FabSwingers.com forum: Social conversation

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For those who seek a social meet before anything else, how do you engage in conversation?

Do you make small talk about everyday things looking for common ground, skirting around the whole reason you not?

Or perhaps you boldly go straight in asking for a CV of your prospective victims sexual prowess?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take cue cards with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of both usually..

We start with polite small talk then it usually gets onto the 'worst meet you have had so far'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try and let Lacey do all the talking and just sit there fluttering my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who it's with. The last social I had was a completely non-sexual conversation. It was hilarious and giggly and much more fun than the previous social which did discuss sexual things. Go with the flow.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" For those who seek a social meet before anything else, how do you engage in conversation?

Do you make small talk about everyday things looking for common ground, skirting around the whole reason you not?

Or perhaps you boldly go straight in asking for a CV of your prospective victims sexual prowess?

What is the whole reason for a social?

Is it really just a stepping stone to having sex? Or does it serve a different purpose?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

By the time I get as far as having a social I've usually been talking to the person for a while on here so the topics of conversation tend to be an extension of that really - a mix of general chit chat, flirty stuff and all things Fab.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I try and let Lacey do all the talking and just sit there fluttering my eyes

Probably best. If you started talking in that funny accent and saying those weird things you say women will just get up and leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I.can.talk.a.lot...

I guess I go with the flow and see what happens. I never find pre-meditated conversation works out that well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually chit chat for a bit but soon start talking about all things Fab!.... That's your initial common ground!!....from there it can go in any direction!! Lol!!

PT x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" For those who seek a social meet before anything else, how do you engage in conversation?

Do you make small talk about everyday things looking for common ground, skirting around the whole reason you not?

Or perhaps you boldly go straight in asking for a CV of your prospective victims sexual prowess?

What is the whole reason for a social?

Is it really just a stepping stone to having sex? Or does it serve a different purpose?"

It's meant to be a stepping stone if chemistry is there?

But sometimes conversation can take you down different paths and totally avoid the topic of sexual chemistry?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's not necessarily negative though!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I talk like I do to them through messages really - about any and everything (I'm a talker). I don't avoid sex chat but if that's all there is I find it dull and uninspiring. I like people who can dork out with me and make me laugh. Flirty yes - by that point I know if I want to have sex with them or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A bit of both usually..

We start with polite small talk then it usually gets onto the 'worst meet you have had so far'

Lol true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" For those who seek a social meet before anything else, how do you engage in conversation?

Do you make small talk about everyday things looking for common ground, skirting around the whole reason you not?

Or perhaps you boldly go straight in asking for a CV of your prospective victims sexual prowess?

What is the whole reason for a social?

Is it really just a stepping stone to having sex? Or does it serve a different purpose?"

It's whatever it turns into!

For some it's a safety net

For others it's a meeting of people who seemingly get on but aren't sure if the connection will be there in the flesh

Other people may know they want to bang someone, but ain't committing in case the person has death breath, within 5 mins of discovering they don't smell like they've been eating vomit fruit they're off to bump uglies.

I have had socials for all sorts of reasons. Sometimes I've met peeps coz I feel like I know them from the forums and I'd like to hang out because I genuinely like who they come across as a person, just because I don't wanna fuck them doesn't mean I don't want to spend time with them as I find them cool or interesting, I may consider them a mate ya know.

So many reasons

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

If I meet for a social, Ive normally talked to them here first, so it’s just a follow on from that and see where the conversation naturally flows.

Nothing worse than feeling like your day at an interview

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can talk bollocks for ages.. if we both laugh and if I fancy him then I may let him kiss me

I will then decide if we're going back to mine or he goes home alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh should b natural if it’s not then sex won’t b simples

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By *edmark07Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Go with the flow whilst you dance around whether its going further. As said previous there has usually been a fair few messages exchanged so its not too awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" For those who seek a social meet before anything else, how do you engage in conversation?

Do you make small talk about everyday things looking for common ground, skirting around the whole reason you not?

Or perhaps you boldly go straight in asking for a CV of your prospective victims sexual prowess?

What is the whole reason for a social?

Is it really just a stepping stone to having sex? Or does it serve a different purpose?

It's whatever it turns into!

For some it's a safety net

For others it's a meeting of people who seemingly get on but aren't sure if the connection will be there in the flesh

So many reasons

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

For me it's not just the conversation its also body language.

It has to flow but there must be an element of cheekiness or sexual innuendo otherwise you can be left wondering......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" For those who seek a social meet before anything else, how do you engage in conversation?

Do you make small talk about everyday things looking for common ground, skirting around the whole reason you not?

