FabSwingers.com forum: Imposter syndrome

By *itty9899 OP Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Any one feel this from time to time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

David Tennant does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

* puts hand up

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

We touched on it on my thread earlier. It’s very common.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"David Tennant does "

Yes he does! And he's in Good Omens which is out very soon.

Yes I do Op.

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By *itty9899 OP Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"What is it?"

Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon, impostorism, fraud syndrome or the impostor experience) is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts his or her accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot, but not in relation to work. Mostly regarding all things adult.

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By *itty9899 OP Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"David Tennant does

Yes he does! And he's in Good Omens which is out very soon.

Yes I do Op."

I'm looking forward to it, big fan of Tennant and Sheen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"David Tennant does

Yes he does! And he's in Good Omens which is out very soon.

Yes I do Op."

I love him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no accomplishments to fear frauding anyone with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it?

Thank you

sometimes yes, more so in regards to fab though where a lot of it is obviously based on photographs.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"David Tennant does

Yes he does! And he's in Good Omens which is out very soon.

Yes I do Op.

I'm looking forward to it, big fan of Tennant and Sheen. "

And Jon Hamm and Frances McDormand as well! Brilliant cast which is very exciting.

Sorry for the derailing.

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By *itty9899 OP Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"I have no accomplishments to fear frauding anyone with

I'm sure you have.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I thought I had all the crazy stuff but I don’t have this.

Jeez, I can’t even do the mad stuff properly

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"What is it?

I’m betting there are a few of those here

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By *itty9899 OP Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"David Tennant does

Yes he does! And he's in Good Omens which is out very soon.

Yes I do Op.

I'm looking forward to it, big fan of Tennant and Sheen.

And Jon Hamm and Frances McDormand as well! Brilliant cast which is very exciting.

Sorry for the derailing."

That's ok, it only opens a conversation point which is what all this is about x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought I had all the crazy stuff but I don’t have this.

Jeez, I can’t even do the mad stuff properly

You're such a fraud

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By *Marvel-Man
over a year ago

In The Gym

"Any one feel this from time to time. "

Yes. Too often unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab. "

Explains why I’m not well liked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed..

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By *itty9899 OP Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab. "

That seem to happen in life generally I find.

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By *itty9899 OP Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.

Explains why I’m not well liked "

You seem rather likeable to me.

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By *itty9899 OP Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed.. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"David Tennant does

Yes he does! And he's in Good Omens which is out very soon.

Yes I do Op.

I'm looking forward to it, big fan of Tennant and Sheen.

And Jon Hamm and Frances McDormand as well! Brilliant cast which is very exciting.

Sorry for the derailing."

I'm so excited

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Nope, I know I'm good at what I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed.. "

You don't think that's a symptom of imposter syndrome?

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed.. "

Good point and I agree, you do but you do it do well

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

So*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed..

You don't think that's a symptom of imposter syndrome?"

Isn't it more about overselling oneself? Or feeling underqualified?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed.. "

Underpromise, overdeliver, innit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it?

I felt this when I went to church with the lady next door so I could see friends I had made there. I am not a believer and felt like an imposter. I stopped going. X

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab. "

I often think of John Wyndham’s The Chrysalids when you post about being the only one “different”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s the opposite term, where you think you should be somewhere you’re not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed..

Good point and I agree, you do but you do it do well

I think I'm aware of the best case and worst case scenarios so aim for middle ground as achievable..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed..

Underpromise, overdeliver, innit

Don't think I ever overdeliver!!

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"What’s the opposite term, where you think you should be somewhere you’re not ?"

Wanderlust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed..

Underpromise, overdeliver, innit

Don't think I ever overdeliver!! "

Lemon in the freezer, innit....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed..

Underpromise, overdeliver, innit

Don't think I ever overdeliver!!

Lemon in the freezer, innit....

Wasn't full of sorbet though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.

I often think of John Wyndham’s The Chrysalids when you post about being the only one “different”.

Is that what I'm doing? Amateur psychology is so amusing

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.

I often think of John Wyndham’s The Chrysalids when you post about being the only one “different”.

Is that what I'm doing? Amateur psychology is so amusing"

It really is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed..

You don't think that's a symptom of imposter syndrome?

Isn't it more about overselling oneself? Or feeling underqualified?"

Yes.. so you underplay to avoid such a scenario.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Amy Farrah Fowler's Big Bang Theory rant covers this well.

