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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So in response to the recent threads about ladies (presuming this) who don't take the time to read/respond to messages they have been sent, I was just wondering how many messages approximately men send in total per day?

Wondering if the amount of messages sent affects frustration? Maybe a more laid back approach might make your time here on fab more enjoyable??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I imagine lot of them are template messages so copy and paste surely doesn't take up much time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I probably send about 5 a day. Sometimes I get replies or a social and sometimes I don't get a reply at all. That's life. I might not be someone's cup of tea or other times I might be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously are you for real I wasn't complaining at all I was just stating that it would be polite and personally I send about 5 a day and the rest are of what I received a personally I personalize them to the profile I message but if we are having digs most women's profiles are blank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the guys who tend to complain are the ones who take the scatter gun approach and just mail every woman nearby with a quick hello or a copy and paste message.

The ones who take time to find those who they might actually be compatible with and send a well thought out message get less disappointment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Seriously are you for real I wasn't complaining at all I was just stating that it would be polite and personally I send about 5 a day and the rest are of what I received a personally I personalize them to the profile I message but if we are having digs most women's profiles are blank"

Read again ... I didn't say you were complaining

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seriously are you for real I wasn't complaining at all I was just stating that it would be polite and personally I send about 5 a day and the rest are of what I received a personally I personalize them to the profile I message but if we are having digs most women's profiles are blank"

How on earth did you take the OP'S post as a personal attack? She just asked a general question about sending mail

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds


"So in response to the recent threads about ladies (presuming this) who don't take the time to read/respond to messages they have been sent, I was just wondering how many messages approximately men send in total per day?

Wondering if the amount of messages sent affects frustration? Maybe a more laid back approach might make your time here on fab more enjoyable?? "

I send messages if I want to chat more. Dont quantify but if no reply i just take it she is busy or doesn't want to reply or is masturbating thinking about me. People are too hung up waiting for replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I probably send about 5 a day. Sometimes I get replies or a social and sometimes I don't get a reply at all. That's life. I might not be someone's cup of tea or other times I might be"

Oooo cup of tea strong 2 sugars please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I probably send about 5 a day. Sometimes I get replies or a social and sometimes I don't get a reply at all. That's life. I might not be someone's cup of tea or other times I might be

Oooo cup of tea strong 2 sugars please "

You look far too sweet for 2 sugars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10,312 each day, get plenty of replies but don't have time to read them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None really, i reply if i receive one thats about as far as it goes. Ive someone really catches my eye i may message and certainly dont 'template'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of the blue messages a very rarely.

Forum related messages - depending on my activity but up-to 4 or 5 a day.

I understand that women/couples get inundate with messages so rather than get lost in the avalanche I personally prefer not to message, unless I have something specific or relevant to say.

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

It varies a lot. On the odd occassion that I come across a local profile that seems that they might be interested I may send an opening message, however, typically I only respond to those who contact me and have said something interesting, which is fairly rare.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Usually none. There isn't anyone local to send to so no point. I don't include forum based interactions in this. Actually putting a message out there to see if there's any interest? I may have sent 3 in about 6 years.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

None i will reply to messages i get if I'm of interest to any of you , as I'm shure all the females on here get bombarded with loads of messages, if they want me they will find me, I'm only one message away to the right female ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe one to someone new, most days none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, if I send more than one opening message every few months, it's a miracle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually I send around 78 and get around 53 replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see someone i like their profile i will send a message. No templates a message shape by their profile to hopefully get interest... in the main they fail.

One or two message to someone new per week... mainly here for the people i already know and speak to..

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"So in response to the recent threads about ladies (presuming this) who don't take the time to read/respond to messages they have been sent, I was just wondering how many messages approximately men send in total per day?

Wondering if the amount of messages sent affects frustration? Maybe a more laid back approach might make your time here on fab more enjoyable?? "

It depends on my mood for the day. If I suffer a self esteem collapse then I wont message anybody. Otherwise I only really message people when they've signed up to the forum games that periodically occur. I seldom message anybody off of my own back, more to protect my state of mind than anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally don't bother anymore. I might send a message once in a blue moon. Sometimes I get a 'not for me', most of the time I get blanked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might send a couple of first messages to women or couples every few days. I most often just respond to messages these days. However recently I’ve started to be proactive again as I’m finally looking to meet again after a 5 year sabbatical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A day? I've not sent the first message in quite some time now. When I do it's usually ignored.

