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Your defining characteristic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We are the sum of all our parts, as they say, but what is your dominant characteristic? The one quality that you either prize most about yourself or that is most commented on by others? Or do people frequently mention something about you that you don't personally recognise in yourself?

I feel my defining characteristic is my curiosity, yet other people seem to mention empathy more than anything. I find this hilarious as I'm autistic and I'm apparently not supposed to have any of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would say my dark sense of humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s my unique ability to bring people together, but other people seem to think that Its that I’m an annoying knobhead. Strange how other people view you.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

my strength

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure really but I'd like to think I'm kind and empathetic, but fun and friendly too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Passion, enthusiasm, caring and wisdom are the ones I have heard most, however self-deprecating is the one most associated with me on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my strength"

How much do you lift ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ability to crap without making any noises

No Poseidon kisses either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ability to crap without making any noises

No Poseidon kisses either "

Do you layer the bowl with toilet roll ?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I'm quite an enthusiastic sort - I get really excited about things easily and then waffle on and well... enthuse. A lot. I'm waiting for a friend to tell me what they think though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ability to crap without making any noises

No Poseidon kisses either

Do you layer the bowl with toilet roll ?"

Can't reveal my trick kid

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I said ONE defining characteristic, people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ability to crap without making any noises

No Poseidon kisses either "

But that's the best part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ability to crap without making any noises

No Poseidon kisses either

Do you layer the bowl with toilet roll ?

Can't reveal my trick kid "

Reckon he layers the bowl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I said ONE defining characteristic, people! "

I know but it's hard!

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By *andyladMan
over a year ago

Hereorthere

Dry sarcasm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm quite an enthusiastic sort - I get really excited about things easily and then waffle on and well... enthuse. A lot. I'm waiting for a friend to tell me what they think though. "

You can be slightly annoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My motivational skills. My work mates say they have to work twice as hard when I'm with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My kindness, it’s something everyone comments on x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I said ONE defining characteristic, people!

I know but it's hard!

"

OK, I see that I've set a very challenging task. Everyone can have 'Two Defining Characteristics' instead.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My motivational skills. My work mates say they have to work twice as hard when I'm with them"

Mine is my ability to not pay attention to the question the Op asked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm quite an enthusiastic sort - I get really excited about things easily and then waffle on and well... enthuse. A lot. I'm waiting for a friend to tell me what they think though. "

I think your use of exclamation marks and capital letters is beyond compare....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is I have no filter and never think before I speak , apparently its hilarious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably my collection of wigs.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm quite an enthusiastic sort - I get really excited about things easily and then waffle on and well... enthuse. A lot. I'm waiting for a friend to tell me what they think though.

You can be slightly annoying."

I said a friend James. A friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm quite an enthusiastic sort - I get really excited about things easily and then waffle on and well... enthuse. A lot. I'm waiting for a friend to tell me what they think though.

You can be slightly annoying.

I said a friend James. A friend. "

So annoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brevity..

I mean ,why use many ambiguous and non essential literal phrases and multi syllable words and phases , overwhelming the reader or listener with long drawn out repetative explanatery phrasings when ideologically the compounded meaning can be logically deduced from non- verbattem non-elongated wordings.

Oh..and Irony !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My motivational skills. My work mates say they have to work twice as hard when I'm with them

Mine is my ability to not pay attention to the question the Op asked."

I'll be honest, I didn't read it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My motivational skills. My work mates say they have to work twice as hard when I'm with them

Mine is my ability to not pay attention to the question the Op asked.

I'll be honest, I didn't read it all"

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I think my best quality is being self aware, I know i talk too much so when I know someone is pushed for time I text or email so I don’t keep them back.

If I need to speak to my ex I write down what I need to say so I don’t go off on a tangent and say ‘oh and by the way see 20 yrs ago you....’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ability to crap without making any noises

No Poseidon kisses either "
There's actually a barely audible 'thhhhp' as it curls onto my chest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ability to crap without making any noises

No Poseidon kisses either There's actually a barely audible 'thhhhp' as it curls onto my chest. "

Haha that is disgusting but true

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My motivational skills. My work mates say they have to work twice as hard when I'm with them

Mine is my ability to not pay attention to the question the Op asked.

I'll be honest, I didn't read it all"

You two are not my friends....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My motivational skills. My work mates say they have to work twice as hard when I'm with them

Mine is my ability to not pay attention to the question the Op asked.

