FabSwingers.com forum: am i single

By *XSnoopy72XX OP Man
over a year ago

lots of places

just a quick question for the Fab peeps out there.

why do people react (and must say its mainly ladys)that im laying when i say im a widower and is it more weird that someone asked me did i still love her.

ps the answer is yes and will always until i die.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that OP

. They probably think you're lying as lots are attached and playing away here unfortunately, it does seem like a horrible lie to choose to tell though

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe it is because on your profile you say you are a widower and then you say P.S I have a very strange sense of humour ?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

A lot of people lie about being single here but you should not expect to endure intrusive or inappropriate comments etc. Some are keen to ensure they don't get involved in cheating and someone's deception.

As many here have been deceived or are skilled at reading between the lines etc, let others know your position that you wish and to respect your boundaries, if appropriate

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull

Don't worry mate it's almost the same with single fathers, still getting accused of lying, but what can one do.

Fuck them and wait for someone else, obviously accusers ain't worth your time.

Mind you there is so many single man lying, so I'm not really that surprised

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I am a widow but have never felt it necessary to put it on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's to do with the way you have wrote it with lots of smiley faces in the same paragraph

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I openly acknowledge that my first wife died, especially if someone else is having dificulties with loss, but wouldn't make it part of my profile.

Don't really know why you are not believed, but obviously you are getting conversation going which puts you ahead of many others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just a quick question for the Fab peeps out there.

why do people react (and must say its mainly ladys)that im laying when i say im a widower and is it more weird that someone asked me did i still love her.

ps the answer is yes and will always until i die.

The fact you don't have any photos might make some people think you're lying. I'm sorry to read you're a widower.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure why you would specify being a widower? I appreciate it's the reason you are single but people don't need to know why.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I was seeing a widower for months before he confessed his wife was still alive and living with him.

Some people lie. It means others may question what is presented to them. We only know what people choose to tell us.

OP, sorry for your loss and of course you will still love your wife. Maybe find another way of conveying your information?

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over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"just a quick question for the Fab peeps out there.

why do people react (and must say its mainly ladys)that im laying when i say im a widower and is it more weird that someone asked me did i still love her.

ps the answer is yes and will always until i die.

People react because they've been lied to so often. I would like to think though that I'd believe a guy who said he was widowed.

I can't really see a problem with the way you've presented your situation and if you're happy with it being on your profile leave it as it is. When it comes to men describing their marital status they will always be questioned unfortunately.

As for the person who asked if you still loved your wife, how intrusive and insensitive not to mention lacking in empathy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a widow of 6 years, I find it's a conversation killer when I tell people in the real world even , like OMG you poor thing. I want to have fun, not to have people react with awkwardness at my widowness. So I don't tell meets, it's none of their business. I would not like to be asked the question about love because the answer is no because I didn't when he was alive .

I wouldn't put it on my profile.

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