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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve been on here on and off for a good 8 years and I have always used this site as an in between as such. I’ve never been an introvert however I’m not overly confident.

My problem is lately is I feel so old and past it, I don’t know how to explain it I just feel so un confident and nothing I do makes me feel sexually attractive, I compare myself constantly to others and I feel so un sexy, I look and think OMG she’s so gorgeous her underwear her hair her shoes etc, it’s getting to a point where I put myself down constantly.

To the point where if I have a message off a man whom I’m attracted to that if I look at his veris and he’s met stunning woman then I’m just a pity fuck or similar. It’s really getting to me lately. Does anyone else have problems with confidence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I’ve been on here on and off for a good 8 years and I have always used this site as an in between as such. I’ve never been an introvert however I’m not overly confident.

My problem is lately is I feel so old and past it, I don’t know how to explain it I just feel so un confident and nothing I do makes me feel sexually attractive, I compare myself constantly to others and I feel so un sexy, I look and think OMG she’s so gorgeous her underwear her hair her shoes etc, it’s getting to a point where I put myself down constantly.

To the point where if I have a message off a man whom I’m attracted to that if I look at his veris and he’s met stunning woman then I’m just a pity fuck or similar. It’s really getting to me lately. Does anyone else have problems with confidence?"

I think everyone has some confidence issues. But age is nothing but a number I love women of all ages. Your dp looks like you have a nice body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, but they are in my head, not on Fab

Fab merely offers an extension for your view of yourself

We see what we want to see

Negativity breeds

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, but they are in my head, not on Fab

Fab merely offers an extension for your view of yourself

We see what we want to see

Negativity breeds"

I hear what you say buy it’s hard to be positive always when your brains conditioned to think otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This place isn't the most ideal for those with confidence concerns, unless you have great mates.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I’ve been on here on and off for a good 8 years and I have always used this site as an in between as such. I’ve never been an introvert however I’m not overly confident.

My problem is lately is I feel so old and past it, I don’t know how to explain it I just feel so un confident and nothing I do makes me feel sexually attractive, I compare myself constantly to others and I feel so un sexy, I look and think OMG she’s so gorgeous her underwear her hair her shoes etc, it’s getting to a point where I put myself down constantly.

To the point where if I have a message off a man whom I’m attracted to that if I look at his veris and he’s met stunning woman then I’m just a pity fuck or similar. It’s really getting to me lately. Does anyone else have problems with confidence?

I think everyone has some confidence issues. But age is nothing but a number I love women of all ages. Your dp looks like you have a nice body. "

Maybe this is my point. I see my flaws my inner bad points but look at others in 2D as such.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This place isn't the most ideal for those with confidence concerns, unless you have great mates..... "

I agree. I’ve came off FB for a while as it can be a trigger when I’m feeling low.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I’ve been on here on and off for a good 8 years and I have always used this site as an in between as such. I’ve never been an introvert however I’m not overly confident.

My problem is lately is I feel so old and past it, I don’t know how to explain it I just feel so un confident and nothing I do makes me feel sexually attractive, I compare myself constantly to others and I feel so un sexy, I look and think OMG she’s so gorgeous her underwear her hair her shoes etc, it’s getting to a point where I put myself down constantly.

To the point where if I have a message off a man whom I’m attracted to that if I look at his veris and he’s met stunning woman then I’m just a pity fuck or similar. It’s really getting to me lately. Does anyone else have problems with confidence?

I think everyone has some confidence issues. But age is nothing but a number I love women of all ages. Your dp looks like you have a nice body.

Maybe this is my point. I see my flaws my inner bad points but look at others in 2D as such. "

From the outside looking in it’s hard to see. We all have bad points obviously some of us are bothered more than others. It’s hard to be on such a site when you feel the way you do because as you say you’ve decided you’re a pitty fuck straight away x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noooo.. I found my confidence at 40.. you have to find comfort in your own skin OP. We are all different and that's what attracts others.. think of what attracts you.. then turn that round. Imperfections are beauty

Saff

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I’ve been on here on and off for a good 8 years and I have always used this site as an in between as such. I’ve never been an introvert however I’m not overly confident.

My problem is lately is I feel so old and past it, I don’t know how to explain it I just feel so un confident and nothing I do makes me feel sexually attractive, I compare myself constantly to others and I feel so un sexy, I look and think OMG she’s so gorgeous her underwear her hair her shoes etc, it’s getting to a point where I put myself down constantly.

To the point where if I have a message off a man whom I’m attracted to that if I look at his veris and he’s met stunning woman then I’m just a pity fuck or similar. It’s really getting to me lately. Does anyone else have problems with confidence?

