FabSwingers.com forum: I don't get it about hotlists

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am I the only one who doesn't use hotlists?

I just don't understand them at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have absolutely no one on mine!

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I use it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stalking innit, and for ppl you hate.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's to get?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use it...."

Is it wrong that my girls bestie is on mine....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use it....

Is it wrong that my girls bestie is on mine....

People will talk...

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I use it for people I notice in the forums. Perve before I message and then hopefully go to friends list x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use it....

Is it wrong that my girls bestie is on mine....

People will talk...

See above rules, innit.... ...stalk/hate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive got one in mine

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Am I the only one who doesn't use hotlists?

I just don't understand them at all."

No kid your not, I don't use it......I've no idea what it,s for or achieves tbh....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use it for people I notice in the forums. Perve before I message and then hopefully go to friends list x"

I'm similar. It's a great way of keeping track of the forum posts of a few interesting and witty members.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I need to cull a few from mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have anyone on mine but lot of men (not my friends) tell me I'm on theirs

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

"I use it....

Is it wrong that my girls bestie is on mine....

YES!!!!

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

"I use it....

Is it wrong that my girls bestie is on mine....

People will talk...

See above rules, innit.... ...stalk/hate

Omfg!!! You hate me???

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

We use it to remember people we have not met but would like to.

So when we get a free night we can see if our availability matches.

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By *abby McFabfaceMan
over a year ago

Somerset

Being honest (and a little sad) I use mine for people who I like to follow. Like Instagram for my perving

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"We use it to remember people we have not met but would like to.

So when we get a free night we can see if our availability matches. "

Arhhhhh good idea....

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

We use ours for party/club profiles so they’re easier to separate from others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use mine to remind myself to stay humble.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Just for looking. Respectfully of course

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I use it....

Is it wrong that my girls bestie is on mine....

Are you stalking her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to use it when I'm looking, I add the ones I like or that catch my eye.

Then I go back over them more thoroughly to check if there are bits I've missed non smokers age (looking for Jason Momoa look a likes or looking for 10 foot cocks).

And start removing said unsuitable profiles.

I'm left with a few choice profiles to message which would probably suit me more.

I sometimes add some of the new joiners that catch my eye and if they finally add some pictures or a decent profile I re check if I still mett their new criteria.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

From what I've read, I certainly don't like the thought of being on a hotlist without me knowing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have someone on our hotlist and it's not because we think they are hot

Holly

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I have several on mine now that are there because I like their style of photos. One or two I can’t recall putting there and a few because I would like to get to know them a little bit better.

I only have one real hottie these days though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi everyone. New here

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

"From what I've read, I certainly don't like the thought of being on a hotlist without me knowing."

I’ve just checked for you buddy. Don’t worry your not

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Don't use mine either....wouldn't mind knowing if I've made it into anyone's hotlist tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have several men on my hot list who I chat to regularly.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I use it for people I notice in the forums. Perve before I message and then hopefully go to friends list x"

Same here

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

My hotlist is also a not list. I use the notes facility.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From what I've read, I certainly don't like the thought of being on a hotlist without me knowing.

I’ve just checked for you buddy. Don’t worry your not

I think that if anyone was to be put on someone's hotlist, they must be given a notification showing who has hotlisted them rather than just be hotlisted without their knowledge or permission.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi everyone. New here"

Hello.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From what I've read, I certainly don't like the thought of being on a hotlist without me knowing."

Don't worry about it. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

???? Help lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From what I've read, I certainly don't like the thought of being on a hotlist without me knowing.

Don't worry about it. X"

I'm sure it's nothing to lose sleep over lol

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"???? Help lol"

Are you trapped?

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

For profiles you like but will never be friends with.

You can like their pics etc, you dont have to friend list and meet everyone you like, so you can just hotlist and follow their public stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From what I've read, I certainly don't like the thought of being on a hotlist without me knowing.

Don't worry about it. X

I'm sure it's nothing to lose sleep over lol"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For profiles you like but will never be friends with.

You can like their pics etc, you dont have to friend list and meet everyone you like, so you can just hotlist and follow their public stuff."

If that's the case then I'll not bother as I don't feel comfortable adding people to a list without their knowledge or permission.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have never used it never felt the need to

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"For profiles you like but will never be friends with.

You can like their pics etc, you dont have to friend list and meet everyone you like, so you can just hotlist and follow their public stuff.

If that's the case then I'll not bother as I don't feel comfortable adding people to a list without their knowledge or permission."

If anyone cared that much they wouldn't be here. Everyone knows the hotlist function exists.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"For profiles you like but will never be friends with.

You can like their pics etc, you dont have to friend list and meet everyone you like, so you can just hotlist and follow their public stuff.

If that's the case then I'll not bother as I don't feel comfortable adding people to a list without their knowledge or permission."

So ask or tell them then x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For profiles you like but will never be friends with.

You can like their pics etc, you dont have to friend list and meet everyone you like, so you can just hotlist and follow their public stuff.

If that's the case then I'll not bother as I don't feel comfortable adding people to a list without their knowledge or permission.

So ask or tell them then x"

I would but I can't help but doubt they would want to respond to a message asking if they would want to be added to my hotlist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a good function.