Or perhaps you boldly go straight in asking for a CV of your prospective victims sexual prowess?

What is the whole reason for a social?

Is it really just a stepping stone to having sex? Or does it serve a different purpose?

It's whatever it turns into!

For some it's a safety net

For others it's a meeting of people who seemingly get on but aren't sure if the connection will be there in the flesh

So many reasons

I need to add to that, I'd rather someone wanted to meet me for ME than meet me for my chuff, or what I could offer them in a sexual capacity.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I need to add to that, I'd rather someone wanted to meet me for ME than meet me for my chuff, or what I could offer them in a sexual capacity.

Totally agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Conversation just happens... i talk on the phone prior... if the conversation isnt flowing at that point i dont think id meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For me it's not just the conversation its also body language.

It has to flow but there must be an element of cheekiness or sexual innuendo otherwise you can be left wondering......

If you've read enough body language articles,you'll probably be totally confused!

Was that a sultry look, or is she thinking she'd like to stick a fork in my groin and leave the meet!

Twisting and playing with hair is allegedly a sign, a female is attracted? On this basis, 80% of the female population is after me today....I doubt it!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" For those who seek a social meet before anything else, how do you engage in conversation?

Do you make small talk about everyday things looking for common ground, skirting around the whole reason you not?

Or perhaps you boldly go straight in asking for a CV of your prospective victims sexual prowess?

What is the whole reason for a social?

Is it really just a stepping stone to having sex? Or does it serve a different purpose?

It's whatever it turns into!

For some it's a safety net

For others it's a meeting of people who seemingly get on but aren't sure if the connection will be there in the flesh

So many reasons

I need to add to that, I'd rather someone wanted to meet me for ME than meet me for my chuff, or what I could offer them in a sexual capacity.

Of course. Doesn't matter how fantastic you anticipate physical connection may be, you have to actually like them?

Its terribly awkward trying to find your y-fronts under the bed covers after the deed is done, with someone you think is a complete numpty in the room.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"For me it's not just the conversation its also body language.

It has to flow but there must be an element of cheekiness or sexual innuendo otherwise you can be left wondering......

Partly this, for me. I'd say on average I tend not to talk sex, or if I do it's sort of "amazing Fab stories" sort of stuff. I have a wide repertoire of topics.

But the topic of conversation is usually less important than the look in (usually) his eye, the nature of his smile, the way he looks at me, sort of thing. And how I feel about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually talk just flows if it doesn't I try to compliment their kneecaps while sticking a finger in their asses to break the ice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me it's not just the conversation its also body language.

It has to flow but there must be an element of cheekiness or sexual innuendo otherwise you can be left wondering......

I’ve walked away from so many socials thinking ‘That was fun but I didn’t get the vibe that they fancied me’ only for them to follow up with a ‘I couldn’t stop thinking about us being together, you are so sexy’ type message. I am truly rubbish at reading people’s signals.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Usually talk just flows if it doesn't I try to compliment their kneecaps while sticking a finger in their asses to break the ice "

Why do they have ice up their hole?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Usually talk just flows if it doesn't I try to compliment their kneecaps while sticking a finger in their asses to break the ice "

"and that's when we got thrown out of Wetherspoons..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually talk just flows if it doesn't I try to compliment their kneecaps while sticking a finger in their asses to break the ice

Why do they have ice up their hole?"

Those who come from the North sometimes

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We talk about everyday stuff and sex stuff.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Why don't you just ask her?

Assuming you are still talking and this thread is purely not for research purposes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" For those who seek a social meet before anything else, how do you engage in conversation?

Do you make small talk about everyday things looking for common ground, skirting around the whole reason you not?

Or perhaps you boldly go straight in asking for a CV of your prospective victims sexual prowess?

What is the whole reason for a social?

Is it really just a stepping stone to having sex? Or does it serve a different purpose?

It's whatever it turns into!

For some it's a safety net

For others it's a meeting of people who seemingly get on but aren't sure if the connection will be there in the flesh

So many reasons

I need to add to that, I'd rather someone wanted to meet me for ME than meet me for my chuff, or what I could offer them in a sexual capacity.

The more I think about it, the more I see that as the purpose of socials - seeing it as a precursor or stepping stone to getting jiggy could be counterproductive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok my problem is

If I fancy them ALOT , I’ll warble on and talk bollocks. If they can push through that - I can have a decent conversation

Mind you - sometimes I’ve done no talking and just jumped on them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We play it by ear, if we're comfortable then we'll allow the flirty subjects into the conversation, if we're not comfortable then we'll steer clear of the flirty stuff.

