FabSwingers.com forum: "I'm a good dad"

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their ex wife hates them, but their kid/s dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno but I couldn’t pick his flipper.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They mean they were a lousy husband, but a good dad.

If you hear them say it, ask them what they mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no idea. You don't often get women saying "I was a lousy wife but a great mum" when their relationship breaks down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have no idea. You don't often get women saying "I was a lousy wife but a great mum" when their relationship breaks down. "

Quite where I was coming from, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That they were a bad husband but a good dad.

The two aren't mutually exclusive.

I'm good at IT but bad at Maths

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They mean they were a lousy husband, but a good dad.

If you hear them say it, ask them what they mean."

If everybody did that, there wouldn't be a forum.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?"

Don’t hate me please.

(Is what they mean)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, I would suggest he treated his wife badly but treated his kids like any other loving father does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a hard thing to leave your family it’s not a decision that is made lightly but if you don’t get on anymore the hate builds and if you leave it too long you lose everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me, I would suggest he treated his wife badly but treated his kids like any other loving father does "

Good work columbo.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?"

I don't see what one has to do with the other really........but I was a great dad? And what you should be anyway....regardless

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By *019ReadyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Oh well in that case, we'll ignore all the crap you put your wife through but hey, high five for being a great Dad!"

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Probably more loving and “there” for his kids than he was for his wife. At a guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me, I would suggest he treated his wife badly but treated his kids like any other loving father does

Good work columbo."

To be fair, it wasn’t hard to get to that conclusion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dunno but I couldn’t pick his flipper."

This brilliant comment will be overlooked for some less worthy ones.

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By *hesterXXXMan
over a year ago

in your dreams

He liked a screw behind his wife's back but he still took the kids to school.

Dontbthink he's the only man in that particular boat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea but my ex couldn't even claim that..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To me, I would suggest he treated his wife badly but treated his kids like any other loving father does "

I'm sure that's what he meant yes. I can't quite put my finger on why but it just sounds a bit crass

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He liked a screw behind his wife's back but he still took the kids to school.

Dontbthink he's the only man in that particular boat"

It's to brag about though is it? Surely he's just going what he should be doing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A thread on Shane Warne sledges would be better.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

When some men do what are really the basics, they get called "good dads".

So you've changed a nappy ,bought a pair of shoes and usually pick your kid up on time, well whoopy do.

Sorry but that doesn't qualify them for a Victoria Cross.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?"

I was a twat to my wife but said hello to my kids every morning?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A thread on Shane Warne sledges would be better."

He could put a few of us to shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no idea. You don't often get women saying "I was a lousy wife but a great mum" when their relationship breaks down. "

No but when a relationship breaks down, how often is the man blamed in situations where both were at fault?

Tea

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

I will not be ignored, Torch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s just spin

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?

Don’t hate me please.

(Is what they mean)"

Sorry I missed it, not used forgetting replies.

I guess, partly, yes.

But mostly I think they're looking for a badge.

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By *xperimentalistMan
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"I dunno but I couldn’t pick his flipper."

Not many could pick his flipper

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"It’s just spin"

Cricket joke

(I’m so fucking compos mentis)

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?

Don’t hate me please.

(Is what they mean)

Sorry I missed it, not used forgetting replies.

I guess, partly, yes.

But mostly I think they're looking for a badge."

You can pin me....down...and fuck me.

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By *kmale201633Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"I dunno but I couldn’t pick his flipper.

This brilliant comment will be overlooked for some less worthy ones."

His slider was impossible to pick aswell...

And might re read the Daryl Cullinan episode!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s just spin

Cricket joke

(I’m so fucking compos mentis)"

That’s actually even more attractive than your chess knowledge

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

wigan

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?"

Which bit has you confused?

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"It’s just spin

Cricket joke

(I’m so fucking compos mentis)

That’s actually even more attractive than your chess knowledge

My sexiness ooozes.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"It’s just spin

Cricket joke

(I’m so fucking compos mentis)

That’s actually even more attractive than your chess knowledge

My sexiness ooozes."

I’ve got a GP appt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self assessment is pointless imho.... Unless someone else tells you then it doesn't count....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?

Don’t hate me please.

(Is what they mean)

Sorry I missed it, not used forgetting replies.

I guess, partly, yes.

But mostly I think they're looking for a badge.

You can pin me....down...and fuck me."

I can still call myself a good dad after so i can't see anything stopping me.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?

