FabSwingers.com forum: Verifications and summary mandatory on profiles

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Should site rules be changed so that verifications and the summary will always be shown on profiles- always visible and no option to hide them?

Would this make the site more open and honest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Summary, maybe. Verifications, no.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

It would just result in a lot of people not verifying each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think all that would happen is people would stop verifying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would just result in a lot of people not verifying each other. "

Just beat me to it

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No. My hidden veris are people using my real name. I'd sooner delete my profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It would just result in a lot of people not verifying each other.

Just beat me to it

Great minds...

Good point well made too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God I hope not

Some of mine are so bloody cringy, and use my bloody name

I’ll go put one on display for you lovely folk who might want a laugh

Thankfully someone I met has deleted his profile so his super cringy ones are gone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No. My hidden veris are people using my real name. I'd sooner delete my profile. "

Very good point.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

No. Because not all verifications are open and honest. Plus peoples statuses sometimes change (get into relationships for example) or sometimes a verification can be left that they may not feel comfortable displaying (something quite graphic for example)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Oh, and bitter/ lying veris.

"she didn't let me violate her boundaries" becomes "didn't wear deodorant, was an hour late, shit shag, avoid".

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

No.

Things are bad enough with people using the 'veri trail' to judge others, without giving others more scope to behave badly.

The verification system is there to prove that a person is who they say they are, so it's already misused.

Personally I think that veris should not be text based

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"No.

Things are bad enough with people using the 'veri trail' to judge others, without giving others more scope to behave badly.

The verification system is there to prove that a person is who they say they are, so it's already misused.

Personally I think that veris should not be text based"

I agree. I want video replay of people’s meets to watch.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No.

Things are bad enough with people using the 'veri trail' to judge others, without giving others more scope to behave badly.

The verification system is there to prove that a person is who they say they are, so it's already misused.

Personally I think that veris should not be text based"

What system would you use? Do you mean like just a green tick?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. My hidden veris are people using my real name. I'd sooner delete my profile. "

This, plus the one where I was verified as a man (!), plus the really badly spelt ones I asked them to rewrite, the joke ones that say I have a fungal disease etc etc.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I like the text system. I read between the lines for consensus on things like personality. (like, are they respectful?) It helped me take the plunge with particularly my first few meets.

I don't enjoy really graphic ones (although I display some, but it's a representation of what I got up to), and I don't leave graphic ones myself.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

No it wouldn't.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"No.

Things are bad enough with people using the 'veri trail' to judge others, without giving others more scope to behave badly.

The verification system is there to prove that a person is who they say they are, so it's already misused.

Personally I think that veris should not be text based

What system would you use? Do you mean like just a green tick?"

Yes, essentially just the verification summary with a social, cam or 'other' option. No names or write ups.

What does the text actually do anyway? One person idea of someone will be totally different from someone else's and who needs to know how they were fucked and for how long?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"What does the text actually do anyway? One person idea of someone will be totally different from someone else's and who needs to know how they were fucked and for how long? "

But then how would we know who was whose?

I think it can be quite nice - sometimes they are like a badge of pride, others it's nice to read what people think of you. And yes, people can have different opinions of each other but if you take a good sample of veris quite often they are a good representation of someone and give you an idea of what they like. It also serves as a memory, just in text form. Which is nice.

(Obviously sometimes people write utter shite in veris etc)

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"What does the text actually do anyway? One person idea of someone will be totally different from someone else's and who needs to know how they were fucked and for how long?

But then how would we know who was whose?

(Obviously sometimes people write utter shite in veris etc) "

I wrote an awesome poem one once.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"What does the text actually do anyway? One person idea of someone will be totally different from someone else's and who needs to know how they were fucked and for how long?

But then how would we know who was whose?

(Obviously sometimes people write utter shite in veris etc) "

I've had some cracking veris with little or no mention of sex, whether we did the deed or not.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"It also serves as a memory, just in text form. Which is nice.

(Obviously sometimes people write utter shite in veris etc)

I wrote an awesome poem one once.

See that's lovely! Bitches should write me poems - most I've got was a haiku veri (makes me smile when I read it). It's a nice flexing of the brain and is an unique and personal thing which can be wonderful to read. Whoever you wrote a poem for was a lucky so and so Es.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"What does the text actually do anyway? One person idea of someone will be totally different from someone else's and who needs to know how they were fucked and for how long?

But then how would we know who was whose?

(Obviously sometimes people write utter shite in veris etc) "

Yes, I do think that they can be nice and I've had some over the years that have been lovely and I've been proud of. I just think that they're too open to misuse and can often be used against a person; "oh you met X? I dislike X, so I'm going to use it against you" or "I wanted to meet them, so I'm going to message people bitching about you."

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"What does the text actually do anyway? One person idea of someone will be totally different from someone else's and who needs to know how they were fucked and for how long?