I'll be honest, I didn't read it all

You two are not my friends.... "

No, were fab fwends

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By *ust ClareTV/TS
over a year ago

Settlewick!

My erudition

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mine is I have no filter and never think before I speak , apparently its hilarious"

You sound just like me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My kindness, it’s something everyone comments on x "

The very best quality a person can have x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is I have no filter and never think before I speak , apparently its hilarious"

I've been in so much trouble because of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a friends level ... I talk sense and reason

On a meets level ... it was always either the cock or the legs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think my best quality is being self aware, I know i talk too much so when I know someone is pushed for time I text or email so I don’t keep them back.

If I need to speak to my ex I write down what I need to say so I don’t go off on a tangent and say ‘oh and by the way see 20 yrs ago you....’ "

An excellent tactic

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

People tell me I'm tough. What I actually am is ridiculously stubborn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I can't decide on one aspect... my indecisiveness.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

My sense of purpose.

And as a certain forumite would say; that I feel all the feelings.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Positivity I think.

I try to see the positive in any situation

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excellent question Op, glad you asked, it’s probably my scent of hummus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I said ONE defining characteristic, people! "

If it’s only one then I’ll say self-effacing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My erudition"

I'll be needing you for the pub quiz on Tuesday.....

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"Excellent question Op, glad you asked, it’s probably my scent of hubris."

FTFY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My nose

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My sense of purpose.

And as a certain forumite would say; that I feel all the feelings."

Meli?

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"My sense of purpose.

And as a certain forumite would say; that I feel all the feelings.

Meli? "

Tigger indeed

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By *ust ClareTV/TS
over a year ago

Settlewick!


"My erudition

I'll be needing you for the pub quiz on Tuesday..... "

I would if I could

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Excellent question Op, glad you asked, it’s probably my scent of hubris.

FTFY"

Goes lovely with a Caesar salad.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"I think my best quality is being self aware, I know i talk too much so when I know someone is pushed for time I text or email so I don’t keep them back.

If I need to speak to my ex I write down what I need to say so I don’t go off on a tangent and say ‘oh and by the way see 20 yrs ago you....’

An excellent tactic "

Took me many years to learn it but glad I have saves me a lot of hassle and stops me feeding my ex’s narcissistic needs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I said ONE defining characteristic, people!

If it’s only one then I’ll say self-effacing"

I'd agree with that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hm the fact I must have fucking MUG tattoed on my forehead

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"Excellent question Op, glad you asked, it’s probably my scent of hubris.

FTFY

Goes lovely with a Caesar salad."

Et tu, Brute?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hm the fact I must have fucking MUG tattoed on my forehead"

Oh no! That really isn't your defining characteristic. That's you feeling raw, which will pass x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"My sense of purpose.

And as a certain forumite would say; that I feel all the feelings.

Meli? "

I'm touched I'm mentioned (ego) and that you knew it was me Nell! I might change mine to egotistical.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

ive changed.mine to self awareness

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My sense of purpose.

And as a certain forumite would say; that I feel all the feelings.

Meli?

I'm touched I'm mentioned (ego) and that you knew it was me Nell! I might change mine to egotistical."

I know your voice xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"ive changed.mine to self awareness"

Is that even allowed? *goes to check rule book*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hm the fact I must have fucking MUG tattoed on my forehead

Oh no! That really isn't your defining characteristic. That's you feeling raw, which will pass x"

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay, my oldest fab friend said I'm considerate and quirky. Which I can cope with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I said ONE defining characteristic, people!

If it’s only one then I’ll say self-effacing

I'd agree with that x"

I’m not sure that’s a good thing or not. I think modesty and humility can be good, but being self-effacing and self-deprecating is more of an overdone strength

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Excellent question Op, glad you asked, it’s probably my scent of hubris.

FTFY

Goes lovely with a Caesar salad.

Et tu, Brute? "

Yeah, him too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Okay, my oldest fab friend said I'm considerate and quirky. Which I can cope with. "

Lovely qualities. Individuality should be celebrated x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Excellent question Op, glad you asked, it’s probably my scent of hummus."

Right, answer the question GingerBalls! You've posted more than anyone else on this thread without actually answering properly at all....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Excellent question Op, glad you asked, it’s probably my scent of hummus.

