am interested in someone sexually, if they go straight into sex talk it puts me off anyway x It’s completely off putting isn’t it x" Totally. Although I don’t mind you doing it though | |||
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"Yes. In fact I’ve made more friends than anything else on here which is the reason I stay or keep coming back. A couple of lifelong friends too, which I never expected to be honest. I do sometimes find it difficult to message as more often than not people take it that I’m interested sexually but as nice couple said you can usually tell with forum people what they’re actually like. Even if I am interested in someone sexually, if they go straight into sex talk it puts me off anyway x It’s completely off putting isn’t it x Totally. Although I don’t mind you doing it though "Haha double standards here but I totally don’t mind you doing it either | |||
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"Its a shame really that a lot of the find a friend posts are about looking at photos rather than actually chatting to someone whose personality interests you. It'd be lovely if more people felt confident enough to instigate random chats without feeling that their messages could be misinterpreted for trying to meet x Saff" It's always going to be about sex for the majority. I know that quite a few forum based people vehemently deny it but this is a sex based site and even on the find a friend threads the main motive for many interactions is sexual. | |||
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"Its a shame really that a lot of the find a friend posts are about looking at photos rather than actually chatting to someone whose personality interests you. It'd be lovely if more people felt confident enough to instigate random chats without feeling that their messages could be misinterpreted for trying to meet x Saff It's always going to be about sex for the majority. I know that quite a few forum based people vehemently deny it but this is a sex based site and even on the find a friend threads the main motive for many interactions is sexual." Mine aren’t But I also get that for some it is | |||
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"I’m an open book, if you’re curious, ask me anything! I don’t bite. Unless... nah I won’t go there! Someone on here is allergic to clichés " | |||
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But then I'm one for a more gradual buildup anyway. | |||
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"Its a shame really that a lot of the find a friend posts are about looking at photos rather than actually chatting to someone whose personality interests you. It'd be lovely if more people felt confident enough to instigate random chats without feeling that their messages could be misinterpreted for trying to meet x Saff It's always going to be about sex for the majority. I know that quite a few forum based people vehemently deny it but this is a sex based site and even on the find a friend threads the main motive for many interactions is sexual. Mine aren’t But I also get that for some it is "Snap.. as a singleton my motivations for chat weren't sexual. I agree we must be a minority.. Saff | |||
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"I'd say it's mostly about sex for me, but I've made friends here, which I value. Overtly sexual messages off the back of the forum seems more wrong to me somehow, like I'm over here chatting about raisins and all of a sudden,
But then I'm one for a more gradual buildup anyway. "I totally get that .... something mundane on here and suddenly you’ve a penis in your box No euphemism intended | |||
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"Its a shame really that a lot of the find a friend posts are about looking at photos rather than actually chatting to someone whose personality interests you. It'd be lovely if more people felt confident enough to instigate random chats without feeling that their messages could be misinterpreted for trying to meet x Saff It's always going to be about sex for the majority. I know that quite a few forum based people vehemently deny it but this is a sex based site and even on the find a friend threads the main motive for many interactions is sexual. Mine aren’t But I also get that for some it is
Snap.. as a singleton my motivations for chat weren't sexual. I agree we must be a minority..
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"I'd say it's mostly about sex for me, but I've made friends here, which I value. Overtly sexual messages off the back of the forum seems more wrong to me somehow, like I'm over here chatting about raisins and all of a sudden,
But then I'm one for a more gradual buildup anyway.
I totally get that .... something mundane on here and suddenly you’ve a penis in your box
No euphemism intended "I've had interactions end up with penis in my box (euphemism absolutely intended) but always from those prepared to shoot the shit first. | |||
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"I'd say it's mostly about sex for me, but I've made friends here, which I value. Overtly sexual messages off the back of the forum seems more wrong to me somehow, like I'm over here chatting about raisins and all of a sudden,
But then I'm one for a more gradual buildup anyway.
