FabSwingers.com forum: Smugness

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So while my so called friend tells me about his lovely holiday while I'm sat in cold rainy Scotland I'd like to say bugger off to him and ask you how smug you are.

Do you enjoy telling others about what you have or what you're doing? Does it make you smile seeing their jealousy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I find my luxury lifestyle embarrassing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but I know people like that

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Dont think anyone has anything to be jealous of with me to be honest

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By *icetouch83Man
over a year ago

swansea

No not at all I'm not the kind of person to rub things in people's faces

I'm a lover not a hater

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

Nope I dont see any joy in rubbing someone's face in others misfortunes.

I mean aye we all go on hols etc and I wish my friends a good time away but those who chuck all in your face.... No thank you!

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I enjoy telling other people what I'm up to - I like hearing what they are and having a reciprocated dialogue/exchange. I always get excited when my friends tell me happy stuff (well most of the time) and assume others will respond in similar ways wrongly.

Fuck no to the jealousy shit. Fuck that right off. No, I don't like making people jealous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really I just wish my fiends could be lying naked next to me around the pool tomorrow enjoying the perfect 25C sunny weather

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I occasionally do it in jest, but only where people are likely to know I'm kidding.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

If there’s ever that intent, it’s shortlived as it makes me feel crap about myself, it’s cunty, and as I’d quickly realise there’s something else going on for me to feel the need to engage in that kinda behaviour.

Being excitable and yaaaaaaay about things in a way that others see with no intention of smuggeryness though, may still be misconstrued by others as such. People will read things that are there or aren’t there all the time.

With the best people there’s always the wherewithal to talk it out if needed. I don’t believe the good stuff in life is finite and thus someone else’s good stuff doesn’t deplete mine nor my good stuff theirs.

(Corrected for typos!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gawd no...

Thats definitely not my style

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I should've made it clearer he is doing it in jest. He's nice really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With friends in a fun way but not with work colleagues.

It never ends if you start that one-upmanship crap.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"With friends in a fun way but not with work colleagues.

It never ends if you start that one-upmanship crap."

You *do* learn! Yay!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I should've made it clearer he is doing it in jest. He's nice really

I’m just sad you’re not all here

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By *ustinCredible.Man
over a year ago

whitecross/sankey valley

Very rare that I actually brag about anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah. There's no good feeling for me in trying to deliberately make someone else feel shite. I'm rubbish at faux grandstanding too anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t really have or do anything to make anyone jealous, not that I’m aware of anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Personally I'm quite an exciteable person and when good things happen I do want to share it but I choose my audience, I know my friends and family will be happy for me and share in my excitement in the same way I do with them.

I'm not one for material possessions so I'm not flashy or anything like that and I'm not one to draw attention. I think I'm also quite a tactful person and wouldn't rub anyone's face in my good fortune, I know how it feels to be the one who has nothing to make them smile at that time and I wouldn't want to make anyone feel worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With friends in a fun way but not with work colleagues.

It never ends if you start that one-upmanship crap.

You *do* learn! Yay!"

I've never been like that. The only time I feel smug is when I say something funny and people laugh, goes right to my head.

I still don't show it.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"With friends in a fun way but not with work colleagues.

It never ends if you start that one-upmanship crap.

You *do* learn! Yay!

I've never been like that. The only time I feel smug is when I say something funny and people laugh, goes right to my head.

I still don't show it.

You make me laugh lots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With friends in a fun way but not with work colleagues.

It never ends if you start that one-upmanship crap.

You *do* learn! Yay!

I've never been like that. The only time I feel smug is when I say something funny and people laugh, goes right to my head.

I still don't show it.

You make me laugh lots

See, I'm not showing it.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"With friends in a fun way but not with work colleagues.

It never ends if you start that one-upmanship crap.

You *do* learn! Yay!

I've never been like that. The only time I feel smug is when I say something funny and people laugh, goes right to my head.

I still don't show it.

You make me laugh lots

See, I'm not showing it."

You’re showing...trust me.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Absolutely not OP, I would never condone smugness, unless you've got one back over someone who has crossed you in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How am I supposed to enjoy my holiday now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How am I supposed to enjoy my holiday now

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stop it! I can hear you laughing from here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How am I supposed to enjoy my holiday now

stop it! I can hear you laughing from here! "
I’m not I genuinely feel a bit guilty and sad

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"How am I supposed to enjoy my holiday now

stop it! I can hear you laughing from here! "

Good job our clouds are literally miles apart

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How am I supposed to enjoy my holiday now

stop it! I can hear you laughing from here! I’m not I genuinely feel a bit guilty and sad

Please don't! I was joking!

Friends can tease each other without it being smugness! It just made me think of people who do it in a serious way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How am I supposed to enjoy my holiday now

stop it! I can hear you laughing from here!

Good job our clouds are literally miles apart

I never noticed til now you're in the same place! I used to get you two mixed up sometimes too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought this was about Skegness

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I thought this was about Skegness

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damn autocorrect. That's actually where he's on holiday

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"How am I supposed to enjoy my holiday now

stop it! I can hear you laughing from here!

Good job our clouds are literally miles apart

I could have also said, It's a shame our clouds aren't closer together

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

An interesting one.

Some people are genuinely happy about their good fortune, others can come across as boastful.

You can't actually "make"someone jealous though...people can choose to feel jealous or envious.

We own our own feelings, although that can be uncomfortable to acknowledge sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How am I supposed to enjoy my holiday now

stop it! I can hear you laughing from here!

Good job our clouds are literally miles apart

I never noticed til now you're in the same place! I used to get you two mixed up sometimes too

Really he has hair and a beard I have excessive ear hair and nasal hair only and resemble cue ball

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought this was about Skegness

damn autocorrect. That's actually where he's on holiday

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I'm sure it's just as wet and cold there tbh

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I thought this was about Skegness

Wanna buy a Donkey?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"An interesting one.

Some people are genuinely happy about their good fortune, others can come across as boastful.

You can't actually "make"someone jealous though...people can choose to feel jealous or envious.

We own our own feelings, although that can be uncomfortable to acknowledge sometimes.

That's an interesting way to look at it although I don't think feeling jealous is a choice, feelings happen although we are in control of our responses to those.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How am I supposed to enjoy my holiday now

stop it! I can hear you laughing from here!

Good job our clouds are literally miles apart

I never noticed til now you're in the same place! I used to get you two mixed up sometimes too

Really he has hair and a beard I have excessive ear hair and nasal hair only and resemble cue ball

I know! I only recently clicked what his username was too, I thought he was some kinda sportsman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How am I supposed to enjoy my holiday now

stop it! I can hear you laughing from here!

Good job our clouds are literally miles apart

I never noticed til now you're in the same place! I used to get you two mixed up sometimes too

Really he has hair and a beard I have excessive ear hair and nasal hair only and resemble cue ball

I know! I only recently clicked what his username was too, I thought he was some kinda sportsman!

I think he might have been a decent winger in his day too.

His alter ego is Alice Swinger as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So while my so called friend tells me about his lovely holiday while I'm sat in cold rainy Scotland I'd like to say bugger off to him and ask you how smug you are.

Do you enjoy telling others about what you have or what you're doing? Does it make you smile seeing their jealousy? "

No not at all. When I was younger and I had nothing people would brag to me about things and it hurt me.. I came from nothing and I know its not a nice thing do to anyone.

I feel sorry for some people and I would never do that.

I havent got much now, but atleast I have the decency not to brag to people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I’m not that type of person x

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