I spent a long time afflicted before I realised that I'm the expert people were coming to because they were imposters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.

I often think of John Wyndham’s The Chrysalids when you post about being the only one “different”.

Is that what I'm doing? Amateur psychology is so amusing

It really is

Well I know you love to be right with your analysis of people so I'll agree with you. Well done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t say I’ve ever felt this way. Haven’t heard of it until now.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.

I often think of John Wyndham’s The Chrysalids when you post about being the only one “different”.

Is that what I'm doing? Amateur psychology is so amusing

It really is

Well I know you love to be right with your analysis of people so I'll agree with you. Well done. "

Ummm, okay. Thanks.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Amy Farrah Fowler's Big Bang Theory rant covers this well.

I spent a long time afflicted before I realised that I'm the expert people were coming to because they were imposters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.

I often think of John Wyndham’s The Chrysalids when you post about being the only one “different”.

Is that what I'm doing? Amateur psychology is so amusing

It really is

Well I know you love to be right with your analysis of people so I'll agree with you. Well done.

Ummm, okay. Thanks.

Oh. You sound disappointed. Should I have disagreed?

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.

I often think of John Wyndham’s The Chrysalids when you post about being the only one “different”.

Is that what I'm doing? Amateur psychology is so amusing

It really is

Well I know you love to be right with your analysis of people so I'll agree with you. Well done.

Ummm, okay. Thanks.

Oh. You sound disappointed. Should I have disagreed?"

Not at all, Scarlet. It’s interesting as I wasn’t attacking you - but obviously something isn’t cool. All good here. It wasn’t a bad reference, the book one, but I’ll take your cue.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

When it comes to my parenting ability i probably do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.

I often think of John Wyndham’s The Chrysalids when you post about being the only one “different”.

Is that what I'm doing? Amateur psychology is so amusing

It really is

Well I know you love to be right with your analysis of people so I'll agree with you. Well done.

Ummm, okay. Thanks.

Oh. You sound disappointed. Should I have disagreed?

Not at all, Scarlet. It’s interesting as I wasn’t attacking you - but obviously something isn’t cool. All good here. It wasn’t a bad reference, the book one, but I’ll take your cue. "

I didn't take it as an attack until you used "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did when I first started the work I do. Over time my breadth and depth of skills and knowledge increased and as a result the feeling diminished.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Amy Farrah Fowler's Big Bang Theory rant covers this well.

I spent a long time afflicted before I realised that I'm the expert people were coming to because they were imposters.

Which Amy rant?

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Nicola Sturgeon (Scots PM) said on TV recently that she did, we had to look it up to see what it was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a fraud when it comes to make women cum but I own it

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Amy Farrah Fowler's Big Bang Theory rant covers this well.

I spent a long time afflicted before I realised that I'm the expert people were coming to because they were imposters.

Which Amy rant?"

Either 4 or 5 episodes before the last one when there is a drinks reception about the Nobel Prize nomination. The rivals claim to have imposter syndrome and she tells them that they are imposters so ca't have the syndrome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I kinda get what it means, I don't think I have it although I often think I don't deserve things, and that there are people far better qualified, looking, experienced, deserving etc.

I know I'm fearful of getting another job in case I take on more than I can chew, or that I'm not gonna meet expectations.

I do also worry at times when meeting people for the first time that I'll not live up to what they were expecting of me, especially if I'm not feeling in full on funny mode, or full on make up mode, like they'll think I'm just playing up for the camera so to speak and that's not the real me. I also worry that if people have been told about me, especially if it's all good and glowing that they may not feel the same and think it's me being fake rather than someone else's interpretation that's different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes - In previous jobs.

However, the idea is that you feel like a fraud by being there. Which is odd - as most of the arseholes I worked with had the typical attributes of a fraudster.

So, in this case it can be wholly justified!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm ok, so I just took the online test and scored 80/100.

Significant imposterism apparently.

I wouldn't class myself as feeling like a fraud, I'd say I was somewhat insecure at times but that's about it.

I'll check another test, they may all be different if reliable at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Amy Farrah Fowler's Big Bang Theory rant covers this well.

I spent a long time afflicted before I realised that I'm the expert people were coming to because they were imposters.

Which Amy rant?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"What’s the opposite term, where you think you should be somewhere you’re not ?"

Lost?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

This is a TED talk I like about it https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zNBmHXS3A6I

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