I don't see what one has to do with the other really........but I was a great dad? And what you should be anyway....regardless "

Spot on why even bother having kids if you are not prepared to be a good parent

Nothing stops a good parent being one

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?

Don’t hate me please.

(Is what they mean)

Sorry I missed it, not used forgetting replies.

I guess, partly, yes.

But mostly I think they're looking for a badge.

You can pin me....down...and fuck me.

I can still call myself a good dad after so i can't see anything stopping me."

Don’t ask me to call you daddy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no idea. You don't often get women saying "I was a lousy wife but a great mum" when their relationship breaks down.

No but when a relationship breaks down, how often is the man blamed in situations where both were at fault?

Tea

What's that got to do with the question asked? Claiming credit for fulfilling your parental duties through a separation or divorce is, in my mind, a peculiar thing to do.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

He said this just as his knob slipped out of Liz Hurley’s wizards sleeve

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?

Don’t hate me please.

(Is what they mean)

Sorry I missed it, not used forgetting replies.

I guess, partly, yes.

But mostly I think they're looking for a badge.

You can pin me....down...and fuck me.

I can still call myself a good dad after so i can't see anything stopping me.

Don’t ask me to call you daddy.

How d*unk are you?

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?

Don’t hate me please.

(Is what they mean)

Sorry I missed it, not used forgetting replies.

I guess, partly, yes.

But mostly I think they're looking for a badge.

You can pin me....down...and fuck me.

I can still call myself a good dad after so i can't see anything stopping me.

Don’t ask me to call you daddy.

How d*unk are you?"

*hic*

Very.

Why?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?

Don’t hate me please.

(Is what they mean)

Sorry I missed it, not used forgetting replies.

I guess, partly, yes.

But mostly I think they're looking for a badge.

You can pin me....down...and fuck me.

I can still call myself a good dad after so i can't see anything stopping me.

Don’t ask me to call you daddy.

How d*unk are you?

*hic*

Very.

Why?

I was just thinking about the trial.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Self assessment is pointless imho.... Unless someone else tells you then it doesn't count.... "
who's to say their opinion is any more valid than your own?

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?

Don’t hate me please.

(Is what they mean)

Sorry I missed it, not used forgetting replies.

I guess, partly, yes.

But mostly I think they're looking for a badge.

You can pin me....down...and fuck me.

I can still call myself a good dad after so i can't see anything stopping me.

Don’t ask me to call you daddy.

How d*unk are you?

*hic*

Very.

Why?

I was just thinking about the trial."

Want. You.

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull

"I have no idea. You don't often get women saying "I was a lousy wife but a great mum" when their relationship breaks down. "

Since when women admit to be wrong?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?

Don’t hate me please.

(Is what they mean)

Sorry I missed it, not used forgetting replies.

I guess, partly, yes.

But mostly I think they're looking for a badge.

You can pin me....down...and fuck me.

I can still call myself a good dad after so i can't see anything stopping me.

Don’t ask me to call you daddy.

How d*unk are you?

*hic*

Very.

Why?

I was just thinking about the trial.

Want. You."

You want me to pin you down and fuck you while you're wankered.

I could get 6 to 8 years for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?"

It's a statement. Why are you looking for deeper meaning?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?

Don’t hate me please.

(Is what they mean)

Sorry I missed it, not used forgetting replies.

I guess, partly, yes.

But mostly I think they're looking for a badge.

You can pin me....down...and fuck me.

I can still call myself a good dad after so i can't see anything stopping me.

Don’t ask me to call you daddy.

How d*unk are you?

*hic*

Very.

Why?

I was just thinking about the trial.

Want. You.

You want me to pin you down and fuck you while you're wankered.

I would need 6 to 8 beers for that."

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?

Don’t hate me please.

(Is what they mean)

Sorry I missed it, not used forgetting replies.

I guess, partly, yes.

But mostly I think they're looking for a badge.

You can pin me....down...and fuck me.

I can still call myself a good dad after so i can't see anything stopping me.

Don’t ask me to call you daddy.

How d*unk are you?

*hic*

Very.

Why?

I was just thinking about the trial.

Want. You.

You want me to pin you down and fuck you while you're wankered.

I could get 6 to 8 years for that."

I promise to let you home tomorrow.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?

Don’t hate me please.

(Is what they mean)

Sorry I missed it, not used forgetting replies.

I guess, partly, yes.

But mostly I think they're looking for a badge.

You can pin me....down...and fuck me.

I can still call myself a good dad after so i can't see anything stopping me.

Don’t ask me to call you daddy.