I think everyone has some confidence issues. But age is nothing but a number I love women of all ages. Your dp looks like you have a nice body.

Maybe this is my point. I see my flaws my inner bad points but look at others in 2D as such.

From the outside looking in it’s hard to see. We all have bad points obviously some of us are bothered more than others. It’s hard to be on such a site when you feel the way you do because as you say you’ve decided you’re a pitty fuck straight away x "

I didn’t say I decided straight away! I’m writing this debating about it mentally. I’m being mindful of how I am perceived.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I’ve been on here on and off for a good 8 years and I have always used this site as an in between as such. I’ve never been an introvert however I’m not overly confident.

My problem is lately is I feel so old and past it, I don’t know how to explain it I just feel so un confident and nothing I do makes me feel sexually attractive, I compare myself constantly to others and I feel so un sexy, I look and think OMG she’s so gorgeous her underwear her hair her shoes etc, it’s getting to a point where I put myself down constantly.

To the point where if I have a message off a man whom I’m attracted to that if I look at his veris and he’s met stunning woman then I’m just a pity fuck or similar. It’s really getting to me lately. Does anyone else have problems with confidence?

I think everyone has some confidence issues. But age is nothing but a number I love women of all ages. Your dp looks like you have a nice body.

Maybe this is my point. I see my flaws my inner bad points but look at others in 2D as such.

From the outside looking in it’s hard to see. We all have bad points obviously some of us are bothered more than others. It’s hard to be on such a site when you feel the way you do because as you say you’ve decided you’re a pitty fuck straight away x

I didn’t say I decided straight away! I’m writing this debating about it mentally. I’m being mindful of how I am perceived. "

Oh sorry I misread it. The mind can be a hard thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I’ve been on here on and off for a good 8 years and I have always used this site as an in between as such. I’ve never been an introvert however I’m not overly confident.

My problem is lately is I feel so old and past it, I don’t know how to explain it I just feel so un confident and nothing I do makes me feel sexually attractive, I compare myself constantly to others and I feel so un sexy, I look and think OMG she’s so gorgeous her underwear her hair her shoes etc, it’s getting to a point where I put myself down constantly.

To the point where if I have a message off a man whom I’m attracted to that if I look at his veris and he’s met stunning woman then I’m just a pity fuck or similar. It’s really getting to me lately. Does anyone else have problems with confidence?

I think everyone has some confidence issues. But age is nothing but a number I love women of all ages. Your dp looks like you have a nice body.

Maybe this is my point. I see my flaws my inner bad points but look at others in 2D as such.

From the outside looking in it’s hard to see. We all have bad points obviously some of us are bothered more than others. It’s hard to be on such a site when you feel the way you do because as you say you’ve decided you’re a pitty fuck straight away x

I didn’t say I decided straight away! I’m writing this debating about it mentally. I’m being mindful of how I am perceived.

Oh sorry I misread it. The mind can be a hard thing. "

It’s ok, as I said it’s all about my own mind. People message and say you look amazing for your age !!! I’m like wtf! I’m only 40. But apparently your over it at 40 ;(

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, but they are in my head, not on Fab

Fab merely offers an extension for your view of yourself

We see what we want to see

Negativity breeds

I hear what you say buy it’s hard to be positive always when your brains conditioned to think otherwise. "

Thing is, it's you that is doing the comparing, not the guys you meet, not those they have met

It's not healthy

So, going forward look at what gives you confidence, what can you improve, what can't you change, what can you learn to love

Concentrate on what you CAN change, not what you can't

Your confidence won't be found in others, only in yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I turn forty in a few weeks myself and while I have never ever thought of myself as gods gift to men, just lately I’ve had a real knock of confidence and for no real reason, no one has said or done anything and Doughnut always tells me I’m beautiful etc but I still don’t feel it.

I look at ladies photos on here and see their bodies in their sexy clothes and think ‘no one would find me attractive’, if I didn’t have doughnut I feel like I wouldn’t have anyone because my confidence is that low.

I’m hoping it will pass as it’s kind of impacting on our life on here as every other woman is more beautiful than I am and meeting another woman right now scares the shit out of me because I know I’m going to look like an overweight goat next to her x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Yes, but they are in my head, not on Fab

Fab merely offers an extension for your view of yourself

We see what we want to see

Negativity breeds

I hear what you say buy it’s hard to be positive always when your brains conditioned to think otherwise. "

Something to work on in your own way. That sounds flippant, but I've walked that road.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, but they are in my head, not on Fab

Fab merely offers an extension for your view of yourself

We see what we want to see

Negativity breeds

I hear what you say buy it’s hard to be positive always when your brains conditioned to think otherwise.