But then how would we know who was whose?

(Obviously sometimes people write utter shite in veris etc)

I like that as a filter. If you can't handle that I've met people you don't like, I probably don't want to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No.

Things are bad enough with people using the 'veri trail' to judge others, without giving others more scope to behave badly.

The verification system is there to prove that a person is who they say they are, so it's already misused.

Personally I think that veris should not be text based

What system would you use? Do you mean like just a green tick?

Yes, essentially just the verification summary with a social, cam or 'other' option. No names or write ups.

What does the text actually do anyway? One person idea of someone will be totally different from someone else's and who needs to know how they were fucked and for how long? "

I agree.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"It also serves as a memory, just in text form. Which is nice.

(Obviously sometimes people write utter shite in veris etc)

I wrote an awesome poem one once.

One day I shall write you an ode or sonnet or epic, my lovely xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like the text system. I read between the lines for consensus on things like personality. (like, are they respectful?) It helped me take the plunge with particularly my first few meets.

I don't enjoy really graphic ones (although I display some, but it's a representation of what I got up to), and I don't leave graphic ones myself. "

How would a verification show if they were respectful? People don't show bad ones.

I don't like graphic ones either and that means I'm not compatible with those who do.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think it should stay as it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is only so many times I can read "best cock sucker in the world" before i start to think someone is lying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is only so many times I can read "best cock sucker in the world" before i start to think someone is lying"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I like the text system. I read between the lines for consensus on things like personality. (like, are they respectful?) It helped me take the plunge with particularly my first few meets.

I don't enjoy really graphic ones (although I display some, but it's a representation of what I got up to), and I don't leave graphic ones myself.

How would a verification show if they were respectful? People don't show bad ones.

I don't like graphic ones either and that means I'm not compatible with those who do.

But a good veri could say anything. Great sex, etc. If more than a certain number of veris mention someone being respectful (or other things to similar effect) it gains some weight in my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I don't want the whole world knowing who I've met and what I've done.

I do agree on the tick system or displaying the summary though, there are many who are only cam verified but you'd never know because they don't display the summary but have the same green tick.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I think it should stay as it is. "

And it undoubtedly will, we're like penguins discussing the texture of snow, it won't change anything.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Should site rules be changed so that verifications and the summary will always be shown on profiles- always visible and no option to hide them?

Would this make the site more open and honest?"

No I don't think it will. People should have the option of displaying what they want and how much. I no longer display mine and am much happier for it. Doesn't mean I don't appreciate a good veri. I read them in private and better remember the experience with that particular person. What I no longer have to deal with in not showing them are people's jealously, spitefulness and judgemental attitudes.

Each to their own ultimately.

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By *rbean69Man
over a year ago

Stroud

I don't think the site rules should be changed. There are legitimate reasons for hiding them (e.g. malicious veris). Personally, I would always take account of someone's veris, and be suspicious if any were hidden. Reading between the lines may also be useful. My policy may result in fewer meets, but better safe than sorry. I would be more inclined to meet a woman with no veris than all hidden veris. I respect anyone's right to hide them, however.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Oh, and bitter/ lying veris.

"she didn't let me violate her boundaries" becomes "didn't wear deodorant, was an hour late, shit shag, avoid". "

Does the truth hurt.... joke!

However, the proof is in the pudding.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Should site rules be changed so that verifications and the summary will always be shown on profiles- always visible and no option to hide them?

Would this make the site more open and honest?"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Oh, and bitter/ lying veris.

"she didn't let me violate her boundaries" becomes "didn't wear deodorant, was an hour late, shit shag, avoid".

Does the truth hurt.... joke!

However, the proof is in the pudding.

Yeah, but lying veris you had to display would make it harder to meet good people.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

no to verifications, because some honestly I'm embarrassed I ever met them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think the site rules should be changed. There are legitimate reasons for hiding them (e.g. malicious veris). Personally, I would always take account of someone's veris, and be suspicious if any were hidden. Reading between the lines may also be useful. My policy may result in fewer meets, but better safe than sorry. I would be more inclined to meet a woman with no veris than all hidden veris. I respect anyone's right to hide them, however."

When people leave the site the veris disappear but the number is the same on the summary. So she might not be hiding them, they may have left the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No. I don't want the whole world knowing who I've met and what I've done.

I do agree on the tick system or displaying the summary though, there are many who are only cam verified but you'd never know because they don't display the summary but have the same green tick. "

I tell people who only have cam veris to hide them because people usually don't like them.

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By *rbean69Man
over a year ago

Stroud

When people leave the site the veris disappear but the number is the same on the summary. So she might not be hiding them, they may have left the site. "

Thanks. I had not realised that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people don’t want to see who their partners been shagging and it can cause more aggro than it’s worth.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Personal choice should prevail as to whether someone chooses to display their veris and why.