This of course works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" For those who seek a social meet before anything else, how do you engage in conversation?

Do you make small talk about everyday things looking for common ground, skirting around the whole reason you not?

Or perhaps you boldly go straight in asking for a CV of your prospective victims sexual prowess?

What is the whole reason for a social?

Is it really just a stepping stone to having sex? Or does it serve a different purpose?

It's whatever it turns into!

For some it's a safety net

For others it's a meeting of people who seemingly get on but aren't sure if the connection will be there in the flesh

So many reasons

I need to add to that, I'd rather someone wanted to meet me for ME than meet me for my chuff, or what I could offer them in a sexual capacity.

The more I think about it, the more I see that as the purpose of socials - seeing it as a precursor or stepping stone to getting jiggy could be counterproductive."

For sure. I had a "meet" lined up, I'd been getting on like a house on fire with someone I rather fancied who made my fandango tango. He was coming to mine for an overnight stay, arriving in the afternoon and staying a full 24 hours. I fancied him a LOT! Well, we had such a great time, we were laughing loads, we genuinely had loads of fun, but, whilst we were out he asked if I'd mind keeping it to just a social. I admit I was gutted, I may have had to fight back a few tears as my first thought was "what's wrong with me?"

But I quickly realised I'd made a new mate, a decent mate, and that was worth far more than a few hours of rumpy pumpy. We shared a bed that night, he slept with his arm round me and it wasn't awkward, it was ace.

fwends

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why don't you just ask her?

Assuming you are still talking and this thread is purely not for research purposes

cheeky!

Experiences on here make me wonder how others see the quirky world of Fab.

Should I ask someone outright at the end of a meet? That puts them on the spot? (Rhetorical).

(Small print. None of the original post or any follow up posts, relate to real events or persons, and any likeness is purely coincidental to real life socials!).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try and let Lacey do all the talking and just sit there fluttering my eyes

Probably best. If you started talking in that funny accent and saying those weird things you say women will just get up and drop their knickers."

So true Meli

It’s a curse I tell ya!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" For those who seek a social meet before anything else, how do you engage in conversation?

Do you make small talk about everyday things looking for common ground, skirting around the whole reason you not?

Or perhaps you boldly go straight in asking for a CV of your prospective victims sexual prowess?

What is the whole reason for a social?

Is it really just a stepping stone to having sex? Or does it serve a different purpose?

It's whatever it turns into!

For some it's a safety net

For others it's a meeting of people who seemingly get on but aren't sure if the connection will be there in the flesh

So many reasons

I need to add to that, I'd rather someone wanted to meet me for ME than meet me for my chuff, or what I could offer them in a sexual capacity.

The more I think about it, the more I see that as the purpose of socials - seeing it as a precursor or stepping stone to getting jiggy could be counterproductive.

fwends

Nice story P and a good example

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"For me it's not just the conversation its also body language.

It has to flow but there must be an element of cheekiness or sexual innuendo otherwise you can be left wondering......

If you've read enough body language articles,you'll probably be totally confused!

Was that a sultry look, or is she thinking she'd like to stick a fork in my groin and leave the meet!

Twisting and playing with hair is allegedly a sign, a female is attracted? On this basis, 80% of the female population is after me today....I doubt it!!"

A tactile touch whilst talking is more a sure sign

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

The first choice. I like networking with people and finding more about them.

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre

My coffee meet socials are a hoot, secret is being yourself. You try and act like someone you think the other person will like and your gonna make you look like a muppet thats trying to hard.

If she dosnt like the real you , shes gonna hate you when you put on an act. My coffee meets never get to a sexual chat level, keep that for the intimacy of a private location or second meet. Dont over think a coffee meet.

Ok so all you women know my mind, whos up for coffee.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

" For those who seek a social meet before anything else, how do you engage in conversation?

Do you make small talk about everyday things looking for common ground, skirting around the whole reason you not?

Or perhaps you boldly go straight in asking for a CV of your prospective victims sexual prowess?

What is the whole reason for a social?

Is it really just a stepping stone to having sex? Or does it serve a different purpose?

It's whatever it turns into!

For some it's a safety net

For others it's a meeting of people who seemingly get on but aren't sure if the connection will be there in the flesh

So many reasons

I need to add to that, I'd rather someone wanted to meet me for ME than meet me for my chuff, or what I could offer them in a sexual capacity.