Thing is, it's you that is doing the comparing, not the guys you meet, not those they have met

It's not healthy

So, going forward look at what gives you confidence, what can you improve, what can't you change, what can you learn to love

Concentrate on what you CAN change, not what you can't

Your confidence won't be found in others, only in yourself "

I get you, I really do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, but they are in my head, not on Fab

Fab merely offers an extension for your view of yourself

We see what we want to see

Negativity breeds

I hear what you say buy it’s hard to be positive always when your brains conditioned to think otherwise.

Something to work on in your own way. That sounds flippant, but I've walked that road. "

I know. I’ve walked the same road myself,but previously I don’t think I’ve reached my destination.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"

I’ve been on here on and off for a good 8 years and I have always used this site as an in between as such. I’ve never been an introvert however I’m not overly confident.

My problem is lately is I feel so old and past it, I don’t know how to explain it I just feel so un confident and nothing I do makes me feel sexually attractive, I compare myself constantly to others and I feel so un sexy, I look and think OMG she’s so gorgeous her underwear her hair her shoes etc, it’s getting to a point where I put myself down constantly.

To the point where if I have a message off a man whom I’m attracted to that if I look at his veris and he’s met stunning woman then I’m just a pity fuck or similar. It’s really getting to me lately. Does anyone else have problems with confidence?

I think everyone has some confidence issues. But age is nothing but a number I love women of all ages. Your dp looks like you have a nice body.

Maybe this is my point. I see my flaws my inner bad points but look at others in 2D as such.

From the outside looking in it’s hard to see. We all have bad points obviously some of us are bothered more than others. It’s hard to be on such a site when you feel the way you do because as you say you’ve decided you’re a pitty fuck straight away x

I didn’t say I decided straight away! I’m writing this debating about it mentally. I’m being mindful of how I am perceived.

Oh sorry I misread it. The mind can be a hard thing.

It’s ok, as I said it’s all about my own mind. People message and say you look amazing for your age !!! I’m like wtf! I’m only 40. But apparently your over it at 40 ;("

I'm 22 years older than you and you ARE NOT over it at 40. When people say you look amazing for your age it's a compliment. If you're taking compliments negatively you need to take a bit of a rest from putting yourself in a position where your self esteem can be damaged.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I’ve been on here on and off for a good 8 years and I have always used this site as an in between as such. I’ve never been an introvert however I’m not overly confident.

My problem is lately is I feel so old and past it, I don’t know how to explain it I just feel so un confident and nothing I do makes me feel sexually attractive, I compare myself constantly to others and I feel so un sexy, I look and think OMG she’s so gorgeous her underwear her hair her shoes etc, it’s getting to a point where I put myself down constantly.

To the point where if I have a message off a man whom I’m attracted to that if I look at his veris and he’s met stunning woman then I’m just a pity fuck or similar. It’s really getting to me lately. Does anyone else have problems with confidence?

I think everyone has some confidence issues. But age is nothing but a number I love women of all ages. Your dp looks like you have a nice body.

Maybe this is my point. I see my flaws my inner bad points but look at others in 2D as such.

From the outside looking in it’s hard to see. We all have bad points obviously some of us are bothered more than others. It’s hard to be on such a site when you feel the way you do because as you say you’ve decided you’re a pitty fuck straight away x

I didn’t say I decided straight away! I’m writing this debating about it mentally. I’m being mindful of how I am perceived.

Oh sorry I misread it. The mind can be a hard thing.

It’s ok, as I said it’s all about my own mind. People message and say you look amazing for your age !!! I’m like wtf! I’m only 40. But apparently your over it at 40 ;(

I'm 22 years older than you and you ARE NOT over it at 40. When people say you look amazing for your age it's a compliment. If you're taking compliments negatively you need to take a bit of a rest from putting yourself in a position where your self esteem can be damaged."

I agree and thankyou. I do have bad self confidence issues both mentally and physically, I need to address them and I’ve known for a while my triggers are there and I need to now do something. X

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"

It’s ok, as I said it’s all about my own mind. People message and say you look amazing for your age !!! I’m like wtf! I’m only 40. But apparently your over it at 40 ;(

I'm 22 years older than you and you ARE NOT over it at 40. When people say you look amazing for your age it's a compliment. If you're taking compliments negatively you need to take a bit of a rest from putting yourself in a position where your self esteem can be damaged.

I agree and thankyou. I do have bad self confidence issues both mentally and physically, I need to address them and I’ve known for a while my triggers are there and I need to now do something. X"

I can only suggest that you protect your self from situations that will make things worse and wish you well

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