How d*unk are you?

*hic*

Very.

Why?

I was just thinking about the trial.

Want. You.

You want me to pin you down and fuck you while you're wankered.

I would need 6 to 8 beers for that."

Chess loser.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It means exactly what he said.

It's not a riddle.

What a silly thread!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex was a totally rubbish husband but he is and has always been the best dad to our kids he can be

Assuming that's what he is meaning or similar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no idea. You don't often get women saying "I was a lousy wife but a great mum" when their relationship breaks down.

No but when a relationship breaks down, how often is the man blamed in situations where both were at fault?

Tea

What's that got to do with the question asked? Claiming credit for fulfilling your parental duties through a separation or divorce is, in my mind, a peculiar thing to do. "

It is indeed.

I was responding to your post about women stating the opposite; in that you rarely see it because women are rarely asked to defend their parenting or marriage failures. In my experience at any rate.

Tea

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"It means exactly what he said.

It's not a riddle.

What a silly thread!?"

I can say I'm a great brain surgeon, doesn't mean I actually am....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no idea. You don't often get women saying "I was a lousy wife but a great mum" when their relationship breaks down.

No but when a relationship breaks down, how often is the man blamed in situations where both were at fault?

Tea

What's that got to do with the question asked? Claiming credit for fulfilling your parental duties through a separation or divorce is, in my mind, a peculiar thing to do.

It is indeed.

I was responding to your post about women stating the opposite; in that you rarely see it because women are rarely asked to defend their parenting or marriage failures. In my experience at any rate.

Tea"
Well put.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It means exactly what he said.

It's not a riddle.

What a silly thread!?

I can say I'm a great brain surgeon, doesn't mean I actually am...."

And I am 10" and last for days!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?"

I think you’ve over thought this one. It does what it says on the tin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say that... no interest in, nor being with my soon to be ex wife but we both make sure the little one doesn’t miss out on anything, I see plenty of him, am involved in significant decisions and if anything additional is needed in regards to his care, she speaks to me first.

Just means the relationship didn’t work, but we know that’s our fault not his.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no idea. You don't often get women saying "I was a lousy wife but a great mum" when their relationship breaks down.

No but when a relationship breaks down, how often is the man blamed in situations where both were at fault?

Tea

What's that got to do with the question asked? Claiming credit for fulfilling your parental duties through a separation or divorce is, in my mind, a peculiar thing to do.

It is indeed.

I was responding to your post about women stating the opposite; in that you rarely see it because women are rarely asked to defend their parenting or marriage failures. In my experience at any rate.

Tea"

My experiences are quite different to yours, it seems.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?

I think you’ve over thought this one. It does what it says on the tin. "

Definitely, maybe, possibly, could be.

It just tied with something that was said to me this week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Self assessment is pointless imho.... Unless someone else tells you then it doesn't count.... who's to say their opinion is any more valid than your own?"

What I meant was that another person could tell me I'm a good dad based on what they see and how I get on with my daughter, and that's a verification with some basis. But if I just tell another person I'm a good dad it's just me saying it, no? I could well be talking bollocks and making it up.... Like when fab dudes say they have great oral skills on their profile etc....

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shane Warne said on tv tonight that "I was a lousy husband but I was still a good dad".

I hear other divorced dads say this. What do they mean?"

They failed in one aspect but not in the other. It can be tough. We don't all get it right. Better than failing at both.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Being a supposedly good dad (or mum for that matter) is like being a supposedly good driver. There's no room for complacency, it only takes one crash and your life could be in a mess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its just not something you claim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no idea. You don't often get women saying "I was a lousy wife but a great mum" when their relationship breaks down.

No but when a relationship breaks down, how often is the man blamed in situations where both were at fault?

Tea

What's that got to do with the question asked? Claiming credit for fulfilling your parental duties through a separation or divorce is, in my mind, a peculiar thing to do.

It is indeed.

I was responding to your post about women stating the opposite; in that you rarely see it because women are rarely asked to defend their parenting or marriage failures. In my experience at any rate.

Tea Well put."

Completely agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being a supposedly good dad (or mum for that matter) is like being a supposedly good driver. There's no room for complacency, it only takes one crash and your life could be in a mess."

Thing about parenting is as long as you learn from the crashes, you're alright.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its just not something you claim."

I agree...

Its usually something someone else confers on you ie 'he was a crap husband but at least he was a good dad'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One size does not fit all !

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Only ppl that can say your a good parent are the kids.....end of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no idea. You don't often get women saying "I was a lousy wife but a great mum" when their relationship breaks down.