I find women and couples know exactly the type of person they're looking for. So I try to write my profile in a way that grabs someone's attention for being a bit different.

This week I've been messaged first by a couple and two women, all localish and not forum related at all apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I generally don't bother anymore. I might send a message once in a blue moon. Sometimes I get a 'not for me', most of the time I get blanked."

I hear you with that. I just decided to use the site to see if there is any worthwhile events happening at Pandora's to go to where I won't be sat on my todd all night, and maybe make some online friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None, happy to chat on the forums and if I take a ladies fancy and then drop me a message or wink then I will reply. There is a very fine line between proactive and needy. Someone being 'needy' is one of my biggest turn offs, so I keep well away from crossing that line myself.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I think the guys who tend to complain are the ones who take the scatter gun approach and just mail every woman nearby with a quick hello or a copy and paste message.

The ones who take time to find those who they might actually be compatible with and send a well thought out message get less disappointment. "

Exactly this

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING


"None really, i reply if i receive one thats about as far as it goes. Ive someone really catches my eye i may message and certainly dont 'template'. "
same here, to be honest I'm not sure if I could template even if I wanted to.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Messages to people I know and am interacting with or through the forums - I have no idea how many per day, and it may depend on various factors.

Cold messages to people I don't know? I've sent 6 in 3 years and honestly can't remember the last time I did that but at least a year ago

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By *illingVicMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

I think I’ve sent about five total since I joined a year ago, not counting things generated from forum threads. I’m not picky, I’m shy with poor self image - I’m just here to chat crap on the forums and socialise with like minded individuals!!

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I now rarely send any outside the forums. I like the female species to message me first

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So apparently no one sends messages on fab...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I’ve sent about five total since I joined a year ago, not counting things generated from forum threads. I’m not picky, I’m shy with poor self image - I’m just here to chat crap on the forums and socialise with like minded individuals!!"

Same why join the rat race

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was meant to be laughing faces

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"So apparently no one sends messages on fab... "

God knows where they are all coming from then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I started I pobably sent @20 a day, based on the recipients profile. Now I rarely message at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"????????"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely send first messages.

I also have tried to be as laid back as possible because I know I'm competing in a pool of monster cocks, tight six packs and genuinely single men.

I am a bit of an oddity anyway so I appeal to very few. I do connect sometimes and have met some lovely people, but I do feel that Fab is something I spectate, rather than participate.

Whenever I know I have free time and likely to be available I may send the occasional message, but I know my success rate will be low.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So apparently no one sends messages on fab... "

Not the majority of forum using men, I suspect we're a breed apart from wider fab. Paying attention to the things that wind people up.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Seriously are you for real I wasn't complaining at all I was just stating that it would be polite and personally I send about 5 a day and the rest are of what I received a personally I personalize them to the profile I message but if we are having digs most women's profiles are blank"

There far more blank male profiles lol.

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By *illingVicMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"So apparently no one sends messages on fab...

God knows where they are all coming from then "

I’d imagine the chaps that do all the spamming are too busy copy-pasting to visit the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I imagine lot of them are template messages so copy and paste surely doesn't take up much time."

Oh come on do you really believe that ? Or is it based on some bad experiences?

I probably send one ever 2 weeks, and that's usually forum related.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the guys who tend to complain are the ones who take the scatter gun approach and just mail every woman nearby with a quick hello or a copy and paste message.

The ones who take time to find those who they might actually be compatible with and send a well thought out message get less disappointment. "

I'd say that's a pretty fair analysis.

I might go several days or even weeks without sending a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any guys actually had any luck with the scattergun approach?

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....


"10,312 each day, get plenty of replies but don't have time to read them "
made me giggle x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any guys actually had any luck with the scattergun approach?"

Balance of probability I would imagine yes. I had a mate who use to go clubbing and ask as many women if they fancied a fuck until one said yes and that was him for the night, some of the rejections were funny to watch. I wouldn't have the bollocks to do that though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely. Might send a few if I'm working away, but never any locally

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I reply and chat to friends. But don’t send that many messages to new people I’ve seen. I’m selective. Although most don’t get a response.

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Not that often really, might send one or 2 every few days unless there's a bit of a conversation going

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