Right, answer the question GingerBalls! You've posted more than anyone else on this thread without actually answering properly at all.... "

Its cause I’m annoying, BumChin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK I think iv got it, I talk too much and never think before I speak. I gets me into trouble but can also be hilarious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OK I think iv got it, I talk too much and never think before I speak. I gets me into trouble but can also be hilarious. "

You're one of my tribe x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a hopeless romantic underneath a cynical exterior. I wear my heart on my sleeve.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

My energy. Im always on the go and walk fast with big strides.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK I think iv got it, I talk too much and never think before I speak. I gets me into trouble but can also be hilarious.

You're one of my tribe x"

Yep and like you said in your OP others say I'm empathetic and considerate but we are not to be when austistic, just goes to show a diagnosis doesn't define us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My energy. Im always on the go and walk fast with big strides. "

Iv only got 26in legs, I couldn't do long strides if I tried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stubbornness.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"My energy. Im always on the go and walk fast with big strides.

Iv only got 26in legs, I couldn't do long strides if I tried. "

I overtake the joggers in the park

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I love telling and listening to people’s stories. I guess I’m nosy lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stubbornness, there's absolutely no question about that.

See what I did there

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Lack of confidence..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is I have no filter and never think before I speak , apparently its hilarious

You sound just like me "

Do you spend most of your day apologising or just throw a blanket apology out first thing in the morning lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are the sum of all our parts, as they say, but what is your dominant characteristic? The one quality that you either prize most about yourself or that is most commented on by others? Or do people frequently mention something about you that you don't personally recognise in yourself?

I feel my defining characteristic is my curiosity, yet other people seem to mention empathy more than anything. I find this hilarious as I'm autistic and I'm apparently not supposed to have any of that "

You strike me as being quite empathetic. Not sure what mine is... Honesty maybe?

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

I've often been called a complete 'thanker'

I guess I must say thank you a lot?...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Humility

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I way too much of a mixed bag to nail do one.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

Most would say it’s that I’m a bit of a knobhead.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We are both musically very capable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Consistently stable

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

People comment on how nurturing I am

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

my confidence in myself

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

I think it’s my warm nature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Principled.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Apparently I’m low key!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People often say how easygoing i am, where as i see myself more as a bungling nitwit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My weirdness and equisitivness

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

My Wisdom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people say its the way I look after people. I like to spoil those nearest and dearest to me, with affection, looking after them etc. My family say stop fussing we will sort ourselves out but I can't help it. My fwb says I spoil him too. And even my pooch is pampered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Caring

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My Wisdom"

I was just going to say that very same thing about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say I like how compassionate I am most of all. Most people I've met would say I'm a happy bunny and easy going!

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"My Wisdom

I was just going to say that very same thing about you "

How very empathetic of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My inner passion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Empathy, I can read peoples emotions and thoughts like a book.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel my defining characteristic is my curiosity, yet other people seem to mention empathy more than anything. I find this hilarious as I'm autistic and I'm apparently not supposed to have any of that "

You have a will to feel what other people feel perhaps because you have been told you can't. I know a lot of people who claim to empathise but only feel themselves.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Oh! Did Nell go?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It looks like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine physically is my red hair and personality is that im so calm and laid back.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

My mum said i was very compassionate the other day. My mum very rarely gives compliments so i was quite suprised by that.

Physically it’s my height. Folk always comment on it, it’s a conversation starter in many a queue!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My mum said i was very compassionate the other day. My mum very rarely gives compliments so i was quite suprised by that.

Physically it’s my height. Folk always comment on it, it’s a conversation starter in many a queue! "

I'd comment on your pretty face !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh! Did Nell go? "

Yes

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Oh! Did Nell go?

Yes "

Noooooooooo.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"My mum said i was very compassionate the other day. My mum very rarely gives compliments so i was quite suprised by that.

Physically it’s my height. Folk always comment on it, it’s a conversation starter in many a queue!

I'd comment on your pretty face ! "

I’d let you lick it!

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By *hesterXXXMan
over a year ago

in your dreams

I try too hard.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I try too hard."

Better than not trying at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ability to balls things up without even trying..its a gift

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"My ability to balls things up without even trying..its a gift "

I have only just learnt to juggle all the balls I have up in the air

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By *uxomBloomsWoman
over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells


"Brevity..

I mean ,why use many ambiguous and non essential literal phrases and multi syllable words and phases , overwhelming the reader or listener with long drawn out repetative explanatery phrasings when ideologically the compounded meaning can be logically deduced from non- verbattem non-elongated wordings.

Oh..and Irony ! "

Made me laugh a lot...

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By *uxomBloomsWoman
over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells

I'm told I light up a room when I'm in it.

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