No but when a relationship breaks down, how often is the man blamed in situations where both were at fault?

Tea

What's that got to do with the question asked? Claiming credit for fulfilling your parental duties through a separation or divorce is, in my mind, a peculiar thing to do.

It is indeed.

I was responding to your post about women stating the opposite; in that you rarely see it because women are rarely asked to defend their parenting or marriage failures. In my experience at any rate.

Tea"

I wasn't referencing fault or wrong doing in the relationship breaking down. I was talking only about the parenting responsibilities and how many women are left with sole parental responsibility and just get on with it, without the need to tell people that they were or are a good mum, it just goes without saying. My ex now has the kids 50% of the time since his partner moved in with him, so he does exactly what I do. He gets so many compliments, being told he's a gear dad fir having them and being so hands on. Nobody praises me for looking after my own children, and I wouldn't expect it either. In fact, when I've told people our arrangements some people have commented on what a good dad he is and that it must be nice for me to have a break from them, as if he is doing me a favour by looking after his own children. All children deserve attentive and dedicated parents and neither sex should be showered with praise for performing a basic duty.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

"Only ppl that can say your a good parent are the kids.....end of "

Ultimately yes but Grandparents and close family members can normally see how well you are doing as a parent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Their ex wife hates them, but their kid/s dont"

I think you're right there. My parents are divorced so i know that statement probably isn't true for a lot of men

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"I have no idea. You don't often get women saying "I was a lousy wife but a great mum" when their relationship breaks down.

No but when a relationship breaks down, how often is the man blamed in situations where both were at fault?

Tea

What's that got to do with the question asked? Claiming credit for fulfilling your parental duties through a separation or divorce is, in my mind, a peculiar thing to do.

It is indeed.

I was responding to your post about women stating the opposite; in that you rarely see it because women are rarely asked to defend their parenting or marriage failures. In my experience at any rate.

Tea

So much this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like he’s reaffirming his own beliefs.

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By *019ReadyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I have no idea. You don't often get women saying "I was a lousy wife but a great mum" when their relationship breaks down.

No but when a relationship breaks down, how often is the man blamed in situations where both were at fault?

Tea

What's that got to do with the question asked? Claiming credit for fulfilling your parental duties through a separation or divorce is, in my mind, a peculiar thing to do.

It is indeed.

I was responding to your post about women stating the opposite; in that you rarely see it because women are rarely asked to defend their parenting or marriage failures. In my experience at any rate.

Tea

Well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only ppl that can say your a good parent are the kids.....end of "

That's what we'd like to believe, but I'm going to disagree. Sometimes an outside perspective can give clarity, sometimes kids only know what they have and have little to compare it with....and if your statement is true then , they can't tell if other kids have good parents to compare with. If that makes sense?

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Only ppl that can say your a good parent are the kids.....end of

Outside perspective? Who are? And then they have different parenting styles who,s to say which parenting is the best? Do we raise them vegetarian? Meat eaters? Which one is best? Home school? Main stream? See my point

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"I have no idea. You don't often get women saying "I was a lousy wife but a great mum" when their relationship breaks down.

No but when a relationship breaks down, how often is the man blamed in situations where both were at fault?

Tea

What's that got to do with the question asked? Claiming credit for fulfilling your parental duties through a separation or divorce is, in my mind, a peculiar thing to do.

It is indeed.

I was responding to your post about women stating the opposite; in that you rarely see it because women are rarely asked to defend their parenting or marriage failures. In my experience at any rate.

Tea

Well said!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I have no idea. You don't often get women saying "I was a lousy wife but a great mum" when their relationship breaks down.

No but when a relationship breaks down, how often is the man blamed in situations where both were at fault?

Tea

What's that got to do with the question asked? Claiming credit for fulfilling your parental duties through a separation or divorce is, in my mind, a peculiar thing to do.

It is indeed.

I was responding to your post about women stating the opposite; in that you rarely see it because women are rarely asked to defend their parenting or marriage failures. In my experience at any rate.

Tea

Well said!

No, they shouldnt be praised for performing basic human values. But the media and the older members of society, do tend to still think kids are always better off with their mother full time and any bloke that does the bulk of parenting or even housework is either effeminate or is poncing off his partner or the state. Its going to take years before those views are a very small minority."
i dont personally know of anyone in my life that has thought that way for the last 30 years. People should pay less attention to media and more to whats going on around them. Every father i know who can has as much input into his kids life as he possibly can

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