As stated above however, it can lead to some conflict with others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide my veris. As far as I am concerned they are between the person I met and me. Like it or lump it.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Some people don’t want to see who their partners been shagging and it can cause more aggro than it’s worth. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications aren't a sign of quality... Well I would say that as I've had no meets yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far to many snakes with tits, so I'd start over if not able to hide past meets, with a new profile. I'd never dream of ambulance chasing, yet it's common practice on here, or whatever the equivalent is to that. It's not compare the fuck dot com. They're meant to be there to give a general idea if the persons a fucktard or not, but aren't we all guilty at some point of writing a shit verification?, as a more detailed or less glowing reference wouldn't be shown.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Should site rules be changed so that verifications and the summary will always be shown on profiles- always visible and no option to hide them?

Would this make the site more open and honest?"

I don't think it should be mandatory to display either your actual veris, or the summary, because some people would only abuse it (verify people they haven't met, to appear popular, verify someone badly to wind someone up etc). I do think it's a pity a veri disappears when a profile is deleted though, would rather it stayed on your profile, but showed the person as 'No longer on site' or something?

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I’m not sure it matters either way. I think it will keep people just as judgemental as always

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Should site rules be changed so that verifications and the summary will always be shown on profiles- always visible and no option to hide them?

Would this make the site more open and honest?

Yeah, I'd like something like, Man (no longer on site), 40, verified on (date)

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Only if you can have the option to individually choose whether to accept the verification in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would prefer no verification system at all. It’s not used on others sites I use and not a problem. I’ve not verified the last 4 people I’ve met and vice versa. I don’t unless they ask and I will never ask. I’ve had to hide mine after bitter men that I said no to said I fuck ugly people. The people he was referring to were people I had met at socials as only showed social veris. They cause so many problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No! I hid mine the first time I stopped playing, because alot of men thought that, because I had alot of them, that I would be unable to resist them, or I just sounded like they should just try anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Far to many snakes with tits, so I'd start over if not able to hide past meets, with a new profile. I'd never dream of ambulance chasing, yet it's common practice on here, or whatever the equivalent is to that. It's not compare the fuck dot com. They're meant to be there to give a general idea if the persons a fucktard or not, but aren't we all guilty at some point of writing a shit verification?, as a more detailed or less glowing reference wouldn't be shown.

Ambulance chasing, brilliant.

You're so right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If veris are really just as some say to prove someone is who they say they are then maybe one Veri is all that's needed and only needs added when the person who veried them leaves the site.

However we all know veris are also a very good filtering system, as such many don't like to show them, I wish I could hide my age

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Should site rules be changed so that verifications and the summary will always be shown on profiles- always visible and no option to hide them?

Would this make the site more open and honest?"

Neither should be. It should be up to the person/person's what they display. It's like saying you shoild have to have your face on your profile. It's my profile so i should be the only one to decide what's public and what's not.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I don’t think verifications really matter. Photo veri is cool, yes I know they can be faked but I think the sites good at spotting that most of the time.

Someone being verified or not has no impact on whether I would meet them or not, mutual chemistry or desire is the key.

Would mandatory display improve the site, nah. It could be open to abuse by people falsely verifying with horrible comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Should site rules be changed so that verifications and the summary will always be shown on profiles- always visible and no option to hide them?

Would this make the site more open and honest?"

Yeah, I wanna see who’s nailed carrot lady!

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"It would just result in a lot of people not verifying each other. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Should site rules be changed so that verifications and the summary will always be shown on profiles- always visible and no option to hide them?

Would this make the site more open and honest?

Yeah, I wanna see who’s nailed carrot lady! "

Me too, I’m a nosey ole bint..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would prefer no verification system at all. It’s not used on others sites I use and not a problem. I’ve not verified the last 4 people I’ve met and vice versa. I don’t unless they ask and I will never ask. I’ve had to hide mine after bitter men that I said no to said I fuck ugly people. The people he was referring to were people I had met at socials as only showed social veris. They cause so many problems. "

I'd prefer no verification system too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No! I hid mine the first time I stopped playing, because alot of men thought that, because I had alot of them, that I would be unable to resist them, or I just sounded like they should just try anyway

You must be really strong to resist them. When they start with stuff like that I just can't help myself, I have to shag them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t think verifications really matter. Photo veri is cool, yes I know they can be faked but I think the sites good at spotting that most of the time.

Someone being verified or not has no impact on whether I would meet them or not, mutual chemistry or desire is the key.

Would mandatory display improve the site, nah. It could be open to abuse by people falsely verifying with horrible comments "

Good point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Should site rules be changed so that verifications and the summary will always be shown on profiles- always visible and no option to hide them?

Would this make the site more open and honest?

Yeah, I wanna see who’s nailed carrot lady! "

No idea who she is.....

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