Having a foot fetish, I can keep all my ladies locked away in that compartment, and bring them out to perv at whenever I like!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is made up of the people I have played with

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

If i see someone attractive but they live opposite end of country I'll hotlist for a perv when they upload new pics or certain ppl who do events I don't need to add as a friend to keep up and see what's what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I add people once in a while ...realise i never look anyway then delete

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

"If i see someone attractive but they live opposite end of country I'll hotlist for a perv when they upload new pics or certain ppl who do events I don't need to add as a friend to keep up and see what's what "

You're on my hotlist Darlo

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

You're on my hotlist Darlo

Ooh why thank you

You'll make me blush

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By *oanne_MacTV/TS
over a year ago

Perth

"Am I the only one who doesn't use hotlists?

I just don't understand them at all."

You should definately have one, and definately call it Spindlers list

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Am I the only one who doesn't use hotlists?

I just don't understand them at all.

You should definately have one, and definately call it Spindlers list

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It ends up being a list of people you want to fuck but never will haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What I also have a problem with this is that there's no way you can tell who's hotlist your on or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I would get into it and start adding people but I can't help but feel like I'd be invading someone's privacy or that could be just the anxiety talking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to list people who continually add pics I think are hot. But I get bored very quickly and delete them within a day or 2.

No one on there currently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Purely torso and suit pics on mine haha. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have several on mine now that are there because I like their style of photos. One or two I can’t recall putting there and a few because I would like to get to know them a little bit better.

I only have one real hottie these days though

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Aww thanks!

(You didn't mean me but I can dream...)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hotlist contains silver foxes who I like to drool over on a daily basis and two females whose bosoms I also drool over

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

"I would get into it and start adding people but I can't help but feel like I'd be invading someone's privacy or that could be just the anxiety talking."

You would be invading their privacy no more than looking at their profile does.

If the profile is open to you then you have implied consent anyway. I really wouldn’t worry about these things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would get into it and start adding people but I can't help but feel like I'd be invading someone's privacy or that could be just the anxiety talking.

You would be invading their privacy no more than looking at their profile does.

If the profile is open to you then you have implied consent anyway. I really wouldn’t worry about these things. "

I am trying not to. Perhaps it stems from my past social anxieties of fearing people wouldn't want to talk to me or would tell me to go away if I was to approach them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My hotlist contains silver foxes who I like to drool over on a daily basis and two females whose bosoms I also drool over

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Ooooo am I on it?!!

You're on mine! (And friends!) X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a hot list or a friends list

I don't have a block list - there's only one mitherer on it

Can you have a list of 1?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would it be better if there was some indication that you were hotlisted in the same way as who's fabbed your pic in your updates?

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By *Cocksucker84Man
over a year ago

newcastle

I use it to perv. Or if someones shown interest that I've been attracted to and then bailed last minute I give them a second chance by adding to hotlist and then adding a note so that a) if I think they're hot I use cautious optimism just in case and b) I can still check them out for a bit before deciding if they actually just need to be blocked. Also have a few blokes who I know would never meet but who I think are just beautiful to look at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as you message em .. they're not on your hotlist anymore rather you are on their block list haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you’re not. I don’t either. I don’t see the point as the person doesn’t know

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No you’re not. I don’t either. I don’t see the point as the person doesn’t know "

Exactly. What is the point of it if you can't know who's added you to their hotlist?

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

My hotlist is just people I like to perv over. It’s my digital wank bank I guess you could say

Lex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My hotlist is just people I like to perv over. It’s my digital wank bank I guess you could say

Lex"
Exactly Lex. That's why you're on mine! Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to keep an eye on the new pictures and updates posted by the gorgeous ladies here.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We use it for putting people on that we want to show each other later.

It’s like a holding net for potential playmates.

If the other says no, they’re off the hotlist.

Useful for stalking as well...

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"No you’re not. I don’t either. I don’t see the point as the person doesn’t know

Exactly. What is the point of it if you can't know who's added you to their hotlist?"

How many times can you say the same thing in a thread.

If your approach was taken I'm sure some would stop using the hotlist on here and make their own list on their phones notes function or a piece of paper.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No you’re not. I don’t either. I don’t see the point as the person doesn’t know

Exactly. What is the point of it if you can't know who's added you to their hotlist?

How many times can you say the same thing in a thread.

If your approach was taken I'm sure some would stop using the hotlist on here and make their own list on their phones notes function or a piece of paper.

I never said that everyone should stop using it. If you want to use the hotlist, go ahead.

It's just I've been overcoming social anxieties over the past two years and for some reason still have trouble with certain approaches.

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

I've actually put someone in my hotlist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've actually put someone in my hotlist

Me too but because I love your radiator

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Thank you kindly....B&Q reduced section as there wasn't any wall brackets with it so got it dirt cheap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use it for people I notice in the forums. Perve before I message and then hopefully go to friends list x"

I use it in the same way, you’re on mine

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

I use mine as a not list. There are only a few people on there, those who regularly host large bareback gangbang meets. I use it so that I get notifications of who’s verified them after these meets so I can block them.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

"Am I the only one who doesn't use hotlists?

I just don't understand them at all."

I use the feature and put all the women I'm interested in there.

Saves me doing multiple searches. Also if they are not interested, I take them out.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I've actually put someone in my hotlist

Stopit you'll make me blush...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly feel as if I am lol I'm having absolutely no luck here I need guidance ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use it if I find an interesting person but inspiration for a decent message hasn't struck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess everyone has a different use for hotlists if they use them at all OP.

I use them to earmark those I might contact in future and for those who take good photos.

There's no right or wrong use or anything to get as such.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive got one in mine

Lucky individual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I add people that I’m talking to but not ready to add as a friend yet.

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