I totally get that .... something mundane on here and suddenly you’ve a penis in your box
No euphemism intended
I've had interactions end up with penis in my box (euphemism absolutely intended) but always from those prepared to shoot the shit first. " | |||
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"I think im a bit weird i dont usually look at forum guys in a sexual way just people i interact with on the forum. In nearly 13 years i think ive had sex with less than 5 guys from the forums. That includes having met them at parties and socials" Nothing weird about that,just shows you don’t jump into bed with just anyone which is a good thing | |||
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"I'm curious about a few ladies. I rarely message although I would always thank the odd wink or fab. Curious for what reason though I’m meaning for personality reasons - not jump someone’s bones "Curious as to whether their profile is a true reflection of the lady themselves. | |||
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"Think most people do A lot of the time it's because they are afraid that they will be out of the other people's league so just don't bother to try and strike up a conversation Same goes for the club Scene" Yes I agree I think lots of women are out of my league so dont message. Also love to go to a club but won’t for the same reasons x | |||
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"Think most people do A lot of the time it's because they are afraid that they will be out of the other people's league so just don't bother to try and strike up a conversation Same goes for the club Scene Yes I agree I think lots of women are out of my league so dont message. Also love to go to a club but won’t for the same reasons x" Out of your league ?? I hate these leagues - although I get the thinking | |||
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"Think most people do A lot of the time it's because they are afraid that they will be out of the other people's league so just don't bother to try and strike up a conversation Same goes for the club Scene Yes I agree I think lots of women are out of my league so dont message. Also love to go to a club but won’t for the same reasons x" No such thing as leagues. Hate that expression. | |||
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"Think most people do A lot of the time it's because they are afraid that they will be out of the other people's league so just don't bother to try and strike up a conversation Same goes for the club Scene Yes I agree I think lots of women are out of my league so dont message. Also love to go to a club but won’t for the same reasons x No such thing as leagues. Hate that expression. " I do too ... but I get the meaning behind it Some on here think they’re superior in looks etc , but it’s the preference thing | |||
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"Think most people do A lot of the time it's because they are afraid that they will be out of the other people's league so just don't bother to try and strike up a conversation Same goes for the club Scene Yes I agree I think lots of women are out of my league so dont message. Also love to go to a club but won’t for the same reasons x No such thing as leagues. Hate that expression. I do too ... but I get the meaning behind it Some on here think they’re superior in looks etc , but it’s the preference thing " Totally agree | |||
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"Think most people do A lot of the time it's because they are afraid that they will be out of the other people's league so just don't bother to try and strike up a conversation Same goes for the club Scene Yes I agree I think lots of women are out of my league so dont message. Also love to go to a club but won’t for the same reasons x No such thing as leagues. Hate that expression. I do too ... but I get the meaning behind it Some on here think they’re superior in looks etc , but it’s the preference thing " True. I like different though. Yeah I like a good looking man but if he’s gorgeous and totally fit but got nothing else about him I’m not interested. Maybe that’s why I struggle to find anyone I click with that way. I just want it all!! | |||
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"Think most people do A lot of the time it's because they are afraid that they will be out of the other people's league so just don't bother to try and strike up a conversation Same goes for the club Scene Yes I agree I think lots of women are out of my league so dont message. Also love to go to a club but won’t for the same reasons x No such thing as leagues. Hate that expression. I do too ... but I get the meaning behind it Some on here think they’re superior in looks etc , but it’s the preference thing True. I like different though. Yeah I like a good looking man but if he’s gorgeous and totally fit but got nothing else about him I’m not interested. Maybe that’s why I struggle to find anyone I click with that way. I just want it all!! "
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"Think most people do A lot of the time it's because they are afraid that they will be out of the other people's league so just don't bother to try and strike up a conversation Same goes for the club Scene Yes I agree I think lots of women are out of my league so dont message. Also love to go to a club but won’t for the same reasons x No such thing as leagues. Hate that expression. I do too ... but I get the meaning behind it Some on here think they’re superior in looks etc , but it’s the preference thing " Hmm. I’m not sure. I’ve only been on the forums for a few weeks but have realised just how cliquey it can be with some people. If you’re shy or new, your comments are either ignored or ridiculed. That’s hard. Perhaps there should be a thread for newbies only lol | |||
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"Think most people do A lot of the time it's because they are afraid that they will be out of the other people's league so just don't bother to try and strike up a conversation Same goes for the club Scene Yes I agree I think lots of women are out of my league so dont message. Also love to go to a club but won’t for the same reasons x No such thing as leagues. Hate that expression. I do too ... but I get the meaning behind it Some on here think they’re superior in looks etc , but it’s the preference thing Hmm. I’m not sure. I’ve only been on the forums for a few weeks but have realised just how cliquey it can be with some people. If you’re shy or new, your comments are either ignored or ridiculed. That’s hard. Perhaps there should be a thread for newbies only lol" I have initially thought the same but I'd like to think people don't go out of their way to ignore or ridicule. Forums are very organic and toptics change very quick. | |||
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"Think most people do A lot of the time it's because they are afraid that they will be out of the other people's league so just don't bother to try and strike up a conversation Same goes for the club Scene Yes I agree I think lots of women are out of my league so dont message. Also love to go to a club but won’t for the same reasons x No such thing as leagues. Hate that expression. I do too ... but I get the meaning behind it Some on here think they’re superior in looks etc , but it’s the preference thing Hmm. I’m not sure. I’ve only been on the forums for a few weeks but have realised just how cliquey it can be with some people. If you’re shy or new, your comments are either ignored or ridiculed. That’s hard. Perhaps there should be a thread for newbies only lol" I thought that when I joined the forums 6 months ago.. but it was more just not knowing anyone.. the more you post the more people get a feel for your personality and your friendship circle just grows x
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"Are there any people on here that you’re curious about , yet haven’t contacted because either you’re not interested sexually and you don’t want to raise ‘hopes’ or for whatever reason ( I can’t be arsed to think of another reason ) Use this as a platform friends and countrypeople "Why die wondering? MESSAGE THEM! | |||
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"Its a shame really that a lot of the find a friend posts are about looking at photos rather than actually chatting to someone whose personality interests you. It'd be lovely if more people felt confident enough to instigate random chats without feeling that their messages could be misinterpreted for trying to meet x Saff It's always going to be about sex for the majority. I know that quite a few forum based people vehemently deny it but this is a sex based site and even on the find a friend threads the main motive for many interactions is sexual. Mine aren’t But I also get that for some it is "No, neither are mine | |||
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"Think most people do A lot of the time it's because they are afraid that they will be out of the other people's league so just don't bother to try and strike up a conversation Same goes for the club Scene Yes I agree I think lots of women are out of my league so dont message. Also love to go to a club but won’t for the same reasons x" The league stuff is imaginary. I know my worth but for a number of reasons I’m a niche taste. It seems a very small niche at times but I have some fabulous friends. I just don’t have sex with them. | |||
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