The more I think about it, the more I see that as the purpose of socials - seeing it as a precursor or stepping stone to getting jiggy could be counterproductive.

fwends

Friends are important, finding a good one you can hold close is priceless

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"The more I think about it, the more I see that as the purpose of socials - seeing it as a precursor or stepping stone to getting jiggy could be counterproductive."

I think it can vary dependent on the person you're meeting and what you have discussed beforehand though - sometimes it's a precursor, sometimes it's a "let's see how we get on", sometimes it's "with a hotel room booked and a view to more if we're both happy" - whatever the situation though I go to any social with no expectations and even if it's the "hotel room booked with a view to" type always make it clear that if, in the flesh, either of us decide it goes no further that I'll happily come home and leave them to enjoy the room and pay my half of it.

Either way there's no malice or preconceived idea that a meet is *just* about sex - if I end up making a friend and nothing more then all's still good

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

If we meet somebody it is to guage whether we like being around them. If we don't then we wouldn't want to take things further. We are interested in the person/people. Chemistry is crucial in wanting anything sexual to happen and that can only really be discovered face-to-face.

The conversation would be much the same as meeting somebody we don't know at a dinner party. It would be about our circumstances/interests and theirs. Hopefully that sort of thing would spark something more spontaneous and fun. We would certainly ask how they came to be on Fab and talk about that whole area of our lives which would give a good idea of our compatability.

So I'd say the social is very important to us.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"Ok my problem is

If I fancy them ALOT , I’ll warble on and talk bollocks. If they can push through that - I can have a decent conversation

Mind you - sometimes I’ve done no talking and just jumped on them

I remember

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok my problem is

If I fancy them ALOT , I’ll warble on and talk bollocks. If they can push through that - I can have a decent conversation

Mind you - sometimes I’ve done no talking and just jumped on them

I remember

I’m very memorable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can talk for England

. I just don’t shut up

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I can talk for England

. I just don’t shut up "

Sister?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The conversation should just flow. I like to message a bit and then message elsewhere and plenty of phone conversations. That way when we meet its just like meeting with a friend and there's no awkwardness.

If the message a fizzle out on here and we don't click then imagine what it would be like meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can talk for England

. I just don’t shut up

Sister? "

we need a night out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can talk for England

. I just don’t shut up

Sister?

we need a night out! "

Can I come? I’ll just listen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don't you just ask her?

Assuming you are still talking and this thread is purely not for research purposes

cheeky!

Experiences on here make me wonder how others see the quirky world of Fab.

Should I ask someone outright at the end of a meet? That puts them on the spot? (Rhetorical).

(Small print. None of the original post or any follow up posts, relate to real events or persons, and any likeness is purely coincidental to real life socials!)."

I think sometimes it’s good to let the social ‘settle’ for a few hours, then form a view.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"If we meet somebody it is to guage whether we like being around them. If we don't then we wouldn't want to take things further. We are interested in the person/people. Chemistry is crucial in wanting anything sexual to happen and that can only really be discovered face-to-face.

So I'd say the social is very important to us."

Absolutely this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can talk for England

. I just don’t shut up

Sister?

we need a night out!

Can I come? I’ll just listen

Of course. If you keep your snake covered up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can talk for England

. I just don’t shut up

Sister?

we need a night out!

Can I come? I’ll just listen

Of course. If you keep your snake covered up

It’s a social not a snake charming convention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can talk for England

. I just don’t shut up

Sister?

we need a night out!

Can I come? I’ll just listen

Of course. If you keep your snake covered up

It’s a social not a snake charming convention "

. It can be whatever we want it to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can talk for England

. I just don’t shut up

Sister?

we need a night out!

Can I come? I’ll just listen

Of course. If you keep your snake covered up

It’s a social not a snake charming convention

. It can be whatever we want it to be

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Not sure about that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyday things. If they mention sex at all I walk out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really think about it. I just go with the flow although if they were being crude or overly sexual I would feel uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really think about it. I just go with the flow although if they were being crude or overly sexual I would feel uncomfortable. "

She makes them do dares really

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent

Socials are so important to me.

I like to know the person can be comfortable around me and also that we can both relax a bit first. After all if you can’t make each other relax and laugh a bit then the chances are you can’t make each other cum either!

Mostly I think it’s easy to do but then i have to a social animal for work.

I usually find that swapping a few Fab crazy stories or situations breaks the ice and starts the laughs quite easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really think about it. I just go with the flow although if they were being crude or overly sexual I would feel uncomfortable.

She makes them do dares really

I dare them to turn up!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don't really think about it. I just go with the flow although if they were being crude or overly sexual I would feel uncomfortable.

She makes them do dares really

I dare them to turn up!

I was picturing the Macarena

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